50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience

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Whether due to a deep lack of education or falling prey to misinformation and pseudo-science, some people are completely out of touch with reality. Specifically, some guys have no idea what it’s like to be a woman. And they have some really strange misconceptions that sound even more bizarre when said aloud.

One Reddit user, u/astandre1, turned to the women of the r/AskWomen online community with a very important question. She wanted to hear the most shocking casual things that other redditors have heard that showed just how out of touch some guys were with the female experience. Scroll down for their stories and get ready to facepalm a lot.

Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral thread, and she was kind enough to answer our questions. You'll find our full interview with redditor u/astandre1 below.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Co worker and I were at a Mexican restaurant during lunch midweek. Which made it mostly men and me and the waitresses. My co-worker was having a " not all men" moment while I listened patiently. When he finally took a breath i said " OK, sure. Do me a favor. Look around and tell me which one I'm SUPPOSED to be scared of? " He looked surprised then looked around before answering "how should I know??" I just smiled and said "exactly" I actually saw the light bulb click on in his head

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My brother thinks all women should wear a hijab because then they won't get catcalled/r***ed by men... EVEN IF that were true, it shouldn't be up to women to change their appearance so that men can keep their hands to themselves!

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was explaining that when hiking alone, if theres a box to sign the trail ledger I always look to see who else is on the trail for safety and I mark my nickname, which is male sounding rather than my female name and they were like, “wait, so that if you hurt yourself there’s people around to help?”

No Jerry because even in the middle of the woods I’m still more statistically likely to get attacked by a man than a bear.

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We were very curious to learn about the inspiration behind the question on r/AskWomen, and the author of the thread was kind enough to tell us all about it.

"The thing that first brought up the question is a discussion I had with my partner over different experiences the opposite sex seems to be entirely unaware of," she shared.

"They were reading a post about how one man was uncomfortable with a woman applying a little makeup in an all-gendered bathroom to the point that he was avoiding that bathroom. It really showed me how out of touch a lot of people are with what most women go through on a daily basis," the OP explained to Bored Panda, adding that she also posed the same question on r/AskMen and thought that it was "a really solid comparison side by side."

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience While on vacation with my SO, I commented on how f****d up it is that I automatically brace myself anytime a man walks behind me while we were drinking at a bar. He honestly didn't know what I meant, and so I told him about all the times someone had treated my body as a free-for-all when I was out. It kind of shocked me that he wasn't aware of this, as he had worked security for bars for years.

A couple of years later he came home from work one night and told me he'd spotted a guy grabbing a woman's a*s in passing. He promptly took the guy outside, gave him a lecture and refused to let him back in. Later on he was relaying this to a bouncer at another bar, the same guy comes up with his friends, and my SO promptly refused him access to that bar as well.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My 50 y/o male co-worker invited me (31F) to attend a salsa party with him.

I told him that I generally don’t go to places with a lot of men under the influence of alcohol without my fiancée because I don’t want to be dr*gged or SA’d.
He then asked me how I could be so arrogant to assume random men would be so interested in me that they’d go to these lengths to get with me.

When I responded: ‘I’ve had that happen to me more than once and I don’t want to go through that again’, he started asking me invasive questions about the incidents to determine if HE’d consider the things that happened to me assault.

I hit back with the most graphic trauma-dump of what happened to me and made him so uncomfortable that he had to step out for a bit.

He did end up apologizing for his behavior and we now just generally ignore each other.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience One of my male doctors recently told me " you're 29 not 19 anymore" to explain my symptoms of extreme pain and fatigue among other things. Spoke to a female doctor next, She suspects it's fibromyalgia.

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Meanwhile, we were interested in getting the Reddit user's take as to why so many guys seem to have a very warped understanding of the female experience.

"I think men have plenty of misconceptions about women because unless you go through the biological changes and experience the culture around women, it’s truly impossible to understand," u/astandre1 said.

"There’s so much that goes on and there’s so much more depth behind each action and perspective than what most men assume."

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My ex-bf was convinced that if a woman miscarried a child, it was because she didn't truly want it on some deep down level. I still get so mad thinking back to that moment.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Once a man said, “isn’t it hilarious when the Uber driver has to wake you up when they drop you off?”

