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It happens to the best of us — parents, kids, college students, tenured professors, CEOs — and it happens to us all the time. Just because you have a successful career or a natural talent to achieve anything you want in life, it doesn’t mean you’re perfect. Because no one is immune to making mistakes. No one can avoid the occasional slip-ups. And no one is safe from messing up in life. It's a guarantee that cannot be escaped no matter how hard we try.
That's just the universe teaching us lessons over and over and over again until we finally listen. But in some unfortunate cases, they do tend to come in heavy and heartbreaking ways. "What’s the biggest mistake you’ve watched someone make in their personal life?" Redditor Ordinary-Ad5763 asked, and thousands of responses immediately started rolling in.
Below, we at Bored Panda have gathered some of the most honest, real, and painful stories from the thread, and they show that sometimes, the price for our errors is too high. Just to warn you, this thread may not be for the faintest of hearts. But turning a blind eye to these authentic accounts won't make life any brighter. So continue scrolling, upvote as you go, and if you're up for it, share your own experiences with us in the comments. Keep reading to also find our interview with psychologist Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., where we discuss how to best handle these situations on an emotional level.
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#1
My wife just had a c-section, and was complaining about a pain in her leg but never got it checked out. Two weeks later; Blood Clot.
October 13th will mark my third year without her.
Šimon Špaček 3 years ago
Another story why you should had any pain after major surgery checked by professional and if they say "that is completely normal" insist on second opinion or just quick MR check.
No One 3 years ago
Agreed. I had chest pain about 4 weeks after my daughter was born. The nurses told me I was fine. A few days later I was in intensive care with a dvt blood clot.
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Shannon Purkey 3 years ago
After a severe leg injury from a car accident and walking on crutches for a couple months my (32f) leg/foot became severely swollen and nearly smurf blue. The pain got so bad as it was disregarded and ended up feeling like my leg was going to explode. It stopped strangers in their tracks it was so shocking to look at. However I was still passed around between an orthopedic surgeon and 3 vascular surgeons before being taken seriously and sent for a more in depth ultrasound where I was rushed to the ER upon finding a large DVT. The 2nd doctor literally poked at it, told me I was too young to be there and that swelling was normal for an injury like that and sent me on my way. I felt so defeated and tried to give up. But my mom found out and lost her cool and got me a 4th opinion which save my life. I still feel it 4 years later when I rest on that leg too long.
Leoninus Fate 3 years ago
f**k... I just got over blood clots in my lungs a year ago, they only found it after my last each for cancer, they took one look at the MRI, and instead of telling me or my mom they put me in a wheelchair and ran me across the street on foot to the er, they got me there in less then 10 mins, they said if I had said 10/20 mins I would have been dead, I got took care of after being there 2 weeks and now I have to take blood thinners the rest of my life, it all started as one blood clot from my leg, thankfully it hit my lung instead of my hear {but it was just about to travel there}
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Please, if you have leg pain, whether you are sedentary or not, but especiallly if you've had a surgery or are pregnant? Get the pain checked out immediately. Clots kill so often. And so unnecessarily. RIP, Clo.
Ellen Woods 3 years ago
People need to pay attention to what their body is telling them. I had already been through menopause and started to “spot”. Which I knew was not supposed to happen. Boyfriend is a car hauler, I was with him and we where in Utah. After we unloaded all our cars, I went to a walk in clinic. The doctor poked around, felt a lump. Ordered an MRI or whatever and sure enough I had a mass on my left ovary the size of a golf ball. Two weeks later I had a full hysterectomy. Who knows what would have happened if that thing had burst.
Raine Sullivan 3 years ago
My sister died the same way. Just last year. So unexpected! She was so loved!! I've never seen so many people at a funeral before! We live in a really small town to. I really miss her
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#2
A good friend of mine threw away 15 years of military service because he didn’t want to take the COVID vaccine. 5 years from retirement and incredible healthcare for his wife and children all gone. He joined a religion recently and decided he wanted to get a religious exemption which was denied so he opted for an administrative discharge. The fool…
alias D. 3 years ago
Unfortunately I am in an area of Kansas full of people like this so aggravated SIGH indeed
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Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
I'm in the military, and it blows my mind that NOW of all times people are objecting to vaccines? After all the mandatory vaccines we had to get when we entered the military and throughout our service?
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Same thing with people in the medical field. You guys get all these vaccines for the job and now a new one comes out and it's the end of the world. Blows my mind.
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Elio 3 years ago
Same. I really can't stay with someone who can't agree that COVID is bad and that we should protect ourselves from it.
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Hutt'nKloas 3 years ago
Best friend of mine refused the vaccine out of fear of side effects. I tried to reason with him with facts & statistical data. He died due to corona after 6 weeks of IC. Also the fool. 😢
Luis Gomez 3 years ago
People say they will die for their family but this guy here, ruining great healthcare to his family because he's afraid of a needle. Also what's up with military and police personnel not getting vaccinated? Are they all about protecting others?
JessG 3 years ago
Yeah, but those guys, the ones that are far right, don't believe those scientists that tell us that vaccines protect people. My question is, why are those guys, that actually serve the government as a job, say stuff like: "the government is trying to control us!! Don't believe them! Masks don't work!...etc"
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Sheila Stamey 3 years ago
Now I'm a Christian and I have never understood this mentality. It's like standing in a busy road and complaining if you get run over. It even says not to do this in the Bible. Where are these people getting this from? Deut 6:16 and Matthew 4:7 old AND new testament. Admittedly,one is reference to the other.
Pieter LeGrande 3 years ago
I'm not, but if God is supposed to have created man in His own image then that includes His brain. So why are they disrespecting their god by not using it.
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#3
Have kids under the hope they'll fix their marriage.
Children are not accessories
Ariadna 3 years ago
And it’s more often that you think. Its also some desperate way to retain the other person, that’s absolutely sick and toxic
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Deborah B 3 years ago
Children will make any relationship harder. "We already don't like each other, so let's add sleep deprivation, financial stress, and lots of extra work, responsibility, mess, and noise." Why the heck would that help?
Milla Leino 3 years ago
I have a friend who's little brother exists because of that. It is really messed up to begin with, but on top of that they have told him that they had him to try to save their marriage, and it still ended. Imagine what that does to a child's mind, to think that he wasn't enough to save it. Of course it wasn't his fault but he thought that a long time. Gladly he is doing better now but it took years of therapy and he is still not 100% okay. I really hate when people do this. Oh and sorry if i made spelling mistakes, not my first language ☺️
Chris Jones 3 years ago
Bad enough that they did this, but to TELL the child??? 🥹
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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago
If your relationship is already strained, a screaming relentless vulnerable 24/7 shared responsibility will shatter you
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
For a while kids need such non stop care that you forget the relationship issues I guess
Richard Anderson 3 years ago
Just don't wait to long, they go bad after about 13 years.
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Bluebrains 3 years ago
My mother told me I was born to bring her closer to my father. Their 20 year abusive marraige didn't last much longer after I started to share my true feelings, but everyone's a lot happier now. So task failed successfully?
DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
"Maybe if we have a kid it'll bring us closer"....Imma stop you right there....no.
Whether it’s in our work environment or our relationships, every single one of us makes mistakes at some point. Life inevitably throws curveballs to give us valuable learning opportunities. They may hit us hard at first, but what matters more than any misstep or its magnitude is our response afterward.
To learn more about our tendency to make mistakes and how much of a toll they take on our emotional health, we reached out to Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., a psychologist and creator of Mental Drive. He started this well-being initiative to help people access the best-in-class psychological and performance tools to live healthier, more fulfilled, and successful lives.
"We are social beings," Klapow told Bored Panda. "We are hardwired to seek acceptance. When we do things that put us at risk of rejection, the natural emotional response is one of embarrassment, fear, stress, and frustration. This is who we are at the deepest levels."
#4
One of my best friends walked out on his wife and two kids because a girl at the gym and him were having a relationship.
As it actually turned out, she was just being friendly and chatting to him. No relationship, no mutual decision to be together, nothing. He misunderstood polite friendliness for flirting, and destroyed his own family for it.
NoPandashere 3 years ago
Propably good for the family but I know few of these guys who think every lady is in love with them. But the reality is that theyre most likely the last men on earth those women would date. So Propably this guy lost the one who really where liking him just because he cant understand normal behaviors.
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Vorknkx 3 years ago
Another episode of "She is nice to me, therefore she must be madly in love with me." Sadly, this mindset is fairly common nowadays.
Little Wonder 3 years ago
Weirdly common. When i worked in a library, one of the patrons was convinced - CONVINCED - one of the librarians was in love with him. She was being nice because we weren't allowed to be rude...
