Birthdays can be great opportunities for self-reflection, spending time with the people you care about most in the world, and lots and lots of delicious cake! It’s a day when you get more than your usual share of love and attention, but also one where you take stock of your values, ambitions, and priorities in life. Unfortunately, far from everyone gets the memo.
While birthdays can bring out the very best in some, unfortunately, they also bring out the very worst in some people. Entitlement. Greed. Rudeness. These are just the tip of the frosted iceberg. Bored Panda has collected the very worst moments birthday boys and girls showed their true colors from all over the net, including from the mega-popular r/ChoosingBeggars subreddit.
Close your eyes, make a wish, and blow out the candles, Pandas. We hope you wished for a deep dive into the unsavory parts of humankind because that’s what you’re getting. Now, would you like another slice of cake while you’re scrolling?
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Can I Have A Birthday Discount?
Bored Panda wanted to learn more about the relationship between entitlement and birthdays, as well as what can be done to ensure kids don't focus just on the gifts and materialistic gain on their special day, so we reached out to Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.
"When someone's sense of entitlement begins to encroach on the rights or good nature of others, then it's become a problem that the overly entitled person will need to address if they want to continue to enjoy the company of others," the Licensed Counselor, Professor, and the Chair at the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University told us. "It's normal to want to feel 'special' on special days, but when friends begin to resent you for the level of 'special treatment' you feel you deserve, it's time to back down and remember that everyone deserves to be thought of as special and treated with equal respect."
Birthday Card For Choosing Beggars
Its My Birthday
Lmao this sounds like a ten year old that plays royale high or smh💀
Professor Degges-White also shared her thoughts with Bored Panda about the best way for parents to raise their kids to value their birthdays as something other than 'gift bonanzas.'
According to the professor, parents ought to establish more appropriate celebrations from early on. That way, kids develop habits that steer them away from entitlement and towards having more humility and appreciation for other people.
"By making small events the 'annual birthday traditions' and including suggestions for 'giving back' to others on a birthday as a way to celebrate another year of maturity, families can raise children who don't expect to be showered with 'things' on their birthdays," Degges-White said.
"Traditions can include 'birthday pancakes' or 'cupcakes for breakfast' or some other celebratory start to the day. A special meal at dinner, getting out of chores on their birthday, and choosing a toy/book/clothing item to donate to a shelter or charity on the birthday are also ways to cultivate generosity and charity in children," the professor gave Bored Panda some ideas for how parents can raise their kids right.
"We all learn what we live and when we live in a world where we're feted and made to feel 'uber special' just by nature of a particular day rolling around on the calendar, we come to expect similar treatment throughout our lives. Small changes early on can make big differences down the road."
"Pls I Have Birthday I Just Got Cancer Too"
Plan My Birthday For Me Or Our Friendship Is Over
It’s My Birthday! Give Me Money!
You just expect people to send money over as your birthday gift? Hell Nah, I will pass.
Most parents probably expect their kids to grow up to be productive, humble members of society. However, above everything else, they want them to be good people. It can be painful to see someone you love and care about exhibit signs of greed and lash out at others over small details.
Entitlement is usually not something that pops out of the woodwork over the course of a single day. It’s often years in the making. Helping someone (re)learn how to stay humble can be a huge challenge.
Living life with confidence, knowing your worth, wanting to get a fair share of doubloons for your efforts—that’s all perfectly fine and even healthy. Finding that balance between timidity and arrogance, however, can be far harder in practice.
Facebook Friend On What/What Not To Buy Her For Birthday
I Made A Post Awhile Back About My Cb Exfriend Who Got Mad Because I Gave Him Less Money For His Birthday Compared To Last Year, And After The Post And The Comments I Decided To Message Him About It And This Is What He Said
Damn... that man needs to grow a pair of priorities (this is a joke and not meant to be weird cause if I think too much it seems creepy)
Using Gofundme For A Vacation
to be fair, go Fund Me IS for nonsense like this as well as covering medical costs etc.
Especially if you've never been called out for your behavior. You start believing that whatever you’re doing is fine. It’s the norm. Everyone does it. It can be a shock when someone finally snaps and tells you that, hey, you’re totally out of line here.
I Apparently Singlehandedly Ruined A 13 Year Olds Birthday Party
Entitled Rich Kid Asks For Birthday Money
Her Bday Isnt Even Until Next Week
Learning to control your greed can be quite difficult. As financial expert Sam Dogen, from the Financial Samurai blog, put it in a previous interview with Bored Panda, the vast majority of people put a lot of emphasis on money.