And I said, “yeah I don’t know of any woman who thinks falling asleep in an Uber is ever an option.”

He said, “oh wow never thought about that”

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience “Why did it suddenly have to be because of a man?” My boyfriend’s response to me being mad that a co-worker dismissed the same idea from her entire team (all women), our boss (a woman), myself (a woman) yet accepted it as gospel from the first male who said the exact same thing directly after I said it. My response was telling him what happened and him saying, “maybe she just needed to hear it four or five times, or the way he said it, or maybe just maybe she needed it said in a less b****y tone”.

No, no sir woman everywhere get their ideas dismissed then when men repeat those ideas they are accepted. It happens ALL THE TIME!

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Meanwhile, the redditor shared her thoughts on what guys could do if they're feeling shy or embarrassed to learn more about women's issues.

"The easiest way for a lot of men to learn is strictly by asking. If you’re too shy to ask, then dive deeper into some posts by women and read through the comments. Do NOT rely on the info in male-dominated subreddits," Reddit user u/astandre1 suggested.

"Women are very complex creatures and one size does not fit all, but many women are very open about their experiences and they often appreciate when others try to be respectful and understanding of their experience."

#10

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I always talk about how I love the city at night and how I wish I could take midnight walks. A dear friend said "why don't you?" and when I pointed out how dangerous it was his reply was "just don't take your phone, then you don't have to worry about being robbed!" :D

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#11

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience i asked to go to the bathroom at school and the teacher said no. i told him i was on my period and “no” was not an option. this DUDE told me to f*****g hold it. “yOu CaN hOlD iT tIlL cLaSs Is OvEr” SIR that’s not how that works. i just left lmao but like??? seriously?? dude was married too… his poor wife

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#12

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was once on the phone with my husband as I visited a gas station, at night. I had to go into the convenience store, and I don’t remember why but I said something about locking my car doors on the way in.

Him: “You lock the car doors just to run into the convenience store?”
Me: “Yeah…?”
Him: “Are you leaving your purse in the car or something?”
Me: “No…I lock them so I don’t have to worry about some guy slipping into the backseat and hiding while I’m gone.”

He was shocked that I do that. He said he’d literally never thought such a thing in his life.

Sigh…

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This isn’t to say that all guys are ignorant or that only men can have these sorts of misconceptions about important but basic questions. There are plenty of well-educated, supportive men out there. And gender has nothing to do with a person’s unwillingness to educate themselves and be more empathetic.

However, this doesn’t change the fact that there are many issues that plague women in the world today. And guys getting better education about female anatomy and women’s issues could be the first step toward solving these problems. Living in a bubble of ignorance is no way to go through life.

#13

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was in a crowded area near my family, holding a drink. I asked my mom to keep an eye on my drink for me. My dad blurts out, “do you really think someone is going to steal it?” Smh.

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#14

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Oh I have a doozey, the other day I was chatting with a male acquaintance and he was talking about his female housemate and how she dressed. His words were "she's got a large chest and she wears these low cut dresses, shes got to expect men to come up and say hello" he went on to say a few more things that basically equated to 'if you dress a certain way you get treated a certain way.
My jaw dropped, had to explain to him how having a cleavage doesn't give anyone the right to do or say anything and how men need to control themselves. Explaining to a fully grown man that a piece of clothing is not consent and them being surprised by that in this day and age is just freaking shocking

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#15

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My ex genuinely thought our kids were all boys because they were planned and wanted.

Apparently unwanted or unplanned pregnancies are always girls.

Go figure.

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The United Nations notes that one in three women will experience violence in their lifetime. However, since the Covid-19 pandemic, violence, especially domestic violence, has intensified.

“At home, survivors of domestic violence may be trapped with their abuser, with limited access to support services, healthcare and justice systems. And in public, women are at heightened risks of violence navigating deserted public spaces and transportation,” UN Women explains.

Another glaring issue is the gender pay gap. One area where it’s especially prominent is the health workforce, standing at around 28 percent. The UN points out that once occupation and working hours are accounted for, the gender pay gap is around 11 percent.

