Glad she's getting out. For anyone else, I'd say steer clear of anyone who self describes as a high value man.

I've actually no idea what "high value male" is supposed to mean, but it sounds like a codeword for "wwaaahhh, I'm even more insecure than a big bag of insecure things!", or something along those lines. One of those things where as soon as you hear someone say it about themselves, you know they're the exact opposite of that - like when someone says "I'm rich!", "I'm famous!", "I'm clever!" etc. If someone has to tell you they're one of these things, they're not.

Do. Not. Wait. Move back home while you plan for your apartment. He thinks you're a bauble, a toy. He has no humanity, but is cunning, cagey, and manipulative. RUN!!!!! Have friends with you when you move. You need support and witnesses in case he comes home while you're moving out, and does something nasty.

‘From a religious area of the world.’ USA Deep South aka Andrew Tate Land? But that’s not really fair - the Tate hatred of women has become popular w/GenZ and younger Millennial males of all ethnicities; as well as, trad wives all over the West.

High value men... jeez. Since when we're believing this load of c**p

While he is at work pack your stuff and run! Change your phone number and get a restraining order if needed.

„I come from a religious area“…. And there it is of course she does. I hope she finds happiness, and I think she’s on the right track by not getting sucked into a submissive relationship.

Sounds like she's with that guy I've seen on youtube who thinks he's a relationship/dating guru and claims he's "high value" and tries to tell other women how to be "high value". Then spouts off things women tend to do that he hates. He explained that "high value" basically means being a care-free partner who's supposed to be super secure, nonchalant and never needy for validation. So, in his ego-centric mind, a woman needing a pick-me-up compliment because she's having a bad day is not worthy of his righteous presence in her life. A woman wanting reciprocation is supposedly a no-no. I can see so many things wrong with this way of dating. He states that apparently "becoming high value" gets you "high value partners". It's really just stupid.

Go. Now. Move home if necessary.

When she leaves, she should tell him "I just wasn't getting any value for my money".

I’ve been there took me 14 long long years to wake up to it was a long time ago now but it left me with scars so deep I trust no one ! This man is a nasty coercive pos as deserves NO ONE ! Im so glad to read you saw it instantly I was only 20 when I met mine n I had been married at 18 to a wife beater that one I left in 6 mths no one hits me but coercive it mostly creeps up on you you don’t see it coming when I left I re earned had two amazing kids I’m 60 now they re 23f -20 m been divorced 13 yrs cos the past well it took its toll on me badly and if anyone treated my kids like that I’d be like your mum only I’d wanna unalive him ! Blessed be lovely we got your back x

Please leave this manipulative guy ASAP! If he is this controlling now, I can guarantee that it will get worse over time if you don't leave. For your safety and happiness, get out of this relationship as soon as possible. When you leave,don't tell him where you are going. Please Stay Safe.

Why would someone move in together after only 6 months? You barely know each other. Living together isn't always the way to find out. Go on vacation. That will do it one way or the other.

RUN OMG

I really hope she gets out - she should have noped out immediately. If he gets a whiff that she's leaving I dread to think what he'll do.

At 16, I began dating a guy whom I had really liked. But early on in our relationship, he told me, point-blank, that I “needed” to lose 20-30 pounds. At that time, I was five feet, five inches tall and weighed 130 pounds. Because I was so young and naive, I really took his comments to heart, and when he stopped talking to me (we only were together for about 1-2 months), I decided that it must’ve been because I was “so fat!” I ended up dropping over 30 pounds in a few months and went down the rabbit hole of anorexia. BUT…I was 16 at that time. The OP is 35 and she’s wondering if she should put up with such verbal abuse?! Girlfriend needs to cut and run!

He is likely a malignant narcisisst, the stuff. nightmares are made of. Run, hide, go no contact.

She should go stay with someone while she apt hunts. Not stay with him and try to keep up a facade.

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How does a woman live a life to 35 and not see that this is insane behavior?

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Moving in with someone that soon is just dumb in the first place esp at her age