I’m Not A Fan Of Fondant, But This Guy Is A Jerk
"For My Mom's Birthday, I'm Taking Her To Meet My Favorite Singer."
Imagine Asking People In A Generous Group For $200 To Throw Your Dog A Birthday Party...people Go Out Of Their Way To Give You Money In A Pandemic And You Post This? She Tried Saying Later That Since She Said “I’m Super Grateful” That It Excused Her Being Super Ungrateful. I Can’t Even Lie I’m Mad
Begging for money to throw their dog a birthday party? And $55 is not enough?
“Everybody has either a money problem or a money desire,” he said.
For instance, if you happen to win the lottery, your relatives, friends, and acquaintances will probably expect to get a cut of your profits.
No Broke Boy Birthday Wishes
Happy Birthday Tho
Well... Guess She Is Having A Crap Birthday
There's a special place in Hell for people who try to leverage their children for profit.
“If the winner doesn’t magnanimously share their winnings with family members and friends, they will be seen as selfish and greedy,” the financial expert told us.
“I’m all about Stealth Wealth. If you win the lottery, do your best to keep it a secret. Furthermore, if you win the lottery at work or in your investments, never brag about how much you make either. Instead, try to blend in as much as possible. You can always then be more generous with your money if you wish, without expectations,” he advised keeping these things under wraps.
Choosing Beggar Invites Me To Their Birthday Party
Happy Birthday?
Happy Birthday!
Someone who is entitled feels like they deserve special treatment, recognition, and privileges. Most often, they have a false sense of self-importance and want things that they did not earn or do not deserve.
One way that people become entitled is when they get everything that they ask for, without having to earn it. Teaching kids the value of money, hard work, building relationships, can help offset this.
Was Looking At Some Reviews For Vegas Hotels. Can't Imagine What It Must Be Like Dealing With People Like This
Someone Offered To Make Her A Free Designer Cake For Her Birthday, She Was Not Satisfied
It’s My Birthday Can I Get It Cheaper?
Entitled folks think that they ought to be admired and respected, according to ‘Better Help.’ However, beneath the facade of over-inflated confidence can lie lots of insecurities. Meanwhile, attention-seekers with overbearing personalities can become more and more isolated from their friends.
Private Jet Trip For 30th Birthday
I’m Ashamed To Admit I’m Related To This 37yo Birthday Brat... Thankfully The Whole Family Is Ashamed Of Her Nonsense And Entitlement
Never give expecting to get anything in return. Give because you want to and can afford t
It's My Birthday Give Me Your Hard Earned Money
Which of these posts shocked you the most, dear Pandas? Have you ever been to a birthday party where the guest of honor demanded a specific amount of money or an expensive gift? How do you think entitlement ought to be 'cured?' Share your thoughts and insights in the comments.
Oh You Have Cancer...sorry, But My Birthday Is Coming Up Soon!!!
I don't think this is meant as "me me me". It's the equivalent of speaking before thinking. I do that all the time and it is so embarrassing! Anyone will notice events that happen on their birthday and more often than not people comment something like "oh, that's my birthday".
It's Their Birthday, So They Want It For A Discount/Free
"My Iou Birthday Present'
I had to stop after reading a few of them. It's truly disgusting how people can be nowadays.
Yep. This entire thread made me want to 🤮. What is with people these days?
Load More Replies...Too late already. But on the bright side, you are giving bored panda members 365 days advance notice to donate to your next birthday.
Load More Replies...Some people do get depressed or anxious on their birthdays. I have no idea why it happens to me. Something about pre-birthday hype and anxiety disorder.
For me it's about having been either genuinely forgotten or purposefully ignored as a kid, and as a result I'm always secretly, stupidly, quietly hoping somebody would CARE "this year" and simultaneously trying to forget a birthday is a thing people usually celebrate in the first place. Therefore I don't really know which is better, and both possibilities give me anxiety lol. The feeling only settles down a couple of days after.
Load More Replies...I had to stop after reading a few of them. It's truly disgusting how people can be nowadays.
Yep. This entire thread made me want to 🤮. What is with people these days?
Load More Replies...Too late already. But on the bright side, you are giving bored panda members 365 days advance notice to donate to your next birthday.
Load More Replies...Some people do get depressed or anxious on their birthdays. I have no idea why it happens to me. Something about pre-birthday hype and anxiety disorder.
For me it's about having been either genuinely forgotten or purposefully ignored as a kid, and as a result I'm always secretly, stupidly, quietly hoping somebody would CARE "this year" and simultaneously trying to forget a birthday is a thing people usually celebrate in the first place. Therefore I don't really know which is better, and both possibilities give me anxiety lol. The feeling only settles down a couple of days after.
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