#16

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My brother legitimately thought women could walk into an obgyn to get a hysterectomy whenever we want if we don't want kids. Lmao

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#17

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That my breasts “weren’t that big” when I was talking about getting a reduction. Dude, you don’t get to decide what is “too big”.

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#18

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I told two friends (a husband and wife) about catching a plumber looking through my dresser drawer. They both looked aghast, and then the guy said "I hate it when people touch my stuff! Like, somebody at work moved my lunch and I got super upset."

The look the wife and I shared said a thousand words.

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In some parts of the world, women and girls also have less access to education and technology. Meanwhile, in many places, even working women are still expected to do the lion’s share of the housework and childcare. Not only that, they have to deal with period poverty and stigma.

“In some parts of the world, they are seen as dirty, untouchable, or a disgrace. Whether it’s a lack of money to buy pads, tampons, or other products, access to toilets, or discriminatory laws and practices, women and girls, especially the world’s poorest, are deeply impacted by their periods,” the UN explains.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience When I was talking to my family about how r***s are happening more often in our country, being 71,6% of them of girls under 13, my stepdad said "but today girls that age are very promiscuous, wearing inappropriate clothes and offering themselves to men" I was baffled and so angry I just said "have you ever been in touch with a kid that age? it's literally a child, that's horrible to say" but I just wanted to cuss him out

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#20

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Often appreciate him, but Biden was talking about the dangers that black men face - a totally valid issue. But he said, incredulously, heartfelt, "Can you imagine not feeling safe walking down the street?!?" Sir, have you ever met a woman?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My cousin, who didn't grow up near livestock or barn cats or guard dogs and isn't a woman, tried to tell me that human women experience pain during childbirth because of Eve's original sin, but that animals do not. I, who DID grow up near livestock and barn cats and guard dogs and am myself a woman who has given birth, pointed the aforementioned life experiences out and laughed in his face. Ever seen a mama cow push a calf out? She definitely feels that s**t.

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Guys who embrace a healthy understanding of masculinity are more aware of women's issues and more open to having their own values and views challenged. They're also much more in tune with their emotions, choosing open and honest communication instead of repressing their feelings like someone who follow toxic masculine values might do.

#22

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Went on a date with a guy in the medical field. He told me that because mitosis (the process of cells separating) is an involuntary process, growing and birthing a baby really isn’t that much effort for women. He also believed that women and men put in the same amount of effort for the birthing of a child.

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#23

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Toward the end of what had been up to that point a very positive job interview (he was actually offering me the job), “well I’m glad to hear you just got married so you don’t have to support yourself. I can offer you $x for the position.” I told him I wasn’t taking a pay cut to work for him.

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#24

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Several male friends have asked me recently why I will only go running when it's light out. They are also very confused by why I don't have earphones in when I go hiking.

It's not so much the confusion that bothers me, it's when I explain but they really just don't get it. I am met with disbelief.

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#25

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was telling a male friend of mine about how I was in an elevator and this creepy guy got on and how uncomfortable I was. My friend then just loudly exclaimed "OMG you're not the raving beauty that you think you are!".

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My dad said, in reference to the scene in Barbie where her a*s is slapped at the beach, that no man does that/no woman has that done to them, and that it was a major over-exaggeration. I had to leave the room I was so deeply angry.

He has witnessed me being verbally sexually harassed since I was 12.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience It wasn’t recently said, but i recently heard it. The first episode of Seinfeld, he does a bit about how ridiculous it is that laundry detergent is advertised as able to get blood out of clothes. He goes on and on about how it’s for serial killers. Like only serial killers ever get blood on their clothes.

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#28

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My partner said looking after a baby all day was "easy"

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Was being chatted up by two American guys and I brought up the overturning of Roe v Wade. Their response? It’s not really a big deal because women can just drive over state lines to get an abortion….

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#30

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I wanted to take plan B after having unprotected sex and he said "why don't we discuss that in a few weeks ?"

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#31

Was on tinder looking for something causal. Started messaging a guy and he asked me "So, do you live alone?"

I told him how murdery that question sounded and that if he wants to get laid he should refrain from asking that, but I was pretty sure he wasn't a murderer.

