
“Sets Timers Instead Of Alarms”: 30 People Share Hilarious And Sometimes Cringe “Beige Flags”
We've seen people on the internet talking about red and green flags in romantic relationships, but lately, there has been a lot of fuss about another color.
TikToker Caito (@itscaito) coined the term "beige flag" in one of her videos from a year ago, where she explained that it's a sign that someone's really, really boring to date.
@itscaito beige is the new red and in other news dating apps are a wasteland 🚩 #hinge #redflags #datingredflags #hingedating ♬ original sound - Caito
However, since then, folks have evolved it, making the beige flag something in between the red and green ones. Now, this sign is understood to be more like a personal quirk that catches your attention, a mannerism that makes you pause and think, "Hmmm... that's a bit odd" without fully understanding if it's good or bad.
(For reference, think of when Anatoly Dyatlov in HBO's Chernobyl heard the radiation reading and said: "3.6 [Roentgen] — not great, not terrible.")
So to give you a better understanding of the latest online dating slang, we compiled some of the most popular beige flags that we've seen.
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How do you carry on a conversation with him ? I have so many questions.
I didn’t realize it was so common. This is 100% me too
Load More Replies...I have one ear that wiggles and it's my right ear. If someone is giving me directions, that ear always wiggles when I have to turn. I think I would be really confused without the wiggly ear.
This is me. Don't give me cardinal directions and I'll be ok. Give me landmarks
When I went to highschool, the freshmen taking band had a week of marching practice for a few hours before school started, so we'd know the commands and how to execute them. To help those who can't keep left and right straight, the band director would tell them (okay, us) to hold a leaf in the left hand and a rock in the right.
That's not a personality quirk. It's a disorder called directional dyslexia. And before anyone ironically gets their knickers in a knot by assuming I've done the same, no, I'm not offended. I'm just providing information.
I knew a gal that had cute, intricate patterns tattooed on her hands right on the fleshy part between thumb and index finger. When she was tipsy she revealed they were Sindaril runes for L and R. She also had that problem
My mouth doesn't know right from left. My hands do. Sometimes I pick up my left hand, point left, and say right. I don't know how no one has hit me yet.
This is me. I have the GPS brain and know my right from left, I just often say it backwards. I actually have the same problem with certain colors. I can't tell you the number of times I've said brown for green and vice versa.
Load More Replies...Its not that uncommon. Its a specific 'brain disorder' most psychologists lump it in with dyslexia which I think is insulting. It should have its own specific name. People with this condition are perfectly 'normal' (if anyone can be called 'normal'), they can function perfectly well and read fine they just have to THINK about which is left and right rather than knowing automatically.
It seems like a lot of adults have a problem with it. Which hand you use for writing? I bet you know it without thinking. If you are right-handed let your right hand remind you where right side is, well I used this rule as a kid.
I do this. If I'm ever unsure and have to check i pretend to write something and my brain automatically lifts my right hand and I know that that way is definitely right.
Load More Replies...I have this AND dyslexia and i do the “L”s and don’t know which L is right. Or Left. You know what I mean
OMG this is me. Take me somewhere, anywhere twice and I can go back myself no matter how many years it's been. Turn Right...noooo the other right DEBORAH!!
I use the 'L' shape with my hands so I know what to call the direction to go in. Mostly I tell people to go in the direction I am pointing to, and not to listen to my mouth.
I didn’t learn until I was 8, and I’m still not good at it. Just point honestly. Sometimes even when I’m reading the Waze directions for someone from the passenger seat I’ll see the arrow and still get it wrong. And of course I frequently forget to state the direction when telling someone to turn onto x street… I’m really helpful.
That`s cool, I heard somewhere there is a whole tribe whose sense of direction works like this. They are always completely oriented in the world, not in their body, therefore left or right doesn`t make any sense but east and west and south and north does. Honestly,when communicating with other people, it is so much more defined and clear, why talk about left or right if everyone knows what you mean with east and west?
thank you random stranger now I know how to tell the difference! woohooo
I lost my ability to tell left from right cause my job has me trying to figure out which side is the other person's right so often that I e started mixing them up. I've had more than once where this has cause some embarrassment.
Haha yeah last night at work I held up seven fingers to someone to indicate the machine i needed them to watch. I took forever to figure out whether I was holding up the right amount of fingers...Im a upper technician at my job lmfao.
I'm a veterinarian and one of my greatest issues is which side is right or left on a pet. Especially if they are upside down during anesthesia.
There are others like me?? Finally, I can tell my husband I'm not broken, others are like me ☺️
*insert I'm in this photo and I don't like it meme here*
Asking all the questions on people who do this is amazing, because they answer. Not sure if always honest or true.
