the yta a*****e comments are wild. especially the third one, you should make her coffee, give her kisses, turn on the shower and accept her abuse 😂

As usual, the YTAs are unhinged. How an a$$ grown person can be so irresponsable and deflecting guilt to their partner be justified? Insane

This what breaks my heart, OP/BF did his good deed by being supportive partner, but I feel he's asking a legitimate question, not about whether or not he's an AH, he's NOT. But, it's about, where's the line. He was not enabling as she's a grown woman and she got herself fired. He's a good man. I'm just speaking from my experience as an extremely grumpy woman in the morning, absolutely not a morning person, I am able to manage myself to wake myself up in timely manner (in my own way) to adhere to my responsibilities. My point is, she needs to grow up and realize she's 28yo and no one is responsible of herself but her.

Being an adult means not taking revenge bedtime procrastination out on your partner

28 years old woman behaves worse then 4 years old todler in full tantrum, OP should find an adult to date and this child, what an pillow princess. She snored, she loses, and her tantrum will only lead to more loss, BF will get rid of her soon.

The yta comment that said "man up" ... "man up"? "Man up"? I don't even know what to say.

Run before she starts poking holes in the condoms

Grown a*s woman... at least by her age. Take the trash out. And these YTA asshats can let her move in with them and support her. She is an immature leach. F around and find out.

Bro. I had to be that person for a friend of mine. She never woke up to her alarm and was late all the time. She was pissy upon wake-up, too. Once we stopped working together, I stopped waking her up. Guess what? She started adulting. XD

Dump this abusive jerk yesterday!

Before my husband and I lived together (nearly 20 years ago!) whenever we had to get up early for something he would ask me to call him when I woke up. I started getting really cranky about this because it felt like I was the one making all the effort and he couldn’t be bothered waking up on time. So I COMMUNICATED to him about it. And he said he was sorry, he wasn’t trying to shirk responsibility, just that it was far more pleasant (and reliable) to wake up to the sound of my voice then an alarm. Well, I was happy to call him then. While I agree with one comment saying “you’re a team - you’re supposed to help each other with this”, this woman was not doing her bit, not communicating, in fact being the complete opposite and behaving like a crochety old witch. He should have put his foot down that her behaviour was unacceptable LONG before it became the norm. But she is a child and needs to pull her head in. NTA

If she really liked the job, she needed to learn to prioritize it... especially after getting written up twice while on probation.

I admit, I used to be this girl. I was oblivious to how rude I could be in my sleep when woken. My now husband has refused to ever wake me up again, since many years, and I don't blame him! I'd bet she had a mum who woke her up for school until at least 18. In the end, I became self employed and I get up when I like, on the odd occasion that I need to get up early, it's a dozen alarms, grouchy af, and I'll still sleep through sometimes. But much better then the alternative of taking it out on someone you love.

I'm surprised the immediate course of action from OP is not breaking up. Are you okay, Op? Are you that desperate for companionship?

NTA. She's 28. She's old enough to get a radio and set it for a time she needs to get up. Or set her alarm on her phone. She needs to grow up and act like an adult.

OMG! Those YTA must all be late AHs themselves because no normal person could fault him for his GF's problems.

I have never once in my life have had to wake up an adult for work. My parents stopped waking me up for school when I was 13. This is wild to me.

She isn't an adult; she is only the AGE of an adult. She IS a child. I hope he dumps her.

Finishes work at 4pm, doesn't go to bed until 3am. WTF is her problem?

I am almost 50 and have a tendency to go to bed late as well...but, I still get up on my own everyday for work! Also, there have been times in my life I would ask my mom to give me a ring if it's incredibly important that I'm up and moving and all I did was love on her. This girl is a spoiled brat.

I’m still giggling at the fool who says making her wake up to bright lights is sooo WRONG. You mean like the sun?

Honestly, anyone who cussed me out for waking them in time for work - after ASKING me to wake them up in time for work - would be receiving an alarm clock as their parting gift.

That is what abusive gaslighting often looks like. She's abusive to him but blames being sleepy...as if that is a body snatcher or something...she's personally insulting to him, expects him to function like an object (it's called a freaking alarm clock)...and then blames him for not managing her life for her. I hope he runs for the hills.

NTA, and dump her NOW. You are NOT her alarm clock. She is immature and will ruin your entire future if you are dumb enough to stay and, God forbid, marry her. Look up the definition of alimony and RUN away right NOW...

I'm a night owl. Always been. In high-school, I went to bed at 10pm but never slept before 1am to wake up at 6:45am. Same in college. And today, if I sleep before 2am it's because I'm ill. I just know how to manage an alarm, and I would never insult anyone in the morning. It's my problem, not theirs. And I have never been late in my entire time at work !

Don't these grown @$$ people know what an alarm clock is? ⏰

And, you're with this woman why?

What a nightmare human this child girl is!! She's 28 and doesn't take any responsibility for herself?!?! Sorry dude, you would likely be happier without the extra baggage!

She is a c**t - dump the b***h

I'm not a morning person, and my husband generally wakes me up. All he has to do is tap me on the shoulder to wake me up, and the most grouchiness he gets from me is a groan and an "I don't wanna" before I roll my a*s outta bed like a big girl.

All of the YTA are delusional.

NTA - She needs to grow up & take responsibility for getting herself to work on time. I think it's not necessarily that she's not a morning person - but she's not getting enough sleep. What are all these "things" she has to do between 4:00 PM & 2 -3:00 AM that she used as a reason not to start going to bed earlier (& you said a lot of those wee hours are spent on her phone)? She's not appreciated what you've been doing & has been abusive. You warned her that you were no longer getting her up & she didn't like it, but then made no effort to figure out how to get herself up. She had to have known she was already on thin ice at work so getting fired was her own doing - not yours. Half your salary until she finds another job? No, just no. (If you agreed to that, where's her incentive to find a job?). So, when you say "no" to the half salary, you might consider adding that it's over between you - who wants to be in a relationship with an immature, lazy, selfish entitled, irresponsible, abusive, spoiled brat? Then you'lll be free to find someone else who's an actual ADULT.

Toxic woman

Why are you still with her?

holy f*** im almost 40, am awake till 2-3 am sometimes and wake up with my husband at 5:20 am. For what i've read now, i would totally dump her. Sounds like a total nightmare...