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Apparently, the average person has about 13 secrets they’re keeping at any given time. That’s a lot of things to be kept under wraps! But what happens to these secrets once you enter a relationship? The person who’s the closest to you should know everything about you, right? But that isn’t always the case.

It certainly isn’t true for these folks who’ve been hiding some pretty big secrets from their partners. They finally decided to spill the beans. Some of the answers are wholesome, while others are downright shocking. 

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#1

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I have a box of little crochet critters in the garage, that I make when I'm bored/inbetween clients. I let my fiance know that if anyone at work would like one (she's a hospice nurse) she can just take them from the box, no questions asked.


That's what I told her, anyway. 


The secret is that I purposefully make stuff for her to take. I even have a lil spreadsheet so I know what animals/colours are the most popular, and make sure that there's always spares. Obviously I don't know WHO they go to, 'cause of confidentiality, but I try to get as big a range as I can. .

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TribbleThinking
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Awwww. I want to see the "stock" now. Do you ever use them for fundraisers? *urge to shop for fun colourful critters*

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#2

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I'm gone once a month for a mysterious workshop that he's not allowed to ask about. What he doesn't know is that it's a workshop blacksmithing and I'm currently making him a sword to propose to him with.

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#3

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About On occasion, I send instacart groceries to local people asking for food.

I know what it is to be hungry, my husband never has.

I do not think he would understand. Not that he is against helping, but might get upset with me sending groceries and spending $80 - $100 just for basics for someone to get by till their next paycheque.

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In a marriage or a partnership, both people need to be open and honest with each other. The more they start keeping secrets, the more cracks will appear in the foundation of their relationship. Even though research shows that 60% of people hide things from their partners, they don’t seem to realize the damage that it can do.

Whether it’s small or big secrets that someone is keeping from their significant other, that itself is a sign that the relationship might not be on strong footing. This is especially true if the individual hides something because they are anxious or worried about their partner’s reaction. 

#4

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About My husband can't whistle. He always tries, but he just can't get it. One day while out hiking with our dogs, the dogs went too far ahead so my husband tried to whistle for them. The first few attempts nothing happened. So I whistled for them. Apparently my husband was trying to whistle at the same time and he heard my whistle and thought it was him. He was so proud! Just grinning from ear to ear. I didn't have the heart to tell him it was me, still don't. It was so cute to see how happy he was.

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R.A. Haley
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can whistle in all sorts of different ways, but I never could manage that two-fingers-in-the-mouth steam whistle blast.

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#5

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I have an eating disorder that I've been fighting alone for about 5 years. He thinks I'm just naturally really skinny.

Actually, this is the first time I've admitted this publicly. It feels kind of good.

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#6

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I'm proposing today and I've been planning for most of this year. I'm terrible at secrets and have almost spilled the beans a few times.


Edit: He said yes!!

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As you can see in this list, there are many types of secrets. Some can be harmless, like not revealing quirks you’ve noticed because your partner might feel self-conscious about them. Others can be wholesome, like surprises, proposals, and so on. But some secrets can also be alarming or disturbing, and those are the ones that folks most often want to hide.

Studies have found that there are three kinds of things people might want to keep hidden. They include taboo secrets that might stigmatize the person, rule violations that the individual could get in trouble for, and conventional secrets, which may not cause any huge issues but can still make the individual feel anxious or worried.

#7

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About When she first made a Tiktok account she spent hours doing hair and makeup, recording different little dances, skits etc. But they werent really taking off at all and I could tell she was a little down about it. When she was asleep I went onto her account and spent about $300 (which isnt a small amount of money to me) to have her videos promoted and pushed to more people than they otherwise would. She woke up to thousands of followers, 10s of thoussnds of likes and 100s of thoussnds of views. She was ecstatic, still has no idea. Worth every cent.

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Papa
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I appreciate the gesture, but does the world really need another Tiktok personality?

LSD
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s beautiful that you wanted to do something sweet for her, but is feeding a social media addiction the way to go?

Captive
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate me for it but I find it stupid. Making a fool of yourself to get likes and even spending money on it

Pretty Pink Sky Photography
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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For the haters - don’t like it? Don’t watch. What difference does it make to you that a random person is doing something that harms you in no way at all?

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#8

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About As someone who absolutely hated dancing and always declined invitations to go dancing, I've learned the basic steps of Bachata which is her favourite dance.

Not sure how long I'll keep it as a secret. I'm just waiting for the right moment to reveal this suprise.

