
Woman’s Ex-Boyfriend Didn’t Introduce Her To His Parents Because Of Her Weight, She Lost 200 Lbs To Get Revenge
Interview With AuthorLoving yourself and your body is very important. If you’re not happy with the way you are, you should probably change something, or your mental health and self-love will suffer. That’s exactly what this single mom from the United States named Samantha Rawley did. After she found out her then-boyfriend was keeping her a secret from his parents because of her weight, she decided to lose 200 pounds to get revenge. But it wasn’t all about him—she mentioned that a lot of failed relationships later, she finally decided to find herself and who she really is, deciding that she first has to love and respect herself.
Samantha used to weigh about 363 lbs. After trying, again and again, to lose weight in the traditional ways and failing, she decided to get an operation done. After spending 20,000 dollars on gastric sleeve surgery and other expenses, she lost over 200 pounds and looks absolutely stunning. On her social media, she shares that the journey was difficult and it took a lot of work to get to where she is now.
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This is Samantha, a single mother that lives in the US. She used to weigh about 363 lbs
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We got an interview with Samantha and she told us more about herself: “I’m 30 years old, I live in Orange County, California. I am a single mom to an 11-year-old daughter. I work in real estate full-time and I have an Instagram show called VSGTea that I have created with my best friend Bre. Growing up, I always wanted to inspire people and find my ‘why,’ and it wasn’t until I found this community of people in the weight loss community that I really discovered my ‘why.’ I love talking to people about weight loss surgery and plastics after surgery and just helping them along their journeys!”
After her now ex-boyfriend was too ashamed to introduce her to his parents and ghosted her for another girl
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Samantha decided to start living for herself and losing weight
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We asked Samantha some questions about what inspired her to go on her journey: “I was inspired because I finally decided to start living for myself and stop pleasing other people. I felt like I reached my ceiling on life and I wanted a fresh start!”
She tells us more about the procedures she went through: “I’ve spent 20k on surgeries. And I’ve had a tummy tuck, an arm lift, a thigh lift, and a breast lift with augmentation. The most painful one was my thigh lift, honestly. But the other ones were a little easier! So worth it though to have my dream body!”
Samantha started to notice a difference and changes in her body. She was finally getting rid of the extra weight she’d wanted to lose for so long
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“I have been ‘dieting’ since I was 12. I’ve tried pretty much everything from weight loss pills to Weight Watchers. I would lose some weight, but just gain it right back and then some.” Samantha finally decided enough was enough and in September 2018, she got gastric sleeve surgery, which changed her life completely. She told us about her family’s reaction to her getting the operation: “I have had all really positive reactions to my weight loss and my decision to have weight loss surgery. I am so lucky to be surrounded by so many supportive people.” Samantha also mentioned that she always felt pretty healthy, even when she was bigger.
Soon she was 200 pounds lighter and was so happy with the way she looked and felt
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Samantha shared the struggles and the toughest part of weight loss: “I would say the mentality behind it. There are days where I still feel like I am 363 pounds and I’m not proud of myself. But then there are days where I am so confident and want to tell the world what I’ve done. It’s a crazy journey with your mindset truly.”
Samantha now weighs about 160 lbs and she feels amazing
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Samantha feels much happier now that she has had the operation and lost all the weight: “I’ve proven to myself that I have done this. I wasn’t sure I was capable of something like this, honestly. I would always think that it could never be me. And because I changed my mindset as well, that’s really brought some amazing people into my life and that makes me happy.”
This is Samantha and her beautiful 11-year-old daughter
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We asked Samantha to tell us about the whole ex-boyfriend situation: “So it’s not just all about him and he’s not the reason I had my surgery. When I actually got out of the relationship is when I realized that I could finally focus on myself. I was kept a secret by not just him, but other guys I’ve dated as well. Being a big girl, some guys only like you in private and that’s it. And that can really mess with someone’s confidence. So I dated him for about 2 years and never met any one of his friends or family members and we started to fade apart and he basically ghosted me and posted another girl on social media a few weeks later. This unfortunately isn’t the first time this has happened to me, though, with guys. And honestly, it affects my mindset in the dating world now. I am happy in a relationship, but those insecurities from the past sometimes make themselves present in my current relationship and that’s something I have to work on almost every single day.”
