Money is a pretty touchy subject in relationships, but it’s one of those things that a couple has to figure out if they want any sort of future together. Marrying into debt is generally not a good idea, but on the other hand, a partner can help shoulder expenses. However, this only works if both partners actually act in good faith and don’t start making terrible financial decisions.

A man wondered if he was wrong to be angry that his GF spent almost $20 thousand on a BBL instead of paying off her credit card debt. We reached out to the man in the story via private message and will update the article when he gets back to us.

Helping a partner out of debt is a great thing one can do for their loved one

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But a man ended up kicking his GF out when she spent all her savings on a BBL

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Money issues can make or break a relationship

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It can be hard to escape from the simple fact that we all need money to survive. This still doesn’t stop some folks, like the woman in this story, from making impulsive and unnecessary decisions. It is true that it does feel great to buy things you want, even when you don’t need them, but there can always be too much of a good thing.

This is one of the main risks of getting into debt, the payments will continue long after the joy of the purchase subsides. Debt also tends to accrue, which is why it’s almost always the best idea to pay it off as quickly as possible. Small monthly payments might look manageable, but in the long run, you often end up paying so much more.

She did seem to understand this and was working diligently towards paying off her debt and building savings. It’s important to note that the boyfriend literally communicated that this is something he saw as important in a relationship. So then making terrible decisions behind his back is a valid reason to end the relationship. While she might feel like him kicking her out is sudden, the warnings were there for months it seems, so she shouldn’t be that surprised she is single now. The fact is that money-talk does cause stress in a relationship, so it has to be discussed carefully.

Most people dislike their partner controlling their finances

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Euronews has reported that recently, more and more couples chose to have separate bank accounts. In the UK, as few as one in eight married couples have a joint account. Generally, this is less a reflection of a lack of trust and more a result of women becoming more financially independent.

Indeed, the same report also found that many people chose to manage their own money even in a trusting relationship, citing previous trauma with controlling partners. However, joint accounts or not, there is no getting around the fact that in a long-term relationship, there will be some expenses that have to be managed together.

This story, assuming the man is being fully transparent, is a good example of why it can be quite beneficial to have a partner. She could save on rent, have some backup money to cover her lack of savings and he could keep her accountable. It’s important to note that this plan seemed to have been working right up until she left the boyfriend’s sight.

There are always going to be consequences for one’s actions

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This is not to say that she shouldn’t do whatever she wants with her own money. She is free to spend it however she pleases. But, as previously noted, this was a dealbreaker for him, one that she accepted. So his response isn’t exactly that strange, given that he did warn her. Similarly, her trying to blame him for possibly falling into the same financial issues is just downright toxic behavior.

After all, she is the one who burnt through five figure savings in what seemed to be a single purchase. Accusing him is bizarre behavior and seems to justify his decision to kick her out. Money issues are sensitive, there is no getting around it, but this couple seemed to be doing ok for months before she wildly overspent. This might suggest that she would have done something similar the moment he wasn’t around.

Most people sided with the BF and a few offered some advice

But some thought he went to far

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