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#9

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I want to marry him much sooner than I thought but also as an immigrant I worry if bringing that up will raise any eyebrows and cause him or his family and friends to think that I want to do this to get permanent residence quickly. So I've been working extra hard to qualify for it on my own.

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There is a big difference between keeping secrets from one’s partner and having privacy in relationships. It’s important to understand the difference. Secrecy can violate a person’s trust, be toxic to their bond, and even cause harm. Privacy does not involve violating trust or causing harm to one’s partner; it’s about setting a personal boundary and developing an individual identity. 

An example of privacy can be having a separate bank account and keeping the password hidden from one’s spouse. An example of secret-keeping might be getting into severe debt and hiding it from one’s partner.

#10

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About That I've turned a closet in the hallway into a shoe closet because she has wanted one for a very long time. When she comes back home in a couple of days I hope she loves it.

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Leigh James
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I adore footwear. As a small child I insisted on sleeping with my new Buster Browns until the newness wore off (yes, my mother cleaned them before I went to bed).

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#11

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About When we started dating I told him I was not ticklish. I just had to hold it together unbothered the first time he tried. He said it was no fun and 11 years later thinks I am still not ticklish. Best secret I’ve ever kept!

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Learner Panda
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have two older brothers. I had to learn to be not ticklish. It worked, except for one place, which I will never tell.

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“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About That I have learned to hate him. He’s mentally abusive and it’s exhausting and I don’t deserve it. Everyone thinks he’s the nicest man ever when he’s really a prick.

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Hiding things doesn’t just affect the relationship, it also affects the secret keeper. It can impact a person's physical and mental health and also weigh heavily on their conscience. The stress of keeping information hidden over a long period of time can lead to fatigue, worry, and many physical health issues.

#13

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About -We’ve been together for 5 years
-Met at a football game
-our biggest thing in common is our love for “our team”
-every Sunday for years we get together to watch the games with her family

-I’m not really into football
-I was at the game we met at because someone bought tickets and I was off so sure
- I’ve never really understood it so for YEARS anytime the family cheers I just follow with cheers and when they BOOOO I do the same.

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Moos
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After 5 years together your "biggest thing in common" is the team??? Are you sure you want to stay together?

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#14

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About When he proposes to me, I have an engagement watch for him.

My dad gave it to me a few months into dating him and said that I could do what I want with it. It’s been 5 years and all I need is a nice box and ribbon.

Edit: thanks for the activity, super overwhelmed by the responses.
The watch is a breitling aerospace - my dad and his dad collected watches so we would often inherit ones. They collected them when luxury brands were ‘more affordable’. The timing wasn’t due to me starting to date my boyfriend, just that my dad flew over to get a few older ones serviced as we grew up overseas. He just wanted to bring a gift.

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#15

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About It’s not really a secret anymore because I cracked up the last time I saw him do it but when he used to make me impossible burgers he would use a meat thermometer to make sure that it was “safe” to eat like a normal burger. It was so sweet that I didn’t want to tell him I could probably eat them raw if I wanted. They were also like chewing a brick. I love that man.

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Robert Beveridge
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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never really had a problem with impossiburgers, but then, unless you're getting the absolutely highest quality stuff (and why would you grind that anyway?), I'm kind of in the "a burger is a vehicle for the big-a*s salad you put on top of it" school. (Also, please forgive this rant: Impossible and Beyond could have RULED THE WORLD had they been willing to undercut the meat producers for a couple of years--especially since even the not-fit-for-human-consumption ground beef is over $7/pound at my local Walmart. If they'd dropped their prices to half what ground beef cost in 18-20 and then raised the price up gradually after that, they'd have absolutely ruined the market, and they'd all be billionaires right now. Instead, they're gasping for air. Nice going, guys!)

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So, if you’ve been keeping something from your significant other, here’s how you can finally unburden yourself. The first step is to wait for the right moment when your partner is in a good emotional state and feeling calm. Then, you should carefully express the importance of what you’re about to share with them and be direct about it.

It’s essential to be clear and honest and clarify any doubts that the other person may have. You also need to prepare for any reaction because it might be intense or overwhelming for them. Be empathetic and reassure them that you will never keep such information from them again.

#16

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About Our tenth anniversary is coming up in January; we got engaged ten years ago last week with a ring that looks nice but was the best I could afford at the time.

We’re not wealthy (both educators), but we’ve moved up enough on our districts’ salary schedules and cleared out some bigger debts, so my tenth anniversary gift is a new ring that’s about five times what the original cost (and looks it).

