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Imagine getting a free ride, then telling your driver to get a more comfortable car because theirs is too old. While most of us would be grateful for the gesture, some people may see this act of generosity as an opportunity to demand more, and more, and more. Enter Choosing Beggars, a subreddit dedicated to showcasing ungrateful attitudes and shameless entitlement.

Avid Bored Panda readers might remember that we've covered the community a few times already, but with 2.6 million members, it's so active that one can easily get lost in its content. So, we decided to put together a collection of its funniest and most infuriating posts of all time.

Continue scrolling to check them out, and don't miss the chat we had with therapist and relationship expert Dr. Steven Stosny—you'll find it between the images.

#1

Customer Wants A Tattoo Artist To Issue Them An "Inconvenience Fee" For Setting Them Up With An Artist Who Was An Ex-Con

Text exchange showing a reality check to a choosing beggar demanding a refund and inconvenience fee.

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    A Brilliant Way To Deal With "Influencers"

    Text exchange of choosing beggar getting unexpected reality check over free merch request.

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    To gain a better understanding of these interactions, we got in touch with Dr. Steven Stosny, founder of Compassion Power in suburban Washington, DC, and author of several books on improving relationships.

    "There are two major types of entitlement," he told Bored Panda.

    "In the first, the entitled feel superior. If not acknowledged as having superior rights and privileges, they may feel inferior. Superiority and inferiority are opposite sides of the same coin."

    "The second type is compensatory. Those who suffer from it see themselves as victims of unfair treatment and therefore entitled to special privileges as compensation. 'It's so hard being me. I shouldn't have to wait in line too.'"


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    As you can see from the pictures, we can run into entitled people at school, work, and other areas of everyday life. Researchers Emily Zitek and Alexander Jordan studied the behavior and published their findings in Social Psychological and Personality Science.

    All in all, Zitek and Jordan conducted six experiments. They first tested how 1,259 individuals would behave during a basic word search task where it was essential to follow instructions. The researchers found that those with a high sense of entitlement were less likely to comply with the given directions.

    From there, they tested different scenarios to see whether punishment, framing the task as optional, or reducing the perceived personal cost would lead them to comply. None of these tactics worked.

    Entitled people do not follow instructions because they would rather take a loss themselves than agree to something they perceive to be unfair to them, the researchers concluded.


    #6

    My Mechanic Telling It How It Is. Support Artists And Labor Folk!

    Printed note on wall highlighting a harsh reality check about valuing time and expertise over minutes spent.

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    Kirsten Kerkhof
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly! My tax adviser can do my taxes in 20 minutes and have it done perfectly. Someone asked me why I pay him so much for 20 minutes of work, and I told them he can do it in 20 minutes because he'd been doing it for decades. I'd probably spend hours and still make mistakes.

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    So what do we do when we run into these people?

    Stosny, author of Living and Loving After Betrayal and How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, said that one of the best strategies is to "ignore their sense of entitlement and act according to your own sense of fairness."

    However, if you do find yourselves in a conflict with them, try not to take their coping mechanisms personally.


    #10

    Choosing Beggar

    Man holding a sign about fraud on a roadside, reflecting the 'Choosing Beggars' reality check theme.

    Two years ago I saw that guy with the gas can begging for money. Tried to give him four dollars, but he said he doesn’t take anything less than five. After that I saw him there everyday for months. Turns out he’s a fraud with a new Jeep and a nice house. Been following him with this sign since.

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    Traveling Lady Railfan
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sadly, I know someone (friend of a friend) who does something similar. Her husband has a really high paying job in a local manufacturing facility, he's been there for decades so he's the top tier of pay. He has the new car, she keeps the old car, she wears old clothes and then goes around to the food banks and brings home grocery bags full of food and think she's really smart for getting free groceries. She justifies it because twice a year the plant has a shutdown for 2 weeks, I believe the employees are even compensated for the time that they're not there, but she tells everyone that her husband's out of work. Technically it's true he's not working. But that's the lie that she uses to justify why she can rob the food banks 52 weeks a year. I'm sorry to say that I'm not sorry that this lady recently passed away.