“I finally decided to start living for myself and stop pleasing other people”
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Here’s some advice from Samantha if you’re thinking of losing some weight: “You do you, boo! I’m an advocate for losing weight or not losing weight. Love yourself no matter what and love yourself through the journey!”
What do you think of Samantha’s journey? Tell us in the comments and don’t forget to go show some love to her on her social media! If you want to see similar posts to this one, click here, here, or here.
“I’m an advocate for losing weight or not losing weight. Love yourself no matter what and love yourself through the journey!”
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Share on FacebookShe really lost about 400 pounds. 200 of her own and 200 of her former asshole boyfriend! LOL! She was pretty even when heavy.
In most cases fat shaming does not work and often has the opposite effect.
Load More Replies...To be honest... it's a good example, people with healthy weight DO look prettier. Don't care what everybody else says.
thats your opinion. And that of many others, but still an opinion.
Load More Replies...okay so she litteraly said "he’s not the reason I had my surgery" so Bored Panda, your title is misleading. Revenge should have been if she left him for a super awesome person who loves her for who she is, incl her curves. Plus, losing weight for someone else is not really a great message. Having said that, she lost a lot of weight, its not easy, good on her!
She says that and then has a LONG comment about being hidden by her ex-bfs due to her size. So, to be honest, I feel like her statement of him not being the reason is misleading. Sure, he wasn't the sole reason but it seems like he was one of the reasons. Well, not him as a person as much as being part of the pattern of how people treated her as a bigger girl. However, in no way did she insinuate she did any of this as a revenge. But that ofc makes a much more juicy title...
Load More Replies..."Samantha decided to start living for herself and losing weight"... then why is the title "She Lost 200 Lbs To Get Revenge"
Misleading title. In revenge? Or for herself? And still there seems to be a lot of filters on some photos which I think it's unfortunate because it perpertuates the trend to hide real life "imperfections" that we all have.
I have a very dear friend who went on a similar journey ... multiple surgeries, to start losing weight and to get rid of the excessive skin afterwards ... 200 kg down to some 65 or so ... and she's also a lot happier, more active, she's like a better version of herself, primarily TO HERSELF, too - I'm happy for her, too, of course. Now I can even expect her attending my funeral more likely than the other way round (I'm a few years older, she doesn't smoke, ...). Fat shaming ... does it work ... well, it is rude anyway, so I'm not a fan of it ... rudeness usually requires a reason that is more relevant than being fat, and then it doesn't need to reference being fat - and unjustified rudeness is just shitty.
She already had a very beautiful face and smile before. I even like her before-face more, but this might be just the pictures, as especially the new ones seem to use a lot of makup and/or filtering. The older ones are just more glowing with her nice personality. Anyways, its good that she is now happier and I guess her life is easier and healthier too. A more positive reason for the change would have been nice, but I guess that's life...
What more positive reason for change do you want other than her saying she did it to boost her self confidence and do it for her own self? Why is it only positive when a person lists the exact same reasons for losing weight as you want to hear? Her reasons were pretty positive and uplifting to me.
Load More Replies...Great work losing that much weight!! Her body looks way healthier now :)
But tbh I liked her face before much better. She looked really pretty and natural. Her "new" face looks quite artificial... vorher-nac...ae-png.jpg
That's just because of more make-up in the thin pics, I think.
Load More Replies...It was money well spent, she looks amazing and i’m sure it’s done wonders for her quality of life (potential breathing and cardiac issues) and her self-confidence
"Love yourself no matter what" says the woman who had $20k worth of surgery to change her appearance. Nope, that just doesn't sit well with me.
Man, carries her weight really well! I would never have guessed she weighed that much at her heaviest. She still carries it well, and looks smaller than the number now too. She’s gorgeous at both weights too. Her ex-boyfriend can go f**k himself for concentrating on the superficial and not appreciating her wonderful intrinsic value. Hope he’s with a skinny bitch who’s making him miserable now.
