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30 Of The Good And The Bad Culture Shocks Non-Americans Experienced While In The US, As Shared In This Online Group
Isolation of nations, different climate and resources as well as other factors led to different customs in different places forming. But with globalization, we are able to know about those differences and prepare for them. However, some things are less talked about because people may not even realize that it could be different in other places, so there is always something that can surprise us.
The country that people like to talk about very often is the US. There are so many things they do differently, so visiting the country or living there might cause some culture shocks. Redditors were discussing this very topic when Miserablemermaid asked “Non-Americans of reddit, what was the biggest culture shock you experienced when you came to the US?” There were more than 30k answers given in just a day, so we collected the most interesting things redditors pointed out.
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Your sugar has very little food in it.
Seeing children of all different colors. It was beautiful.
The treatment of veterans. A lot of communication around the respect they deserve. Yet many of them are broke, homeless and in a generally bad position.
And (and I'm sure I'll be downvoted for this) unfortunately, I've seen and read about a lot of cases where veterans (and especially their spouses, for some reason) become extremely entitled. I completely agree with the quote from Bojack Horseman "Maybe some of the troops are heroes but not automatically" where he goes on to say that people can be jerks, and giving a jerk a gun and a title doesn't make them not a jerk. I respect the fact you fought for your country, but I'm not going to respect you if you're an entitled jerk. xP
Not really a shock but one thing that really surprised me was the sheer amount of flags.
It was like almost every building had an American flag. Here in Belgium, if I see a house with a national flag I assume there's some kind of sport event going on that I didn't know about.
And they "make" kids pledge their allegiance to it. Not to our country or fellow Americans, but a flag.
The toilet doors (or lack thereof). Not enough door!
Seriously, you're a wealthy enough country you don't need to leave an inch gap at the sides and a foot and a half at the top and bottom.
Could not walk anywhere, or take good public transport. Always had to take Ubers or hitch lifts.
Everything was also HUGE. Cities, buildings, regular houses, food portions. I'd say people but I did not see anybody who was hugely obese there at least.
There was an insane amount of space just...everywhere. As a European used to being crammed into every available nook, even in rural areas, the way that towns and cities just stretched out was unimaginable.
Everyone I met treated me like a long lost friend
Great, I suppose.. I, a swede, would hate it though. Not people being nice, just people invading my personal space. 😂
As also a Swede, I loved it when visiting the US. Because it wasn't rude Swedes invading my personal space, it was loving and sweet Americans basically showering me with kindness wherever I went. Very different from here, and a welcome change that warmed up my frozen Swedish heart and gave me a new perspective on humanity. 💕
Load More Replies...Friendly, yes, in some parts. But people don't walk around to throwing out hugs like this. Americans love our personal space.
Thank you! I'm sitting here thinking about what i myself consider "friendly" to be......and i am thinking of smiling, saying "hi", being curious about the person and where they come from, body language, etc. I mean, in France they kiss each other on the FACE (even if it's not lips DIRECTLY on the face, it's still EXTREMELY close)! Too close for MY comfort!
Load More Replies...Really? Are you a Black or Brown person? Did they hear you speak in a language other than English? I know you were not wearing a turban.
I'm so sad that this was your experience. I, as not only an American, but as a human being as well, would never have treated you, or anyone else that way.
Load More Replies...Not sure where you landed.. But you were lucky. Not all parts of the US are like this.
Compared to other countries…yes everywhere in US is pretty friendly.
Load More Replies...I live in the Southern part of the US. We hug all the time. That's not to say that I love it. I will only hug if I feel comfortable doing so. My personal space, my decision.
I like it too. People make a big deal about small talk, but it is nice to just say hi.
Um. No. I keep hearing this from international visitors, and I demand to know which magic-happy-funtime-utopia you're visiting when you touchdown on the tarmac, because I have yet to experience this. Extremely false.
What I've learned is it's less likely the more populated the area gets.