I loved how he finds it endearing instead of annoying.
As someone with high-functioning autism, this sounds like it might be Autism Spectrum Disorder. Many High Functioning Autistic people have trouble with chatting and casual conversation. The fact he has to google topics for conversation hints he might be having trouble with casual social skills and is making an effort to compensate. Likewise, the fact he asks intimate questions in a room full of people suggests he has trouble understanding social propriety and boundaries, another thing difficult for people with autism.
Put him in front of a mirror and tell him that he is cute and a keeper, because he is actually listening to you. My one, I could tell him 200 times how a watch is beautiful and he would still show up on valentines or birthdays with something else but the watch.
I've often said that it's as selfish to refuse to receive as it is to refuse to give, because in refusing to receive we are denying other people the opportunity to be generous and we are refusing to be grateful to other, instead insisting they always be indebted to us. Generosity sometimes means allowing others to be generous too.
When my children went through this phase I'd pretend to not know what they wanted until they spoke properly. (And, yes, they were fully able to articulate clearly.)
I don't understand why that would make the waiter embarrassed - he'll either have an actual favorite that he'll recommend, if not then he'll pick something at random from the menu (or something expensive)... or maybe the manager said "hey, we've got too much fish, so push the fish!" and recommend that. Not sure where the discomfort would come from unless the waiter was so unfamiliar with the menu that he couldnt think of a single dish to recommend.
Maybe he thinks it’s a beige flag that you call yourself a scheduled girly.
This is me, and this is apparently very common in people who have ADHD (not saying she does). I hate having notifications hanging over me, so I open the message, and if I'm in the right mood I'll respond. But sometimes I think "I'll get back to it later" and then totally forget the message ever existed until the next time I think to text that person.
Im prob gonna get downvoted into oblivion for saying this but some people are reading wayyy too much into this
Yep. A few are real "flags" but to call quirky behavior a flag is just silly. My husband and I were together for 35 years, and we both had our odd little things. If one was bothered we would do the chu sound and move on.
Load More Replies...Wish the text was on a plain background, it’s kind of hard to read off people’s foreheads
Speaking as a person on the ASD spectrum, a number of these might be cases of undiagnosed high-functioning autism spectrum disorder.
My husband's beige flag is that he has an eidetic memory for movies. He can tell you exactly when a line was said or which minor side character was in the background at the time. Consequently, he never wants to rewatch movies. Guardians of the Galaxy? The Super Mario Movie? Lord of the Rings!? Nope. already seen 'em, got them memorized.
I don't have an eidetic memory for anything, but I love rewatching movies, even movies I've seen so many times I almost know it by heart. However, my problem is with overly predictable movies. I don't mind movies that are SUPPOSED to be predictable (like action movies: I mean, we KNOW the hero's going to win, right?), but for example, mystery movies. I like movies that surprise me. My wife finds it hilarious, though, when I catch her watching a police drama (or similar "mystery" kind of show) and watch for 5 minutes, and then predict the ending ... only to be TOTALLY wrong.
Load More Replies...My Fellow BP Commentor's Beige Flag are all the people reading into the cute quirks shared by others about their S/O s and trying to re-label the (in their opinion) as a red flag! Lighten up; or, MYOB.
I'm single rn but I'd say my beige flag would be how excited I get about stuff. Like you mention plants I'm gonna be talking about plants for the next hour no seriously I love plants plants are amazing I won't stop talking ever. You mention my writing and seem genuinely interested? I'm gonna be super awkward about it but if you get me going I don't stop my writing is something I'm super proud of and I love it when people are interested in it. I seriously just don't stop talking when I'm really excited about something
If I can see anywhere in my field of vision a dog, cat, sheep, cow, ferret, chicken, rabbit, or pig, I will not be speaking to other human beings.
Load More Replies...I know these articles aren't really meant for reading, but it does explain that at the beginning
Load More Replies...So basically people are confusing beige flags with red/green flags? Like these srories they share are either green or red flag. Also,everyone has their quirks. As long as it's harmless, wouldn't be a problem
This whole beige flat thing is b******t, that's just normal people behavior
TL;DR: Everything unique about you is a red flag now because being unique is a crime
Beige flags are not red flags. You should at least read the intro and learn what a beige flag is
Load More Replies...It never takes many repetitions for an annoying habit to become a "you always".