When you lose that much weight, you have a lot of loose skin to deal with. Did she also have surgery to reduce that? btw I weigh 160 pounds and there's no way I'm that skinny. She looks like she weighs about 130 or else there is photo shop involved
If you look at the pic where she's holding her arm up, she's showing the HUGE scar from her "body lift" surgery.
Load More Replies...I'm confused, if he was embarrassed by her weight - why was he with her? She's definitely better off without him.
I hate the fact that she did it because of revenge - and that it came to that point that she's doing it out of revenge... We should do things like this because of us, not because somebody else likes it or not. The god thing is she ditched asshole, I hope she have a great life, without negative people in her life.
IMO, motivation enough to change ur entire lifestyle isnt easy to come by. And towards the end, she was empowered and confident of herself for herself - so what does the starting point matter anyway?
Load More Replies...He probably thinks "If she had lost weight when she was dating him, he would have stayed with her." What's the point in dating someone who only loses weight if you break up with them?
Load More Replies...Mostly it just took money. It was the surgeries that did it.
Load More Replies...Not really sure how this is revenge on him. Her weight loss has had absolutely no negative effect on her ex-boyfriends life. It did however have a very positive effect on hers. For starters, she achieved a huge health and longevity benefit. Secondly, the fact that she went through this not just out of revenge, but also for herself, shows that she was not happy with the way she looked either. So in essence, her ex-boyfriend actually gave her that last push she needed to take control of her health again. Despite the heartbreak, he actually did her a favor in the long run.
She's so pretty! I think the most beautiful thing about her is her determination, confidence, and smile. <3
Aye... she lost 200lbs by getting rid of a cheating ungrateful asshole! That's first and foremost! And also no revenge cause she is and also has always been a pretty woman!
He didn't cheat. He left her before dating anyone else.
Load More Replies...she looks happier. probably because she decided to do what she wants.
What a great story, I'm so happy for you! Your the picture of health, thanks for sharing. And your daughter must be so proud of you!!
I found her pretty at both weights. I do question all this tongue sticking out thing though!
All this losing weight, yes I need to lose weight, the way public media is going we all need to lose weight , Why ? because all they take any notice of are us persons with a raised BMI ! Why don't you all focus on those skinny folk who resemble wire coat-hangers and only good for draping clothes on ! Ashley, Amanda.Megan even Catherine who I admire.Look at their skinny ankles could topple over on the high stilettos, In trousers their legs are like matchsticks with the wood scrapped off ! Enough ! Enough ! Why not accept us all for who we are, look into us not AT us,
in one of the photos af before and now the tattoos were different and getting a tattoo removed is alot of money
Sounds like he can suck her lady-balls and go screw himself. She's better off without him!
May she teach her daughter to make positive life changes for HERSELF AND HER HEALTH instead of using revenge as a motivator.
It's better to lose weight to be healthy, not to get revenge. Such feelings like holding grudge or taking revenge is not good for mental health.
She still weighs 363--it's just that most of it is makeup now. Honestly, she looks like it goes on with a trowel. If this is what losing weight does, I'll stay fat.
While excess weight does create some health concerns that I would not wish on anyone, I thought that she was much prettier in the before pictures.
I had gastric bypass three years ago. Best thing I ever did. But I was 58, and really wish I had done it when I was younger. It saved my life.
Pity the inspiration had to be a clown, but it doesn't really matter how or why you decide to make yourself happy one day and do whatever that is, by yourself for yourself. Having said that, I don't think this page should be tearing apart a person who decided not to be in a relationship they weren't happy in or with a person they were not attracted to. Let's hope the chap in the equation went on to grow and learn new ways of dealing with people that didn't leave them feeling down after his interaction with them, shall we? Ok that's my internet rant for this decade, I now return to my cave where I'm painting pink fluffy bunnies chasing unicorns around rainbows, and stuff.
I'd say that she looked amazing both before and after her weight loss!! So happy for her!
Good for you your shithead ex gave you a goal that you certainly accomplished!
