Far too generalist. Try having a toxic narcissist as an older sibling.

Only child here. Everyone is always so jealous, but it gets lonely sometimes. :(

This did not ring true for me. I have two older sisters and a younger brother. The oldest has been a bully our entire life, to each of us. The second is completely aloof and distant, detached, shows little to no affection. Me, I am the "odd" one of the three sisters who lived my life completely different then my older sisters. I didn't follow my mothers teachings regarding cooking and traditions as if they were gospel like my sisters do. They both started having kids at 18 and 19, a whole slew of them too. I traveled, explored life, tried different careers and did not have a child until I was 42. My younger brother is angry and misanthropic, and absolutely hates our eldest sister... he hates the world at large. No, I think blueprinting family dynamics is futile.

These are such stereotypes anr over generalizations. I am the youngest and the only girl - i was not "the baby", i was abused and neglected while my two older brother's were coddled (especially the 2nd oldest [middle child])

Utter BS without any scientific evidence. But what else do you expect from a tiktok post? Might just as well look for facts on info wars or breitbart.

So. Much. Bullshit. LOL There were two of us. I am no prefectionist, neither a ppl pleaser, and my younger sib had no interest in catching up to my level, as he's lazy af.

This smells like pseudo psychology, far too generalizing. Also, BP left out that this tiktoker is NOT a therapist. On IG this is what his bio says: "M.A. Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Licensed Resident In Counseling". So counselor at best.

Hey an intern read the part of his text book in intro to counseling theory about north order and thinks he hit s**t by quoting it on tik tok. His sup sees this and it actually could jeopardize his placement since appears to be filming in an office at work... be smarter young intern. Sincerely a licensed therapist of 15 years

true for all of my siblings and me

Oldest of three and the only boy... Shy at heart but very outgoing when in my element. Very protective over my younger sisters. Not that no one was good enough... just that I'd beat the hell out of any asshole who would disrespect my girls. At 63, I'm the same way over my female friends as well.

Ugh. There's so much I could write here. Suffice it to say, I am a second (of two) child, and I am the caretaker. I live in Texas, and my mother, father, and sister live in Maine. I've flown up there about 6 times over the last few years to spend time, and help out, on a day's notice, with each of them. When my mother's husband passed away, I was on a plane in about 10 hours, and there within 36 hours (my mom lives on an island in Maine, and it's not a quick trip). My sister, who lives about two hours away from my mother texted me the next day to ask if I was going to fly up to be with Mom. When I got the text, I was literally in line for the ferry to the island. I had just spent 36 hours, and a couple thousand dollars, to get to my grieving mother, and my sister was like..."should we go see mom?" My sister is not an uncaring person, but she is the type to think that she should be taken care of, vs. taking care of others.

I'm an oldest child. These are all so true.

Not one single thing that person said applies to my siblings and me. I'm the oldest, I was the one who got the strictest rules, of course, but the second child most def is NOT the one who competes with me...none of the other three do....and is a mean, violent, nasty, perverted giant of a man who disowned the family 36 years ago, thankfully. Second bro (3rd child) was very intelligent, but wasn't competing for "his" place, and sis (youngest) is very secure in her status. This man's post is a really silly bunch of junk that can't even be used as a 'general' guideline in any way whatsoever! Oh, and my son, my only surviving child, LOVED being an only! He loved getting all the attention, and that he didn't have to compete as his friends did.

Rather stupid!

lol not true at all. Okay, my oldest brother is kind of a people pleaser and conformist but he had long hair, a bike and wore leather in his younger years... But helpful? Hah! Middle one is a drug addicted failure that got all the attention but failed to achieve anything. And me, the "baby"? As said I did not get the attention, I'm a total introvert and I'm absolutely not an attention seeker, I generally don't compete and certainly do not feel inferior to my brothers. If anything, the opposite is more likely, as arrogant as that may sound. People are different and this is way too much of a generalization.

It didn't work that way in my family. The "oldest" child was my middle child, who is responsible, worked hard and practically looked after her rebellious and ornery older brother and "typical" younger sister, even though I never asked her to do that. LOL!

Culture and clash of that culture with how the rest of the environment is also throws a wrench into all of this. Example - I am the eldest child, but I am also female... in a family where the parents still have/had very clear misogynist priorities. So my younger sibling, a boy, never had the 'battle' of "sharing attention" from the parents (as noted above) and also never had the drive to compete as he was raised with the expectation that I, as "just" a female was obviously inferior.

Charles Manson was a firstborn child, not a very good people pleaser

There are four kids in our family. Not one matches their “personality” from this list.

First child maybe, the rest don’t apply to anyone in my family

It's completely wrong with us. Middle kid yet I'm more responsible than the two oldest and two youngest. Love them but yeah they have zero responsibility for anything and can get completely disrespectful with our parents but don't worry my fist can straighten that out. Thankfully it's just me and the two youngest siblings now so it's all good

Oldest of 7, this rubbish goes out of the window with that anyway, plus my parents never expected me to be some sort of third parent just because I was the eldest, that would be ridiculous and unfair.

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This is completely wrong on every level for my family.

I am the youngest of 4 siblings and this is not very accurate. But maybe we are the exception rather than the rule? My oldest sibling is very appreciated and not the most responsible, the middle siblings are not competitive or peacemakers, and as the youngest I am not hyper-dependent nor do I feel inferior to the rest. So maybe this is based on his family in particular.

My aunt (who's the middle child) is very resentful and starts a lot of fights between her and my mom (who's the oldest). Figures.

Seems that a lot of these statements come from so much older generations. When families were close in a house, distant from other families (not right next door), and a lot of family secrets were kept in the family (father drinking, abusive uncle, grandpa in the attic) development was strained, slow and private. The last 20 - 30 years have changed everything. No one has to be alone with a telephone, television and internet. There are conversations now with people around the world indicating connections can be more in number and closer in dialog. And I'd like to point out Ben Franklin was the 8th child in a house of 14 brothers and sisters and his mind never stopped inventing, reasoning, writing, and generally outshining the crap out of everyone around him, family and friends. The best thing now is that no one has to stay silent, help can come from friends, family, church, reading, media. And considering the extensive lifespan today, there's plenty of time to learn and change.

I see a lot of experts in the comments.

our family is dysfunctional. Oldest child is male, he's a hermit and doesn't have anything to do with us other siblings. My sister is the middle child, has no skills, always in trouble, always looking for trouble, and has nothing to do with family either. I'm the youngest, very introverted, have been depressed since my teens (I'm in my 50's). Attention? Only to get scolded and blamed for "everything". I have nothing to do with my family either. We basically don't have family, just people we grew up with and left as soon as we could.

I'm the oldest, I read that part and I was like, THAT IS ME!!! He is describing ME!!! This seems very accurate. I am a perfectionist, I'm responsible, I'm literally what he just said! WOW!!! I know that this theory may not apply to everyone but it sure works on me.

Is it odd that I cried bc it was so accurate

Accurate but not New.

I'm the youngest of six. We don't fit this analysis.

The baby. Very hyper dependent