Load More Replies...I don't remember people's names after minutes.....that doesn't mean that my friendliness wasn't authentic. Since when do you have to have a perfect memory just to be f*****g NICE to someone!? My god....i might have to ask new people, that i don't see often, their name, like 3-4 times, until it really sticks. If that makes me fake und unfriendly, then so be it, there's enough human beings on this planet 🤷
Load More Replies...This is not a typical experience. This person was in a very specific area.
Not everyone is like this here. This person happened to be one of the few with this experience, I'm sure
Only speaking for myself. I'm a born, bred Texan. But my family is from New York City & Hungarian. I was taught to be nice to others, help if needed, be polite & friendly. Normally don't invade someone's personal space, though I will start conversations with strangers. I think it depends on how someone was raised, if they are friendly & helpful to others. Growing up and traveling from Texas to New York. I did notice people are not as friendly in some parts of the country. Will look at you like your crazy, if you try to start a conversation with them. But, there's a highway in Texas where you'll notice oncoming drivers will raise their index finger up to you as they pass. It's their way of saying "Hello" I was told because they never know if its someone that works & lives in the area.
I’m an American & I’m a hugger but having lived here (& in several states) for over 67 years, I must say it’s because you’re not American. We’re not as friendly to our own as to foreigners (except for, sadly, the bigots who hate foreigners). Sometimes I think it’s because they don’t want you going back home & confirming that we’re mostly asses. 😉 The country where I found the most kindness to strangers was The Netherlands. Everyone treated me like family … even strangers stopped & asked how I was doing as I sat outside a cafe eating breakfast. It was beautiful!
Must have gone to the south. We are known for being welcoming and friendly
Friendly strangers. Seriously? Have you ever been to Europe?
Ohh i eant this too..i live in Europe ..here eberyone is colder than ice
From what I've read, this is because if all the immigrants that came to the US in the past, a lot couldn't speak the same language so the best thing to do was to be friendly with eachother.
I've never seen two strangers hugging unless they're drunk or grieving lol personal space is very much a real thing here.
Uhmm.. Based on what I see in the news, if you're of color, the Republicans/conservatives will beg to disagree
Mmm, do you rather have long faces.. People never happy no matter what
This definitely isn't true. People are constantly telling others to go back to their countries. This is also absurd.
There are xenophobes, for sure, but most places I've been people seem very friendly/outgoing toward visitors.
Load More Replies...Yeah it's nice but those nice strangers might carry guns as well and it's not this nice anymore....
Come to Norway, or any other Scandinavian country and friendliness is our way of life.
Being a citizen in the country that places individualism over everything can be very lonely and sometimes we try to make up for that by being friendly.
It's all superficial though. The moment there's anything more than a friendly smile, how' ya doing etc, they're all closed up.
Or they just didn't like u 🤷 or they just wanted to give u a friend greeting, not engage in actual conversation. Because, THAT is what we consider friendly If you walk by someone and make eye contact, sit next to someone somewhere, are in line for whatever reason, a waitress or bartender, any kind of cashier, etc., then you say "Hi, how ya doin'" (today)", to what one can say, "Hey! I'm doing fine, thanks". It's just a human recognizing another human and being friendly to them, even if they only have a short exchange. That's what it means to show compassion to others. Being friendly isn't a COMMITMENT to ANYthing I feel like especially MEN complain about this "superficial-ness" of "friendly Americans" (i have been living in Europe for over 10 years, and have a very strong American accent, so men tell me this crap all the time when talking to me about Americans). It doesn't mean i have to carry on a conversation with u, remember your name, give u my number.... it's just being nice 🤷
Load More Replies...Oh lord, I hope no one comes to NYC/NJ expecting this sort of behavior. We're not an inherently mean-spirited people... Okay, actually we're somewhat mean-spirited but it's unrelated. People in tri-state area are used to frequent contact with complete and ill-intentioned strangers, so they tend to be very suspicious of people they don't know.
Before we got kidnapped and brainwashed by the powers that be, we used to love meeting strangers and tourists. We were charmed by the opportunity to be good hosts. We liked checking them out and admiring their beauty. We enjoyed the way they speak. It was a fantasy to one day go visit their country. All of this is in ashes and rubble.