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
I hate that being nice is often mistaken for flirting because so many are only nice when they want something
Maisey Myles 3 years ago
So true! When my brother calls me just to say hi. Cut to the chase dude, what you do want?
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Bet it was a shock for gym-girl when he turn up expecting the next stage of their 'relationship'.
April Stephens 3 years ago
Yes. That poor woman! "I left my wife so we can finally be together." I would be so creeped out.
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DrBronxx 3 years ago (edited)
Sounds like he was looking for a way out, opted for the shittiest way possible, and it backfired. Good.
fu yu 3 years ago
Actually, he sounds like a dork if he misinterpreted kindness for flirting.
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Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
So... the barista that smiled at me at sturbucks isn't into me? But... but she knows my name! Wrote it wrong but still counts!
#5
One of my students was offered a 95% scholarship to Juilliard. They turned it down because they felt a 95% scholarship was a slap to the face, and instead decided not to go to school. Last I heard they weren’t playing, and were working minimum wage, but talking about how good they used to be.
steven 3 years ago
not really, it would have gone to someone more appreciative
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Judes 3 years ago
I'm glad the scholarship instead went to someone who appreciated the opportunity.
DumYum 3 years ago
School may want the student to take some financial responsibility. 95%? That student must have been really good. Maybe they were terrified of succeeding?
ToyWyvern 3 years ago
That's how it sounds to me. This way they always have the bragging rights without the pressure.
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Mrs Irish Mom 3 years ago
Im from Ireland and ive even heard how amazing Juilliard is, most non stuck up der own a$$ ppl would jump at a chance if a 50% scholarship never mind 95% 🤯
DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
95%....give me 50% and I was there at the front door in the morning. Lol
#6
Single mother of 3 living in poverty. Gave her parents her $6000 tax refund to hold onto because she didn't want her abusive ex to convince her to split it with him.
Parents spent it all in weeks.
Seabeast 3 years ago
That may explain why she ended up with an abuser - she was brought up to think being abused was normal and just something she had to put up with.
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DEW 3 years ago (edited)
That's horrible. I feel so bad for her. If you can't trust your own parents then trust no one but yourself. You could give all me all your bank numbers and codes and I never touch it. Even if I need it to get myself off the streets. I could never live with myself if I even took a dime. I don't get it.
Michael Largey 3 years ago
It's easy to marry an abusive person if you were raised by abusive persons.
mrsmir 3 years ago
My husband and I recently moved into my mom’s and have saved $6000 so far. We give her all the savings because we don’t trust ourselves to not spend it and she’ll give it back to us when we move out. I couldn’t imagine struggling like we are (as the OP is) and then having my mom spend that money. She WANTS to see us succeed and that is why she is helping. Poor OP and her crummy parents.
Vasana Phong 3 years ago
This is truly sad, I was once in a relationship like this, only stayed for various reasons, but they just basically took her only hope if it gets too real that she has to leave with only the clothes on her back
Ellen Woods 3 years ago
If I’m living in poverty with three kids, the last thing I’ve giving anyone is thousands of dollars. She should have hid it. Another option is a bank account in a kids name and have her as the main account holder so she can access it.
The Starsong Princess 3 years ago
Looks like her parents trained to believe that abuse is what love looks like.
The psychologist pointed out that when we make a mistake, it can be hard initially to accept it. "We may know intellectually that we have made an error but emotionally, we are triggered to figure out how to make that mistake not be a reality."
Some of the most common tactics we use to justify our actions are generating reasons why the mistake isn’t actually a mistake, reducing the magnitude of the mistake down to its smallest existence, and blaming the error on the action of others rather than ourselves. "All done to shield the reality that we have done something wrong."
#7
Let go of a girl close to their wedding because of his idea of what a wife should be like. Lives in deep regret now as she married his friend & they’re really happy whilst he has never found anyone else.
Sarah SH 3 years ago (edited)
When my sister left my ex-brother-in-law he told her she would never find anyone else, he would be remarried within a year (though no actual dating prospects with anyone) and he would have their kids calling this new (yet to be identified) woman “Mom.” Ten years later he’s alone and he can’t figure out why (he thinks he is just too good looking and therefore intimidating for women to approach). Meanwhile my sister is with a great guy and my kids call HIM their uncle.
Whitefox 3 years ago
My ex treated me as expendable. When I left, he thought he was going to live his life to the fullest. No one else would deal with his c**p and now he lives with his mom. I moved on and found the man I should have been with all along.
Lucas Jackson 3 years ago
While I get that him having ideals for a wife are problematic… at least he knew to abandon things as it wasn’t for him. It would of been worse if he had married her and then basically trapped her in a hell
Pamela Blue 3 years ago
I'm not surprised he hasn't found anyone else. He sounds like a Class A jerk.
Pamela Worthington-Smack 3 years ago
The secret to enduring relationships is to expect nothing, then settle for less.
#8
Having a 3rd kid, when you can barely afford the first two in order to "save" the marriage.
DEW 3 years ago
I hope the child is loved and not treated like a burden. We had a third child. My two kids were 8 and 10. He was very planned. What we didn't count on was him having a liver disease called Biliary Atresia. Then when he got older he was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 6. Fought the school because they wanted him out of their school. We don't know how long we have him for but he's going to be 20 yrs. old in January!!
Agent 8433599 3 years ago
I hope you have many more happy years with your son!
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Pamela Worthington-Smack 3 years ago
At this point in human history, having a child serves no good purpose beyond catering to the vanity of foolish people. We are quite literally dying of children, which, in a bizarre self referential irony, includes those selfsame children. Meanwhile, we routinely condemn people who buy pets from breeders rather than adopt needy animals from shelters.
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
My wife's best friend is a social worker. A few years ago, he did a couple of adoption home studies--go into someone's house and talk to them, to get a feel for if they'd be good parents or not. He said there were at least two occasions where, as soon as he walked in to the house/apt, it was abumdantly clear that only one person was there full-time, the other one either wasn't living there at all or had only just moved in. Upon careful questioning, turned out that the couple were having problems, and she (never he) decided that "having a baby/child would fix everything that's wrong in their relationship." Hard no from the social worker. It's not the kid's fault if Potential Parents have issues, and it's not the kid's responsibility to fix said issues.
Linda Patterson 3 years ago
My in laws did something similar. Had 4 daughters. Wanted a son so they kept trying until my husband was born. Then proceeded to treat him like s**t for his entire life.
Carolee Samuda 3 years ago
My sister-in-law tried that to trap my brother. Didn't work. She became bitter for years. Only recently since she remarried has she started being civil towards him.
Mary Loftus 3 years ago
My Mama told me before I got married 38 years ago, that children make a good marriage better and a bad marriage worse!
#9
Cheating with someone in your company who’s about to get married despite having two kids and a wife of your own **cough Ned**
Air Conditioner 3 years ago
I was like this sounds familiar then read "ned" lmao, Becky and Eugene should be able to just drink wine and say whatever they want to
Kathryn Burnett 3 years ago
Lol I knew it was only a matter of time before the Try Guys drama ended up on here. Ned you done f****d up.
Ariadna 3 years ago (edited)
Ned, I hope your wife already know what you did, and that woman also a keeper… she getting married and f. U. C. K. E. D. With someone with kids and wife, both are assholes
Claire Elise 3 years ago
It s odd to me that he was able to commit adultery, considering that out of the 4 Try Guy's he's the only one I would *never* considering sleeping with. There's simply nothing sexual about him whatsoever.
As you can see from the examples in this list, sometimes living with our errors can be extremely hard. Not only do they damage our pride and self-confidence, but they can also turn into downright personal disasters and the biggest regrets we carry through life.
When asked what kind of toll these errors in judgment have on well-being, Klapow explained their impact on our mental state often depends on how we regard the mistake. "The interpretation can literally change the emotional impact of that mistake," he told us. "If we see mistakes as a chance to learn something, to gain insight, to have a way to do things differently next time, then the mistake has a far less negative impact."
#10
My uncle got himself a mistress. Lent her $10,000 he never got back and lost his job defending her at work. Wife served him divorce papers short afterwards. He gave up his house to his wife. So he ended up jobless and homeless, sleeping on our couch at the ripe age of 60.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
A very expensive mistake. I wanted to use the F word instead of mistake but it's too early here and the sun is out :)
Lauren Caswell 3 years ago
It's late here, my son is asleep, said it for you 😄
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Vasana Phong 3 years ago
You sometimes you do not feel bad for people that makes mistakes willingly
Delta Dawn 3 years ago
And probably telling everyone how awful his ex wife was to “do this to him.”
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
I wouldn't have let him sleep on the couch. You're not obligated to fix problems he caused for himself.
