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Woman Informs Her Boss That Her Sister Is Dying And She Won’t Come To Work, She Responds With Passive-Aggressive Messages
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We hear about toxic workplaces every day. But this story from digital creator Hillary Zinks has shown just how truly rotten they can be. It all started when Hillary was out working on a set when she got a call that her sister had been declared brain dead. “She was completely unresponsive and the nurses were looking for next of kin to make decisions on her behalf if need be. I was broken-hearted, frozen. I didn’t even have time to register all of this before deciding to leave to be with her,” Hillary told the press.
Hillary immediately informed the department head of the TV series about her situation, who was completely understanding. The other boss from her second job, however, seemed to be less than impressed when Hillary told her she was not able to show up to work due to this terrible medical emergency her sister was having.
So she shared a series of screenshots from the chat with her boss in a TikTok video, and they created a real stir on the platform. You can’t help but wonder how on earth this has become normal for employers to put money first and never stop thinking of themselves in situations where real lives are in danger. Scroll down through the whole story right below and be sure to share your thoughts in the comment section.
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Recently, Hillary shared an eye-opening story about how her boss got upset over her not being able to come to work because her sister was dying
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Hillary works between two jobs, and the boss in the first job couldn’t have been more supportive upon hearing the tragic news
However, the boss in Hillary’s second job, where she worked as a server, had a very different reaction
Bored Panda reached out to Hillary Zinks, a makeup and effects artist whose story has recently gone viral. We spoke with her to find out more about this whole situation she shared on TikTok. When asked whether her boss’ reaction to Hillary not being able to come to work due to her sister dying in the hospital was surprising, she said it definitely was.
The author also shared a couple of screenshots from the chat with her boss
Image credits: hillary.zinks
Image credits: hillary.zinks
Image credits: hillary.zinks
Image credits: hillary.zinks
“I actually really liked that supervisor prior to all of this. She was the only one who had interest in my outside life and would ask questions about my other career and my studio and my likes and interests. I’m really sad how it all went down,” Hillary said and added that she didn’t expect her to say that at all. “I thought she would be very empathetic and understanding.”
Understandably, Hillary was pretty shocked to see how upset her boss was because she was not able to show up for work
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As Hillary was still driving to the hospital, she said she was still fuming from their interaction. “I came up with the plan before I got to the hospital and then I was smiling because I know my sister would have gotten such a kick out of how I was going to quit!”
“She was crazy, possibly even crazier than me,” Hillary said about her sister who sadly passed away that weekend.
So when Hillary got to the hospital, she decided to do what would make her sister proud and this is the brilliant response she sent the boss as she quit
Image credits: hillary.zinks
Image credits: hillary.zinks
Meanwhile, Hillary said her manager was way more empathetic. “He not only understood why I quit when I told him, but he even invited me to come back to work because that supervisor was forced to quit after all that,” she said.
Here is the full video of Hillary’s story that she shared on TikTok
@hillary.zinksthis gets good. Wait until the end.♬ original sound – Hillary Zinks
In a follow-up video, Hillary shared her boss’ response
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Image credits: hillary.zinks
“I do think it’s common and it’s just sad,” Hillary said, referring to toxic supervisors like hers. “Jobs really think we are put on this earth to make them money and well, news flash, we aren’t. I’ve had a similar experience to this when I myself needed to go to the emergency room during a shift,” she concluded.
The same day Hillary quit, she also gave a ‘0 weeks notice’ to her higher manager and found out that that the boss who got upset over her not coming to work a busy shift no longer works for the restaurant
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Image credits: hillary.zinks
Image credits: hillary.zinks
Hillary concluded by saying she decided to share this story so that her old boss and any other manager could take a step back and learn a lesson on how to treat their employees right
@hillary.zinksReply to @djsbeercave go watch part one FIRST♬ original sound – Hillary Zinks
And this is how people reacted to the whole incident
Encouraged by Hillary sharing her story, more people stood up to share their own experiences
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What do you think ?
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
OK, chiming in from a medical perspective. 1. Grief make s us crazy. 2. Do not use sick people as puppets. WTF. 3. If a business can't cope without one person, then it probably needs to hire *three*. 4. Your medical emergency (be it personal or a loved one's) *always* means you ditch work. People die b/c they don't. End of message. Peace be your day.