His mind was blown. He really did just want to know if we could meet up at my place since he had flatmates, but he had no idea how predatory the question would sound.

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#32

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience "Are lady pilots allowed??" - from a 32 year old man. My jaw hit the floor.

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#33

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience When I told my ex that I have my period for about 7 days (the last 2-3 very light bleeding). He told me to go to the doctor about that because 7 days are just too long.

He just didn't want to wait 7 days until I was ready to have sex again.

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#34

I had one friend that was 34 but only had male friends. He felt comfortable enough to ask me how periods work- if we can bleed for only one hour of the day and how we end up deciding what hour of the day to experience the period for…. As though we have control over it. Yes, at least he was trying to get educated but also holy smokes.

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#35

When my partner said to me that I didn’t need to worry about our drunk, belligerent neighbor who trespassed, called me a b***h, and burned our neighbors barn down if I was home alone all weekend cause “he’s harmless”. Babe..maybe for you but that’s not my experience as a female in this world. 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

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#36

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A light hearted one, but I was pretty surprised when men in the office began claiming the women’s bathroom was very fancy strictly because we had a box of tampons.

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#37

My boss got real excited to share his discovery of close parking spots to our workplace that is always available. The secret spot? In a dark alleyway. I unfortunately had to inform him that as a woman there is no way I could ever do that safely. He paused and it was like a lightbulb went off in his head, like he got a true glimpse of how we live in two different worlds.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience An ex boyfriend told me that women needed to wash the inside of their v****as because “that’s were pee comes from. There are only two holes, the vagina and the a**s, right ?” My jaw dropped. We were 20+, both in university. Another dude I was seeing told me that “women exaggerate a lot on the catcalling/street harassment thing. It must happen at most, what, once or twice a year?”. I told him it happened every week. Sometimes everyday of the week. Especially in summer. He couldn’t believe it and said “wow that must be because you’re pretty. There’s no way it happens that often”. My brains BROKE.

Believeyoucanfly , Keira Burton Report

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Lost Penny 1 year ago

Vaginas, BP. The word is vaginas.

147points

Sky Render 1 year ago

I'm still waiting for the day when the term "vulva" becomes well-known and people stop assuming that the vagina is the entirety of the external genitalia...

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Rahul Pawa 1 year ago

They censored vaginas, but not vagina. Weird decision on that one

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Pix 1 year ago

Oh you think that's bad, check out the Bodyform petition about language on social media. Period, pcos, clitoris, fibroids, pmdd, menopause. And so many more words will get posts blocked and censored.

9points

ROSESARERED 1 year ago

Waiting for when BP censored arm,,leg, brain, mouth.. it a body part BP, if people are offended, they REALLY need to grow up. Censorship of this just adds to the 'oh, don't talk about that' culture, which is what this exact thread is talking about. Time to stop hiding life BP, grow up

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robin aldrich 1 year ago

Right? Why is that censored is penis censored?

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Can't go for that 1 year ago

Thank you. WTF with the word edits. Please 🙄

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Mark (it/urgh) 1 year ago

I'm still trying to figure out what the 4th letter is in "a**s."

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R.A. Haley 1 year ago

Song excerpt: What a pity it is then - when we common people chatter - of these mysteries to which I have referred - we use for such a delicate - and complicated matter - such a very short, and unattractive word...

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Jaya 1 year ago

Even if pee did come out of the vagina, it would still be such a weird statement. Does he clean the inside of his urethra?

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Headless Horseman 1 year ago

I'm ugly-cackling at this thought 😆

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Colleen Glim 1 year ago

Get a straw brush up in there. Wash it out real good

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MaggieMay85 1 year ago

With a pipe cleaner?

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Boreddd(she/her) 1 year ago

I am 15 and I have gotten catcalled while wearing an oversized hoodie twice in the same day, and another three times when wearing something casual such as parachute pants and a crop top. Yeah, how fun🫠

12points

Rat Jesus 1 year ago

A creepy old dude was talking to my mom about how pretty I was

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Erla Zwingle 1 year ago

What I don' t understand is this knee-jerk reaction so many men have to rebut a comment that isn't even in their own personal experience in order to defend men they don't even know. They're denying the girl's experience in order to make themselves feel better about what? That men can catcall all they want to and nobody should criticize it? I mean, I just can't grasp why a male person would want to defend himself about something that doesn't even involve him. Your friend, whom you know, has told you something that SHE knows and you don't. Why are you even responding? Finally, what is the assertion "you must be exaggerating" based on? You have information or experience? No? Then zip it!