#11
My high school philosophy teacher cheated on his wife with my classmate. His daughter was in the year below us. She transferred schools out of embarrassment when her dad finally left the family to pursue a relationship with the 18-year old. Yuck.
Sandra Llewelyn 3 years ago
Why is it disgusting? If he doesn't love his wife they should not be together
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Atreïdes 3 years ago
As a philosophy teacher, he probably thought them to be relative.
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One of the very much loved English teachers at my high school left his wife and new baby for one of his students who had recently graduated and turned 18. Makes you wonder how long that was going on before she came of legal age. Really wild cus he was big in the community as an activist for social justice and mental health. He and the girl are married now so guess they’re happy and sounds like his ex is doing much better. He does not teach at that school anymore, tho.
Katiekat 3 years ago
This is called GROOMING, and it's disgusting, predatory behavior. Men like this can't find an age-mate because women his age can see how disgusting and manipulative he is, so he goes for young women whose brains aren't even mature. I so wish there was a way to tell younger women this and be believed, have them leave the manipulator, and make sure everyone is warned just how much a predator he is. DIE ALONE, creep.
ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 3 years ago
holy s**t. Practically pedoph!le right there... He needs to be fired.
Bluebrains 3 years ago
Some people are actually horrifying. We had a principal like this last year, except the 18 yr old wasn't on board. Needless to say, he is no longer employed.
TheHalloweenTeen 3 years ago
That's... I'm glad he's not there anymore, I hope he's in prison.
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enohPilivE 3 years ago
If this was stateside he could/should be facing jail time - in almost all jurisdictions it's a crime for high school teachers to have sex with students - even if they are 18. I'm not sure it constitutes a "sex crime" if the student is over 18 but it's definitely still illegal in most places.
#12
Grandma eventually losing several hundred thousand on the stock market based on astrology. This was in 2007...
Michael Largey 3 years ago
They say that a fool and his money are soon parted. Actually, a fool and his money were lucky to get together in the first place.
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Ariadna 3 years ago
People believe in something stupid but there someone worst knowing is fake and wanting to take advantage. Disgusting
BBsparkster614 3 years ago (edited)
Why did someone dislike this? There are literal scams going on forwards these things Trust me, I should know
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Pamela Worthington-Smack 3 years ago
The stock market being a casino, playing cards based on the position of the stars is only slightly sillier than the rest of the game. The periodic ruin of those who invest in the stock market is a guaranteed part of the system, just as it is in Las Vegas. These are, after all, systems that exist to profit the few at the expense of the many.
deanna woods 3 years ago
I find astrology interesting, but I don't base my whole life around it.
Don Keideck 3 years ago
Grandma is a rube. She really thought she could run with the big boys at Lehman Brothers, Bear Sterns and AIG! So arrogant!
Nonna_SoF 3 years ago (edited)
Mercury is in Uranus, I'm not talking about astrology. (Apparently BP censors anusif on its own)
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Well, we’ve heard a million times that every mistake is a lesson to be learned: they are "a portal to learning, growth, and mastery." It's safe to say that facing our blunders is hard and often scary, but making them can be beneficial. It all depends on the perspective.
The healthiest way to tackle mistakes, as Klapow mentioned, is to look at our behaviors whenever we stumble and fall, take notes, and accept this learning opportunity. If we take action and make sure we’re not constantly beating ourselves up about it, we come out as stronger and more resilient human beings.
But how often do we see them as growing experiences? While this varies from person to person, some people refuse to accept reality and get tangled in their failures, unable to continue with their lives.
#13
Friend retired with a full pension 15 years ago.
At the time he kept bragging about how he was starting a business with some random guy he knew. He legit said, "He's the idea guy. I have the savings and the good credit score."
Took out a huge loan, bought a bunch of expensive equipment.
Shocker: business folded within 6 months, "partner" vanished with all the equipment.
And now this guy, who should be enjoying his golden years, will be working retail until he drops.
Monday 3 years ago
Depends on the wording of whatever contracts they had. The partner may have duped him into giving legal ownership of the equipment to him.
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Jeez, that one of the major reasons for someone to start a business with you is you having a good credit score should be a red flag. As I usually say, ideas are cheap and plentiful while workable implementations of said ideas are costly and far between.
Vasana Phong 3 years ago
My mon and cousin, and a family‘friend’ decided to put lots of their money together in a joint bank account as the interest rate was really high at that time, one day poof, $ and now family’ enemy MIA
Christopher Gerlach 3 years ago
Similar thing happened to my stepdad. He had a salary of about 250k a year. When he retired he invested all in a "sure thing" product. It was terribly managed and never took off. Had to work as a security guard into his 70s making near minimum wage.
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
Let me guess...Friend either was too embarrassed to pursue charges against Business Partner--or Friend actually tried, and (imagine that) it turns out that Businenss Partner lied about their identity, address, etc so unless the cops or a private investigator can find them, Friend's SOL. I feel bad for him. :-(
#14
Must be my disabled brother who fell for an internet scam. He met a woman online, she lived in a different continent but he was certain she was the love of his life. Spent over a year chatting and e-mailing her, and helping her with money from time to time. Very fishy stuff, but he refused to listen to my scepticism. It ended when he had saved up enough money to go visit her. He went, came back 2 days later and refused to ever admit what had happened. Went to his grave without ever talking about it.
Second place goes to my father who cheered him on. He wasn't sure wether it was a scam or not, but he thought it was nice that my brother had hopes and dreams.
Caro Caro 3 years ago (edited)
Yes F. There are a lot of scammers out there. I know someone who recently sent a few thousand euros to a women in the Ukraine for her and her son to come to the Netherlands. She wasn't at the airport ..... and is online again with the same story. I can't even be angry bc there's a war going on and money does help for food, clothes, heating, etc. He's a good sport about it too.
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Vorknkx 3 years ago (edited)
If someone you've only met online starts asking you for money = HUGE red flag!
Sarah SH 3 years ago
I had a friend who met a guy online and they had a long distance relationship for a while. They talked on the phone for hours on end. Then her parents (she lived at home, but was 19) got their (landline) phone bill and freaked out because it was like $800. She didn’t have enough with her minimum wage job to pay it right then, so her guy sent her money to help cover it. Then his family heard this and assumed she was some sort of scammer or catfish. Thankfully it all got set straight. The two of them ended up getting married and are still together ten years later. It’s one of the rare instances where it turned out to be genuine.
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Knew a guy who got roped in by a russian mail order bride. Brought her over, got married, lasted less than a year. She left, took most of his money and a good chunk of his pension. Last I heard he was living in a trailer on a friends property.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Pretty sad actually. Some people want "love" so badly they lose common sense.
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Melissa 3 years ago
This is currently happening with my mom. She won't see reason and it's beyond frustrating.
Mary Lou 3 years ago
Sorry you got to deal with this. Maybe try getting support by an NGO for scam victim, if you haven´t already. Good luck.
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Mary Lou 3 years ago
Seems like for some people being scammed is like a drug: even if others tell them it is fake - once in a life time feeling thoroughly beguiled, gets them on such a high, that they find it hard to let go. And it´s not like people wouldn´t spend lots of money on things that are fake, though not a scam (sex for money, cam girls)... . But delusion and the wake up are usually far less hard in these cases...
SageHare37 3 years ago
A few months ago my disabled cousin excitedly told us he was going to the another country to meet his online girlfriend. We were more concerned the more we learned and were so happy when the passport office made a printing error on his passport so he had to wait for a new one. After asking the difficult questions (things he should know about her before meeting her, etc) to the practical (has he been learning to read and speak the language of the area), he has decided not to go. Apparently when he said he was coming to visit instead of sending (possibly more?) money, she got awkward and stopped talking to him. I'm all for online relationships and every human should feel love, but those who pray on others desire to be loved deserve very unfortunate happenings in their own lives.
#15
Dump all of their savings ($30k or so) into random crypto at the height of the market. They were trying to get more money to put towards a house but lost a majority of it when things crashed. When their significant other found out they left.
Wood Carver 3 years ago
Tragically at least for some of the coins created at the height of the hype with very little chance of being long term sustainable, i think that this was a necessary part of the first round investors getting out.... tragic exploitation of the desperation of the lower middle class to climb the ladder
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 3 years ago
Oh NO. A friend has bought this bs and then the war in the Ukraine started and the crypto market went sour. I warned her and said it's a stupid idea and she bit my head off. I backed down and now she's lost a lot of money.
Awkward Lady 3 years ago
Sometimes there's nothing you can do, but watch people make mistakes...
