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Whether due to a deep lack of education or falling prey to misinformation and pseudo-science, some people are completely out of touch with reality. Specifically, some guys have no idea what it’s like to be a woman. And they have some really strange misconceptions that sound even more bizarre when said aloud.

One Reddit user, u/astandre1, turned to the women of the r/AskWomen online community with a very important question. She wanted to hear the most shocking casual things that other redditors have heard that showed just how out of touch some guys were with the female experience. Scroll down for their stories and get ready to facepalm a lot. 

Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral thread, and she was kind enough to answer our questions. You'll find our full interview with redditor u/astandre1 below.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Co worker and I were at a Mexican restaurant during lunch midweek. Which made it mostly men and me and the waitresses. My co-worker was having a " not all men" moment while I listened patiently. When he finally took a breath i said " OK, sure. Do me a favor. Look around and tell me which one I'm SUPPOSED to be scared of? " He looked surprised then looked around before answering "how should I know??" I just smiled and said "exactly" I actually saw the light bulb click on in his head

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I don't think a single man could ever answer that question in a random crowd.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My brother thinks all women should wear a hijab because then they won't get catcalled/r***ed by men... EVEN IF that were true, it shouldn't be up to women to change their appearance so that men can keep their hands to themselves!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I trained my dog not to touch raw steak on the floor without permission. Men have less self-control than dogs, is that what they're saying?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was explaining that when hiking alone, if theres a box to sign the trail ledger I always look to see who else is on the trail for safety and I mark my nickname, which is male sounding rather than my female name and they were like, “wait, so that if you hurt yourself there’s people around to help?”

No Jerry because even in the middle of the woods I’m still more statistically likely to get attacked by a man than a bear.

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In my country it is recommended to sign in case something happens so mountain rescue service has more clues where to search for you.

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We were very curious to learn about the inspiration behind the question on r/AskWomen, and the author of the thread was kind enough to tell us all about it.

"The thing that first brought up the question is a discussion I had with my partner over different experiences the opposite sex seems to be entirely unaware of," she shared.

"They were reading a post about how one man was uncomfortable with a woman applying a little makeup in an all-gendered bathroom to the point that he was avoiding that bathroom. It really showed me how out of touch a lot of people are with what most women go through on a daily basis," the OP explained to Bored Panda, adding that she also posed the same question on r/AskMen and thought that it was "a really solid comparison side by side."
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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience While on vacation with my SO, I commented on how f****d up it is that I automatically brace myself anytime a man walks behind me while we were drinking at a bar. He honestly didn't know what I meant, and so I told him about all the times someone had treated my body as a free-for-all when I was out. It kind of shocked me that he wasn't aware of this, as he had worked security for bars for years.

A couple of years later he came home from work one night and told me he'd spotted a guy grabbing a woman's a*s in passing. He promptly took the guy outside, gave him a lecture and refused to let him back in. Later on he was relaying this to a bouncer at another bar, the same guy comes up with his friends, and my SO promptly refused him access to that bar as well.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My 50 y/o male co-worker invited me (31F) to attend a salsa party with him.

I told him that I generally don’t go to places with a lot of men under the influence of alcohol without my fiancée because I don’t want to be dr*gged or SA’d.
He then asked me how I could be so arrogant to assume random men would be so interested in me that they’d go to these lengths to get with me.

When I responded: ‘I’ve had that happen to me more than once and I don’t want to go through that again’, he started asking me invasive questions about the incidents to determine if HE’d consider the things that happened to me assault.

I hit back with the most graphic trauma-dump of what happened to me and made him so uncomfortable that he had to step out for a bit.

He did end up apologizing for his behavior and we now just generally ignore each other.

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You never owed him a reason to not attend with him but also I love that you put him in his place.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience One of my male doctors recently told me " you're 29 not 19 anymore" to explain my symptoms of extreme pain and fatigue among other things. Spoke to a female doctor next, She suspects it's fibromyalgia.

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We should normalize just taking patient concerns about their own health seriously. Like do your effing job Dr AHole.

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Meanwhile, we were interested in getting the Reddit user's take as to why so many guys seem to have a very warped understanding of the female experience.

