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In an interview with Vogue, Emma Watson said she has made the decision to "self-partner" herself in her thirties. Indeed, after entering this decade, you stop obsessing about what friends, neighbors, colleagues, and relatives might think of you and start picking and choosing who you hang out with and what for, preserving your energy and time for yourself because, let's face it, accumulating responsibilities is exhausting.

Nothing illustrates this period of life more vividly than the Instagram account '30 And Tired.' Whether you aren't yet part of the club, already belong to it, or have moved on to other ones, scrolling through its hilariously honest memes should help you get a better understanding of this hectic era.

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Speaking Of

Speaking Of

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Don’t Say These Things To Me

Don’t Say These Things To Me

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You shouldn't feel bad if you relate to these memes, too.

When you're in your twenties and fresh out of college, you might be in some form of debt (from student loans or blowing an entire paycheck on rent) and perhaps you're also struggling to find a meaningful career. But this decade is made for mistakes, and the confusion, disappointment, and ego-bruising that come along with them. 

But when you're in your thirties, you might feel as if you're in the "adult camp", and begin to pressure yourself to figure everything out.

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Not My Bag, Not My Problem

Not My Bag, Not My Problem

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I Regret Nothing

I Regret Nothing

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We’re All Pretty Cool Tho

We’re All Pretty Cool Tho

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As writer Julia McVeigh pointed out, the permission to fail seems to have been stripped away and now is the time to reach all the traditional milestones that we associate a successful life with.

This includes — but is certainly not limited to — an impressive title to update your LinkedIn page with, a fulfilling relationship, an incredibly fun wedding; cute but undemanding children, and a house with multiple bedrooms for all of them.

Those who fail to meet these ambitious milestones may feel inadequate, especially during their class reunion where people often measure themselves against each other.

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Just Gonna Set It To Delicate And Hope For The Best

Just Gonna Set It To Delicate And Hope For The Best

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So Long Money. I Hardly Knew Ye

So Long Money. I Hardly Knew Ye

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This Post Is Brought To You By My Wife

This Post Is Brought To You By My Wife

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Do Try To Keep Up

Do Try To Keep Up

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Annie Wright, LMFT, who is a licensed psychotherapist and relational trauma recovery specialist, said that she has heard some iteration of the question "Why does life feel so much harder in your thirties?" nearly a hundred times now.

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According to her, being alive in a mortal body, loving other people in mortal bodies, all the while making our way in a world that requires money to pay bills and so on and so forth is hard as it is.

But she suggests that life might be even harder in your 30s for those of us who come from relational trauma backgrounds.

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Being In Bed At 8pm Sounds Glorious

Being In Bed At 8pm Sounds Glorious

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Ah Yes…. That’s The Good Stuff

Ah Yes…. That’s The Good Stuff

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If I Hear A Song I Can’t Remember Might As Well Make It A Good 2-3 Hours

If I Hear A Song I Can’t Remember Might As Well Make It A Good 2-3 Hours

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Oh Look It’s 11pm, Time For Bed

Oh Look It’s 11pm, Time For Bed

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To illustrate her point Wright gives this example: if life is a proverbial house, built upon a proverbial foundation, those of us who come from relational trauma backgrounds nearly always have cracks in our proverbial foundations that others who come from non-trauma backgrounds do not have at all (or in greatly reduced ways).

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And cracks in the proverbial foundation can make the proverbial house less sound, less stable, and more difficult to live in (so to speak).

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Rise And Take It Easy While I Complete All My Tasks In A Timely Fashion

Rise And Take It Easy While I Complete All My Tasks In A Timely Fashion

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My Precious

My Precious

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It’s Friday Friends

It’s Friday Friends

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I Still Expect An Invite Though

I Still Expect An Invite Though

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"A relational trauma background, as I define it, is trauma that results over the course of time in the context of a power-imbalanced and dysfunctional relationship (usually between a child and caregiver) that results in a host of complex and lingering biopsychosocial impacts for the individual who endured the trauma," Wright explains in Psychology Today.

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Hello Old Friend

Hello Old Friend

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How Dare Y… What The Fu… Imma Need A Minute

How Dare Y… What The Fu… Imma Need A Minute

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That’s The Good Stuff

That’s The Good Stuff

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Bro When Have I Ever Needed The Ingredients For A Remoulade?

Bro When Have I Ever Needed The Ingredients For A Remoulade?

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The psychotherapist said that these biopsychosocial impacts stemming from a trauma background can and often include:

  • Maladaptive beliefs about yourself, others, and the world around you. For example: “I’m too broken to be loved, no one will ever love me.” Or, “No one can be trusted; everyone always leaves me," or "The world is out to get me. I have to be on guard.”
  • Maladaptive behaviors to cope with intolerable feelings (feelings of vulnerability, loneliness, fear, etc.). For example: developing an eating disorder, engaging in risky sexual behaviors, becoming obsessive about work, or using substances to numb out.
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I Had My Realization That I’m Old When I Looked At A Pair Of Dr. Scholls Shoes And Thought “Damn Those Look Comfy As Hell”

I Had My Realization That I’m Old When I Looked At A Pair Of Dr. Scholls Shoes And Thought “Damn Those Look Comfy As Hell”

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Oh Shit My Exam! Wait.. I’m 33.. I Haven’t Been In School For Over 10 Years

Oh Shit My Exam! Wait.. I’m 33.. I Haven’t Been In School For Over 10 Years

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Shhhhshshsh! Do You Hear That??