10points

Bored Retsuko 1 year ago

Exactly this! Defending complete strangers because... they share the same se× ?! Instead of just acknowledging there are a******s and they have nothing to do with them

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Sandy Kavanaugh 1 year ago

I'm almost 68. I get catcalled. (From a distance, but still.)

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The Short Lady 1 year ago

I got catcalled when heavily pregnant.

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S Mi 1 year ago

Because being harassed a few times a year is clearly acceptable...😬

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Jaaawn 1 year ago (edited)

Good grief, even I know as a man that frequent washing down their can cause women lots of problems and soaps upset the natural ph balance. This came in handy when I worked in health and social care and I would witness new start guys a lot younger than me to order elderly female patients to scrub down below. I explained how this is bad- I never let ANY sh*t happen under my watch.

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StrangeOne 1 year ago

I'd ask "Do you men wash the inside of your d***s?"

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michael Chock 1 year ago

I wonder how many times he cleaned the inside of his penis.

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pineapple87 1 year ago

I was shocked to find that my ex, a 30-something PhD student also did not know that women do not pee out of their vaginas. Apparently sex ed has failed many men.

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Pinco 60 1 year ago

I taught sex education in a secondary UK school. When explaining the anatomy of female genitals (i.e. there being 3 opening) NO-ONE in a year 8 class (13 years old) believed me! A day later my headteacher got a complaint from a father who told her I was an incompetent and I 'was making things up '. My fantastic HT sent him a link to an NHS Website to educate himself!

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Riley Quinn 1 year ago

What's even sadder is the number of girls and women who don't know their own anatomy. Like I said earlier, farm kids know a hellava lot more about physiology than people give us credit for.

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zak 1 year ago

I have concluded that the ex boyfriend in question is European, as they used the word "arṣe" instead of "aṣs". (Sorry, I think I need a hobby or something 😅)

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René Sauer 1 year ago

your brains broke? you got more then one?

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Oskar vanZandt 1 year ago

Pedantic much? Glad you understood the gist of the post and didn't hyper-focus on a trivial language mistake.

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Delta Dawn 1 year ago

This is an extremely common misconception

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Momica98 6 months ago (edited)

I never get cat called because I'm fat and ugly.

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Annita Stephanou 1 year ago

Maybe it's because they only have two?

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JP Purves 1 year ago

And most men won't even wash their butt crack.

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Michaelann Dahlman 1 year ago

I can almost see the logic of this, since guys both ejaculate & pee through same opening. But is really does say something about the state of sex education.

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C.S. E. 1 year ago

A guy in my friend group was once talking about how painful kidney stones are to pass. Of course, we all agreed with him and my female friend injected that she'd experienced it, too, and it did, indeed, suck donkeys. He looked at her with utter derision and said 'Pft, unless your kidney stone was the size of a golf ball, I don't want to hear it.' We looked at each other in confusion until another girl said 'Scott, you do know our urethrae are the same size as yours, right? We don't pee out of our vaginas.' Kid you not, every guy at the table did the confused dog head lean. Another girl said 'What, you think our bladders are located in our uterus or something?' It makes me wonder if that's exactly what some think and that's why some guys think we can hold in our periods, like we hold in our pee.

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Tom Hoša 1 year ago (edited)

Why is it not allowed to read the word 'vagina'? Or 'a*s'? How should it be possible to have a discussion among adults on the internet? I just don't get it. Is this a kindergarten here?

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Cait W 1 year ago

I rarely get catcalled, but that's a double edged sword for me. It's nice not having to experience it often. But, at the same time, it makes me think that I'm too ugly or too fat to be considered a woman.

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Courtney Christelle 1 year ago

It must be nice to live in such a bias, protective bubble.