How is this 'revenge'? if anything, her ex did her a favour and helped her avoid an early death caused by being morbidly obese.
She should thank her ex for dumping her. If he hadn't, she'd still weigh 363 lbs.
Wait- what was the scar on her arm in one of the last pics? also, she had such a lovely smile!
She had an arm lift. That's what the scar was from.
Load More Replies...She accomplished something amazing, and whatever her motivations, good for her. I don't think it's up to anyone to judge her reasons why. If fat shaming is wrong, then certainly fat-loss shaming is also wrong.
I guess it's true what they say - you don't lose weight for the person you're with - you lose it for the person you want. She lost it for herself and dumped he boyfriend.
Congrats! You lost a million pounds! 200 from you, and 999800 from the asshole "boyfriend" of yours. (No literally, that guy was weight on her chest.)
The definition of ‘girl’ is literally a young female person. We say “girlfriend” not “woman friend” and various other examples. Imo, it’s fine to call young ladies ‘girl’ and we even call ourselves girl. What’s so offensive to you? It’s just such a ridiculous thing to be mad at. ‘Girl’ is not a slur for crying out loud. I could give two shits about being called girl as a female person.
Load More Replies...That's cheating... If I got a gastric bypass it would help me get skinny way more than my wonky will or self discipline. I always wonder how people get that fat, because this does not happen over night.
She needs to start eating healthy now that she lost so many kgs, because her daughter is also a little bit large and she just set a good example of determination.
If the only way for her to loose that much weight was to be dumped than i guess it worked wonders. So in the end this probably saved her life or at least her health. And from the photos im afraid her kid also could use some help. You may down vote but im writing from personal experience. Big is definitely not healthy. And it takes a lot of hard work to get back in shape.
oh wow how insperational. Anyways, bored panda, can you post something that isnt this? Ive seen this s**t so many times. I hate this whole stuff, because ive seen it so many times. Also shes wearing alot of makeup. Glowups arent makeup and a hair cut. A glow up is learning to accept yourself.
I read it like this: "She had liked her body before but then her boyfriend made her hate herself and she decided to lose weight to prove him wrong". But all in all, it's a great achievement. Got rid of both her a**hole of a bf and extra weight. Cool!
So she liked her body before, yet put in the money and effort to make it smaller? That makes no sense. And you agree with the boyfriend that she should've lost the weight before, yet he's an asshole?
Load More Replies...She really lost about 400 pounds. 200 of her own and 200 of her former asshole boyfriend! LOL! She was pretty even when heavy.
In most cases fat shaming does not work and often has the opposite effect.
Load More Replies...To be honest... it's a good example, people with healthy weight DO look prettier. Don't care what everybody else says.
thats your opinion. And that of many others, but still an opinion.
Load More Replies...okay so she litteraly said "he’s not the reason I had my surgery" so Bored Panda, your title is misleading. Revenge should have been if she left him for a super awesome person who loves her for who she is, incl her curves. Plus, losing weight for someone else is not really a great message. Having said that, she lost a lot of weight, its not easy, good on her!
She says that and then has a LONG comment about being hidden by her ex-bfs due to her size. So, to be honest, I feel like her statement of him not being the reason is misleading. Sure, he wasn't the sole reason but it seems like he was one of the reasons. Well, not him as a person as much as being part of the pattern of how people treated her as a bigger girl. However, in no way did she insinuate she did any of this as a revenge. But that ofc makes a much more juicy title...
Load More Replies..."Samantha decided to start living for herself and losing weight"... then why is the title "She Lost 200 Lbs To Get Revenge"
Misleading title. In revenge? Or for herself? And still there seems to be a lot of filters on some photos which I think it's unfortunate because it perpertuates the trend to hide real life "imperfections" that we all have.