Diana 3 years ago
It's good that she didn't let her boss step over her but I find it tacky how she used her DYING sister's hand just to make a point. She could have let that part out tbh.
Helen Haley 3 years ago
Depends on the person to be honest. My mother would have found it hilarious (when she was dying) she would've appreciated it more if I made her middle finger stand up. However, I have other relatives who wouldn't have approved if done with them. So long as you stick with who the person is, I think you're ok.
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Caro Caro 3 years ago
I didn't like the bit where she used her sisters hand to flip someone off. Not good.
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Mad Dragon 3 years ago
I worked at a restaurant years ago where a cook hung himself in the backroom one night after closing. The opening crew found him. An hour or so later, the manager was harassing the coroner, demanding to know when the body would be taken away so he could open. He even tried to make the staff clock out while they waited. Someone alerted the media about his response and he was fired the next day.
Denise Melek 3 years ago
If I ever am in a coma, I hope my siblings won't care about posting THEIR drama online involving me.
Cecily Holland 3 years ago
Do not take photos of people in hospital, especially in intensive care EVER without their permission especially when they can’t give it. It’s disrespectful and the worst form of attention seeking. I tried to make my sister in law delete the photos she took and posted on her FB profile. She refused so I had Facebook do it and when she reposted they deactivated her account.
Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
She is very tacky. And, hey, apparently it's all about her and her tik tok. What an awful person.
Jo Choto 3 years ago
I think it was really silly and thoughtless of the manager to talk about staffing under those circumstances. However, I feel like the woman's response was way, way over the top and unnecessary. I was also confused how the sister was, dying, but in a coma, but already brain dead, but possibly still dying. Like, what?
Brandie Nichole 3 years ago
Because those are all different possible stages. And she said it was an 8 hour drive to her sister and a lot can happen in that amount of time. I imagined she got a call that her sister was in a coma and someone was keeping her updated. She’s in a coma, they said she could be dying, they just declared her brain dead, they need someone to make a decision about life support, etc. I’ve seen it a lot. My step dad has passed away but years before then he was in a coma and they didn’t think he would make it. He had a DNR. but his sister was a nurse at the hospital and she wouldn’t let them unplug him completely. He was taken off the breathing tube. And some how managed to come back from that and he woke up.
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Jill Pulcifer 3 years ago
I was 24 when my mom died unexpectedly, she was hit by a truck. I worked as a waitress at the time, they told me to "take all the time I need". I couldnt do that, because I had a child to feed. So when I came back a week later, a week being all I could afford to miss and not have my daughter starve to death. I was still depressed, obviously. They fired me a week later for not "being the same" as I was before. They said they told me to take all the time I needed and come back ready to work. I was working, just not as chipper as I was pre mothers death. I thought they were being nice when they said to "take all the time I needed" but turns out it was actually a threat. This was nearly 20 years ago, looks like nothing much has changed in the service industry.
Dina Simoné 3 years ago
Oh my goodness. This sounds absolutely awful. Losing your mother, losing your job because of grieving and having a child to feed but no job. I am so sorry this happened to you at 24. Hope you are in a better place now. And yes, the service industry is still hell.
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Cyndielouwhoo 3 years ago
I had two jobs as well (one career and one retail) and when my mother had to be rushed to the ER with a heart attack, my career job bosses were fantastic, supportive, everything. My retail job supervisor seemed understanding on the phone, but when I returned to work after 10 days away (my mom was in ICU, etc until she was able to come home) they wrote me up for missing work! I couldn't believe it! In fact, the manager that ordered the write up wouldn't even do the meeting herself, she had an assistant do it, but admitted it was at her request. Needless to say I got outta there as soon as I could get more hours at career job...which wasn't long. She was so clueless that when I ran into her years later she wanted to hang out like we were bffs or something. I was like, "no thanks my career job keeps me plenty busy." With "friends" like that, who needs enemies.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
OK, chiming in from a medical perspective. 1. Grief make s us crazy. 2. Do not use sick people as puppets. WTF. 3. If a business can't cope without one person, then it probably needs to hire *three*. 4. Your medical emergency (be it personal or a loved one's) *always* means you ditch work. People die b/c they don't. End of message. Peace be your day.
