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Guy Asks His Girlfriend Not To Eat So Much At His Grandma’s House, Asks If He’s In The Wrong After She Yells At Him
This story posted on r/AITA by Redditor u/foodormoney may put you off at first. “AITA for asking my gf not to eat so much,” the author asked in the headline, immediately adding that he “knows the title sounds bad but this is a pretty specific situation so please hear me out.”
He’s been hanging out with his new girlfriend Ashley, who’s “a heavier person and a vocal advocate for body positivity.” The incident happened when the couple went over to the author’s grandmother’s house for dinner. It turns out, the grandma takes it as her duty to feed the whole family even if she cannot afford it. All the family is aware that she will be living on leftovers for the week, so they take just a small portion to eat.
But Ashley was completely oblivious to the whole situation, and made herself a feast. Now the author wants to know if he was right to tell her to eat less, and people online weigh in.
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This person wants to know if he was wrong to tell his GF to eat less when they dine at his grandmother’s house, since she’s broke and lives on leftovers
Image credits: Marcus Aurelius (not the actual photo)
Here is the whole story he posted on the r/AITA subreddit
Some people said that the author of the post was definitely NTA
Others said that everyone is TA in this situation
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Susie Elle 3 years ago (edited)
The girlfriend sounds like an entitled twat. I mean, "nobody other than me decides when I've had enough" - really? So when you're having dinner at somebody else's place you're just gonna eat everything they have if it just so happens you're not full yet? Rude. Even without the grandma's financial situation - other people may not yet have had enough either. And if you know up front that the person hosting is short on cash, then don't be a d**k and get a hold of yourself.
Diane Knight 3 years ago
It's similar to waiting for the host to order their food or listening to what they are getting and order accordingly. (if they get a $9 dinner, you order $9 or less for yourself) My mother told me that's the polite thing. Rude to order a $25 meal. Shame on her for not having that knowledge either. He needs to find a better date.
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Andy 3 years ago (edited)
Ashley is being a selfish cow. The first dinner she wasn't to have known as he hadn't told her, and there is no mention of any issues when he brought it up after. However the following week to demand that she be allowed to eat as much as she wants of someone else's food, after knowing that it means they may go hungry is disgusting. Nothing to do with body shaming, she is just selfish. I understand people saying the OP should do more for his grandmother, however having had elderly relatives who refuse any help, the reality is you can't force them to accept it, and repeatedly trying to push it is just going to ruin what she sees as a nice things she can do for her family, and possibly is an excuse to be be able to make sure she sees them often
Kisses4Katie 3 years ago
Yes, a lot of people saying the grandmother is rude have never had an older relative who just does things the way they do things. My grandma came up in the depression (she would have been 104 this year) and she never lost that attitude. She wouldn’t accept help, and my mom is the same way. Won’t take help if she’s dying.
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UpupaEpops 3 years ago
I know people like Ashley. A couple of years ago we had a guest over who has helped himself to no less than half of our lunch that was meant for 6 people. Yes. He just trotted into the kitchen and ate it all. By the time anyone had noticed, we were out of food and had to order a take-out. And just like Ashley, he was mighty offended that we called him out on it, saying that that is his usual portion size. Let's just say he doesn't get invited too often.
Assistant to DJ 3 years ago
No respect for other people, I wouldn't invite him at all.
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Susie Elle 3 years ago (edited)
The girlfriend sounds like an entitled twat. I mean, "nobody other than me decides when I've had enough" - really? So when you're having dinner at somebody else's place you're just gonna eat everything they have if it just so happens you're not full yet? Rude. Even without the grandma's financial situation - other people may not yet have had enough either. And if you know up front that the person hosting is short on cash, then don't be a d**k and get a hold of yourself.
Diane Knight 3 years ago
It's similar to waiting for the host to order their food or listening to what they are getting and order accordingly. (if they get a $9 dinner, you order $9 or less for yourself) My mother told me that's the polite thing. Rude to order a $25 meal. Shame on her for not having that knowledge either. He needs to find a better date.
Load More Replies... Andy 3 years ago (edited)
Ashley is being a selfish cow. The first dinner she wasn't to have known as he hadn't told her, and there is no mention of any issues when he brought it up after. However the following week to demand that she be allowed to eat as much as she wants of someone else's food, after knowing that it means they may go hungry is disgusting. Nothing to do with body shaming, she is just selfish. I understand people saying the OP should do more for his grandmother, however having had elderly relatives who refuse any help, the reality is you can't force them to accept it, and repeatedly trying to push it is just going to ruin what she sees as a nice things she can do for her family, and possibly is an excuse to be be able to make sure she sees them often
Kisses4Katie 3 years ago
Yes, a lot of people saying the grandmother is rude have never had an older relative who just does things the way they do things. My grandma came up in the depression (she would have been 104 this year) and she never lost that attitude. She wouldn’t accept help, and my mom is the same way. Won’t take help if she’s dying.
Load More Replies... UpupaEpops 3 years ago
I know people like Ashley. A couple of years ago we had a guest over who has helped himself to no less than half of our lunch that was meant for 6 people. Yes. He just trotted into the kitchen and ate it all. By the time anyone had noticed, we were out of food and had to order a take-out. And just like Ashley, he was mighty offended that we called him out on it, saying that that is his usual portion size. Let's just say he doesn't get invited too often.
Assistant to DJ 3 years ago
No respect for other people, I wouldn't invite him at all.
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