I have a very dear friend who went on a similar journey ... multiple surgeries, to start losing weight and to get rid of the excessive skin afterwards ... 200 kg down to some 65 or so ... and she's also a lot happier, more active, she's like a better version of herself, primarily TO HERSELF, too - I'm happy for her, too, of course. Now I can even expect her attending my funeral more likely than the other way round (I'm a few years older, she doesn't smoke, ...). Fat shaming ... does it work ... well, it is rude anyway, so I'm not a fan of it ... rudeness usually requires a reason that is more relevant than being fat, and then it doesn't need to reference being fat - and unjustified rudeness is just shitty.
She already had a very beautiful face and smile before. I even like her before-face more, but this might be just the pictures, as especially the new ones seem to use a lot of makup and/or filtering. The older ones are just more glowing with her nice personality. Anyways, its good that she is now happier and I guess her life is easier and healthier too. A more positive reason for the change would have been nice, but I guess that's life...
What more positive reason for change do you want other than her saying she did it to boost her self confidence and do it for her own self? Why is it only positive when a person lists the exact same reasons for losing weight as you want to hear? Her reasons were pretty positive and uplifting to me.
Load More Replies...Great work losing that much weight!! Her body looks way healthier now :)
But tbh I liked her face before much better. She looked really pretty and natural. Her "new" face looks quite artificial... vorher-nac...ae-png.jpg
That's just because of more make-up in the thin pics, I think.
Load More Replies...It was money well spent, she looks amazing and i’m sure it’s done wonders for her quality of life (potential breathing and cardiac issues) and her self-confidence
"Love yourself no matter what" says the woman who had $20k worth of surgery to change her appearance. Nope, that just doesn't sit well with me.
Man, carries her weight really well! I would never have guessed she weighed that much at her heaviest. She still carries it well, and looks smaller than the number now too. She’s gorgeous at both weights too. Her ex-boyfriend can go f**k himself for concentrating on the superficial and not appreciating her wonderful intrinsic value. Hope he’s with a skinny bitch who’s making him miserable now.
When you lose that much weight, you have a lot of loose skin to deal with. Did she also have surgery to reduce that? btw I weigh 160 pounds and there's no way I'm that skinny. She looks like she weighs about 130 or else there is photo shop involved
If you look at the pic where she's holding her arm up, she's showing the HUGE scar from her "body lift" surgery.
Load More Replies...I'm confused, if he was embarrassed by her weight - why was he with her? She's definitely better off without him.
I hate the fact that she did it because of revenge - and that it came to that point that she's doing it out of revenge... We should do things like this because of us, not because somebody else likes it or not. The god thing is she ditched asshole, I hope she have a great life, without negative people in her life.
IMO, motivation enough to change ur entire lifestyle isnt easy to come by. And towards the end, she was empowered and confident of herself for herself - so what does the starting point matter anyway?
Load More Replies...He probably thinks "If she had lost weight when she was dating him, he would have stayed with her." What's the point in dating someone who only loses weight if you break up with them?
Load More Replies...Mostly it just took money. It was the surgeries that did it.
Load More Replies...Not really sure how this is revenge on him. Her weight loss has had absolutely no negative effect on her ex-boyfriends life. It did however have a very positive effect on hers. For starters, she achieved a huge health and longevity benefit. Secondly, the fact that she went through this not just out of revenge, but also for herself, shows that she was not happy with the way she looked either. So in essence, her ex-boyfriend actually gave her that last push she needed to take control of her health again. Despite the heartbreak, he actually did her a favor in the long run.
She's so pretty! I think the most beautiful thing about her is her determination, confidence, and smile. <3
Aye... she lost 200lbs by getting rid of a cheating ungrateful asshole! That's first and foremost! And also no revenge cause she is and also has always been a pretty woman!
He didn't cheat. He left her before dating anyone else.
Load More Replies...she looks happier. probably because she decided to do what she wants.
What a great story, I'm so happy for you! Your the picture of health, thanks for sharing. And your daughter must be so proud of you!!
I found her pretty at both weights. I do question all this tongue sticking out thing though!