"I think men have plenty of misconceptions about women because unless you go through the biological changes and experience the culture around women, it’s truly impossible to understand," u/astandre1 said.

"There’s so much that goes on and there’s so much more depth behind each action and perspective than what most men assume."
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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My ex-bf was convinced that if a woman miscarried a child, it was because she didn't truly want it on some deep down level. I still get so mad thinking back to that moment.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Once a man said, “isn’t it hilarious when the Uber driver has to wake you up when they drop you off?”

And I said, “yeah I don’t know of any woman who thinks falling asleep in an Uber is ever an option.”

He said, “oh wow never thought about that”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah yes I'll have a nice nap what could go wrong 🤦🏼‍♀️

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience “Why did it suddenly have to be because of a man?” My boyfriend’s response to me being mad that a co-worker dismissed the same idea from her entire team (all women), our boss (a woman), myself (a woman) yet accepted it as gospel from the first male who said the exact same thing directly after I said it. My response was telling him what happened and him saying, “maybe she just needed to hear it four or five times, or the way he said it, or maybe just maybe she needed it said in a less b****y tone”.

No, no sir woman everywhere get their ideas dismissed then when men repeat those ideas they are accepted. It happens ALL THE TIME!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can confirm, as a man. I don't know how many times I've said to a male coworker, something like "Yeah, that's a great idea Bob, and it was great when Alice said it less than a minute ago."

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Meanwhile, the redditor shared her thoughts on what guys could do if they're feeling shy or embarrassed to learn more about women's issues.

"The easiest way for a lot of men to learn is strictly by asking. If you’re too shy to ask, then dive deeper into some posts by women and read through the comments. Do NOT rely on the info in male-dominated subreddits," Reddit user u/astandre1 suggested.

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"Women are very complex creatures and one size does not fit all, but many women are very open about their experiences and they often appreciate when others try to be respectful and understanding of their experience."
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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I always talk about how I love the city at night and how I wish I could take midnight walks. A dear friend said "why don't you?" and when I pointed out how dangerous it was his reply was "just don't take your phone, then you don't have to worry about being robbed!" :D

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience i asked to go to the bathroom at school and the teacher said no. i told him i was on my period and “no” was not an option. this DUDE told me to f*****g hold it. “yOu CaN hOlD iT tIlL cLaSs Is OvEr” SIR that’s not how that works. i just left lmao but like??? seriously?? dude was married too… his poor wife

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was once on the phone with my husband as I visited a gas station, at night. I had to go into the convenience store, and I don’t remember why but I said something about locking my car doors on the way in.

Him: “You lock the car doors just to run into the convenience store?”
Me: “Yeah…?”
Him: “Are you leaving your purse in the car or something?”
Me: “No…I lock them so I don’t have to worry about some guy slipping into the backseat and hiding while I’m gone.”

He was shocked that I do that. He said he’d literally never thought such a thing in his life.

Sigh…

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This isn’t to say that all guys are ignorant or that only men can have these sorts of misconceptions about important but basic questions. There are plenty of well-educated, supportive men out there. And gender has nothing to do with a person’s unwillingness to educate themselves and be more empathetic.

However, this doesn’t change the fact that there are many issues that plague women in the world today. And guys getting better education about female anatomy and women’s issues could be the first step toward solving these problems. Living in a bubble of ignorance is no way to go through life.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was in a crowded area near my family, holding a drink. I asked my mom to keep an eye on my drink for me. My dad blurts out, “do you really think someone is going to steal it?” Smh.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Oh I have a doozey, the other day I was chatting with a male acquaintance and he was talking about his female housemate and how she dressed. His words were "she's got a large chest and she wears these low cut dresses, shes got to expect men to come up and say hello" he went on to say a few more things that basically equated to 'if you dress a certain way you get treated a certain way.
My jaw dropped, had to explain to him how having a cleavage doesn't give anyone the right to do or say anything and how men need to control themselves. Explaining to a fully grown man that a piece of clothing is not consent and them being surprised by that in this day and age is just freaking shocking

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is that men are never taught to control themselves? Why is this not a thing?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My ex genuinely thought our kids were all boys because they were planned and wanted.

Apparently unwanted or unplanned pregnancies are always girls.

Go figure.

