ESH - take as many pics of your own food, but do NOT make me wait to eat MY food. Who was paying for both plates, is irrelevant as they take turns - if she is demanding to take pics of both their plates because she's paying, then he should have the right to demand no pics at all when he's paying - and I am sure she would also flip then. Don't inconvenience others with your hobby, sounds like there usually is plenty of opportunities when she is with her foodgirls. Her hobby won't die if she's missing out on the few opportunities when she's with her boyfriend...

Seems super petty on both sides. But my ex-BF was an amateur chef, really good tho, but he always wanted to take pics of his food. I don't mind if it's a couple, but sometimes he would take up to 5 mins or more and food starts getting cold. My guess, is that she's more obnoxious about it than she realizes

They need to just break up, they obviously have no respect for each other. Your partner tells you they don't want to participate in your hobby, don't force it on them. You don't like your partners hobby? Fine. You don't have to, but don't belittle or ruin it for them

Ok, so I may be living under a rock, but what in the heck does EHS mean?

NTA. My judgment has nothing to do with MY opinion of your hobby, and everything to do with your BF's attitude toward it. It doesn't matter what his opinion of it is either. The fact that he deliberately and maliciously ruined the opportunity you discussed with him, knowing it would hurt you, is all you should need to know about him. Add in the cocktail remark, and it's clear he only values your relationship as much as it benefits him...and doesn't care whether or not you're happy as long as he is.

Dump him! He clearly doesn't respect your wishes for such small things. He's definitely not going to respect your decisions on major things going forward

They both deserve each other. That said, I hate when my wife has to get the perfect picture. At home, the food has to be scalding hot but as soon as we go out it can sit for several minutes before we can eat. Then if she posts it, it will be several minutes of her staring at her phone. I just want to eat and spend time together, not be competing with a phone for time/attention. She has gotten a lot better about it to the point where sometimes, if the food actually looks amazing, I will ask her if she is going to take a picture. He knows what he is dealing with and he should be having a conversation with her about not being a third wheel between her and her "followers" instead of lashing out like a child.

Whew. Op got defensive on the reddit thread.

I personally think taking pics of your food is really fūcking stupıd, and you would have ZERO rights to photograph other people's food for your "social media addiction" as one comment aptly put it. If this happened every time I went out for dinner with my girlfriend, we wouldn't be dating for very long at all. I'm taking the boyfriend's side on this one.

I don't understand people like this: are you really that desperate that you stay with another person who clearly doesn't respect your wishes? I'm not saying we should all be like Jerry Seinfeld (character, not person) when it comes to relationships, but please, be more selective with your partners and treat yourself better. This is for Op and the boyfriend.

Ask the waiter to take a photo of food for you before it's at the table. And honestly stop. It's so annoying to see people photographing plates of food at restaurants. Be more into making food at home and taking photos of that to share then someone else's hard work. Just stop. I have a neice that does that at dinners and I cannot stand it. Oh I'm having cake. But I'm on a diet. Blahhhhh stop.

In a dispute between someone who wants to take pictures of their food and someone who wants to eat their food, I'll go with the eater.

Both need to grow up, and perhaps grow apart. He's being petty and childish, she shouldn't dictate when he eats his food. I could sort of understand the aggression if she was an actual influencer who makes a living from doing her photographs (because he would then be messing with her day's work), but as she has said, it is just a hobby for her and it really isn't the end of the world if she can't get a photo of her meal this one time. The best solution would be to pay for their own food and have ownership of said food- he can eat without needing to wait, she can take a photograph without coming across as using the other person's food. Respect needs to be on both parts, and acting like children like this is a massive red flag.

I don't care if they are at a 5 star restaurant and she dropped a grand on dinner, she has zero rights to photograph HIS food. OP says that he usually messes up his own food but only once did it to hers. Was he right? No. But was there a message? Yes. She says it only takes 45 seconds to take the picture. But how long to edit and post because I'm sure she's posting while she's there at the table. Even if she's not, she's still insisting on doing something he's asked her not to. Seems from her responses that she takes her inconveniencing hobby super serious. Which is annoying. He's supposed to sit there and let you get the perfect picture so your handful of followers can salivate over your food no one can touch until you're done? Which isn't even for money but giggles? I think not. Is he petty? Absolutely. Ordering more because someone else is paying is unbelievably petty. Get mad about that. If that was the only thing she was mad about, I'd say she was in the clear. She's 100% TA.

So he thinks your hobby is stupid. And you think he is rude and immature and don't care you are annoying him. There is no mutual respect. OP literally said if I'm paying, I should get to knowingly irritate you and he said if I were paying I would have considered the cost more ...sounds like a match made in divorce court. Cut your losses now. You are not compatible.

While I do NOT understand the whole "my food is a model that I must photograph" thing - what, is it to make poor people feel even worse that they can't afford to eat pretty food out in a restaurant?? - the fact that her bf thinks so little of her weird hobby says a lot about their relationship.

NTA. She spends a MINUTE taking pictures. She's not standing on chairs or doing anything crazy. Dump him.

if you post photos online of your food, you are an idiot. YES, that is MY opinion but there it is. MAYBE the boyfriend is acting immaturely for fouling it up for her, but so what? This is not the first time they went out to eat together and he had to deal with this cr@p and he has told her he does not like it but she obviously doesn't care, so he is probably sick of her sh*t. she mentioned she liked going out with her foodie girlfriends better than her boyfriend so maybe she shoudl keep her food photos to then and leave it a lone when she is with her boyfriend. So i am not saying YTA, i am saying YTDC!

Make a deal: You take your photos then he messes it all up and you post those as second shots in your posts. Maybe if you loop him in there is a solution. I kinda agree with others that he seems sketch about the "free" cocktail though, so if there is more than one issue here there are bigger problems in the relationship.

NTA 3000. If he seriously can't wait 30 freaking seconds, he has other issues. Dump him; problem solved.