Five months until I can show her.

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Sam Juan
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard of a story where a man originally bought a cheap (~$20) but attractive engagement ring for his fianceé off of a street vendor. She, of course, said yes. Years later, he was able to afford a "good" ($300) ring, and surprised her with it for their 10th anniversary. She refused to accept the ring, saying something like that cheap ring holds more of their love for each other than the more expensive one ever could. She even admitted to knowing the cost of the original ring from the very beginning.

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“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I don't think his youngest son is his. The story about how this child came to be is very shady. Between having his vasectomy reversal and how low he said his count is. Combined with the fact that he caught the boys' mom cheating during the time they were trying, and how fast she came back with the paternity results, it all feels very wrong. 13 years later, when we are talking about his youngest, he always brings up how similar they look. I just agree. This kid looks nothing like him or his other 2 kids. My BF is 5'7 blue eyes black hair with a lean build. The youngest is already over 6 feet tall brown eyes, brown hair, and kinda chubby. His mom is very slim, blue eyes and blonde hair. He wanted to get them all 23 and me for Christmas, I talked him out of it, I think it would ruin Christmas for him if it came out.

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Con O Cuinn
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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm more than 7 inches taller than both my parents and taller than literally everyone (>60 people) on both sides. My dad was blonde with blue eyes, my mam brunette with brown eyes, I have jet black hair and green eyes. I've donated an organ to my dad, I'm definitely his. Genetics is a crapshoot. Not easy to predict with obvious limited information.

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#18

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I still have nightmares about my abusive ex boyfriend. 25 years later.

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Secrets can honestly snowball into huge lies, so it’s better not to keep them from your significant other in the first place. If you do, it would be better if it was a positive secret rather than some of the more weird ones on this list. If you do have something to share, you can start by unburdening yourself in the comments; we’ll definitely keep your secret safe!

#19

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About She farts in her sleep. LOUD.

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#20

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About The amount of times that those intrusive thoughts enter my mind but my wife, she’s one of the main things holding things together for me. I think of how tragic things would be if I actually followed thru, so that always helps. I do that for everything though, if not her then my dog, or my parents, or my family and so on.

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#21

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I am very much kinkier than what he can even think.

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#22

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I secretly hate the way he chews, but I act like it doesn’t bother me. It drives me crazy.

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#23

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About Years later, I'm still not over her affair. I have my reasons for staying, but the pain remains.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people are denser than others. If a spouse cheats, leave them. The pain will most likely always be there in a sense, but you're not being constantly exposed to the stimulus that is their presence in your life which never lets the wound heal. Leave, move on, and allow time to do what it does.

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#24

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About Probably how many snacks I really sneak at midnight.

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#25

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About That I don't like his family. I'm kinda scared of them.

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Hphizzle
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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nooo! This picture is not right! The Addams Family is the best!!

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“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I resent him for never having done big romantic gestures, maybe even medium ones. It feels like he doesn't think I'm worth the effort. It feels like I'm always compromising for whatever he wants and it never comes back around.

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mysterious(he/they, maybe?)
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like this is a communication error. Some people aren't going to do big romantic gestures on your own, so if you want that, you need to tell them.

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#27

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I beat my wife in every video-game! I purposefully lose at puyo puyo tetris because she likes it and it's the only way for me to enjoy her company while playing.

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Not Who You Think
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... and if she keeps winning, she'll keep playing, and (hopefully) get to a point where she wins on her own. That's better than her just giving up because she can't win.

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“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About That I am not ok in this divorce. I miss her TERRIBLY.

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lenka
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see in my practice all the time. Women will try to communicate their unhappiness and save their marriage for years only for their attempts to fall on deaf ears. They will eventually 'check out' of the marriage long before they actually initiate separation, but the men often feel blindsided by the separation and complain that it 'come out of nowhere'. Her grieving process is complete, but yours is just beginning.

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#29

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About We’re having a boy!

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Robert Beveridge
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please just announce it in words, instead of starting a wildfire blowing off those stupid cannons or whatever.

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#30

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About He’s been eating veggie burgers for about two years now. First time was an accident, never seen him enjoy eating “meat” that much… I might’ve taken it a bit too far….

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Wang Zhuang
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So...is OP saying they have been purposely feeding their S/O veggie burgers and he hasn't noticed? I call BS

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#31

“I Don’t Think His Youngest Son Is His”: 31 Big Secrets People Have Never Told Their Partner About I've been preparing for his birthday for a long time now.

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