I don't think so, Richard. I still very much feel that way.
Load More Replies...I think we have a comfortable balance between the "every person for themselves" mentality in London. And when my husband came to Yorkshire, the whole, "OMG, people smile at you, say hello and offer to help without being overbearing" approach in the North.
I am a hardcore introvert who HATES when someone says (for example) "How are you?" Not only because It makes me uncomfortable, I probably shouldn't say unless they need therapy. I just say "YES"
Who cares!? At least you were treated with respect in that short amount of time..... it's called being a good human being in my book
Load More Replies...I'm so sick of people talking so negative about the South. Especially those who don't live here! My community is diverse. My children have friends of all races. It isn't the 1950s anymore 😒
Nobody mentioned anything negative about the South in this post....
Load More Replies...In my town in the Midwest, there's a few Indian families who run big businesses (gas stations and stores since the nearest walmart is like 2-3 hours away) and the majority of the town loves them. Location doesn't dictate how people act, it's what they were taught. Bigots are found everywhere.
Load More Replies...The air conditioning. Everywhere. And the literal temperature shock between the inside and the outside of any f**king building.
Everything being f**king huge. Literally. Road lanes, groceries, soda sizes. Especially distances: where i come from, 3 hours of driving are enough to cross half of the country, in the US it's just a small drive to go to see a relative or something.
Lawyer commercials and "if this happened to you, you can sue them" commercials.
Absolutely! Lawyers billboards, TV ads, subway ads, bus ads incentivating people to sue everyone for every reason is simply disgusting. Let alone those advertising in spanish as your "abogado". Simply ridiculous. Easy to understand if someone says the US Legal system is overwhelmed.
Christianity everywhere. On your money, in the school, every Sunday, churches everywhere, in your pledge, in the Boy scouts, verses at the bottom of In&Out milkshakes
This depends on where in America you are. I remember going to an area in the "bible belt" for the first time and it was also a culture shock for me lol.
I was walking down the street and there were some road workers doing something a bit ahead. When I got near them, one of them approached me and super kindly asked me to cross to the other side, halted the traffic so I could cross and wished me a nice day as I went along.
In my country they would've probably heckled at me for not crossing, and I would've told them to go f**k themselves for not signaling things properly as I walked in the middle of the street potentially getting hit by a car
Turn right on red. Beautiful.
The only reason it works is because most of the USA is built in a grid system. So you come to a 90 degree angle crossroads and you can make a right on red. It does not and cannot work on older streets where roads do not meet at a right angle, or when there are more than four roads meeting at the junction.
The importance of the College/University you go to. For me it felt like the name, you can even call it brand, of the College is more important than your actual skills and knowledge as well as the quality of education you receive. So many times, people asked me which College/University I visit and told me about their College and the College their childrens are visiting. Totally different than what I am used to in Germany, where it is mainly focused on your skills and grades not the College/University your are visiting.
That only matters for a very few colleges, and I am in a position to say that the education you get at Ivy League colleges is NOT superior to the education at other universities. It's just that it will open doors for you by other people who are part of the elite club. If it's not one of these elite colleges, it really doesn't matter where you go.
Tipping. And not just tipping, but tipping so much that the entire thing I bought (e.g. a meal) is now in an entirely higher price bracket.
Tipping is really, really important, because US laws allow for servers to be paid around $2 an hour (which is just so wrong to begin with). So not only do they need the tips to stand a chance of making a living wage, but they are also taxed on those tips because it is ASSUMED that they will get them. So if you don't tip someone, they actually lose money. It's a really bad system, but while it exists, please plan to tip in the USA.
How early everything starts. School, work. 6am wake ups. That was hard.
then you've never worked in brisbane, australia. we don't have DLS, and most people like working from 4am when it's bright and light ;)
Advertisements in between the title credits of the show and the actual show. You guys have a LOT of advertisements.
