Jesus. He's very clearly already conditioned her to accept his abuse. Note: she felt bad for expecting leftovers to be eaten. I hope she runs as fast as she can!!

As someone with a boyfriend 20 years my senior, ditch that a*****e. If he can't accept and appreciate what you did so he could eat then he will not treat you well. My guy can be a grumpy old man sometimes but never would he even consider disrespecting me like that. That's just s**t behavior that'll get worse and you will end up being mentally or emotionally abused at the minimum. I can't even fathom someone speaking to me like that over somethingas trivial as a meal; there is zero respect there. It's a massive red flag and things will only get worse.

Why do people even get involved with as*h*ts like him? I cook with leftover ingredients all the time. If they are still good why would you toss them out? While growing up broke, sometimes the only stuff you have are the leftover stuff. This man is spoiled rotten.

Keep the leftovers, throw the whole guy out.

Bruh I would eat left overs everyday. The fact that she felt so bad that she made up a whole new meal to feed him and made good use of the leftovers so they wouldn’t be thrown away….she’s a absolute gem. He’s a selfish brat. Honestly OPs way to good for him

Sit down and enjoy the meal you cooked. Then pack your stuff and leave.

Girl, you lucked out to see this overgrown pap-sucker for what he is. Run! Here cries an insecure, overgrown brat. You don't need this.

There is something wrong with this so-called "man." Number one, no one I know goes to the store every day to shop. Number two, if he doesn't appreciate you now, he never will. Number three, he won't change. Number 4. You can do so much better. Number 5. Your dinner sounds delicious! 😊❤️🤗

Get rid of him; let him have the crackers.

Aaaaand now we GTFO and dump his a*s for someone who will appreciate GETTING A MEAL THEY DIDN'T HAVE TO COOK NO MATTER WHAT IS IN IT.

I'm astonished this would even be considered an issue in the first place. Where do these people live? "He asked me what I was making for dinner"? "Lazy because I didnt want to go grocery shopping"? I'm not even entering into the scraps/no scraps (of course you eat scraps), but a 41 yo man can cook for himself if he thinks he knows better. If someone is doing you the favour of cooking for you, you say thanks and you eat. Period.

Some of my husbands favorite meals are when I make say, rice and chicken. Then the next day I do a stirfry of some kind with the leftovers. I have always cooked like this - but imagine being fed a homecooked meal at all, and complaining. Definitely would not stick with this guy!

no wonder America produces 20% of the worlds waste while only having 5% of its population , day old food is perfectly edible , even if cooked

Scrap his a**e out the door...

Wow she clearly has serious low self worth or this is a made up story.

My 16yo does this to me. Loves what I make, but thinks leftovers or extra ingredients cooked the next day is offensive. So she just eats snacks when I make any ingredient twice or reheat leftovers, including her beloved spaghetti, goulash, chicken pot pie, burgers, etc.. I'm so sick of this disrespectful behavior and can't wait for her to move out. Her father was the exact same way. I've lived with abuse my entire life and as a result, I've had zero desire to have a man around for the last decade, and now can't wait to be completely alone. It doesn't matter who they are. If they're abusive, they need to leave. I can live them from a distance, but up close, that ain't happening. I don't deserve to be abused by anyone.

I often feel like AITA posts are just ways to put someone on blast and have the internet make people feel good about themselves. This is not that. If this is a real post then that woman needs to dump him immediately and spend some time being single and in therapy. No one should be putting up this kind of behavior and wondering if they were somehow in the wrong. This screams abuse to me (either now or in the past). OP needs to KNOW deep down that she is worth more than this kind of treatment.

It's this real? This can't be real. There's no way.

Seeing as he is old enough to be her father, he is old enough to cook his own damn meals if he isn't happy with what she cooked!

I agree with all the other posters. RUN!! And run as fast as you can, unless you want to live a life of being a slave to a man/child who has regular temper tantrums because you cooked him a beautiful meal. This guy is in his 40s and single for a reason. Please don't be a victim.

Since when are uncooked ingredients "scraps" or "leftovers"? Even my leftovers-averse friend agreed it doesn't count if it isn't cooked yet. What a man-child. Of course there are always exceptions, but from my experience, a man who pursues a woman much younger tends to have maturity issues himself. This man needs to take his additude, his control issues, and his beloved crackers and move along.

Scraps or no scraps, make me dinner and I'm kind of yours forever. 💕

First, sit down and enjoy your delicious meal. Let the man child eat his crackers or whatever. Next, reevaluate your relationship, pack your bags, and leave him.

I'm cracking up over kitty litter tacos!!

I agree that she needs to dump this idiot, but I disagree that the age difference is a red flag. I wouldn't want to date someone 14 years my junior because I feel we wouldn't have enough in common but that is not to say my opinion is right for everyone.

Yes, you should have played this differently. You should have made the meal just as you did. When Mr. Scraps rejected it, dished out just enough for you, and eaten it while Mr. Scraps ate his crackers. Put the leftovers away, went about your business, and listened for him to get up on the middle of the night to devour them. The meal you prepared sounds tasty and was very thoughtful on your part. If Mr. Scraps is always like this, perhaps you should rethink your situation. 🤔

K why’s he 14 yrs older tho

Jeezes, can't image how this guy thinks grocery shopping is done. We go shopping for an entire week, scraps are used as improvisation. Don't waste good food. I was really baffled when the "scraps" were not even leftovers but freshly cooked and boughed yesterday. DITCH

GET. OUT. WHILE. YOU. CAN. Don't wait til he punches you emotionally and physically.

Let's see, 14 year age difference? Check. Weird codependence probably stemming from daddy issues? Check. Toxic manipulation and guilt tripping? Double check! It's like a cornucopia of ingredients for a toxic relationship. The only thing that's "scrap" in this post is this a-hole.

A man who won't eat leftovers?? Any guy will tell you "Bachelor Surprise" meals is a staple for men...as a guy, I say dump him....

The only case this would be just about acceptable is if the man was under 5 years old. Run and let him starve!

Run run run!!! He is a total dirt bag and probably a narcissist. While he's at work, Pack up his s**t and put it on the front porch!! Text him "we're over" and then block his number. I've been there girl, trust me, get out before it's even harder! You can do MUCH better than this douchebag, that I promise you. This is what abuse looks like, at least in the beginning/middle stages. If you value yourself at all, do everything you can to get out of this relationship now!! And do not talk to him because he will try to drag you back in. I don't have much hope though, he is extremely manipulative and she hasn't learned the hard lesson of how to hold your boundaries and value your own needs (you know, that thing our parents didn't teach us). I learned that one in my 20s too. Really hope she makes it out.

I was just thinking the other day, that AITA on reddit just went so fake. Usually it's very obvious who is AH, I just don't believe this girl would think she "did something wrong", ffs she cooked a meal and he was sh*tty, ungrateful and entitled. There's just a part missing about "and my friends and family say I'm overreacting", because that seems to be what people who should have your back do now on AITA...

Leave and as a parting gift give him a McDonald's coupon book.

Leftovers is a term for previously cooked foods from a prior meal not uncooked food bought on a prior day. What did he expect to happen with the food in the refrigerator?

What she cooked wasn’t ‘leftovers’. Leftovers would be if she’d cooked that same meal yesterday and then rewarmed it today. How can a raw pepper, rice etc. be leftovers?

Even if I ended up hating the taste of something my girlfriend made I'd still be grateful that she took the time to make it, also there's nothing wrong with a meal made from leftover ingredients it's much better than wasting them by throwing them away(a meal cooked with leftovers is in no way "scraps" because the scraps are the parts you can't cook).

Why are unused ingredients called leftovers?