Sounds like she could do with some help too! 11 yrs old is a CHILD! A child, no matter what he is now! Girl or boy, that's a child! And assaulted by a member of his own family! Aargh!

It says he has just begun therapy. I really hope it helps him overcome his demons - because he sure as hell will think more than twice about opening up in his next relationship.

It is totally about her. She wants someone to look after her and be a masculine figurehead. She doesn't want a real person.

FFS no-one made this about ‘toxic men’. Your reading comprehension sucks or you really don't understand what toxic masculinity means. There is a culture which is toxic TO men. HARMFUL. It doesn't mean men are toxic! The reverse in fact. It is about behaviour learned in childhood - taught by their parents usually. It's the idea that men should have to suppress emotions and hide pain or act tough when they don't want to. Not that they can’t be tough or display any other masculine attribute. It's not insulting men. People who recognise what toxic masculinity truly means want to help men who feel that they need to hide part of themselves to fit into some ideal of what being male means. This woman starts off by explaining this man is ‘dominant’. She talks about how he is ‘tall and muscular’. Then she is ‘shattered’ by his rape when he finally trusts her enough to open up. SHE is toxic in her understanding of masculinity. No-one is blaming men here or considers them toxic.

Warlord DK. Not once do I say men are toxic. There is a culture that tells us, both men AND women, that men shouldn’t cry, shouldn’t show emotion. That men have to be tough. That is toxic masculinity. Expectations that men have to be the provider, the rescuer. Last off the sinking ship. It does not malign men at all. The concerns about toxic masculinity go very neatly alongside the messages in Red Pill - there is no conflict. It is said in the film that 'we are living a ‘blue pill’ life and forced to carry out the traditional sex roles'. Yet we all pretty much want the same thing; freedom of choice, to not be forced to be something we are not, to be able to express our true emotions without fear of ridicule. To just be people. How does wanting men to be free of toxic messages around what it is to be masculine disagree with the views in Red Pill? There is obviously a lot more to it than I can go into here as there isn't much room within one BP comment.

"Sweetheart..." Really??? Have to be patronising do you? Alongside not understanding what toxic masculinity is? How about you go and do some reading on the subject and come back.

Way to misunderstand the issue. Not a single man has been blamed here. A culture is being blamed. Men should be able to admit to something awful without someone judging them as being weak. Admitting something bad happened is a strong thing to do. There is no criticism of men here at all.

Explain how this is men not getting a break? Do you understand what toxic masculinity means or do you just think it's people thinking men are toxic? HINT: It is not the latter.

That isn't about men. Toxic masculinity is a way of bringing up children by either parent. It's an attitude or belief that men can't feel pain and so much more. It doesn't make men at fault - women bring up children too.

That doesn't make it men's fault. This is the woman suffering from toxic masculinity. She might have been brought up that way by her mother. No one is blaming men.

Morons don’t even know what feminism is, it’s about equality for both men and women, but idiots like you continue to peddle it as man hating. This women isn’t a feminist in any shape or form. Toxic masculinity is what you hold you f*****g idiot. You littrally as bad as this vile disgusting women who lacks the capacity for empathy.

Wow. You sound like such a kind, compassionate human being.

This IS feminism indeed. However, toxic masculinity DOES exist. You cannot deny by saying it is never toxic. It does not always come from women, thus we cannot say it is always feminism stuff. It may comes from father, brother, male friends who keep saying man cannot express their feeling.

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You're going to get down-voted into oblivion - this site is teeming with women and white knights.

I was thinking exactly this as well.

That is so true, MagNat, she added herself to the issues he has to handel. She continues the chain of abuse by treating him this way. Hopefully he does leave her, because, unfortunately, staying in toxic relationships is another pattern that victims sometimes fall into.

There is nothing misogynistic about the word, it's commonly used for people that behave badly from both sexes, much like the words D**k, C**k, Arsehole, Prick etc.

You say that as though that thing that backstabbed him is even a person

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Yo get ready for a whole lot of downvotes because people (including me) aren't going to like that

Full name, there is something inherently wrong with her character for that kind of reaction. That, or she's incredibly immature, in every sense possible, and should reconsider relationships all together.