Same in the UK for any channel that isn't BBC (Itv is the worst for adverts. xD)
No sidewalks, not everywhere, but outside of major cities, you often literally can't walk between places safely
This one is a catch 22. The reason usually given for not putting in sidewalks is that "nobody walks there." Well, no, not without sidewalks they don't!
The different kinds of flavors for beverages. I was overwhelmed by the sheer number of options.
Just so you guys know,I enjoyed having multiple options, until I came to the US I had no idea I liked Blue Raspberry flavored soda and I found out that I liked to mix different kinds of sodas from the fountain and make a cocktail soda occasionally.
Also, I like how you guys have a s**t ton of flavors for your alcohol. I liked a lot of them but to be honest I didn't enjoy the whipped cream flavored stuff.
When I was a kid in the 70's/80's, at the roller skating rink, we used to get suicides. A suicide was every flavor of fountain soda mixed in a cup with ice. So tasty!
Sewers turtles aren't ninja turtles
When we first arrived, and I walked up to a soda machine. We never had those, and I think I drank 10-15 refills of coke before my parents started yelling at me. UNLIMITED SODA ARE YOU KIDDING ME WTF.
Even if it was sugar free soda/pop I'd feel a bit sick after 15 refills o.o
Billboards. They are everywhere. You can go hours in the UK driving without seeing one. In Florida, I saw one every few minutes.
Ads on TV, motherf**ker, just play the show, this is painful.
Traffic, how do people drive in the US, it's so easy to get caught in traffic, it's everywhere. F**KER JUST DRIVE, ITS PAINFUL, ADD A F**KING ROUND A BOUT
7/11s are magical places though.
People pay for their own food. As someone who came from China, where everyone fights for the bill without the intention to pay, this is very refreshing.
1.No walls around houses, or burglar bars by windows.
2.HOAs, i don't get why neighbours can have any say as to how long grass should be or what colour i can/cannot paint a house.
3. People walking around with their phones in hand freely and not worried about getting robbed.
4. Not all but how many know little about anything outside of the U.S.
5. How hard they go in advertising for any and everything.
My wife is from the Philippines and also worked in Singapore for over 10 years. When she came here she had many surprises but one big one was the ability to return items that she had purchased. She had never been able to do that before.
with our consumers right in australia, as long as you are able to show proof of purchase, you can return stuff for even after 12 months of use if unsatisfactory.
How non-physical Americans are. I’m Latina and every time I meet someone new it’s considered polite to hug and kiss their cheek as a greeting. Obvi with professionals it’s a no go but like if I’m introduced to a friend of a friend I would do a very light hug and kiss, it was mind blowing to me that Americans mostly did the half hearted wave or a handshake.
People really care about their teeth like whitening and straightening.
Drive through ATM. Very friendly people. How very obese so many Americans were. Water fountains in every public place. Heating system in every house. I was amazed by so many trees along the highways. Still am
Yippee. The same stupid list that is always posted on BP. Zzzzzzzzzzz. Try something new.
Yeah it must have been the 20th similar post in 2 months! I hope everyone complaining about Disney princesses is happy now!! I wish we could go back to that actually!! Not to mention that i haven't seen animal posts for a while and this is what we are here for!
Load More Replies...Tipping. Complete strangers sharing their view as you walk out of a changing room. Vicious political game playing. Bible bashing. Evangelist Tv. Trailer parks aplenty. Can't find a lettuce in the supermarket, but can find a rifle. And have to enter a separate shop to buy booze. Fireworks are illegal. Guns are not. Equally, nice to see patriotism (in moderation), friendly people, great food, awesome scenery, cheap fuel, great sport, amazing museums and galleries, affordable housing (from a Brits perspective). Good and bad everywhere. Heaven knows, we have our issues...
Ive lived in some super redneck places and Ive never seen a rifle in a supermarket for sale and not lettuce. Fireworks are restricted in SOME places due to fire dangers and dry seasons.
