No two relationships—or two people, for that matter—are the same, so there is no such thing as the perfect place to propose. However, some locations are known to be more popular than others, such as Cappadocia in Turkey or, of course, the city of love, Paris.

But this redditor didn’t want a picture of her getting proposed to by the Eiffel tower in the French capital. That’s because she wasn’t actually getting engaged. Her boyfriend simply suggested they should take proposal pictures in front of the tower, because of how romantic the setting is. Needless to say, the idea left the woman quite confused. Scroll down to find the full story in the OP’s own words below, where you will also find her recent interview with Bored Panda.

There are many romantic spots to pop the big question, the Eiffel tower being one of the most popular ones

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This woman refused to take proposal pictures in front of the Eiffel tower, as she wasn’t actually getting engaged

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“We had not talked about it too in depth,” the woman told Bored Panda

In a recent interview with Bored Panda, the OP shared that she and her partner had not really talked about marriage before going to Paris, other than mutually agreeing that a proposal should never really be a surprise. “[We believe] that agreeing to be engaged and married is something a couple should agree on together before a proposal. We had not talked about it too in depth, but this is really why I was so surprised by his idea,” she said.

“As I mentioned in my post, I was sure at first that he was using it as a ruse to actually propose, which we had not talked about (yet). I know now from discussing it further with him that he suggested taking the photo because we were in a really romantic spot. We had already taken some romantic photos by the Eiffel Tower, and he thought the proposal photo was a classic traditional photo, so he thought it would be ‘romantic’ if we had that photo.

“I told him I thought the photos we had taken already were romantic enough for me and that I wasn’t upset to have missed out on a classic couple photo like that,” the OP shared, adding that they are still doing really well as a couple, plan to move in together in January, and will discuss marriage and future plans around that time.

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Paris is one of the most popular destinations for getting engaged

Many people dream of the moment they get engaged. But their dreams are not all the same. As do relationships, the right moment for popping the question, too, differs from couple to couple – what sounds great to some might be the proposal scenario from hell to others.

The perfect setting for the proposal is a subjective matter, too: be it a basketball game, Disney World, a remote hiking trail, or Paris, they all can simultaneously be the best and the worst place to propose to someone you love.

It’s clear, the right time and the right place is a very personal thing; however, one thing that is seemingly universal is that most people want the proposal to feel personal. A study carried out by the British luxury jeweler ROX found that more than half of respondents—57%, to be exact—would prefer a proposal in a place that’s personal and meaningful to them and their partner.

The study also found that 87% of respondents would like a private proposal, which might cross Cappadocia, Disney World, or Paris out of the list of options for many. Be that as it may, the capital of France—often dubbed the City Of Love—is seemingly the most popular location for engagements. According to Remitly, it is the most popular destination for proposals, followed by Las Vegas, Rome, New York, Santorini, and Florida respectively.

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Most couples reportedly wait for 2.5 years on average before getting engaged

It’s not only the place that has to be right for a proposal; the time should be carefully chosen, too. According to the aforementioned survey by ROX, the majority of respondents would prefer being proposed to on an anniversary. As for the less favored times – only 2% would want their special moment to fall on New Year’s Eve.

While the last day of the year is not considered a great choice for most, the month leading up to it seemingly is. According to Statista, December is the most popular month for getting engaged with a proposal rate of 19 percent (while during other months it stays under the mark of 10%). The festive mood seems to positively affect people’s motivation to take the leap and pop the question!

Granted, it’s not the festive mood or the right month of the year that arguably matters the most when it comes to the best time for a proposal; the duration of the relationship is. According to the BRIDES magazine, couples in the US wait roughly 2.5 years on average before getting engaged. ROX’s survey suggests a similar timeframe, stating that the perfect time to propose to your partner is 2 years and 112 days into the relationship.

The OP shared that she and her boyfriend have been together for two years; however, neither of them felt they were ready for such a significant step in their relationship. But that didn’t stop the boyfriend from wanting to take a proposal picture in front of the Eiffel Tower, which his girlfriend found a little odd. Many redditors seemingly did, too, as they sided with the woman, saying that she wasn’t being a jerk for refusing to take the picture.

Most netizens didn’t think the woman was being a jerk to her boyfriend

A couple, though, had a different opinion

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