It's similar to waiting for the host to order their food or listening to what they are getting and order accordingly. (if they get a $9 dinner, you order $9 or less for yourself) My mother told me that's the polite thing. Rude to order a $25 meal. Shame on her for not having that knowledge either. He needs to find a better date.

She is an entitled twat. I'm fat, but it's common curtesy not to eat the house empty. Just get more food on your way home, it's not like you'll starve on the way...

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Dinner at someone's house does not work that way. If you host a guest, then yes, they should be allowed to have seconds of the dinner you prepared if they so choose. It's called hospitality. If a person cannot afford to be hospitable, then it's better not to have guests you can't afford to host and make people feel uncomfortable. And if you're hosting a dinner, you make plenty. That is the first rule of entertaining. You don't put guests in an awkward situation, ESPECIALLY since grandma cares more about her pride than letting people contribute.

No respect for other people, I wouldn't invite him at all.

I have a friend who other than being a good hard-working law-abiding helpful and kind person has this one issue; anytime I served a casserole or dessert with a topping he would rush to serve himself and scoop off THE ENTIRE TOP. I spoke to him time after time and he just replied "but that's the part I like...". I had to get advice from my middle-aged daughter; "dish up all of the plates and bring them to the table" to avoid losing my sanity. I really couldn't think of that myself.

I have such a friend as well. He is a nice guy, but he also can't control the portion size. He eats with us every evening. The solution is, I'm serving him normal-sized portions, he usually gets full. If there's leftovers, he'll be offered it, but usually he's full. However, if you'll put on his plate more food without asking first, he'll continue eating. I think he has some disorder that makes him eat everything on his plate, even if he's already full...

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That's not the same though, in the story there's no suggestion that Ashley took 2nd helpings before other people had been served. In the first visit she didn't do anything wrong - in fact, most grandmas would be offended if you didn't take seconds.