Load More Replies...I could add so much to this list. I think the things I still remember are: 1/ the overwhelming choices for every single type of food, like 50 different kinds of cereals. 2/ comparative advertising. So car company A would advertise their vehicle and tell you all the ways it was better than car company B. 3/ The outward friendliness of Americans, that just never went anywhere. It was all surface. 4/ The 1950s social world, where men and women still separated at parties and women are expected to be so pretty and men are expected to make money and pay for everything. 5/ The prevalence of the same companies and stores everywhere you go and very few small, independent shops. 6/ How cheap everything was compared to in Europe 7/ That the price on the label is not the final price. Sales tax is added when you check out!
your #5: at one point i wanted to visit all kinds of cities and take pics of the identical Walmarts and Home Depots, etc and just label them as the city name. in the end, i couldn't be arsed to do it :)
Load More Replies...Totally. My husband and I were at a dinner/burlesque type show in France. Everyone else at the table was English or French and an American couple were shown to the table and greeted us all individually and tried to start conversing. We were not very receptive, I’m sorry to say….
Load More Replies...Very interesting to see how other countries differ from the US. Thanks. Good read!
America bad rest of world good America Lazy America Works to much America too friendly America not friendly enough .... Try something new BP try pointing out the rest of the worlds faults .
Most if not all of these are normal in South Africa, Japan and Australia - speaking from living experience
Amazing article. I love it. Good choices & research. And wide variety of opinions. It was good as a US native to get to know about other places this way.
I'm saying this as a fat woman so everyone knows where this is going...The f**k! Spray cheese is still a thing. I'm disgusted. On the other hand, does anyone remember the cheese that came in the yellow submarine-shaped package and you squeezed it out of a star-shaped opening? Sometimes I think I hallucinated that very odd image that pops up every so often. And mustard in Lunchables in a weird squeezy tube.
Yeah, i guess you maybe didn't all know but the US is a big and multicultural place. It's entirely possible to be from one part of the US and go to at least four other places that will likely be a "culture shock". I say this as someone who has spent a day or more in around 40 of the 50 states (and solidly lived in at least five) and also been to at least 7 other countries (I know some of you EU folks are like "hah, seven countries" but realize I have easily covered more territory than the Europe and the Mediterranean nations combined). There certainly are places that match one or more parts of this list, and maybe your experience of a place is different than where you grew up, but none of these entries is either uniquely or universally part of US culture.
Just say that America is the greatest country to live in ever! Let’s go Brandon!
Why do you people think cheering for a guy named Brandon pisses us off?
Load More Replies...Let me be very honest... This whole idea of making a list For non americans to judge americans is a bad idea, as not every one understands why Specific "rules" are in place in usa... Specifically on the internet. Either way, the list could have been ten times better. Complaining about Loving your own country, rise of christianity in a CHRISTIAN COUNTRY. What really should have made the list is the amount of americans saying "Latinx", how far left the country has been since the 50s and 60s, the amount of Lefties who see Orange man bad as literally Hitler, yet know zero about politics and praise the O'biden bama democrat and old socialist Jew as the most important people in US History. Amount of people dismissing the founders and trying to rewrite the US constitution, so much and so forth. Why should "Latinx" have it been on the list, though? Simple, the writter is a latina. Nobody gets more annoyed at Latinx than Latinos and latinas.
Um, read the constitution, the USA is a secular country. I don't know what your thing with a particular word is but you seem to not actually know much about the USA. (Also, there's a huge difference between literally Hitler and definitely an anti-democracy fascist, maybe go read up on fascism before you start calling people names).
Load More Replies...Yippee. The same stupid list that is always posted on BP. Zzzzzzzzzzz. Try something new.
Yeah it must have been the 20th similar post in 2 months! I hope everyone complaining about Disney princesses is happy now!! I wish we could go back to that actually!! Not to mention that i haven't seen animal posts for a while and this is what we are here for!
Load More Replies...Tipping. Complete strangers sharing their view as you walk out of a changing room. Vicious political game playing. Bible bashing. Evangelist Tv. Trailer parks aplenty. Can't find a lettuce in the supermarket, but can find a rifle. And have to enter a separate shop to buy booze. Fireworks are illegal. Guns are not. Equally, nice to see patriotism (in moderation), friendly people, great food, awesome scenery, cheap fuel, great sport, amazing museums and galleries, affordable housing (from a Brits perspective). Good and bad everywhere. Heaven knows, we have our issues...