Load More Replies... enohPilivE 3 years ago
Crypto is a mass psychosis pump and dump. It cannot fulfill the role of currency better than fiat currency because there is no entity that has the power to compel its acceptance among society. (currency's purpose is the universal medium of exchange NOT a store of value.). And when there are 800+ "commercial grade" cryptos available and all somebody has to do is hit the "fork" button on GitHub - its problem is only getting larger. And then there is the whole problem of whales who can artificially mess with its value thereby defeating the crypto-evangelists tired old message of "no singular point of control." It was a noble idea but now it's just a game of hot potato.
Don Keideck 3 years ago
I really think a lot of low information investors bought into "Crypto" because it sounds like something cool and edgy. "Yeah, brah, I'm all in on crypto -future is large bro gotta go with crypto..."
"If we continually make mistakes, don’t see them as a learning opportunity, or are in a position where we are not able to ever succeed, our self-confidence takes a significant beating," Klapow added. To move forward from this emotional state, the creator of Mental Drive offered these suggestions:
- Find meaning in the mistake from a learning perspective
- Recognize and remind yourself that perfection is not how people live or grow
- Evaluate the mistakes relative to other mistakes you have made so that each mistake is not seen as "the worst", and learn that mistakes are frequent and not always catastrophic.
#16
My friend chose to have a child with a man who had cheated on her multiple times, while still in high school.
Trillian 3 years ago
He was absolutely transformed by becoming a father, realised how much he loved her and turned into an adoring husband. Lol.
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LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
I swear I would know who this is about. A friend of my sisters had a baby with a man who already had 3 kids with 3 different women and wasn't in their lives. She kept insisting he was different with her. At least she's a fantastic mother because the man left them 3 years ago and stopped contacting his kid 2.5 years ago. Still lives on Facebook.
Pieter LeGrande 3 years ago
No, intelligence is in reasonable supply - the problem is "applied intelligence".
Load More Replies... Rod McCabe 3 years ago
Ambiguous. Both were in high school? One? A "man"? Could this mean "older" man?
#17
I don't know what changed him exactly, but he started calling himself an alpha male, and questioning any activity, clothing choice, type of car, career path, drink, etc as alpha or not. He bulked up and got large muscles but also still carries a beer gut. He tries to have his shirt off whenever possible, but it doesn't work for his body type. The constant seeking for assurances that something is alpha or not got tiring, or being told something someone was doing is beta behavior when I didn't have any interest or care made me stop hanging out. Of course, he now calls me a beta for not being alpha enough to hang out with him.
Remi (He/Him) 3 years ago
Well that might be an improvement... What's true alpaca way? 🤔😂
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SealOfDisapproval 3 years ago
Understandable really, since alpha is an early development version, with lots of bugs and often just the rudimentary functionalities of the final version.
Taibhse Sealgair 3 years ago
I wonder if they know the whole "alpha male" thing is a myth? https://www.businessinsider.com/no-such-thing-alpha-male-2016-10?op=1
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Lara Verne 3 years ago
When someone refers himself as "alpha", you immediatelly know you're dealing with an idiot.
Dacă nu pierdeam, câștigam 3 years ago
We need David Attenborough to narrate this for us normal people
Deborah B 3 years ago
If you have to ask/seek assurance about something being "alpha" or can't do something in case it might be perceived at "beta" wouldn't that insecurity mean you weren't "alpha?" Such BS. "Alpha" is code for "fragile masculinity".
Pamela Blue 3 years ago
Agreed. REAL men know how to be gentle and how to treat people.
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I watched my friend throw an engineering career with Boeing away because he decided to smoke a bowl to celebrate getting the job. It was a military contract.
LoneTomato 3 years ago
I totally read that in a Red Foreman voice from That 70's Show lol
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LandAhoy 3 years ago
I don't know why you were downvoted, for those who don't get it, It's a clever depiction of Homer Simpson (his face, sideways) along with his catchphrase.
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zak 3 years ago
Legalize it already! Would he get fired if he drank a celebratory beer? Or even an entire keg of beer? Or a few bottles of liquor? NOPE. Marijuana laws are so damn stupid.
Anon822209 3 years ago
I agree, but regardless it isn't yet legal on a Federal level and was a fireable offense. Which he would have been warned about.
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Amy 3 years ago (edited)
Boeing has a lot of blood on their hands (737 rudder issues in the 90s and the more recent 737 Max 8 crashes).
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JayWantsACat 3 years ago
You're not wrong but the military is federal. Boeing has federal contracts. Weed is still illegal on the federal level.
Load More Replies... JayWantsACat 3 years ago
Elon Musk, who I don't really care for, mentioned something similar in a podcast. He said that after he smoked weed with Joe Rogan he, and all (most?) of the SpaceX employees were subjected to regular drug tests because of their government contracts. Moron.
Nightshade1972 3 years ago
I used to be a grocery cashier. While I still had that job, on my day off I was shopping elsewhere. I ran into a guy who used to work at the grocery store, in a different department. I hadn't seen him in a while. Turned out that, on *his* day off, he thought it'd be a good idea to get drunk and high. His bosses at the grocery store called him up to ask if he'd like an extra shift. He said, "Sure!" and promptly dashed off to the store. Imagine his surprise when they could immediately tell he was drunk and high (his behavior, plus he was reeking of weed), and promptly fired him. If only he'd said "No" when they asked if he wanted the extra shift that day...
keighterz 3 years ago
Did they drug test him immediately the next day or was he dumb enough to post on social media?
Wood Carver 3 years ago
Cannabis can remain detectable for up to 60 days in urine at a low enough detection threshold. Depending on the test. Stupidly most harder drugs move through your system much faster, leading to higher use of those drugs instead in companies that regularly test employees. Fort McMurray Canada tests almost everyone regularly and has the worst drug problems in this country. 😑 blood testing reverses the relationship making it easier to test for harder drugs but is much more expensive. Finally neither method has statistically shown to reduce drug use or workplace injury rates rendering it pointless and punitive
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But this does beg the question, can hearing about the blunders others made help us avoid the same mistakes in our personal lives? "Because mistakes have an automatic and deep emotional impact, we have a tendency to think that we are the only ones who make them," the psychologist said.
"Seeing other people in the same situation making the same mistakes helps us to reality test, helps us feel not as bad or alone in the mistake, and often helps us see someone else taking a mistaken action that we then can learn not to take when a similar situation arises," Klapow concluded.
#19
Used to work security at a concert venue. Big enough place to require a couple cops outside the front door for insurance purposes. Had to ask someone to leave for drinking underage. He got mouthy on the way out and started to fight me. Was near the front door and the cops jumped in to help. He punched the cop and his nose bled. Went from a “hey man, don’t drink underage in here next time you come back” to a Felony.
idrow1 3 years ago
Is it getting stupider out there or do we just have a clearer window into it now?
Pamela Blue 3 years ago
It appears that the "average" IQ is getting lower and lower. Having said that, however, an underage drinker can't handle much alcohol, so, especially with a male, being mouthy and rowdy isn't much a surprise. Just his bad luck to give a cop a nosebleed. LOL!
#20
Falling into the Qanon hole and isolating themselves from everyone they loved.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
QAnon is basically the last refuge for desperate losers that haven't achieved anything in life. It gives them a fake sense of "superiority" through the belief that they possess some top-secret knowledge about some hidden war taking place between Trump and some nebulous evil elite. It's all poorly written fan fiction, of course...
smugdruggler 3 years ago
And it started on 4chan didn't it? There's a big fat hint right there...
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Kantami Blossom 3 years ago
Those people fascinate me. they somehow think they know a secret that they weren't supposed to find out about and believe that makes them superior to others that don't know about said secret despite them constantly bragging about it in detail, how you can believe in the conspiracies that they spread and claim people have died to keep them covered up yet somehow nobody has ever targeted them for spreading them😂
Vorknkx 3 years ago
It's like an amalagmation of the craziest (and most repulsive) conspiracy theories you can think of + a Trump personality cult (in the best traditions of Stalinism). Yes, it's exactly as bad as it sounds.
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Bored_Panda 3 years ago (edited)
Well at least I know all the top secret information about what's going on 🤫 /sarcasm
Salty Wild Hair 3 years ago
Didn't everyone isolate themselves from everyone they loved during covid??
#21
Watching them become less themselves because of the person they are with.
BetterBitterButter 3 years ago
Something tells me you are in a healthy relationship.
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JKJ 3 years ago
If becoming less yourself because of who you are with is allowing you to become better, I favor the change. My wife gets most of the credit for the better me.
Big Blue Cat 3 years ago
Yes, a good relationship can change a person for better. Everybody doesn't necessary like it. I've seen people get rid of some unhealthy habits because they're in a happy relationship. Their old friends don't always like that kind of change though.