My husband's beige flag is that he takes literal hours to make a decision. I think it's why he married me lol. When we had to decide between a Playstation or XBox a few years back it took him months to decide.
my beige flag is that i consider myself to be one of those people who is just like an amazing texter, so i always think of the funniest/most relevant thing to say because everyone hates awkward texting spirals, but sometimes i have to go somewhere or do something and a text catches me off guard so i feel obligated to reply to it with something creative and interesting so people don't think i'm boring but i can think of anything so i just send "PLEASE" in all caps or the crying emoji or "jealousy jealousy😞" and then i feel guilty because it was not creative/interesting enough and vow to circle back to that text later. thanks for coming to my ted talk :D
i'm also really into eurovision, to the point where i've memorized tons of ridiculously specific facts about it, and also learned the cyrillic alphabet so i could read lyrics, and have picked up many words in ukrainian because of my love for go_a and kalush, and sometimes i'll be out in public and i'll hear a eurovision song and i'll get really excited about it and start gushing about it to whoever i'm with at the time. my neurodivergent friend keeps trying to convince me i'm on the spectrum because of my fixations (among other reasons) lol
Load More Replies...Im prob gonna get downvoted into oblivion for saying this but some people are reading wayyy too much into this
Yep. A few are real "flags" but to call quirky behavior a flag is just silly. My husband and I were together for 35 years, and we both had our odd little things. If one was bothered we would do the chu sound and move on.
Load More Replies...Wish the text was on a plain background, it’s kind of hard to read off people’s foreheads
Speaking as a person on the ASD spectrum, a number of these might be cases of undiagnosed high-functioning autism spectrum disorder.
My husband's beige flag is that he has an eidetic memory for movies. He can tell you exactly when a line was said or which minor side character was in the background at the time. Consequently, he never wants to rewatch movies. Guardians of the Galaxy? The Super Mario Movie? Lord of the Rings!? Nope. already seen 'em, got them memorized.
I don't have an eidetic memory for anything, but I love rewatching movies, even movies I've seen so many times I almost know it by heart. However, my problem is with overly predictable movies. I don't mind movies that are SUPPOSED to be predictable (like action movies: I mean, we KNOW the hero's going to win, right?), but for example, mystery movies. I like movies that surprise me. My wife finds it hilarious, though, when I catch her watching a police drama (or similar "mystery" kind of show) and watch for 5 minutes, and then predict the ending ... only to be TOTALLY wrong.
Load More Replies...My Fellow BP Commentor's Beige Flag are all the people reading into the cute quirks shared by others about their S/O s and trying to re-label the (in their opinion) as a red flag! Lighten up; or, MYOB.
I'm single rn but I'd say my beige flag would be how excited I get about stuff. Like you mention plants I'm gonna be talking about plants for the next hour no seriously I love plants plants are amazing I won't stop talking ever. You mention my writing and seem genuinely interested? I'm gonna be super awkward about it but if you get me going I don't stop my writing is something I'm super proud of and I love it when people are interested in it. I seriously just don't stop talking when I'm really excited about something
If I can see anywhere in my field of vision a dog, cat, sheep, cow, ferret, chicken, rabbit, or pig, I will not be speaking to other human beings.
Load More Replies...I know these articles aren't really meant for reading, but it does explain that at the beginning
Load More Replies...So basically people are confusing beige flags with red/green flags? Like these srories they share are either green or red flag. Also,everyone has their quirks. As long as it's harmless, wouldn't be a problem
This whole beige flat thing is b******t, that's just normal people behavior
TL;DR: Everything unique about you is a red flag now because being unique is a crime
Beige flags are not red flags. You should at least read the intro and learn what a beige flag is
Load More Replies...It never takes many repetitions for an annoying habit to become a "you always".
My husband's beige flag is that he takes literal hours to make a decision. I think it's why he married me lol. When we had to decide between a Playstation or XBox a few years back it took him months to decide.
my beige flag is that i consider myself to be one of those people who is just like an amazing texter, so i always think of the funniest/most relevant thing to say because everyone hates awkward texting spirals, but sometimes i have to go somewhere or do something and a text catches me off guard so i feel obligated to reply to it with something creative and interesting so people don't think i'm boring but i can think of anything so i just send "PLEASE" in all caps or the crying emoji or "jealousy jealousy😞" and then i feel guilty because it was not creative/interesting enough and vow to circle back to that text later. thanks for coming to my ted talk :D
i'm also really into eurovision, to the point where i've memorized tons of ridiculously specific facts about it, and also learned the cyrillic alphabet so i could read lyrics, and have picked up many words in ukrainian because of my love for go_a and kalush, and sometimes i'll be out in public and i'll hear a eurovision song and i'll get really excited about it and start gushing about it to whoever i'm with at the time. my neurodivergent friend keeps trying to convince me i'm on the spectrum because of my fixations (among other reasons) lol
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