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

I can't remember what it's called but we don't pee outta our vaginas

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Ms.GB 1 year ago

It's because those type of guys won't do it if they see another man by her so no wonder he's never experienced his friends getting catcalled.

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago

So glad this doesn't happen to me-

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#39

One time I got up a little too fast while getting something from under a table and hit my boobs while on the way up. My friend panicked and he immediately asked if we needed to go to the emergency room to get checked out. I said no and asked why he thought so.

He thought my breasts would explode and my nipple would fall off to allow the gallons of milk I store to seep out😐all I did in the 10 minutes after he told me that was blink.

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He phrased it rather more graphically, so this is the cleaned up gist:

“Surely there must be times when a woman is attacked and just tells the guy to put the knife down because she’s up for it anyway”

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Pants sizing. I was talking to a male coworker and somehow it came up that women's clothing sizes are whack. I think I was griping about inconsistent sizing. I mentioned how I wish I could buy pants by the waist and length (like how men's are sized). He asked '"Well why don't you?". "Because women's pants aren't labeled like that". "Well why don't you just get ones that are?". "Because men's pants are sized like that, not women's ". "Why don't you just buy men's?". "They don't fit me right...."So why don't you buy women's?". "I do, that's the whole point. I wish they were sized in a way that made sense, and not just some arbitrary numbers. I'm different sizes in different brands". He just couldn't understand that women's pants are cut differently, and that just buying men's pants wouldn't work for me.

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#42

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My friend said that women don’t grow facial hair, so I had to explain how often I needed to wax my mustache.

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When I was 19 I worked in a Frozen Yogurt shop and a rush of young kids would come in everyday after school and it was absolute pandemonium. One of these afternoons I was ringing up an older guy (maybe 70's) and he said "It's a good thing you're a woman. You're more equipped for this kind of thing than a man. Your natural instincts make it easy." I just looked at him and said "That's not really how it works. Have a nice day."

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I was telling this guy about my friend who is lacking support in her marriage and he said “how could he support her? He’s working.” And I was like “she’s working too?” And he just couldn’t compute

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#45

50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A male friend genuinely asked if feminism was 'still a thing.'

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#46

‘We didn’t discuss it but she doesn’t need an epidural’

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My dad somehow went almost 60 years completely unaware that public bathrooms often have lines because he's never had to wait in one.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I got my period while hanging out with my then boyfriend. He said, “why can’t you just use a q-tip?”

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My work place offers 6 months of maternity leave or 12 months at half pay. Had a male coworker tell me that was unfair because a woman could "pop out a kid per year for 3 years and it would count as a 3 years experience on her resumè"

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My younger brother tried to mansplain how to deal with endo bloat to me once lmao

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Emma S 1 year ago (edited)

I don't know who needs to hear this but yes to one isn't yes to all. I've heard victims of SA be called liars because they've had a lot of sexual partners in the past. A woman's sexual history should not be relevant.

47points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

Not only previous sexual partners but a previous sexual history with the douche is apparently consent for all the future sex HE wants with you.

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Caro Caro 1 year ago

I once explained to my husband why lots of women walk with holding handbag on the opposite side of curb, with keys in other hand, ready to be attacked. He got very emotional.

28points

Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 1 year ago

I hate reality and the people who ruin it.

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Delta Dawn 1 year ago

Once again for those in the back, Plan B/emergency contraception does 👏 not 👏 cause 👏 abortion 👏 , nor does it affect implantation of a fertilized egg. https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/plan-b-one-step-15-mg-levonorgestrel-information

22points

LilliVB 1 year ago

To all the fellow women. Be careful with the day after pill if you are a lot overweight. If you are too heavy, there are good chances that is ineffective or much less effective (https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.ema.europa.eu/en/medicines/human/referrals/emergency-contraceptives&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwiZhfeyoPqAAxUP_rsIHZz5CpU4ChAWegQIBBAC&usg=AOvVaw3fMbfQWC92miaXsGUSqxEs)

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Liz Orreo trex ago go 1 year ago

I was dating a conservative, he said he hated feminists, even though he had a daughter. I said does your daughter go to school, he said yes, I said you are a feminist.He disagreed. I asked him several questions in a row. I said so you think your daughter will be the property of her husband when she gets married, and she should never be allowed to work, and have as many babies as her husband wants and not be allowed to go to the doctor or leave the house without her husband's permission. He said no, of course not, to all of these and I pointed out that all this things are the reality in non feminist countries and were the reality in North America until the women's rights movements. He said I was making that up.I pointed out my mom and us kids were not helped in the 1970s to 1980s when my dad beat us and almost killed my mom because we were considered his property, and he was appalled. The he finally decided he was a feminist.

