Wow. This one just hit me really deep.

Love the last sentence.

Awwww

Your therapist must be a surfer

Learning and you can't change or control someone changed my life. You have to remind yourself of it often, though.

Yes you feel like you want to die, but actually its not because you don't want to live at all but don't want THIS life, just can't see the difference clearly enough right now to change your life and let go things, like you said.

"Trauma Response" gotta remember that

Speaking from experience this is SO important!

*mind-blown* I needed this :)

that is so right

This is genius. The ending is the same, so don't enter the cycle.

This is pretty good advice

The last one is something that so many people need to hear

All the posts summed up in this one. ❤️

I long ago forbid myself to use the following words for myself: "damaged" or "broken". No. Scarred, sure. PTSD, absolutely. But if I am here, and functioning? I'm actually doing pretty well. Also, not everyone heals the same rate, so .... don't try to fit into some paradigm of "should be". We're not all gonna react the same to identical experiences. Not even identical twins always do.

"Let your intrusive thoughts into the room but not offer them tea" WOW this was needed

Fake it till you make it. And enjoy it when you've made it. I've been a teacher for 20+ years > the first five-six years I was absolutely faking it. But there comes a moment (if you haven't given up) when you are proficient. And heck, that feels goooooood!

I like this one

It took me years to learn this just because I didn’t want to seem confrontational. This would result in letting bad feelings eat me up inside. I’m glad I finally learned how to properly express myself, it’s so much healthier.

Sometimes you can't just do stuff that makes you happy because you have so much work :')

I have had so much problem with this over the years. People refusing to respect my decision, being stalked and being flat out ignored by exes who wouldn't accept they were indeed an ex. It's a terrible position to find yourself in and it's like being unable to escape a prison. People can delude themselves that they didn't hear it (you ending things) you didn't mean it, you're just being dramatic, we can work on it - think of the kids or that you 'aren't well' The last one is made worse if you've ever had depression or other mental health issue. They will use it to ignore your feelings and gaslight you..

Ooooooo! Needed this today

To quote Frank Herbert (Dune): " I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

So true! I heard something like this lately. Like it's not your job (ie solely your responsibility) to make someone's life happy, nor them yours. We must make ourselves happy. NB I don't mean we shouldn't try to cheer someone up or support them I just mean we cannot be totally dependent on someone for our sole source of happiness..

So very true!!

If you don't have a good relationship with yourself, you won't be happy in a relationship with someone else

Invaluable.

Yep, been there! Potential is very seductive~

I've lost count of the number of times I've spoken up, just to he disregarded. Can't seem to shake that cycle at all.