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Kantami Blossom 3 years ago (edited)
Sadly happened with my older brother. The lassie was toxic and had him completely under her thumb to the point where one day I basically told her to shut up and she ordered him to beat me up, I stood and took every punch he threw until he was knackered enough that a simple push knocked him on his back. Once he was down I calmly walked towards her and told her to pick him up and leave whilst telling her straight if I ever saw her again I was going to break her jaw which since she knew I would do it with a happy smile on my face I never saw her again(all it cost me was three cracked ribs, but It was a price I was happy to pay) and thankfully they broke up about two months later.
Don Keideck 3 years ago
Well, if they both sucked to begin with, it might mitigate the damage to become less
ROSESARERED 2 years ago
I did that, I'm the idiot, but no more, left that scumbag way back.my past but not my future. Rewriting my life , and not accepting anything less than joy
ROSESARERED 2 years ago (edited)
Expensive in that you lose friends, life goals, happiness, true self worth, and the most important YOUR VOICE, TO BE HEARD
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A guy in his mid 50s always worked under the table. Never filed a tax return. Didn't understand that he wouldn't qualify for social security. When I showed him the requirements on the [ssa.gov](https://ssa.gov) website, I thought he was going to cry.
Wood Carver 3 years ago
Social security is the protection that a society provides to individuals and households to ensure access to health care and to guarantee income security, particularly in cases of old age, unemployment, sickness, invalidity, work injury, maternity or loss of a breadwinner. It is sad how many countries tie access to this fundamental part of empathetic society to meeting thresholds of participation or time or proof. We know that we consistently spend far more on enforcement than we do on inappropriate payments, and that those who will exploit society won't stop just because we catch them once but the single mom whose husband died but who filled in the form late will be the one to suffer.
AR 3 years ago
Yes, social security is to help on all citizens but on the assumption that we help keep it going by contributing something. Those like the guy in the story and the rich who don’t pay their fair share aren’t deserving of access to social security.
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bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 3 years ago
Nobody gets to their mid fifties and doesn't understand this. You know why the government takes your money(some of it)
Megan Romero-Herman 3 years ago
Sadly this is what happened to my dad.. he’s an immigrant and only ever got jobs under the table and had to move back to Mexico before he went broke
AR 3 years ago
Genuine question: If he could contribute and then use social security, would he have?
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Michael Largey 3 years ago
Although politicians always include it as part of "entitlement spending".
Load More Replies... Catte West 3 years ago
Worked several small businesses that paid cash. Their reasoning, you get more money since you don't pay taxes. What it means was they didn't have to pay payroll tax. They saved money, and I am on food stamps and Medicaid because of low Social Security payment.
#23
Buy an apartment with a person they dated for less than 6 months.
Garry Cowan 3 years ago
Married my wife after knowing her around 6 months that was 7 years ago and now I've went from a drug addicted homeless guy sleeping under bridges to having a beautiful wife a lovely house and a great job I even have a savings account with more money than I could ever have dreamt of....I am so grateful for the day I met her
Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago
wow... this is fantastic. so glad you met her too.
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Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago
Had a one night stand in 2000, he had basically moved in by the end of the week, we are still together and he's my best friend
Twit Hunch 3 years ago
Longest "one night stand" I've ever heard of! Congratulations :)
Load More Replies... True Mediocrity 3 years ago
This works for some people, and for them I am very happy! But growing up in a heavily religious area, it is very common for people to get married young and fast, and divorce a few years later. My brother got married after only a few months of dating and they got pregnant a month later after the wedding. They are broke 20 year old college students with no insurance in the USA. To have baby at the hospital without insurance can start at 20k.Sometimes it is best to wait.
Niamh Gallagher Kerr 3 years ago
I moved countries with my boyfriend (now husband) after less than 6 months, 17 years later still happily married. There's been moves across countries and between countries but never been happier. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't but holding off for a prescribed time doesn't change it.
cindy pearce 3 years ago (edited)
I got married with a Douche after dating him for 1 year, it's been 11 years and we're still married, and he is still a Douche. Freaken religion laws...
DeoManus Argentem 3 years ago (edited)
You never know! My parents married after knowing each other for less than two weeks, and immediately bought a house together. Still together 43+ years later! Yet waited four years after marriage (to make sure it'd work out) before having kids. My twin sister dated her high school sweetheart for around ten years before marrying him, and their marriage only lasted around ten years! Edit: changed 35+ to 43+, hard to admit I'm almost 40 lol
Jack and Coke 3 years ago
Sometimes it works out. I got married on the one year anniversary of our first date.
#24
I have two: 1. Took a loan out to go on a European vacation. 2. Took a loan out to pay for rent. Now this one is bad because it wasn’t because they needed a place to live, it’s that they wanted a really nice place to live and they have a so called “ certain standard of living”. They could have afforded a nice small house here to rent but instead she wanted a gigantic house in a wealthier neighborhood to rent. It’s the same person.
btaglln 3 years ago
In what f*cked up system do you live for bank to be able to give loan for vacation and for rent ??? In my country, even to buy a house you have to come with a well built plan
madbakes 3 years ago
In America you can get loans with no collateral, but even with thr best credit, the interest rate can be very high (15-25%)
Load More Replies... Michelle 3 years ago
As much as my first reaction was shock and who the hell does that? My second was, that loan won’t be much different then using a credit card…it’s gonna have about the same or more interest. And vacations being paid for on a credit card is extremely common…I’ve heard off cases fo rent but not so much. Which made it a lot less shocking and surprising.
Sprouted Tater 3 years ago
Maybe for a great vacation, never for “keeping up with the Jones’s “
#25
My brother ran for public office without having an agenda. He had no leadership qualifications, background in position, or support from anyone in the community. His took out a 10K personal loan to finance his political run and held one fundraiser where most of the attendees were family and couldn't vote for him. He lost badly, coming in last behind four other candidates. It took him years to pay back the loan and refill his savings, which he completely drained to pay for signage and flyers. Saddest of all, the printer misspelled his name on both items, so any remnant is a harsh reminder of how badly things went.
Lisa H 3 years ago
Genuine question: why couldn't the families vote for him? I live in the US where candidates are allowed to vote for themselves so I don't understand this one. Sorry if this is a really dumb question, I don't know how to Google stuff like this. I don't know how else to find out stuff like this, especially since I don't know which country OP is from.
Helen Edwards 3 years ago
I assumed that they didn't live in the district that he was running in.
Load More Replies... DumYum 3 years ago
If I, an under qualified person ran for public office, my campaign slogan would be, “I promise I will do nothing. I will not ‘fix’ what’s not broken.”
keighterz 3 years ago
You know that’s actually a better promise than most politicians.
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Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
This is a classic case of "Delusions of Granduer", except most people with this affliction never learn from their failures, no matter how spectacular the fails are.
Philler Space 3 years ago
On the bright side, the misspellings might make it easier to distance himself from it in web searches...?
BonnyDK 3 years ago
I see this far too often and they are voted into office and make a huge mess of things. I have seen candidates who were completely unqualified run to fix something that was not possible from that office. It was under the jurisdiction of another city or whatever. They did not research what the job responsibilities actually were. Or they wanted to run for school board that controls the superintendent on down and millions of dollars with no degree or education background what so ever because their kid goes to that district. Every teacher in the district was more qualified. And very qualified people not win for lack of financial support. 5-20$ ya'll. It all adds up and you will benefit with a good person in office. I have a nonprofit that helps middle class get elected. You are the HR person for your state. Vote for and support the person with the best education/work background for that job. Don't put a dance instructor on a state level military budget committee! ---seen that too.
#26
Waste their entire inheritance on drugs.
Bleep Bloop 3 years ago
There's a lot less agency involved in this choice compared to others -- if any. Addiction sucks :(
CH1990 3 years ago
That's me. I'm that person. It sucks big time, could've done so much more with that money. I've got my life on track now though, doing better than ever! Actually managing to save money is such a great feeling
Holly Hobby 3 years ago
I've witnessed it. Any addiction, actually. My mom received $500k when her uncle passed away few years ago. Withing 4 yrs she's flat broke on government assistance all because of a shopping addiction. She left nothing for her estate, children, grand children etc.
BBsparkster614 3 years ago
My dads a nurse, and my god if you learn anything today, don’t take heroine. He’s seen too many cases die to that. I could go on and on about it and how the drug works but god please don’t do heroine
Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
I can't say that I wouldn't have done the same thing 6 or 7 years ago. Sometimes, people just need help.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Oof. Back in my late teens I knew two people. One guy blew through $250k in about 6 months and last I heard was in and out of rehab and jail. The girl blew about roughly the same in about a year but had gotten pregnant and actually got sober and turned her life around. Both of them inherited money from a parent dieing so grief definitely added to the drug use; addiction is a horrible disease and grief worsens it so much.