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The United Nations notes that one in three women will experience violence in their lifetime. However, since the Covid-19 pandemic, violence, especially domestic violence, has intensified.

“At home, survivors of domestic violence may be trapped with their abuser, with limited access to support services, healthcare and justice systems. And in public, women are at heightened risks of violence navigating deserted public spaces and transportation,” UN Women explains.

Another glaring issue is the gender pay gap. One area where it’s especially prominent is the health workforce, standing at around 28 percent. The UN points out that once occupation and working hours are accounted for, the gender pay gap is around 11 percent. 
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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My brother legitimately thought women could walk into an obgyn to get a hysterectomy whenever we want if we don't want kids. Lmao

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is mildly wholesome because he thought we all had body autonomy.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That my breasts “weren’t that big” when I was talking about getting a reduction. Dude, you don’t get to decide what is “too big”.

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Right? They're not the one that has to carry them around all day.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I told two friends (a husband and wife) about catching a plumber looking through my dresser drawer. They both looked aghast, and then the guy said "I hate it when people touch my stuff! Like, somebody at work moved my lunch and I got super upset."

The look the wife and I shared said a thousand words.

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In some parts of the world, women and girls also have less access to education and technology. Meanwhile, in many places, even working women are still expected to do the lion’s share of the housework and childcare. Not only that, they have to deal with period poverty and stigma.

“In some parts of the world, they are seen as dirty, untouchable, or a disgrace. Whether it’s a lack of money to buy pads, tampons, or other products, access to toilets, or discriminatory laws and practices, women and girls, especially the world’s poorest, are deeply impacted by their periods,” the UN explains.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience When I was talking to my family about how r***s are happening more often in our country, being 71,6% of them of girls under 13, my stepdad said "but today girls that age are very promiscuous, wearing inappropriate clothes and offering themselves to men" I was baffled and so angry I just said "have you ever been in touch with a kid that age? it's literally a child, that's horrible to say" but I just wanted to cuss him out

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PROJECTION! He's a rapist apologist because he thinks 13yo girls are attractive. WTAF?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Often appreciate him, but Biden was talking about the dangers that black men face - a totally valid issue. But he said, incredulously, heartfelt, "Can you imagine not feeling safe walking down the street?!?" Sir, have you ever met a woman?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My cousin, who didn't grow up near livestock or barn cats or guard dogs and isn't a woman, tried to tell me that human women experience pain during childbirth because of Eve's original sin, but that animals do not. I, who DID grow up near livestock and barn cats and guard dogs and am myself a woman who has given birth, pointed the aforementioned life experiences out and laughed in his face. Ever seen a mama cow push a calf out? She definitely feels that s**t.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cats often purr when giving birth, not because they're enjoying it, but because it's a self-soothing mechanism.

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Guys who embrace a healthy understanding of masculinity are more aware of women's issues and more open to having their own values and views challenged. They're also much more in tune with their emotions, choosing open and honest communication instead of repressing their feelings like someone who follow toxic masculine values might do.
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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Went on a date with a guy in the medical field. He told me that because mitosis (the process of cells separating) is an involuntary process, growing and birthing a baby really isn’t that much effort for women. He also believed that women and men put in the same amount of effort for the birthing of a child.

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By "in the medical field" I hope he meant that he was the janitor at a doctors office, as that's all he's qualified to do.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Toward the end of what had been up to that point a very positive job interview (he was actually offering me the job), “well I’m glad to hear you just got married so you don’t have to support yourself. I can offer you $x for the position.” I told him I wasn’t taking a pay cut to work for him.

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"Actually, I'll need at least $ 2x before I can make the move, because I'm now supporting a stay at home husband." and watch his tiny head explode.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Several male friends have asked me recently why I will only go running when it's light out. They are also very confused by why I don't have earphones in when I go hiking.

It's not so much the confusion that bothers me, it's when I explain but they really just don't get it. I am met with disbelief.

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Who wears earphones while hiking? Half the fun of hiking is the quiet and the nature sounds

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I was telling a male friend of mine about how I was in an elevator and this creepy guy got on and how uncomfortable I was. My friend then just loudly exclaimed "OMG you're not the raving beauty that you think you are!".