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    #11

    Selling A Used iMac For 1200$, Woman Asks “How Low” I Would Sell It For, Or If I’d Take 800 And Some Jewelry She Makes. Oh And I Also Ruined Christmas

    Chat exchange showing a firm $1200 price disagreement with a choosing beggar seeking discounts.

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    Kristal
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They use "single mother" so much, I question if they are even single ... or even have kids

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    #12

    This Guy Gets It

    Tweet responding to a choosing beggar about art pricing and self-sufficiency.

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    Traveling Lady Railfan
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually had to tell a potential customer this the other day. It took me years to learn how to make a particular item, I sell them for $100, other people sell something similar for $500, this person's asking if I'll sell it for 10 because it's expensive. I said no, and suggested that they take a screenshot of the item, print it, and put the picture in their collection until they can afford to purchase it for real. (And if that sounds like I'm being sarcastic I'm not because that's what I used to do with my collections, print out photos of the items I was missing and just put the photos in my display case until I could afford to get the real thing)

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    #13

    Its Always The Christmas Excuses

    Hand pressing a blue button labeled "You’ve ruined my children’s Christmas," representing choosing beggars.

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    Kristal
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This just makes me laugh and then know not to take them seriously. I went to Disney World during the holidays and was in a Disney Collector group for my city on fb. Saw a lady asking for someone to pick up this large plushie. I didn't check any bags so space was limited but I contacted her I can pick it up for price+taxes+small fee. She was very nice and really happy. Got home and got super sick, couldn't unpack. I told her I'll leave the plush outside my door and she put money under mat cause I was too sick to interact. After, she messaged me about a spot on the plush. No idea if it was on there before or after. It wasn't bad, easily washed. She demanded money back, how I ruined Christmas, blah blah. She even tried to compare illnesses? I don't know, she flipped. I told her I wasn't a personal shopper (I said this many times while planning tge pick up) or business, I'm not refunding money. It was the most crazy situation. Never going to offer to do that again.

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    "Confronting them or arguing with them creates pointless power struggles, which are likely to increase their sense of entitlement," Stosny added.

    "Ignoring it is the best policy."

    #14

    I Won't Invite You To My Baby Shower, But You Better Get Me A Gift

    Text exchange about not buying a baby shower gift due to not being invited, highlighting choosing beggars dynamics.

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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha ha! Etiquette especially applies to family, because family members labour under the assumption that they can say anything, everytime and whenever they want to whomever they want in the family.

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    #15

    Lady Wants Barely-Used Computer For $25

    "Text exchange showing a 'choosing beggar' attempting to lowball a $1000 computer for $25."

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    #16

    Cbs Push A Man Too Far

    "Craigslist post about giving away a free 46-inch TV, expressing frustration with entitled responses."

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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tim Vine: I saw an advert for a free TV that was stuck on full volume. I thought: I can't turn that down!

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    In professional environments, Zitek and Jordan — the authors of the aforementioned study — advise framing instructions to the entitled in ways that make them seem fairer or more legitimate. (Making sure they're satisfied could help operations run smoothly, at least for the time being.)

    The authors offered another tip: "If the instructions come from an in-group member such as a peer instead of from an authority figure, perhaps entitled individuals would be more likely to view the instructions as fair and therefore follow them."


    #19

    This Guy Has Had It With Cbs

    Image of a notice titled "Photographer looking for people to do their job for free," highlighting a classic "choosing beggar" scenario.

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    Child of the Stars
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It wouldn't be so bad if people were offering a labor trade. There's a couple of local tradesmen in my area-one is a plumber, the other an HVAC. The owners both own their own homes and at least one rental property each. They do work on each other's properties for free.