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
The one thing I regret is that I didn't take my inheritance and move to another country where nobody could find me again. Instead I tried to save it for a down payment for a house someday and ended up without a job and bills to pay. I should have just left and started a new life.
#27
Family friend quit their government job after 23 years, 2 years before qualifying for a pension. They did it just because they wanted a change. They withdrew their pension contributions and bought a investment property at the absolute worst time. Now they are jobless and struggling to keep up with the overhead. Everyone advised against it and they still did it.
Dont Sellmyinfo 3 years ago
Sometimes you can’t put a price on happiness. Had he stayed even 2 more years at that job, he may have killed himself. I know this isn’t 100% the same, but My mom walked away from an excellent career because it was so bad for her mental health. Thankfully she was within 3 years of retirement and she spends her money wisely. She’s going on a month long trip to Spain next week. This is one of many trips she’s taken since leaving that career. I’m so proud of her.
SirWriteALot 3 years ago
See, in the rest of the "commie" states like Europe it doesn't matter WHERE you work. You "qualify" for pension after a certain amount of years in the workforce.
DetongLhamo 3 years ago
My husband is 2 years away from retirement with allied financial perks of no small significance and just this year, after over 30 years working there, he’s REALLY starting to hate his job. He’s not the type to do something rash but he keeps taking Covid tests hoping he can take some time off!
Adam Leviness 3 years ago
And if they stayed they'd be miserable anyway. Sounds like a rock and a hard place kind of situation to me
#28
My sister owned a home with her husband and first child.
Her father-in-law convinced them that if they sold their house and became live-in caretakers for some old relative of his that he would leave his supposedly nice house in Austin to them. They'd get to live rent free at this house, it would be theirs outright when he dies, and they'd be set.
So they sell their house, move to Austin where they don't have jobs and move in with this guy. And it's absolute chaos. Guy is constantly watching porn on the living room tv with their toddler around, doing inappropriate old guy stuff, telling them what they can and cannot do in the house and when they can come and go. It's a freaking nightmare.
They end up leaving the house, and getting their own place. They also eventually moved to another state for a few years and came back. They've never been able to buy another house since housing prices have gone way up and they didn't have enough equity on their other house that they sold, so they've been bouncing from [bad] apartment to [bad] apartment ever since.
btaglln 3 years ago
Well ... I'm sorry but it seems like they didn't really know the guy so it was a dangerous decision
Taibhse Sealgair 3 years ago
This. I can't believe anyone would do this without thoroughly getting to know the guy and the situation beforehand.
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Sarah SH 3 years ago
What was the father-in-law’s motive here? Need suckers to take care of old Uncle whatever so that he becomes their problem and the father-in-law doesn’t ever have to deal with it?
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juezyparte 3 years ago
Thank you, this seems so obvious yet I had to scroll to find it!
Load More Replies... Dre Mosley 3 years ago
So. . .sell your house to move in and take care of some guy they probably didn't know? SMH. No way in hell would I have fallen for that.
Katiekat 3 years ago
Bad decisions all around here: the father for having such a dangerous, lowlife friend in the first place. Convincing family to do something against their best interests in all regards. The family for not demanding the father write a will and give them copies, so they could see that the house had been deeded to them. Moving without jobs. Sorry but none of these people have an ounce of self-preservation or foresight.
DetongLhamo 3 years ago
Never assume that because someone is older or supposedly more clued up in finances than you that they’ll give you good advice. One of the most successful financiers I knew (he edited a newspaper similar to the Wall Street Journal) was an IDIOT when it came to the practical life of others.
#29
Being passive and just letting everything happen to him.
He wasn't sure if he wanted kids or not, but his girlfriend did, so they had sex without condoms. She got pregnant, with **twins**. He looks absolutely miserable.
Similar things happened to him involving housing. His family convinced him to put the parent's mortgage in his name. Things got messy.
Don't just let things happen to you.
Monday 3 years ago
At least their mom wanted them so we can hope she's a loving parent
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I'm not married but that's a conversation you NEED to have very early on.
A. Starhawk Hunt 3 years ago
Sorry, boy’s an idiot. There’s so many red flags, it looks like a communist takeover
#30
A buddy that live with me for a while got a car he couldn’t afford because he was obsessed with image. Stopped making payments, tried to part out the car and report as stolen since he had the bright idea that would bring more money than just giving it back to the bank. Then got into check fraud, which landed him in jail. Been in and out of the system ever since, from stories I hear.
LinkTheHylian 3 years ago
I don't care about my image, and I too am miserable.
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DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I've got some friends, well not so much friends for a while, that live for their image. Imagine making a salary that's triple the average but always being in debt to maintain a lifestyle.
Rod McCabe 3 years ago
Image can be bad unless you have the money to back it up. Then it's playtime.
LangiStudios 3 years ago
"Stopped making payments, tried to part out the car and report as stolen since he had the bright idea that would bring more money than just giving it back to the bank." - 🤦🏾♀️
Nonna_SoF 3 years ago
Oddly not the catalytic converter last I heard. Despite the fact people steal them for the scrap value.
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#31
Taking out unfathomable loans for their business on top of taking out unfathomable loans out for a wedding.
Blarrg 3 years ago
Either way is stupid; whether they expected everyone else to pay for their 'special day,' or they assumed the debt themselves.
Load More Replies... DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
Please don't take loans for a wedding. Just go get registered to make it legal. On the way home get some wine and take-out and have a great evening, maybe invite some close friends to celebrate. You don't need a wedding for it to be real or important.
DEW 3 years ago
I let my mother plan my wedding. If had been up to me I would've been married at the beach. My mom made my dress. My sister did the cake. We had the reception at a family friends house. I just showed up.
Trillian 3 years ago
Well actually it WAS up to you, you just chose to let someone else make the decision. Can't tell if it ended up ok for you, I hope it was.
Load More Replies... DetongLhamo 3 years ago
We realised that the reason we don’t have the same level of material ‘wealth’ of those around us was because they’re all in serious debt whilst we are not.
Shirley D Harnish 3 years ago
Get married on a low budget (but meaningful), then have a higher budget renewal-of-vows ceremony at 25 or 50 years. Never take out a loan for a wedding.
A. Starhawk Hunt 3 years ago
My divorce cost more than both weddings. The dress I bought for my wedding with my second husband (we’d been best friends, not sweethearts. He became too disabled to tolerate a catholic wedding, but the $300 gown was more than I’d ever spent.
AJ Claymore 3 years ago
Had a friend who took out a $20k loan for their wedding. They divorced before the year was out and are still paying on the loan three years later.
#32
My friend failed psych evals to join the Army, once he got around that exception he was kicked out within a year. He robbed the corner store less than a mile from his house. He was in full SWAT gear with a tactical mask. Everyone knew exactly who it was, there were 8 calls to Crime Stoppers identifying him. He was arrested within 3 hours of the crime with the still loaded pistol in his car. If he had used a fake gun, or an unloaded pistol he would have gotten 1/2 or 1/4 the prison sentence. He went from being in the ARMY to prison in less than a month.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
No wonder he failed that psych eval. It's good to know these things actually work.
UKGrandad 3 years ago
They can't work that well if he got in at the second attempt.
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Na Schi 3 years ago
This reminds me of a saying I first read in a Steven King's novel: "Never s**t were you eat." ...took me as a teen a long time trying to figure this out (as the bathroom was obviously in the same house as the kitchen was). But as an aldult... so yeah: never do this. And I'm surprised how many criminals are still doing this. Though good for the police and the general public!
Mary Loftus 3 years ago
Hunter Biden was kicked out of military after about a month. Why? Drugs! That explains the pictures of him in constant drug and drink stupor!
#33
I have a cheapskate uncle that spent his life saving into a junk bond, compounding the interest, putting all his income in and living like an absolute beggar, even as he became a millionaire. You might be thinking to yourself "nothing wrong with frugality". No it is more than that, he used to come to my parent's house, spend the entire day eating our food, and not leaving before my mother packed him more food for the week for free(my mom's fault for not setting harder boundaries too). Anyway after all that, the sum hit 1.2 mill or so and then the junk bond went bust, and he lost all his money at 70 years of age. The man was making around 10k a month at the height of it, and spending at most 300$ a month. Remember to invest in your relationships and your goodwill folks!
Gabby Ghoul 3 years ago
A junk bond is a bond both a high rate of return and a high risk of failure.