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SA isn't about looks or sex, it's about power and control.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My dad said, in reference to the scene in Barbie where her a*s is slapped at the beach, that no man does that/no woman has that done to them, and that it was a major over-exaggeration. I had to leave the room I was so deeply angry.

He has witnessed me being verbally sexually harassed since I was 12.

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I'm a homosexual man and random guys have slapped MY a*s. Some men just don't understand or willingly refuse to understand boundaries. People need to understand that predatory men exist in all forms of sexuality.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience It wasn’t recently said, but i recently heard it. The first episode of Seinfeld, he does a bit about how ridiculous it is that laundry detergent is advertised as able to get blood out of clothes. He goes on and on about how it’s for serial killers. Like only serial killers ever get blood on their clothes.

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I remember thinking that joke was really funny and just never put two and two together.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My partner said looking after a baby all day was "easy"

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Was being chatted up by two American guys and I brought up the overturning of Roe v Wade. Their response? It’s not really a big deal because women can just drive over state lines to get an abortion….

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Look at the new laws in IDAHO. They are calling doctors who do abortions like that "Accomplices". Anyone who drives someone over the border is an accomplice. If you mail abortion pills across the border you are an accomplice and they will prosecute you with PRISON TIME. I really hate Idaho. Mainly because I'm from Oregon and I've had to deal with those backwards paste eating, mayo sucking, Aryan Nation misogynists my whole life.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I wanted to take plan B after having unprotected sex and he said "why don't we discuss that in a few weeks ?"

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Was on tinder looking for something causal. Started messaging a guy and he asked me "So, do you live alone?"

I told him how murdery that question sounded and that if he wants to get laid he should refrain from asking that, but I was pretty sure he wasn't a murderer.

His mind was blown. He really did just want to know if we could meet up at my place since he had flatmates, but he had no idea how predatory the question would sound.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why did that question immediately make me think of the phone call in Scream?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience "Are lady pilots allowed??" - from a 32 year old man. My jaw hit the floor.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience When I told my ex that I have my period for about 7 days (the last 2-3 very light bleeding). He told me to go to the doctor about that because 7 days are just too long.

He just didn't want to wait 7 days until I was ready to have sex again.

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So he only values you when you are available to him.

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I had one friend that was 34 but only had male friends. He felt comfortable enough to ask me how periods work- if we can bleed for only one hour of the day and how we end up deciding what hour of the day to experience the period for…. As though we have control over it. Yes, at least he was trying to get educated but also holy smokes.

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Shame that blokes have to rely on their female friends or partners to explain to them female biology. Where are the parents and teachers doing this in sex ed? In school, I was the only girl in my friendship group, so I was the one who had to answer all the questions and explain it all - I didn't mind though.

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When my partner said to me that I didn’t need to worry about our drunk, belligerent neighbor who trespassed, called me a b***h, and burned our neighbors barn down if I was home alone all weekend cause “he’s harmless”. Babe..maybe for you but that’s not my experience as a female in this world. 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

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The dude burned someone's barn down. How is he harmless, exactly??

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A light hearted one, but I was pretty surprised when men in the office began claiming the women’s bathroom was very fancy strictly because we had a box of tampons.

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My boss got real excited to share his discovery of close parking spots to our workplace that is always available. The secret spot? In a dark alleyway. I unfortunately had to inform him that as a woman there is no way I could ever do that safely. He paused and it was like a lightbulb went off in his head, like he got a true glimpse of how we live in two different worlds.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience An ex boyfriend told me that women needed to wash the inside of their v****as because “that’s were pee comes from. There are only two holes, the vagina and the a**s, right ?” My jaw dropped. We were 20+, both in university. Another dude I was seeing told me that “women exaggerate a lot on the catcalling/street harassment thing. It must happen at most, what, once or twice a year?”. I told him it happened every week. Sometimes everyday of the week. Especially in summer. He couldn’t believe it and said “wow that must be because you’re pretty. There’s no way it happens that often”. My brains BROKE.

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One time I got up a little too fast while getting something from under a table and hit my boobs while on the way up. My friend panicked and he immediately asked if we needed to go to the emergency room to get checked out. I said no and asked why he thought so.

He thought my breasts would explode and my nipple would fall off to allow the gallons of milk I store to seep out😐all I did in the 10 minutes after he told me that was blink.