All this losing weight, yes I need to lose weight, the way public media is going we all need to lose weight , Why ? because all they take any notice of are us persons with a raised BMI ! Why don't you all focus on those skinny folk who resemble wire coat-hangers and only good for draping clothes on ! Ashley, Amanda.Megan even Catherine who I admire.Look at their skinny ankles could topple over on the high stilettos, In trousers their legs are like matchsticks with the wood scrapped off ! Enough ! Enough ! Why not accept us all for who we are, look into us not AT us,
in one of the photos af before and now the tattoos were different and getting a tattoo removed is alot of money
Sounds like he can suck her lady-balls and go screw himself. She's better off without him!
May she teach her daughter to make positive life changes for HERSELF AND HER HEALTH instead of using revenge as a motivator.
It's better to lose weight to be healthy, not to get revenge. Such feelings like holding grudge or taking revenge is not good for mental health.
She still weighs 363--it's just that most of it is makeup now. Honestly, she looks like it goes on with a trowel. If this is what losing weight does, I'll stay fat.
While excess weight does create some health concerns that I would not wish on anyone, I thought that she was much prettier in the before pictures.
I had gastric bypass three years ago. Best thing I ever did. But I was 58, and really wish I had done it when I was younger. It saved my life.
Pity the inspiration had to be a clown, but it doesn't really matter how or why you decide to make yourself happy one day and do whatever that is, by yourself for yourself. Having said that, I don't think this page should be tearing apart a person who decided not to be in a relationship they weren't happy in or with a person they were not attracted to. Let's hope the chap in the equation went on to grow and learn new ways of dealing with people that didn't leave them feeling down after his interaction with them, shall we? Ok that's my internet rant for this decade, I now return to my cave where I'm painting pink fluffy bunnies chasing unicorns around rainbows, and stuff.
I'd say that she looked amazing both before and after her weight loss!! So happy for her!
Good for you your shithead ex gave you a goal that you certainly accomplished!
How is this 'revenge'? if anything, her ex did her a favour and helped her avoid an early death caused by being morbidly obese.
She should thank her ex for dumping her. If he hadn't, she'd still weigh 363 lbs.
Wait- what was the scar on her arm in one of the last pics? also, she had such a lovely smile!
She had an arm lift. That's what the scar was from.
Load More Replies...She accomplished something amazing, and whatever her motivations, good for her. I don't think it's up to anyone to judge her reasons why. If fat shaming is wrong, then certainly fat-loss shaming is also wrong.
I guess it's true what they say - you don't lose weight for the person you're with - you lose it for the person you want. She lost it for herself and dumped he boyfriend.
Congrats! You lost a million pounds! 200 from you, and 999800 from the asshole "boyfriend" of yours. (No literally, that guy was weight on her chest.)
The definition of ‘girl’ is literally a young female person. We say “girlfriend” not “woman friend” and various other examples. Imo, it’s fine to call young ladies ‘girl’ and we even call ourselves girl. What’s so offensive to you? It’s just such a ridiculous thing to be mad at. ‘Girl’ is not a slur for crying out loud. I could give two shits about being called girl as a female person.
Load More Replies...That's cheating... If I got a gastric bypass it would help me get skinny way more than my wonky will or self discipline. I always wonder how people get that fat, because this does not happen over night.
She needs to start eating healthy now that she lost so many kgs, because her daughter is also a little bit large and she just set a good example of determination.
If the only way for her to loose that much weight was to be dumped than i guess it worked wonders. So in the end this probably saved her life or at least her health. And from the photos im afraid her kid also could use some help. You may down vote but im writing from personal experience. Big is definitely not healthy. And it takes a lot of hard work to get back in shape.
oh wow how insperational. Anyways, bored panda, can you post something that isnt this? Ive seen this s**t so many times. I hate this whole stuff, because ive seen it so many times. Also shes wearing alot of makeup. Glowups arent makeup and a hair cut. A glow up is learning to accept yourself.
I read it like this: "She had liked her body before but then her boyfriend made her hate herself and she decided to lose weight to prove him wrong". But all in all, it's a great achievement. Got rid of both her a**hole of a bf and extra weight. Cool!
So she liked her body before, yet put in the money and effort to make it smaller? That makes no sense. And you agree with the boyfriend that she should've lost the weight before, yet he's an asshole?
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