Load More Replies... DEW 3 years ago
My uncle brags about his watches and money. Says it's so hard that he has so much money that he HAS to take out a certain amount. He insulted my dad before he died. Has never helped a family member for nothing. For yr's he has said he would leave my aunt all of his money. She always invited him to her house. Well he got mad at her and is now leaving all his money and house to these neighbors who have two young boys. They bring him a plate of food every day. When my son was born he gave a gift. Well he left a dime in the bag. So on the thank you note I taped that dime. I wrote that he had left it in the bag. He has never been married. All he does is insult people. He would not help my Aunt get heart medicine she couldn't afford. I would rather be poor then to have money if this is what it does to people.
LandAhoy 3 years ago
Sorry to hear what you've been through. It's probably not the money that did that to your Uncle, he was probably always going to be a tw@t.
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Mouse 3 years ago
And the SEC is far behind I'm down in the swamp with the gators and flamingos A long way from Liechtenstein I'm a junk bond king playing Seminole Bingo
Pandademic Boredom 3 years ago
And my wall street wiles don't help me even slightly 'cause I never have the numbers and I'm losing nightly
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#34
Friend worked hard to gain the credentials to advance his career to his goals. It took four months for him to get busted having an affair with a subordinate and he lost all he worked for and ended up losing his license.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Men, this is what happens when you let you “little brain” make stupid decisions for you.
Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
Joke's on you. My "little brain" is WAY too small to influence my decisions like that.
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Carla Phillips 3 years ago
Sounds similar toba situation i went through. I applied for a management position. I had worked my way up and was absolutely ready for the promotion. Other coworkers at management level were sure if was going to get it. Out of left field, the big boss promoted a guy that was a "bro". Less than 6 months later, he gets fired for soliciting a subordinate through the company email. Guess they should have promoted me, huh?
Rod McCabe 3 years ago
Brian, dude. Temporary enjoyment is not sin. Its called fun and no religious freak is going to convince me otherwise.
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My brother was getting scouted by Northeastern colleges to play football after playing remarkably well in high school….
He dropped out of high school 6 months before he graduated….
Luis Gomez 3 years ago
I would love to see scouting for smart students so they can get scholarships. "Hey, here's an education so you can cure diseases and clean the water".
Monday 3 years ago
Isn't that just normal scholarship programs? You send in your grades and essays, the "scouts" look them over and choose.
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#36
Retiring early (mid 50s) with not enough money saved up to last more than 20 years.
Jordi Sharpe 3 years ago
My father retired 10 years early and was determined to live off of $10,000 a year with his young wife. They moved at least 5 times in 10 years, including to the other side of the country. I have no idea what their situation is now.
Sergio Bicerra 3 years ago
Mine too. I'm givin them nearly half my salary to support them. At least i'm not married or wave children.
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A guy I grew up with got a $250,000 settlement from a car accident that resulted in his moms death. Kid was 19 when it happened. In ONE year he spent all of it. Constantly had 20 criminals staying in his house, got a lot of it stolen, spent a lot on drugs, bought a lawn business that went under because he hired his lazy criminal friends. Last time I saw him he looked homeless and was sitting outside the corner store by my moms house. He deserved every bit of it, a year before this happened he broke into my parents house and stole all my moms jewelry.
DEW 3 years ago
Kennyb321 I'm so sorry about your mom's jewelry. Was she able to find any of it? Did he go to a p**n shop or did he just give to other's to sell/p**n? My heart hurts for your mom. I hope she gets if not all then most of it back. I know she had to of had some sentimental piece's that can never be replaced even if it was only $5.00. Bless her heart.
Michelle Carlson 3 years ago
I knew a kid like this. His dad died early but had a trust set up for him. Gave it all to him when he turned 18. Bought a Corvette, crashed it, spent the rest within one year.
#38
Watched a friend make €1.2M from a crypto coin of a €2000 investment and holding it all the way down to €50.000 over a month time while rage gambling the last 50K on a casino
He did however buy a baller gaming computer from it during the GPU crisis so he still ended up in profit from this trade, although he is now severely gambling addict and lost another +/- 50K trying to get it back this year.
Monday 3 years ago
I would have cashed out the moment the coin started dipping in value....I'd much rather lose "potential earnings" than lose my actual money.
Delta Dawn 3 years ago
My brother is like this, and then complains about the price of gas, as though that’s why he’s broke.
#39
When my grandmother died, my grandfather has about 15,000 dollars left over to live off of until he could no longer afford his house. My cousin heard that Grandpa had money, so he would ask Grandpa for “gas money” all the time, then go and blow it on drugs. Over the course of one year, he convinced granpa to give him 12,000 of the 15,000 that Grandpa had left. Once Grandpa realized what was going on, he stopped giving my cousin money, and because he could no longer pay his dealers, he got beat half to death and then dumped on the side of the road. If someone hadn’t found him in time, he might not be here anymore.
Nor 3 years ago
That's not a grandpa problem, that's a cousin problem, taking advantage of old people
Xenon 3 years ago
Poor guy had fifteen and the cuz begged 12??? Special place in hell. I guess no none else knew until too late or shame on them too!
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#40
A family member is notoriously awful at financial decisions and is obsessed with get rich quick schemes. He's the best example of why rich parents should never, ever give a 20 year old kid everything he could want. His formative years taught him that money was easy come, easy go and he never learned the value of researching before you buy or saving money. He bought crypto miners AFTER cyphers changed and it only cost him far more money to run them than he could ever make off of them. He was given a condo and a house and sold both for less than he could have gotten had he been patient. After each property sale, he went on a spending spree, buying a side-by-side, a toy hauler, and all the toys to go in it. He once traded in 3 vehicles for one used vehicle, still financed $30k, and the engine s**t out within the first year he had it. He spent $25k on a 25 year old Hummer that needed everything in it replaced. It needed new tires, transmission before he could even drive it down the road. It likely cost him close to $40-50k before he traded it in on another terrible deal for a different used vehicle that also died in him within two years. He once bought 13 acres of land that turned out to be a literal swamp in protected marsh lands. He thought he was going to farm the land and be a homesteader despite having never worked on a farm. He scoured RedFin looking for homes with 10+ acres that were also $300k. He bought the first one that met both criteria despite family warning him against that property. He registered it as a homestead and in doing so painted himself into a corner real-estate wise because that state has a stipulation that grant money used for a down payment on a homestead could not be sold for 2-3 years after purchasing it. He hates working and kept getting fired, the house nearly went into foreclosure. Had to sell all the toys and the toy hauler to avoid foreclosure. I also need to add that he moved out there first and got an apartment so he and his wife could look for homes later. In less than a month, he bought the house without even consulting his wife who angrily cried when she saw the awful place for the first time. (Built I'm the 70's, NO UPDATES.) He told her they'd build additions onto the house, thinking they were only $10k to add a room. She has to pack up a 4 bedroom house and move cross country with two little kids while this a*****e bought the first swamp someone fleeced him into. His latest magic trick involved investing nearly $100,000 of his $300,000 inheritance in crypto a year ago. Big, astronomic oof. Poof, it disappeared. So did the free money from his family after the passing of his grandmother who doled out all of her wealth to her kids. Their family of 4 is currently living out of an RV. No idea what happened to the rest of the money, but I imagine it's gone.
Anh Aline Vuo 3 years ago
The wife is just as stupid. First for marrying him, then for staying with him, and finally for having children with him. Those poor kids.
Kevin Hickey 3 years ago
If you're ever thinking about buying yourself a Hummer, just invest in a sign that says "I'm stupid", and you'll save yourself a lot of money.
DEW 3 years ago
We had a neighbor who was a widow. My dad would go over and sweep out the basement when it flooded. He would paint windows sills as she needed. He always said you can pay me when you get the money. Well the neighbor across the street married the niece of the widow. My dad would still go over and help as needed. They wouldn't but he did. The neighbors across the street and they aunt were only a duplex from each other. Well she had cleaned up her file cabinet so it would be easy for her family when she died. Well she passed and left the niece $100,000. My dad...nothing. The niece and her husband bought cars and clothes and went on a few vacation's. She died and they only had 1 kid. The husband died a few years later. I used to babysit their kid from 1wk old to 5 or 6. When he died we got his computer and he was writing letter's because he was completely broke.
#41
I watched a wasted guy throw 2K on a single roulette number, lose it, withdraw 5K more, and put it on the same number and lose it and then stare at the table. All while on a cruise ship. Then I went and had an old fashioned and it was wonderful.
Jaekry 3 years ago
Gambled once, was in Vegas. Can't go to Vegas without a try, right? 1 dollar in the machine. Got 10 dollar. Went to the cashier ( she must have thought I was mental), cashed it, and walked out. I still have the banknote. :)
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Sherry Moore 3 years ago
The best way to double your money is to fold it in half and putting it back in your pocket
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
I spent a week in Vegas. Went to sooo many shows and some exhibits but I did some gambling because, Vegas. I set aside $100 strictly for gambling and that was all. Win or lose I could only spend that hundred; didn't win but had fun at the slots
#42
Baby trapping a married man. Man moved his family to another country. Now a single mother with no child support.