14points

Tamra 1 year ago

Good job on educating him!

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D. Pitbull 1 year ago

And these are all examples of why I get so disgusted with dudes who get all 'that's not fair!' about 'special rules' for women. One guy recently, just could **NOT** understand that the only reason there are special rules at work is because they're required so that they can simply do the same things that guys don't even think about.... like.. speaking in a meeting - the 'special rule' is that everyone MUST be quiet and listen. Why is there no rules for the guys? Because the guys don't regularly get cut off, interrupted and/or dismissed. They don't even have to THINK that this is a thing that will happen. It is *automatic* that people are quiet and listen when they speak. The guy had no comment about whether he'd even bothered to notice that women were never allowed a say.

11points

John Harrison 1 year ago

"Because the guys don't regularly get cut off, interrupted and/or dismissed." 🙄

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Pamela24 1 year ago

A friend from my debate community was annoyed about precautions that were being put in place to prevent assault of kids (to be fair I do agree the precautions were not the right way to do it). His argument though was "I know this stuff happens but not here, right? No debater would ever do such a thing." The suprise Pikachu face he had on when I told him that I was sexually assaulted in the debate world multiple times was glorious. And note that we are a small community, he knew there's no way he didn't personally meet the attacker. He was very quiet afterward, I think it actually had an impact.

10points

Kar D 1 year ago

After giving birth to no 5, I suffered from "dryness". My husband didnt want to buy the lubricant, because "he was not the one with the issue". I think that was so mean. I'll never pick up anything from the Pharmacy for him ever again.

9points

Tamra 1 year ago

Even better, refuse to have sex with him until he can be a more mature and caring partner.

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Rain Anderson 1 year ago

How about you make him not your husband anymore? No idiot=no issues.

4points

Mell 1 year ago

That's awfull, Kar D! I am sorry your husband isn't more empathatic...

3points

Mis Stake she/her 🇫🇮🇬🇧 1 year ago

Would love to know what country these people live in. I have never worried about most of these things. How are the men in there countries raised to make the women fear them so?

7points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

you are in finland. Most of these posts are from USA users on Reddit

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Alethea Fletcher 1 year ago

I've experienced every one of these, and live in south England. Every single one of my female friends have also experienced male harassment, or worse, since late childhood/early teens. And don't get me started on how little understanding anyone medical has about female pain, endometriosis, or trauma. I could rant for days about it all.

9points

Vul Va 1 year ago

You've got the Finnish flag there and the UK flag there. I've spent time in both countries, I personally did not find it much different in the attitudes of men than what is described in this post. All of which is to say, I don't think it's a problem in a specific country, I think it transcends that - and if that doesn't match your own personal experience, I'd query if your experience is representational of the average of your country; i.e.; maybe you've been lucky (or maybe Finland really has solved the patriarchy and I was just unlucky in my experience there!)

5points

Pink Princess 1 year ago

I haven't either. I guess we both live in good areas

5points

Ample Aardvark 1 year ago

Some countries are better than others in raise boys to respect everyone, but in the majority of the world is like this still

3points

V 1 year ago

Talking with my old flatmates one time, 3 other women and 1 man, and us women were talking about how we walk with our keys in our hands if we're walking home after dark. The guy chips in with "Be careful, you will get done for assault even if someone attacks you first". He struggled to comprehend that risking that was not as bad as risking being r**ed and/or m**dered.

5points

Jared Robinson 1 year ago

Alright, men need to be stopped.

5points

The Blue Spirit 1 year ago

This has been sincerely eye-opening for me. I haven't been a cause of these problems but I definitely never gave the mental effort to really consider just what I bullet I'm dodging without realizing simply by something I don't control (and a bullet *no one should have to dodge* at that). Thank you all you sharing this!