Shhhhshshsh! Do You Hear That??

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Go Ahead. Read. What. It. Says

Go Ahead. Read. What. It. Says

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As well as:

  • Challenges with emotional regulation and appropriate emotional expression skills. For example: feeling easily triggered often, experiencing explosive rage, feeling a lack of feelings altogether, and being unable/unwilling to share your emotions with others.
  • Attachment wounds. For example: developing an avoidant, anxious, or disorganized (as opposed to secure) attachment style in response to the non-secure relational experiences endured.

And most of us only realize how faulty our proverbial foundation is once we arrive in our 30s (and sometimes 40s).

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I Don’t Have A Problem. You Have A Problem

I Don’t Have A Problem. You Have A Problem

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This Is My Personality Trait

This Is My Personality Trait

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What’s Your Late Night Snack Of Choice? I’ve Been On A Mini Kitkat “Unwrapped” Bender For A Week And A Half With No End In Sight

What’s Your Late Night Snack Of Choice? I’ve Been On A Mini Kitkat “Unwrapped” Bender For A Week And A Half With No End In Sight

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Don’t Forget To Drink Water Today

Don’t Forget To Drink Water Today

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This is because when we’re young and growing up—as a teen and young adult—our proverbial house of life, built upon whatever foundation we have, is usually a single-story house, not a multi-level house, and thus we don't feel the cracks in the foundation quite as much.

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Sh*t I’m In My Thirties And I’d Still Do This Over Being On My Phone

Sh*t I’m In My Thirties And I’d Still Do This Over Being On My Phone

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I Remember When Movie Tickets Were $4.25

I Remember When Movie Tickets Were $4.25

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First Question. How Good Are You With Directions By Landmarks?

First Question. How Good Are You With Directions By Landmarks?

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Pizza And I Just Have A Longer History

Pizza And I Just Have A Longer History

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If you're still adapting to the higher stakes, check out Bored Panda's earlier publications “30 And Tired”: Instagram Account Explains Millennials In 50 Memes and 40 Funny And Painfully True Memes That Anyone Who’s “30 And Tired” Might Understand.

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At least they will reassure you that there are many, many more people in the same predicament.

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She Is Coming

She Is Coming

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#35

Carnival Avocado Sounds Like Something Super Questionable But I’m Gonna Eat It Anyways

Carnival Avocado Sounds Like Something Super Questionable But I’m Gonna Eat It Anyways

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Gives Us The Foods

Gives Us The Foods

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Why Didn’t I Think Of That?

Why Didn’t I Think Of That?

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Me Staying Out Past 9

Me Staying Out Past 9

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And Instead Of Infinity Stones, She Collected Pig Tails

And Instead Of Infinity Stones, She Collected Pig Tails

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*snaps Picture*

*snaps Picture*

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#41

It’s Friday Everyone

It’s Friday Everyone

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Me With Stovetop Knobs

Me With Stovetop Knobs

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*pops Aleve* Im In My Prime

*pops Aleve* Im In My Prime

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2am, 8am, Noon, 2pm, 5pm? What’s The Difference Really?

2am, 8am, Noon, 2pm, 5pm? What’s The Difference Really?

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Bro…

Bro…

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I Know What I Must Do But I Don’t Know If I Have The Strength To Do It

I Know What I Must Do But I Don’t Know If I Have The Strength To Do It

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Some Things Never Change

Some Things Never Change

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And Now We Play The Waiting Game

And Now We Play The Waiting Game

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It Doesn’t Look Bad Does It?

It Doesn’t Look Bad Does It?

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I Asked My Wife And This Is 100% Accurate.. Wait… What?

I Asked My Wife And This Is 100% Accurate.. Wait… What?

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It’s A Hell Of An Adventure Trying To Follow Me Though

It’s A Hell Of An Adventure Trying To Follow Me Though

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The Limit Does Not Exist

The Limit Does Not Exist

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New Response Loaded For Every “So What Are You Doing Now” Question At Any Family Gathering From Here On Out

New Response Loaded For Every “So What Are You Doing Now” Question At Any Family Gathering From Here On Out

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Everybody Just Shut….thefuckup

Everybody Just Shut….thefuckup

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I Wore My Nice Sweats

I Wore My Nice Sweats

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So Long Souvenir California Coffee Mug. I Hardly Knew Ye For A Day

So Long Souvenir California Coffee Mug. I Hardly Knew Ye For A Day

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Also Me: Hits Snooze 20 Times When My Alarm Goes Off At 6

Also Me: Hits Snooze 20 Times When My Alarm Goes Off At 6

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Can’t Have Too Many Blankets

Can’t Have Too Many Blankets

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Bottom Left

Bottom Left

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So. Many. Responsiberities

So. Many. Responsiberities

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Get Off Your Phone Ya Jackhole

Get Off Your Phone Ya Jackhole

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Full Circle

Full Circle

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Eh Maybe Sitting On Instagram For An Hour Or Two Will Help Me Remember

Eh Maybe Sitting On Instagram For An Hour Or Two Will Help Me Remember

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This….. Is Wonderful

This….. Is Wonderful

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I Needed This

I Needed This

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“What Was That!?” Nothing!