Ive lived in some super redneck places and Ive never seen a rifle in a supermarket for sale and not lettuce. Fireworks are restricted in SOME places due to fire dangers and dry seasons.
Load More Replies...I could add so much to this list. I think the things I still remember are: 1/ the overwhelming choices for every single type of food, like 50 different kinds of cereals. 2/ comparative advertising. So car company A would advertise their vehicle and tell you all the ways it was better than car company B. 3/ The outward friendliness of Americans, that just never went anywhere. It was all surface. 4/ The 1950s social world, where men and women still separated at parties and women are expected to be so pretty and men are expected to make money and pay for everything. 5/ The prevalence of the same companies and stores everywhere you go and very few small, independent shops. 6/ How cheap everything was compared to in Europe 7/ That the price on the label is not the final price. Sales tax is added when you check out!
your #5: at one point i wanted to visit all kinds of cities and take pics of the identical Walmarts and Home Depots, etc and just label them as the city name. in the end, i couldn't be arsed to do it :)
Load More Replies...Totally. My husband and I were at a dinner/burlesque type show in France. Everyone else at the table was English or French and an American couple were shown to the table and greeted us all individually and tried to start conversing. We were not very receptive, I’m sorry to say….
Load More Replies...Very interesting to see how other countries differ from the US. Thanks. Good read!
America bad rest of world good America Lazy America Works to much America too friendly America not friendly enough .... Try something new BP try pointing out the rest of the worlds faults .
Most if not all of these are normal in South Africa, Japan and Australia - speaking from living experience
Amazing article. I love it. Good choices & research. And wide variety of opinions. It was good as a US native to get to know about other places this way.
I'm saying this as a fat woman so everyone knows where this is going...The f**k! Spray cheese is still a thing. I'm disgusted. On the other hand, does anyone remember the cheese that came in the yellow submarine-shaped package and you squeezed it out of a star-shaped opening? Sometimes I think I hallucinated that very odd image that pops up every so often. And mustard in Lunchables in a weird squeezy tube.
Yeah, i guess you maybe didn't all know but the US is a big and multicultural place. It's entirely possible to be from one part of the US and go to at least four other places that will likely be a "culture shock". I say this as someone who has spent a day or more in around 40 of the 50 states (and solidly lived in at least five) and also been to at least 7 other countries (I know some of you EU folks are like "hah, seven countries" but realize I have easily covered more territory than the Europe and the Mediterranean nations combined). There certainly are places that match one or more parts of this list, and maybe your experience of a place is different than where you grew up, but none of these entries is either uniquely or universally part of US culture.
Just say that America is the greatest country to live in ever! Let’s go Brandon!
Why do you people think cheering for a guy named Brandon pisses us off?
Load More Replies...Let me be very honest... This whole idea of making a list For non americans to judge americans is a bad idea, as not every one understands why Specific "rules" are in place in usa... Specifically on the internet. Either way, the list could have been ten times better. Complaining about Loving your own country, rise of christianity in a CHRISTIAN COUNTRY. What really should have made the list is the amount of americans saying "Latinx", how far left the country has been since the 50s and 60s, the amount of Lefties who see Orange man bad as literally Hitler, yet know zero about politics and praise the O'biden bama democrat and old socialist Jew as the most important people in US History. Amount of people dismissing the founders and trying to rewrite the US constitution, so much and so forth. Why should "Latinx" have it been on the list, though? Simple, the writter is a latina. Nobody gets more annoyed at Latinx than Latinos and latinas.
Um, read the constitution, the USA is a secular country. I don't know what your thing with a particular word is but you seem to not actually know much about the USA. (Also, there's a huge difference between literally Hitler and definitely an anti-democracy fascist, maybe go read up on fascism before you start calling people names).
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