3points

Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 1 year ago

Back when I was figuring out my gender I thought I was a woman and it was terrifying, I realized that meant I would be raped and constantly looked at as inferior, I wish all sexist men could feel that same feeling.

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A.Ham 1 year ago

I once had a full arguing with a professor for asking how his wife was doing (she'd just had a baby and was going through PPD) when he said the vitamins we're working. I was completely clueless...he swore PPD was caused from a chemical imbalance.

2points

DBear 1 year ago

The Female Experience would be a great name for a garage band.

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Lea S. 1 year ago (edited)

I have a good friend from college. He's a kind, smart, gentle giant. One time, a seemingly aggressive group started banging at my door. There was a van full of people with bats. I didn't answer and instead waited fifteen minutes for them to leave. I told my friend up the street what had happened and he popped over to check on me. He was BAFFLED that I didn't just answer the door. Another time I came out of the clinic spooked about a man acting aggressive towards me (my friend had driven me) and he didn't understand why I didn't just act aggressive back. That time the lightbulb came on and he goes...ooohhh...I just realized these experiences are different for you than me. Yes, Matt, you're six and a half feet tall and roughly the size of a door. It's different for most women.

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Ivy at Eve 6 months ago

A msle friend once told me how unsafe he felt after a man was r*ped in the club he frequented... jeez, now idea how that feels....

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H0rny Cl!t Eating Lesbian 1 year ago

And now you wonder why I hate men...

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Michael None 1 year ago

Just once I want to see a post titled "50 Times Women Were Completely Unaware Of The male Experience". Just some equality would be great.

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Momica98 6 months ago

Sarcasm?

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Steph 1 year ago (edited)

I have a feeling this post was commented by women, hating men. I (female, straight and not unattractive) feel safer working in a group of men than with backstabbing women. And I rather have a man walking me through a shady neighborhood than a female friend on high heels and a shirt skirt. I have been harrassed and bullied by more women than men. Please stop generalizing. It is a very tiny minority of vicious humans, a mix of all genders. I guess I have obviously been living in a different world, since of all people I met in the past 50 years, 99.99% were all of fine characters! Thank you, humans! 🙏🏻❤️

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Hyde and Seek 1 year ago

It is literally a man it says this at the bottom of the list. Also It isn't saying all men or most men(which it is by the way) it is saying enough men and yeah we are living in different worlds. I have been harassed since I was 10 by men old enough to pass for my grandfather. Just because you do not experience it doesn't mean that it isn't real.

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Damon 1 year ago

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Vul Va 1 year ago

Too complex for you?

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Vul Va 1 year ago

What about it?

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Becky Samuel 1 year ago

Well apparently having been a victim of crime has turned you into a hateful human being. You want people to live? How about taking your judgemental and vile attitudes and crawling back under your rock?

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Emma S 1 year ago (edited)

47points

Jill Rhodry 1 year ago

Not only previous sexual partners but a previous sexual history with the douche is apparently consent for all the future sex HE wants with you.

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Caro Caro 1 year ago

I once explained to my husband why lots of women walk with holding handbag on the opposite side of curb, with keys in other hand, ready to be attacked. He got very emotional.

28points

Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 1 year ago

I hate reality and the people who ruin it.

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Delta Dawn 1 year ago

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LilliVB 1 year ago

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Liz Orreo trex ago go 1 year ago

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Tamra 1 year ago

Good job on educating him!

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D. Pitbull 1 year ago

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John Harrison 1 year ago

"Because the guys don't regularly get cut off, interrupted and/or dismissed." 🙄

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Pamela24 1 year ago

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Kar D 1 year ago

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Tamra 1 year ago

Even better, refuse to have sex with him until he can be a more mature and caring partner.

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Rain Anderson 1 year ago

How about you make him not your husband anymore? No idiot=no issues.

4points

Mell 1 year ago

That's awfull, Kar D! I am sorry your husband isn't more empathatic...

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Mis Stake she/her 🇫🇮🇬🇧 1 year ago

Would love to know what country these people live in. I have never worried about most of these things. How are the men in there countries raised to make the women fear them so?

7points