Yeah, she needs to ditch the man.

Today it's a tattoo. Tomorrow it may be a dress or an outfit. Down the road it may be the way he thinks you acted or looked at someone. He's judging your choice and projecting it on "other people." He's insecure and has no respect for you or your autonomy. It's all about him and his warped ideas. Like you, I have a tat or two and it makes me feel good. It has nothing to do with my SO (although he likes it.) Your BF can either put his big boy pants and respect you as an adult who can make her own choices or you can move on and find someone more worthy of your time.

Keep the tat, ditch the prat! He;s showing his true controlling colours and trying to make you feel bad about something you love. He's not even your husband (which wouldn't make it much better) just some bloke. FInd someone who appreciates you for who you are.

The boyfriend doesn't care about her as a person. This relationship is over. But she needs to learn from this. The part where she says "We did discuss the tattoo before I got it, and while he wasn't totally convinced, he didn't actively stop me from getting it." A couple of really big problems with this statement. First, no one has the right to "actively stop" you from doing what you want with your body. Second, what would that even have looked like. If he'd said "No. You cannot get it." Would she have acquiesced? Comprise is important in a relationship but that isn't compromise, that's ceding autonomy. Third, and this is for her future relationships, NOT this guy, if you want your partner to be on board with something but haven't "totally convinced" them then go and do it anyway, expect them to be upset. Healthy compromise comes before action, not after.

Nor a fan of tattoos, but even less a fan of controlling arseholes

This is the classic playbook for how an abusive relationship starts. 'People will think you're [easy],' 'I don't like you on display,' the blatant gaslighting. Run.

He's saying "other people" won't like it because HE doesn't like it. This is a super red flag. He doesn't have to love your tattoo, he just has to love you with or without it. And then shut up about it because its part of you now. If this is a young relationship without too much invested, its time to break it off. If there's a lot invested, then have that heart to heart with the guy letting him know that you want a guy to love you…all of you. …and then break it off. Sounds like an amazing tatt!

dump him. Find a better boyfriend. My husband funds my tattoo addiction.

Who the f**k are the 12% of people that think a tattoo can affect somebody's work?

I don't like tattoos- really. But I was married to a man for 20 years who had tattoos... I married and loved the man and not the tattoos. Now our daughter has tattoos... I don't like them... but I looooove her! You don't let anybody else decide over your body .. cut him off!!!

It seems to me that HE is the only one that has a problem with it & if my partner told me I looked Sl#tty, he would be an ex in 5 seconds. Dump him, he is a judgemental A$$hole.

Remove the boyfriend. Keep the tattoo.

Have the boyfriend lasered off.

Time for a new boyfriend.

I'm from another generation and I hate tattoos. It's a deal breaker for me. In the past only prisoners and some seamen of bad reputation had them. Some decades ago it became trend for the porn stars. Now almost everybody has at least one.

Keep the ink & ditch the BF. I was really disturbed by your comment that he "let" you go ahead with it. Any SO that feels they have the right to allow or disallow your personal choices is a control freak and believe me - I know from experience that it only gets worse.

good god i hope she dumped him, i had a bf that didn't think my stretched ears were feminine. so i took them out. clearly we didn't last so i didn't actually need to do that...