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    #20

    Thought On Exposure

    Tweet highlighting a reality check for choosing beggars seeking free work for "exposure" using Washington's portrait as an example.

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    Donkey boi
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think you'll find that the artist works under the pseudonym of 'One Dollar', and their actual name is 'U.S Treasury'.

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    #22

    Choosing Beggars Don’t Like Free Beer At Local BBQ Joint

    Sign about choosing beggars: "Be like Terry, happy with free beer. Don't be like Leigh A., who complains about free beer variety."

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    Frunkadunk
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    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feels like there are a bunch of LeighA's in the comments, here. lol

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    #23

    Floss Company Asked For Free Designs. The Artists Responded

    Embroidery showcasing choosing beggars getting a reality check with messages like "Artists Have Bills To Pay" and "Pay Artists."

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    Eroe Infinito
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Power makes people feel important. But in reality we're all the same species.

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    #26

    Seems Like Indonesia Is Not Choosing Any Of Them Begpackers

    Bali addressing choosing beggars, three tourists walking through lush greenery.

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    Cee Cee
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Excellent. These tourists beggars or not have caused so many problems for Bali.

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    #27

    This Was On One Of My Mom Pages, I Couldn't Believe It Was Local And That These Kind Of People Actually Exist, It Makes Me Sick To Think About

    Text exchange highlighting a reality check for a choosing beggar over blackberry bush theft.

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    #28

    Asking The Author Of The Book Where They Can Pirate It (I'm Not The Author, And The Book Is Not Coming From A Big-Time Publisher)

    Text exchange highlighting a "choosing beggar" seeking a free book download and receiving a firm refusal.

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    #30

    Why Don’t They Just Let Their Kids Not Have Braces And Break Their Teeth For Denture Through Insurance

    Chat negotiation with a choosing beggar attempting to lower the iPhone price, meeting a firm refusal.

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    #31

    Thanks For Knocking Down The Price, Now How About You Knock Down The Price?

    Chat conversation showing a choosing beggar who first offers $90, then lowers to $70 before being offered $100.

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    #32

    Found On My Tattoo Artists Instagram, F**k Thats Satisfying

    Text conversation about tattoo pricing where a customer requests a lower price and the seller insists on the full price, giving a reality check.

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    #37

    Now That Was Simply Uncalled For

    Choosing beggar tries to negotiate a laptop price using emotional plea, receives blunt response.

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    ZGutr
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only proves the first statement was a lie to begin with. NO ONE that has a loved one fighting C will wish that upon someone else. ( a small voice far back in my mind just wanna run over the beggar for this. I won't but the voice is there )

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    #41

    Good To Know

    "Choosing beggar asks how to make artist work for free; response highlights unfair expectation of free art."

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    B C
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    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a vocalist, I FEEL this. If you want someone to sing for free at your event, ask aunt Lydia or your friend's thirteen year old aspiring diva. They'd love the exposure. But, if you want professional musicians, you need to be willing to compensate them for their time—and not just the time they spend at your gig! When you hire a professional, you're paying for the thousands upon thousands of hours and dollars they spent learning how to perform at a high level, and you're probably getting a better deal than us! Most of us are so obsessed with music that, if we could perform for free and not starve, we absolutely would. Alas, we would starve and I'd rather not do that.

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    #42

    Got A Little Distracted By Someone Doing The Repeater

    Text message exchange illustrating a negotiation with a choosing beggar about snowboard boots price.

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    StarCrossedFriday
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let’s absolutely normalise raising prices if people try to haggle to a ridiculous degree.

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    #43

    Woman Doesn’t Want To Pay Amazon For A Thing Amazon Made

    Twitter exchange showcasing a harsh reality check to a choosing beggar, involving a farm show access request.

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    Sue User
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the fence. I cant figure out if she doesnt want to pay or just doesnt want to pay amazon.

