She's right. There will never be any trust there again after that; it's over. Sounds awful; talk about falling out of love with someone in a split second. He is a cruel a*****e.

Aww, one of his buddies misses him and wants him back as a wingman.

My bet is life is just getting to real for him. He wants an out, but also doesn't want to be the "bad guy". By accusing her of cheating (and probably hoping she did, even though he likely knows she didn't), he can leave seemingly guilt free. Regardless, she's making the right choice imo.

Your title is wrong. It says “Boyfriend Asks Pregnant Girlfriend For A Paternity Test” but it is clear from the post that the baby boy has been born already. “I'm a new mom to a baby boy who is my pride and joy and though it's been a rollercoaster adjusting to taking care of a baby, the past few months have been great, tiring but great.”

That comment about seeing a rise in the last 5 years.... That's all this toxic masculinity BS from moronic YouTubers and influencers. Careful who you let in your head 'cause it might cost you your family

Looking at the number of fractured relationships that seem to be the result of everyone doing DNA tests I'm not convinced this is a good idea - you can be a loving, supportive to a child you did not biologically create, and until we started looking we never knew how many perfectly normal and well adjusted people were brought up by people they weren't related to.

Wonder if someone he knew who didn't like seeing him happy, got in his head and planted doubt? Seems odd to just come out of the blue with such a request.

This is so sad, I myself have to deal with a person like this. Everything was awesome until he started drinking and when he does so he insults me. He said just a week ago that our marriage was c**p. And I should leave. I understand the pain she is going through because I too plan to leave for the sake of my son.

My first thought was he’s cheating and wants an out. And then- she’s going to be miserable trying to co-parent with this AH for 18 years. I’d skip the test and run.

Sure hope she gets a paternity settlement.

If my partner did that after I carried and gave birth to our child I would do the same. That relationship is over. It's nothing but wanting control and lack of respect. To me it sounds just as bad as seeing her and their child as his property that he needs full control over.

I love the people who say that it is perfectly fine for him to basically accuse her of cheating because someone else cheated. You should never stay with someone who doesn't trust you.

Seems like alot more going on here. Personally, I'd get the DNA test, once results come in, I'd set it up like a gender reveal party. Invite the WHOLE family over, have an exit plan. Then after revealing he is the father, say im.sorry you don't trust me enough, and that things what you requested, here's your court date for custody. I've got huge titanium b***s, and would not care at that point. Bye Felicia

The bf could be cheating on her, hence his anxiety of her cheating on him. Imagine a husband demand a paternity test of every child the wife giving birth to.

I've never had or asked for tests for my 3. But everyone, and I mean everyone tried to get me to do it. Unfortunately I later discovered I was with cheaters, but now I don't want to know. They are my children no matter. but that's why I'm single too. That sh** f**ks you up

Guess I’m in the minority. My feelings would be a little hurt but I’d be open to giving him that reassurance.

NTA & kudos to OP for heeding an ominous warning. BF obviously has no regard for her, let alone trust in her. Chances are he's either been cheating on OP or he's got some epic family/ emotional baggage. OP sounds like a smart cookie.

I wonder if his name is on the birth certificate.

bravo, f**k him, a real bastard

Yeah, she maybe clean. Who knows. My first wife was 4 months pregnant when I came back from Vietnam. Asked her if she was f*****g around even before I was sent to ' Nam (training, et al), she did not answer. Ha! What b***h!

Technically, I would say that it makes sense to have a dna test be a standard - from a medical point of view. Whenever doctors ask me about the medical history in my family, it's important whether or not my parents are in fact my biological parents. If we are working from the wrong assumption about my parents medical history, then that can be highly problematic for me. Morally on the other hand it's not great for relationships. I don't know how I'd have felt if my husband had requested a paternity test for our kids. Probably not great. I guess if it were a routine thing that everyone just automatically does during prenatal care there would not be any implications of infidelity?

30% of all the men who take the paternity test find out that they are raising a child of another man. Hard to tell why he asked for it but somehow I doubt it came without a reason. Either someone said something to him or she has provided a reason herself.

If a woman is being sneaky yes you he should ask but she's not he's cheating

One of the comments said `we can go full reddit on him and say that he might be cheating and is projecting` and that is definitely reddit relationship advice in a nutshell

Here come the downvotes but I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a paternity test for piece of mind. He did approach the subject all wrong a calm and level headed conversation should have taken before it went nuclear. As many said women know because they carry the child. This is the age of technology if a man wants to see it on a piece of paper so be it. As long as he is a good parent and takes care of his child I don't see the issue here.