Pffft, she sounds like anything but lovely. How these two lasted for this long is beyond me. She sounds like a "It's my way or the highway" kind of person, the kind that sucks the joy out of anything you find fun or are passionate about.

Tf is wrong with Chili, it's lean meat cooked in vegetables and spices

If the roles were reversed, everyone would be calling this exactly what it is.

😂😂😂 he needs to let her go and find someone who he is more compatible with. This is not something to put up with from a gf. The drama isn't worth it.

It's nasty that she refuses to cook for herself ever when she knows her partner wants the occasional pasta or lasagne. The fact that she won't compromise is ludicrous and entitled. She could easily grill up a couple of chicken strip's and throw together a salad in under 20 minutes a couple of times a week OR a steak and salad. That's practically not even cooking. Nobody would,d accept a man being that entitled towards his wife's cooking, where do these YTA get off saying he is wrong to want his favourite foods too?

As always the YTA are totally bonkers. If I were OP I would do two things. 1) start working full time, so she can't say he has more time anymore. 2) make her healthy food, but as unappealing as possible. Just steam the chicken and vegetables, no seasoning. After all, that's even healthier. And she gets the exact same thing day after day. While OP cooks the appetising and diverse food for himself. After all, now that she forces him to cook two meals he has less time to prepare hers. Just chuck it into a steamer and be done with it.

Chuck her out on her carrot loving a**e

This is very much unreasonable. There's nothign unhealthy if you eat a burger or lasagne from time to time. Actually it's all about the calroies and diversity. This whole unhealthy food view is very often false. (Example: Everyone would consider a salad a healthy food. But try living off of it for a month....) And btw: nothing wrong with frozen veggies as well.

NTA, she is putting her food preferences above his in a very holier than thou attitude, expecting him to cook all of her healthy meals, ignoring his 1 or 2 "less" healthy meals per week preference. If he is making burgers, he could probably make her ground turkey burgers, but she sounds unwilling to compromise.

Despite what OP says, she doesn't sound very compassionate.... or smart for that matter.

The YTA people would flip 100% if the gender roles were reversed. Pretty difficult situation. I wonder when they experience other issues, is he totally ignored then too, or do they actually reach a compromise? If they can't, I would run. Better to break it off than spend the rest of your life being controlled

Where's the red flag guy?! She is a nurse who refuses medical care for her own anxiety and aversions. Yikes. Run dude, she will never budge and this will only seep into every other area of your lives.

She has him whipped and this is an abusive relationship. My parents both worked fulltime, had five kids, and both managed to find time/energy to cook dinner. We were expected to make our own breakfast/lunch on school days. She is spoiled female dog.

RUN! Is he her private chef or what? It is unbelieveble he didn't eat his food preferences for over a year! Tomorrow you can be dead, even if you are eating healty. So for me the most important is enjoying life! As long if you are cooking food yourself (i mean no take-away or store-bought dinners) it is not unhealthy. Most important is the amount of food and the variation of food. Nothing wrong with lasagna, chili, pizza if it is homemade. And you can make dishes as healty as you wish (little fats, no cheese, no cream, less meat, more veggies...) But eating without enjoying the food, that's no life for me.

She sounds like an abusive, dominating, controlling, hot-headed, demanding, narcisstic fvcking cvnt! Even if this stupid b!tch was an actress or model, she has -no- right making the demands that she does. No one is going to bend to someone else's will 100% of the time and if someone wants a goddamned hot dog, some fish sticks, or hell, cake and coffee, then no one has the right to tell them they cannot have/eat it and to demand that their wishes be granted every fvcking meal. I would have sabotaged some of her meals, told her to buy her own groceries and cook for herself, or get the fvck out of the house and do not come back. No noodles, potatoes, pizza, hamburger, bread, burritos, hot dogs? She can go take a flying fvck at a rolling donut, she has -no- right to refuse to let him have any of them.

She's an idiot and doesn't realise how lucky she is. The commenter who suggested orthorexia is definitely onto something. But she's in for a Huge surprise. We Need sugar. Type 1 and Type 3c Diabetes are autoimmune. Type 2 diabetes is from other disease for other people. Eating healthy doesn't mean you Are healthy or that you stay healthy. Plus, she is Not eating healthy and she has some extremely unrealistic expectations.

NTA, it sounds as if even if she works more she is not contributing to the food budget, screw her buy frozen veg, she doesn't cook, so how would she know whether their fresh or frozen? She has a distinct eating disorder, a total obsession with controlling every bite she eats, that absolutely must be 'organic' and not frozen, zero carbs, etc and trying to control what you eat too. I crave hotdogs now and then, so I buy them, just the Frankfurt's, not the specialized buns, toppings (sauce yes). You cook, so cook what you like once a week if you can actually stand her bland zero carb diet, the rest of the week, tell her she is NOT your wife yet, and if she doesn't allow you a 'cheat day' once a week, SHE NEVER WILL BE.

I worked as a nurse for 40 years and always cooked for our family of four. She sounds very selfish and entitled and is bullying OP and belittling him because of his food choices. Make that hamburger and let her sort her own food out. Also she’s a coward to go running to ma and pa and ‘telling’ on you - this has nothing to do with anyone else.

OP isn't a boyfriend, he's a slave. Do what you're told, boy. Or tell her to cook her own s**t or to just f**k off. How the hell you've lasted this long I don't know. I'd have told her to do one after a week. You say she's compassionate? Not to you she isn't.

Any dietitian would point out many problems with this diet.

You never know someone till you live with them. Sorry to say this, but he should let her stay at her parents house. She's controlling and entitled and he is making life way too easy for her by doing everything. I love nurses. They work their butts off and long hours. But I don't believe this has anything to do with her being a nurse. This has to do with how she was brought up if her family is like this. Since she won't give on any level and expects you to do as she does, it's only going to get worse. Let her stay at her parents house and move on.

Let me get this straight. He works ~30h/week, she works 45-50h/week. They split costs 40/60, with her paying for more. That translates to chores being split 60/40, with him doing more. I doubt that her laundry makes up 40% of chores, yet that's all she does? She's getting daaaaaaaaaaamn good mileage out of this guy's patience.

The YTA people are at it again. Now I wonder how many of them would flip the switch if this was reversed and the male was telling the female that since he works full time, she could only cook what he liked? Just pondering the delema. IMO she is a giant AH for not compromising. Food is a large part of our lives, and he has two choices: live with a bland "healthy" life of food, or GTFO.

get out now...if she can't respect your feelings/opinions, wants & needs no matter how 'lovely' she is she doesn't respect you as an equal. Relationships are about healthy compromise. I hope you don't have children with someone so selfish & rigid. End it now & go enjoy a burger in peace.