“What Was That!?” Nothing!

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Fuck It, I Don’t Got Anywhere To Be Tonight

Fuck It, I Don’t Got Anywhere To Be Tonight

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If Your Plans Involve That, Count Me In

If Your Plans Involve That, Count Me In

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Reflecting In Aisle 4

Reflecting In Aisle 4

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Fun Fact: My Sister Made Me Listen To The Barbie Girl Song About 5 Times A Day For A Solid Month When She Got It On A Cassette Tape

Fun Fact: My Sister Made Me Listen To The Barbie Girl Song About 5 Times A Day For A Solid Month When She Got It On A Cassette Tape

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Can We Just Stop Using This Line In Emails?

Can We Just Stop Using This Line In Emails?

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Day Drinking Or Nothin

Day Drinking Or Nothin

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Got Damn My Dude You Gotta Give My Knees A Min

Got Damn My Dude You Gotta Give My Knees A Min

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It Is Not 10:01 You May Proceed With The Enthusiasm

It Is Not 10:01 You May Proceed With The Enthusiasm

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Workin 9 To 5 Or Hardly Workin

Workin 9 To 5 Or Hardly Workin

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Im Just Resting My Eyes

Im Just Resting My Eyes

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What Happened To The Days Where All You Needed To Stay Out Longer Was A Vodka Redbull

What Happened To The Days Where All You Needed To Stay Out Longer Was A Vodka Redbull

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Uncle Joey You Dog You

Uncle Joey You Dog You

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This Was A Terrible Idea

This Was A Terrible Idea

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Yeah Haha Yeah You Right You Right But That’s A No No Word Sweetie

Yeah Haha Yeah You Right You Right But That’s A No No Word Sweetie

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Being A Mallrat Is A Right Of Passage I Get It, I Was Once One Of You But Damnit All I Wanna Do Now Is Buy A New Pair Of Khakis In Peace

Being A Mallrat Is A Right Of Passage I Get It, I Was Once One Of You But Damnit All I Wanna Do Now Is Buy A New Pair Of Khakis In Peace

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People Just Be Peoplein

People Just Be Peoplein

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Everything Is Terrible But This Coffee Is Amazing. I’m Having Trouble Controlling The Sound Of My Voice!

Everything Is Terrible But This Coffee Is Amazing. I’m Having Trouble Controlling The Sound Of My Voice!

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It’s Lit Fam

It’s Lit Fam

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Yep. I Was Right

Yep. I Was Right

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Before Lol It Was :)))))

Before Lol It Was :)))))

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Ru- Fi- Oooooh No

Ru- Fi- Oooooh No

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I’ll Take Eating In A Burger Chair Over A Regular Chair Any Day

I’ll Take Eating In A Burger Chair Over A Regular Chair Any Day

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This Is A More Accurate Description For Me 8:00pm Sun-Tues: Cameron Wed-Thurs: Rooney Fri-7:00pm Sun: Ferris

This Is A More Accurate Description For Me 8:00pm Sun-Tues: Cameron Wed-Thurs: Rooney Fri-7:00pm Sun: Ferris

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Keep Acting Up

Keep Acting Up

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I Can Tell We’re Going To Get Along

I Can Tell We’re Going To Get Along

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Just Gotta Make It Over To The Slopstacle Course To Get Ready

Just Gotta Make It Over To The Slopstacle Course To Get Ready

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You Know What They Say.. Wine Before Liquor Never Been Sexier

You Know What They Say.. Wine Before Liquor Never Been Sexier

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Yeahhh It’s Gonna Be A No From Me Guys

Yeahhh It’s Gonna Be A No From Me Guys

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How Hard Could It Be?

How Hard Could It Be?

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Talk To The Hand Cuz The Face Ain’t Listenin

Talk To The Hand Cuz The Face Ain’t Listenin

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You Know What I Mean? Me: Uh.. Yyyyyess..?

You Know What I Mean? Me: Uh.. Yyyyyess..?

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It Is Time

It Is Time

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This And A Goofy Movie Pizza Are The Only Options

This And A Goofy Movie Pizza Are The Only Options

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Someone’s Gotta Do It For All Of You

Someone’s Gotta Do It For All Of You

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#101

Looks Like We Got Ourselves A Rumble

Looks Like We Got Ourselves A Rumble

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And Now Your Brain All Day Today. You’re Welcome

And Now Your Brain All Day Today. You’re Welcome

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This Is Terrible. I’m Glad Everyone’s Having A Good Time

This Is Terrible. I’m Glad Everyone’s Having A Good Time

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I’m All For It

I’m All For It

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Do You Even Have To Ask

Do You Even Have To Ask

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Me: You Have Bewitched Me Wife: Shut Up

Me: You Have Bewitched Me Wife: Shut Up

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