Sheepdude 3 years ago
I feel like if you wed trap someone it's perfectly fine for them to leave. They were decieved into something big, and now social norms won't let them out.
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Vanja Vidovic 3 years ago
How can a man be "baby-trapped"? You mean he simply decided that he didn't care whether he will cause the pregnancy or not?
B-b-bird 3 years ago (edited)
Seen woman baby-trapping guy that didn’t love her (she was even lying baby is his). He married her out of “duty”, then she continued abuse and terrorising him with “you will not see child if you leave me”. Guy committed suicide. Now she’s jobless widow and cannot find real father.
#43
My dad quit an $80,000 a year job in solidarity with his department after the department was dissolved and they were all given notice. My dad would have still had a job at that same salary but he felt loyal to his work family so he gave notice. So, my parents used up all their savings, lost their house and went into bankruptcy, I guess for the principle of the thing?
Debbie 3 years ago
Standing up for principles even if it affects others can take courage. Those protesting against hair-covering in Iran - protesting in some countries can be dangerous for your famimly. Where to draw the line? I hope life will find a way so your parents can live without worries, AND a clean conscience.
Anh Aline Vuo 3 years ago
F**k that Debbie. That father had a family, had children to take care of. F**k that, f**k you too.
Load More Replies... Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
You can do that if it only affects you but pulling your family into it is shitty
Wakearound 3 years ago
Still, sometimes you need to do the right thing, based on how you see it. Pride ain't always successful, but when you go, you want to have your head held high. Just how I see it personally, not for everyone.
#44
Hoarding. I have a friend who jammed her condo so full of useless s**t she bought and bought and bought. The pace is 1500 sq ft but she only has about 6 sq ft of space to live. It's frightening.
Little Wonder 3 years ago
Hoarding isn't really a decision people make, it's a recognised mental disorder than can be treated with time and patience.
Elio 3 years ago
That is a difficult mental illness to deal with. My grandmother was kind of a food hoarder due to the Great Depression and my mom continued the habit. So do I but to a lesser degree. My dad buys not enough food which I don't get because his parents were rich with a normal amount of food. At least I won't have kids who will need to unlearn my bad habits.
#45
Have a child with someone who fights them on their parenting style- also cheated on my friend who was 8 months pregnant. They just got married too.
What do you think ?
Chich 3 years ago
Heard of a fellow whose brother was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His friends & family urged him to get tested but he refused due to some male pride b******t. Finally went to the Dr when symptoms showed up and were getting bad. Had had the cancer for a while and lived about two painful years. Would have likley been fine had he got checked when he should have.
Gogubaci 3 years ago
Reading all these I see some recurring themes... Greed, stupidity, or a combination of both
Kofi Leeto 2 years ago
most stupid decisions are driven by greed, this is why scammers are making a lot of money
Load More Replies... BenMaharaj 3 years ago
Dad was NFL quality on a football scholarship at a Division I university but dropped out of college because he missed mom. My grandmother almost never forgave them. A lot of family thought he was a fool. We’ll I’d not be here if he hadn’t done it. He is a hard worker and still ended up more successful than any of his siblings. Not every “mistake” is a life ending disaster.
Seabeast 3 years ago
He also missed out on the life-long injuries and brain damage that a lot of ex football players end up with. I have never met an ex football player that didn't have some kind of permanent problem.
Load More Replies... BG 3 years ago
Currently... a very good friend of mine wanted to be an entrepreneur. A "mentor" of his told him to start a car rental business by going out on a weekend and buying as many cars from as many dealerships as he can so that they wouldn't show up on his credit before buying another. He bought 27 cars in one week using auto loans and the equity in his $300k home. The cars are breaking down and being damaged, but neither warranties nor insurance are paying for the damage because of rental clauses. Bro is in so much trouble!
The Starsong Princess 3 years ago (edited)
Friends of my parents owned a house and had decent retirement savings. Their son in law talked them into investing in his business and the business went bust. Then they loaned him more money to start another business and so their daughter’s house wouldn’t get foreclosed on. That went bust, the house got foreclosed and he’s never repaid anything. Then they got into this pyramid scheme where they give these people thousands of dollars cash and they take it offshore. I told them straight out it was a scam when they tried to recruit my parents. They lost everything - the house and the retirement account. Fortunately, they have social security and a pension from an old job or they’d be living in their car now in their seventies. But they have learned nothing - they recently received an inheritance and promptly gave most of it to their son and daughter. The son put his share into an account, he says he can use it for their care later on.
Damon 3 years ago (edited)
Before the pandemic, my wife was asked to be a bridesmaid for her friend. The couple were two women in the mid 20s. Unfortunately, the couples’ original wedding had to be cancelled because of lockdowns. The couple then married in private legal ceremony. Less than a year later, when lock downs were lifted, the couple had the for real ceremony - however, during that time one part of the couple started an illicit affair with a married woman in her late 40s with three children. This all happened after they were legally married and in the less than a year period before the private wedding and the actually ceremony. Anyway, long story short, the cheater ended the relationship roughly 18 months after the real ceremony, never actually telling the other person why, it was complete gaslighting. Blaming the relationship break down on “communication” and other cliches. Terrible behaviour on part of the cheater. Anyway, f**k her, she lost her wife and the friendship of my wife.
Wonderful 3 years ago
Well if your apprehensive then don't do it. Maybe talk with someone you trust and get their opinion. I hope it works out for you.
Load More Replies... Chich 3 years ago
Heard of a fellow whose brother was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His friends & family urged him to get tested but he refused due to some male pride b******t. Finally went to the Dr when symptoms showed up and were getting bad. Had had the cancer for a while and lived about two painful years. Would have likley been fine had he got checked when he should have.
Gogubaci 3 years ago
Reading all these I see some recurring themes... Greed, stupidity, or a combination of both
Kofi Leeto 2 years ago
most stupid decisions are driven by greed, this is why scammers are making a lot of money
Load More Replies... BenMaharaj 3 years ago
Dad was NFL quality on a football scholarship at a Division I university but dropped out of college because he missed mom. My grandmother almost never forgave them. A lot of family thought he was a fool. We’ll I’d not be here if he hadn’t done it. He is a hard worker and still ended up more successful than any of his siblings. Not every “mistake” is a life ending disaster.
Seabeast 3 years ago
He also missed out on the life-long injuries and brain damage that a lot of ex football players end up with. I have never met an ex football player that didn't have some kind of permanent problem.
Load More Replies... BG 3 years ago
Currently... a very good friend of mine wanted to be an entrepreneur. A "mentor" of his told him to start a car rental business by going out on a weekend and buying as many cars from as many dealerships as he can so that they wouldn't show up on his credit before buying another. He bought 27 cars in one week using auto loans and the equity in his $300k home. The cars are breaking down and being damaged, but neither warranties nor insurance are paying for the damage because of rental clauses. Bro is in so much trouble!
The Starsong Princess 3 years ago (edited)
Friends of my parents owned a house and had decent retirement savings. Their son in law talked them into investing in his business and the business went bust. Then they loaned him more money to start another business and so their daughter’s house wouldn’t get foreclosed on. That went bust, the house got foreclosed and he’s never repaid anything. Then they got into this pyramid scheme where they give these people thousands of dollars cash and they take it offshore. I told them straight out it was a scam when they tried to recruit my parents. They lost everything - the house and the retirement account. Fortunately, they have social security and a pension from an old job or they’d be living in their car now in their seventies. But they have learned nothing - they recently received an inheritance and promptly gave most of it to their son and daughter. The son put his share into an account, he says he can use it for their care later on.
Damon 3 years ago (edited)
Before the pandemic, my wife was asked to be a bridesmaid for her friend. The couple were two women in the mid 20s. Unfortunately, the couples’ original wedding had to be cancelled because of lockdowns. The couple then married in private legal ceremony. Less than a year later, when lock downs were lifted, the couple had the for real ceremony - however, during that time one part of the couple started an illicit affair with a married woman in her late 40s with three children. This all happened after they were legally married and in the less than a year period before the private wedding and the actually ceremony. Anyway, long story short, the cheater ended the relationship roughly 18 months after the real ceremony, never actually telling the other person why, it was complete gaslighting. Blaming the relationship break down on “communication” and other cliches. Terrible behaviour on part of the cheater. Anyway, f**k her, she lost her wife and the friendship of my wife.
Wonderful 3 years ago
Well if your apprehensive then don't do it. Maybe talk with someone you trust and get their opinion. I hope it works out for you.
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