Everyone saying ESH for her not "letting it go" is saying "women should not have boundries about misogynistic jokes, gaslighting, or abuse, in case that makes abusive misogynists uncomfortable." She was the one who had good reason to walk out of the restaurant, after she called him out on a misogynistic joke, and he failed to check himself, recognise he had been inappropriate, and appologise. The "Jeeze, can't you just let it go already." when you're called out is not okay. This is a serious issue - you've just demonstrated misogyny, callousness, lack of empathy, and an inability to confront and address your own mistakes. Get out of your echo chamber, apologise for walking out, and ask your STB ex GF to share what she was thinking and feeling during that arguement, and really listen instead of being defensive. It might not save this relationship, but it could help you not f**k up your next one.

I hope and pray the girlfriend ditches him. What an absolute disgusting manchild. These kinds of 'jokes' show exactly what kind of misogynist and creep he is. Reducing a woman to what he perceives as her sexual utility to men after she's just gone through a ceasarean. And they wonder why women are happy to be cat ladies.

Wow to that last comment. Love how calling out something so inappropriate made him "cornered" and the "we as women sometimes argue for no reason" was just sad proof that some women are misogynistic too. The way he reacted to the initial call out meant all bets were off and actually he had it easy. She should have dumped him on the spot because the way in which he doubled down was disgusting.

If anyone had made a remark like THAT over my friend's emergency cesarean, no-one would ever find their body.

Well, I know this is a Very Old AITA post straight from Reddit, but what REALLY outraged me in this whole post was learing about the "husband stitch". I thought, what an odd term, what could that possible be? Then I looked at the term for a few more seconds, and it dawned on me. I searched for the original Reddit post, which is so old it is locked, and the things I've read on there. Guys. It's insane. IN.SANE. I am SO outraged!!!!!! I know for a fact I was stitched up a little too tight, and that got fixed when I got stitched up again after the birth of our next child, but that was absolutely not intentional, I am 100% sure of that. However, the midwife told me she noticed it was stitched a little uncomfortably, and she also immediately told me she'd fix that (when stitching me up). But BY JOVE how is it possible men AND women stitch up other peoples vagina's too tight on purpose, thinking it will be better for the men???? They are just effing up people's s e x lives for real!!!!!

Some people post on AITA for the attention even though they know they're not an a*****e. Others, like this piece of garbage, actually think they're fine but in reality they are insane and need therapy and to break off their relationships until they can stop being toxic. Holy f*****g s**t that went off the rails immediately. His "joke" was stupid and wrong and misogynistic and I cannot believe he thinks he was the one who had the right to walk out in frustration. BEST case scenario, he got embarrassed that he said something so stupid and ran away from his problems. Still not great but come onnnnnn.

Spot the guys in the ESH section ....

Oh, you dumb, dumb, dumb, dumb, dumb man.

That man is a walking red flag. Yuck. A misogynistic joke at the expense of her friend, an abhorrent reaction to her calling you out, having a toddler tantrum and walking out while leaving her alone to pay the bill and find a way home alone. What a huge douchebag.

Just because a joke is a *normal" joke doesn't mean it is not sexist.

The bear indeed. 🤭

He's disgusting. Hope he enjoys being single.

The person who says the girlfriend was wrong to "describe a graphic medical procedure at the dinner table" sounds like a real joy to be around. Stating someone "had a c section" and describing a scar from the incision is not "graphic". This person sounds like a relative I have who is so obsessed with women's bodies I don't feel comfortable going braless around them, and makes fake farting sounds for attention, but clutches their pearls if I have the nerve to floss my teeth in front of them. People who fake this kind of disgust are a******s in general.

Red flag guy would be going absolutely nuts here - I can hope she realizes this level of misogny and immaturity of isn't worthy of her time and ends the relationship.

Normal joke ? Disgusting. Hope he's an ex bf.

He has the intelligence of an amoeba. A C-section is a cut across the abdomen. No where near the vāgina. So he’s not only a sexist twatbasket but stupid as well. Op should dump him!

AITA for hating every single AITA post on this site?

Well it all happened two years ago folks, I'm sure they both broke up long ago. If this story is even real.

A misogynist idiot who has no idea how vaginas work and has the audacity to call her "insecure" for her rightfully being upset.

Wow...is this guy 18 or something? The remark is one I might expect from an immature and unthinking teenager. Not one I would expect from any guy over that age and well, probably wouldn't tolerate even in a young kid. Everything about this situation screams man child bordering on incel. Grow up little boy and develop some compassion and understanding of the real world. What an absolute douche.

This is either not real or another completely idiotic post. No one is dumb enough to really question if they were the AH or not in this situation.

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Ooooh I hope she dumps this loser

To any of that 8% who think the GF contributed anything to escalating the situation, all I can say is... REALLY? That a**hat makes a joke about her friend's VAG*NA, a sexiest one at that, and then doesn't understand why she won't just drop it? No. That joke has been around way too long and it's one of the reasons people think a "husband's stitch" is something women should do. Since when should any woman modify her body for a man? And BTW, the vag*na returns to its regular "tightness" in a matter of months. It's f*cking ridiculous. I really hope she's moving out

My husband came back after months of broken marriage and apologized for his mistake after I met lovetemple@minister.com and our infitility cure just in 3 days I am grateful this is a miracle

Maybe this guy needs to sh!t out a large grapefruit or cantaloupe melon, then see if his arsehole is still tight!!

Well if you don't like to be called out in a public place, the best strategy is to not say something that needs being called out.... She calling you out was definitely justified, and the hole you are in, is one that you dug for yourself. So take some responsibility for the fall out of your own actions, and do some selfreflection, rather than just fleeing the consequences of your actions, and putting the blame on her. You sound like the kind of person who is completely unable to see anything from another perspective, and hence you won't ever learn anything.

This just feels like rage bait.

These two people both need to move along and find someone who understands them.

This has to be a joke. If not then the guy lives in a different world

I'll bet he has a manbun. And YTA, how can you be that stupid