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    #47

    I Draw Pieces Inspired By Historical Art Styles And Sometimes Do Tattoo Designs For People. Today I Had My First Choosing Beggar Experience

    Chat exchange about custom art design where a choosing beggar demands a discount and gets a harsh response.

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    Kristal
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... as a Pagan, I find this disgusting. Not a real Pagan for expecting a fee for a service? No, no. Does not matter the spirituality, that beggar is a crappy human being.

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    #48

    “Exposure Doesn’t Pay The Bills, My Guy”

    Text exchange highlighting a "choosing beggar" situation regarding tattoo services and social media exposure.

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    Andrew Keir
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why does "influencer" so often translate as "wannabe entitled beggar with attitude" ?

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    #51

    Divorcing Husband Of 14 Years For Being Broke

    Divorcing Husband Of 14 Years For Being Broke

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    StarCrossedFriday
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe get a job yourself? It’s amazing how sorry she feels for herself, and not one thought for her husband half working himself to death already.

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    #52

    I Can't Belive These People... They Don't Understand Nail Techs, Escorts, Artists, Ect. Actually Make A Living Off Of This

    I Can't Belive These People... They Don't Understand Nail Techs, Escorts, Artists, Ect. Actually Make A Living Off Of This

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    StumblingThroughLife
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    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to ask.... how do these peeps manage to do ANYTHING with nails that long? Mine were 3mm over the tip of my fingers, and I had to cut/file them short after I had my daughter - nappy pins (back in the day) were fiddly, and I accidentally scratched her when first changing her nappy. Fair enough, if they're so rich they have peeps to do everything for them ... prob to wipe their backsides for them, too!

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    #53

    Not Happy I Paid For It

    Not Happy I Paid For It

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    Farah the Turtle
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the f***k frack tick tack sick sack hungry jack double big mac heart attack is wrong with u?

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    #55

    The Disrespect To Makeup Artists

    The Disrespect To Makeup Artists

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    Granny's Thoughts
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    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was opportunist planning on wearing a sign on her face telling who did her makeup?

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    #56

    Who Gets An Uber On Wedding Day Let Alone Pooling?

    Who Gets An Uber On Wedding Day Let Alone Pooling?

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    Wang Zhuang
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really? They were so cheap they couldn't just get themselves an exclusive ride?

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    #57

    Till This Day It Still Annoys Me That He Is That Much Of An Asshole

    Till This Day It Still Annoys Me That He Is That Much Of An Asshole

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    T'Mar of Vulcan
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    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Something similar happened with my cousins and uncle. My brother spent days fixing up an old computer from parts so our cousins could have a PC to use for school. Even put in a modem. Older cousin was 18 at the time, younger 13. Explained that 13 year-old would need supervision on the Net. All well except uncle either didn't know how old his oldest was or thought he was too innocent. Yanked all the cables out the back and broke the computer my brother had so generously given his spare parts and time for. Never bought them anything again.

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    #62

    "I Don’t Know You. I Need Money Not A Sandwich.”

    "I Don’t Know You. I Need Money Not A Sandwich.”

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    Yellow dot
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    2 days ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad has bad hips and shoulders. He offered a homeless fella an easy $150 to wash his little Ford Geo metro since he could not anymore. Homeless fella said "nah, i'll take the money though"

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    #63

    Generous Man Practically Giving Away £80, Just Renovate His Garden

    Generous Man Practically Giving Away £80, Just Renovate His Garden

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    #64

    Work Hard Enough And You’ll Get Paid In Garlic

    Work Hard Enough And You’ll Get Paid In Garlic

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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shallots start at $15 a kilo here but usually closer to $25, so depending on how many shallots you get this could work out quite a good deal.

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    #65

    The Saga Of Cat Lady Trying To Guilt And Attack Me Into Letting Her Decide The Room Rental Price

    The Saga Of Cat Lady Trying To Guilt And Attack Me Into Letting Her Decide The Room Rental Price

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    Donkey boi
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    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is about, 12 pages to this. Click the source link below the pic to see more.

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