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He phrased it rather more graphically, so this is the cleaned up gist:

“Surely there must be times when a woman is attacked and just tells the guy to put the knife down because she’s up for it anyway”

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Had a conversation with a troll in some forum. His gist was, "Well, when presented with a choice -- a knife or a d**k, pretty much every woman would choose a d**k, so don't tell me about 'trauma'!" I responded with, "Yes, and so would you. You would choose a d**k over a knife in less than 2 seconds if presented with such a choice." He got very angry and upset for some reason 🤷‍♀️

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Pants sizing. I was talking to a male coworker and somehow it came up that women's clothing sizes are whack. I think I was griping about inconsistent sizing. I mentioned how I wish I could buy pants by the waist and length (like how men's are sized). He asked '"Well why don't you?". "Because women's pants aren't labeled like that". "Well why don't you just get ones that are?". "Because men's pants are sized like that, not women's ". "Why don't you just buy men's?". "They don't fit me right...."So why don't you buy women's?". "I do, that's the whole point. I wish they were sized in a way that made sense, and not just some arbitrary numbers. I'm different sizes in different brands". He just couldn't understand that women's pants are cut differently, and that just buying men's pants wouldn't work for me.

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My husband thought I was making it up when I said this, until we went shopping for jeans one day. He just went out and picked up a few pairs without trying them on and then met me in the women's section. I had picked out several brand with my "size", then a pair above and one below it and he asked "why do you need so many pairs? Don't they have the size on them?" The lady in charge of the dressing rooms just laughed at him and said it was as hard to find jeans that fit as it is a bra. He's never brought it up since then. lol

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My friend said that women don’t grow facial hair, so I had to explain how often I needed to wax my mustache.

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I wish the obsession with facial and body hair would just go away, and people could feel comfortable with their own bodies and hair.

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When I was 19 I worked in a Frozen Yogurt shop and a rush of young kids would come in everyday after school and it was absolute pandemonium. One of these afternoons I was ringing up an older guy (maybe 70's) and he said "It's a good thing you're a woman. You're more equipped for this kind of thing than a man. Your natural instincts make it easy." I just looked at him and said "That's not really how it works. Have a nice day."

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"I don't think I need to breastfeed them, but thanks for that comment."

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I was telling this guy about my friend who is lacking support in her marriage and he said “how could he support her? He’s working.” And I was like “she’s working too?” And he just couldn’t compute

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I know too many husbands (of friends) who think that they go to work then get to come home and do whatever they want. No housework, helping with kids or even listening to her talk. One in particular gets upset if she's being too noisy while doing housework... "stop clanking the dishes while you're washing them I'm trying to hear the TV!" It is infuriating to see. And yes, the wives work too.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A male friend genuinely asked if feminism was 'still a thing.'

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Feminism will remain as long as misogyny does. We need it to remain as long as misogyny does

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‘We didn’t discuss it but she doesn’t need an epidural’

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Just go ahead and chop it off. You won't be needing it anymore.

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience My dad somehow went almost 60 years completely unaware that public bathrooms often have lines because he's never had to wait in one.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did he just think all the women of his family did coke when they referred to" the line in the bathroom" or did he never listen when they came back explaining why it took so long?

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50 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I got my period while hanging out with my then boyfriend. He said, “why can’t you just use a q-tip?”

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My work place offers 6 months of maternity leave or 12 months at half pay. Had a male coworker tell me that was unfair because a woman could "pop out a kid per year for 3 years and it would count as a 3 years experience on her resumè"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure, let's have a child we have to take care of for at least 18 years, so we can list an extra year of experience on the resume. That'll pay off!!! /s

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My younger brother tried to mansplain how to deal with endo bloat to me once lmao

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When I vented to a coworker about a terrible experience being cat-called while on a walk during Covid. His response was that I should take it as a compliment.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wanna bet if these men would take such a thing as a compliment if a gay man did it to them?

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While I was telling my ex about women feeling like a prey in public places or even in their own house. He looked at me, and said :
" Wtf no one is hunting you, but I get it, I am also afraid walking down the street and being mugged"
I was just like "You didn’t talk with a lot of women or they just didn’t tell you because they don’t trust you"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being mugged is the LEAST of a women's fears while alone or out in public.

