So when people talk they can solve problems? WOW, mind blown!

I'm going to be the pedantic one here, but the image of what she wanted barely classifies as a suncatcher. The whole idea of a suncatcher is that it's usually a stained glass piece that reflects the colours into the room. It can work with crystals, but you need more than those 3-4 crystals for the full effect. Fair enough if it's what she wanted, but I'd just call that more of a hanging ornament than an actual suncatcher....

'in the echo chamber of women hating losers' What a perfect tag line for reddit. so glad I stopped visiting that cesspool years ago.

Thank you to the comments for bringing to my attention that it would be nice for me to acquire something for my girlfriend's son to "give her" for Christmas since I doubt her ex husband ever did that

More on the comments left to OP - My dad has long given up trying to surprise my mom (married 63 years now). We joke that what do you get a woman who's hobby is shopping? (Side note, we call her shopping catch and release. She buys something, sees if it goes with what ever, and often times returns it.) For as long as I can remember, Christmas/Birthday presents have gone like this: Mom: "Do you want to see what you got me?" Dad will unwrap and say "Gee, don't I have good taste! I bet it is just what you wanted!!"

Why waste money on something that a person doesn't want or wouldn't use when you could either not get them anything & save that money... or actually get them the thing they asked for? Especially when they show you EXACTLY what they want. It's so dumb. You're not ungrateful just bc someone didn't care enough to listen to you & actually put in the energy to do something nice for you..... especially if you're a person who has a partner that does this all the time. That to me shows that they're just phoning it in. Which is always disappointing no matter what the situation is. I don't think OP was being ungrateful at all. They handled this very well... I would have felt the same way. My husband used to do this a lot & it was never intentional. He's just a man who doesn't pay attention to detail sometimes. After awhile I brought it up to him & he understood where I was coming from & it never happened again. Communication is everything. But so is being understanding!

Why did the end turn into reddit being nothing but an echo chamber of woman hating losers? Some people agreed with her and some didn't and the boyfriend was clearly in the ballpark of what she asked for. So was he being not detail oriented enough not obedient enough not thoughtful enough or was she being overly picky or ungrateful? Tbh of the pictures shown, they are very different but the bird is imho prettier the the dangle crystal thing with the butterfly but categorically they are quite similar so I chalked it up to some folks often men being more big picture thinkers and other folks often women being more tiny detail thinkers...and the older you get at least as my experience as a woman, the more on your plate, the more big picture thinking you become but yes when I was younger I would be making sure the stitching on my jeans matched the socks which matched the earrings where now if I'm just wearing clean pants the day has a chance of turning out great.

I am sorry for you. The gift looked really thoughtful, he tried to get you something you wanted. He does not get your attitude of things. Should he?

This might be the guy in me, but I hate people blatant showing others "buy me this". Where's the mystery¿ Where's seeing how well the other person knows you¿ I'm ok w/ hints. I'll do hints. And if it's "I want something like this", I try to not get that, but similar. To show I was paying attention, but can put my own spin on it.

I think that of the two I would rather receive what he bought, than the ornament that OP wished for.

This reminds me of the time when I was in middle school saving money to buy a bicycle for my paper route. Not just any bicycle, I had the specific brand, model and color (which was overall silver/gray) and I made sure to let everyone know about it. Then one day my dad "surprised" me by buying me a totally different bicycle which had some blue but was mostly an obnoxious bright yellow color. Which I felt was totally inappropriate to give to a 11-12 year old boy given how boys of that age and time period were prone to picking on other boys who were misfortuned to have emblazoned on their stuff any colors considered "wimpy" or "corwardly".

I thought they were both pretty, but only the hummingbird was a sun catcher.

I was about to sympathize until I read the final update. Wow.

YTA. Wow.

"echo chamber of woman hating losers..." did you tell this story / make up this story / just because you wanted to use these words? -- Oh an also let's not forget, "weaponized incompetence" - grow up

That escalated quickly!!! "you all criticize me cause I'm a woman" is too much. It's reddit, what did you expect? People are encouraged to downvote, and YOU post on AITAH subreddit, where people flock for drama. And then you realise you don't like drama?!?!? Know yourself and the meduim you're using.

Should Bored Panda change its name to Angry Females and clueless men? I always love the "am I the a*s**** for being an assh***" yes Karen you are.

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If I’m BF, take this as warning and indication that OP is a tad spoilt. As in 3 day old fish

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He didn’t make much of an effort, then offered to give it to you then instead of making the effort to wrap it and make it special. Don’t apologize and tell him it’s ok. Tell him you think you deserve more effort and then ask him if he agrees.