Diana 3 years ago
It's good that she didn't let her boss step over her but I find it tacky how she used her DYING sister's hand just to make a point. She could have let that part out tbh.
Helen Haley 3 years ago
Depends on the person to be honest. My mother would have found it hilarious (when she was dying) she would've appreciated it more if I made her middle finger stand up. However, I have other relatives who wouldn't have approved if done with them. So long as you stick with who the person is, I think you're ok.
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 3 years ago
I didn't like the bit where she used her sisters hand to flip someone off. Not good.
Load More Replies... Mad Dragon 3 years ago
I worked at a restaurant years ago where a cook hung himself in the backroom one night after closing. The opening crew found him. An hour or so later, the manager was harassing the coroner, demanding to know when the body would be taken away so he could open. He even tried to make the staff clock out while they waited. Someone alerted the media about his response and he was fired the next day.
Denise Melek 3 years ago
If I ever am in a coma, I hope my siblings won't care about posting THEIR drama online involving me.
Cecily Holland 3 years ago
Do not take photos of people in hospital, especially in intensive care EVER without their permission especially when they can’t give it. It’s disrespectful and the worst form of attention seeking. I tried to make my sister in law delete the photos she took and posted on her FB profile. She refused so I had Facebook do it and when she reposted they deactivated her account.
Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
She is very tacky. And, hey, apparently it's all about her and her tik tok. What an awful person.
Jo Choto 3 years ago
I think it was really silly and thoughtless of the manager to talk about staffing under those circumstances. However, I feel like the woman's response was way, way over the top and unnecessary. I was also confused how the sister was, dying, but in a coma, but already brain dead, but possibly still dying. Like, what?
Brandie Nichole 3 years ago
Because those are all different possible stages. And she said it was an 8 hour drive to her sister and a lot can happen in that amount of time. I imagined she got a call that her sister was in a coma and someone was keeping her updated. She’s in a coma, they said she could be dying, they just declared her brain dead, they need someone to make a decision about life support, etc. I’ve seen it a lot. My step dad has passed away but years before then he was in a coma and they didn’t think he would make it. He had a DNR. but his sister was a nurse at the hospital and she wouldn’t let them unplug him completely. He was taken off the breathing tube. And some how managed to come back from that and he woke up.
Load More Replies... Jill Pulcifer 3 years ago
I was 24 when my mom died unexpectedly, she was hit by a truck. I worked as a waitress at the time, they told me to "take all the time I need". I couldnt do that, because I had a child to feed. So when I came back a week later, a week being all I could afford to miss and not have my daughter starve to death. I was still depressed, obviously. They fired me a week later for not "being the same" as I was before. They said they told me to take all the time I needed and come back ready to work. I was working, just not as chipper as I was pre mothers death. I thought they were being nice when they said to "take all the time I needed" but turns out it was actually a threat. This was nearly 20 years ago, looks like nothing much has changed in the service industry.
Dina Simoné 3 years ago
Oh my goodness. This sounds absolutely awful. Losing your mother, losing your job because of grieving and having a child to feed but no job. I am so sorry this happened to you at 24. Hope you are in a better place now. And yes, the service industry is still hell.
Load More Replies... Cyndielouwhoo 3 years ago
I had two jobs as well (one career and one retail) and when my mother had to be rushed to the ER with a heart attack, my career job bosses were fantastic, supportive, everything. My retail job supervisor seemed understanding on the phone, but when I returned to work after 10 days away (my mom was in ICU, etc until she was able to come home) they wrote me up for missing work! I couldn't believe it! In fact, the manager that ordered the write up wouldn't even do the meeting herself, she had an assistant do it, but admitted it was at her request. Needless to say I got outta there as soon as I could get more hours at career job...which wasn't long. She was so clueless that when I ran into her years later she wanted to hang out like we were bffs or something. I was like, "no thanks my career job keeps me plenty busy." With "friends" like that, who needs enemies.
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