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“Just tell him no, or you’re not interested”

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I had to explain to my father why I prefer to take a packed bus at midnight over taking a taxi. That was kinda sad because it was my dad but he genuinely had no clue.

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I suppose this depends a bit on where you live. In the past, I opted for taxis instead of public transit after a guy on the tram started following me one night. But back then, taxis in our city were strictly regulated and you could trust them. That is no longer the case, and I no longer take taxis off the street even in the middle of the day. I feel that the apps make it relatively safe, though.

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My brother, in all seriousness, informed me that “men don’t exactly speak nicely about women when they aren’t around” like this was supposed to be some huge revelation. I was so shocked because as a woman, it’s very clear to know this just because of how men treat women everyday… but my brother really thought that I wouldn’t ever think that.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brother told me this as well🤣 "yeah, no kidding. And some do a lot worse then talk when they are with the women too. " I was 14 and he was shocked

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My dad was trying to explain to me why he disagrees with allowing LGBTQ+ in the military. He said "can you imagine sharing a foxhole with someone and knowing he wants to be inside you?"

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I always find hetero-guys' conviction that every gay person they meet would automatically want to jump them right then and there, fascinating. Uh, sir, don't flatter yourself! Just because someone is attracted to the same sex, doesn't mean they are attracted to YOU /eye roll

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Back when I was dating my husband, we were talking about timing for having kids. He mentioned that he wanted to wait a certain length of time before having kids. I explained that, with the number of kids we were interested in having (4 or 5), the age I was going to be when we were likely to get married, and when I would start becoming less fertile, that timeline wouldn't work. He'd always thought about the timing of having kids in terms of when he wanted them, and never thought about how he would be limited by his partner's biological clock. (To be fair, he was raised in religious all-boys boarding schools for a good portion of his life, and this is the kind of thing that literally never came up. I don't blame him for not thinking of everything on his own, and he's done a good job of catching up.)

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My partner recently used Scarlett johanson making 60 mil per movie as an example why the gender pay gap didn’t exist

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Meanwhile, her male costars make 70 mil per movie. Your partner isn't too swift.

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“Men have always had it harder than women”.

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"Women keep saying that they're scared going out on dates, but men have just as much to worry about". My male friend said this after getting scammed on a date like maybe 2 years ago. Apparently never recovered.

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Men are afraid that women will scam them. Women are afraid that men will murder them.

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I remember my sister telling me that at uni she had to translate a book where a guy was talking about how women get period pains because subconsciously their body is crying for not being impregnated.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, it does happen because the egg wasn't fertilized, but it's not a sign of sadness for the body. As if an uterus had a brain, lol

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My colleague (to be fair, he is gay) thought the cervix was a large tunnel you could reach through (in normal non-labor times).

He also thought women had no feeling at all in their vaginas and solely got sexual pleasure from the clitoris.

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At least he knew about the clitoris. Not that the knowledge would do him much good LOL.

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A guy on Reddit recently said that we only body shame men and not women.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right, because for women, it's not bodyshaming but some helpful advice /s

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I had some guy really try and insist that women are lucky because they can use their power of seduction over men....

seemed pretty weird to me that he was so firm on that idea.

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What annoys me as a woman is there are women who legitimately think this is part of their woman power. Aided and abetted by the fashion and cosmetic industries with product names like: obsession, lust, flirt, desire…..

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Someone told me that giving birth is easy and only takes a few minutes and thats it

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He saw a "birth" on tv once and it took 30 seconds of screen time.

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Me: *lists several other factors that might impact a situation*

Me: "...and also, maybe gender could have had a bit of an impact?"

Man: "No."

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I said I was pregnant and two guy friends asked me if I was going to take plan b.

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"Periods are unhygienic."

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To add context, I'm a trans woman who still dresses like a dude most the time.

For a while now, I've had both male friends and my boyfriend trying to convince me to "dress more feminine" and to "just be myself." They don't understand that I pretend to be a guy for safety reasons, because so much as a feminine jacket can be enough to move me over into female territory as far as strangers are concerned. The worst experience I've had was someone trying to kidnap me (thankfully in a stupidly ineffective way), but if I'm wearing baggy guy clothes, I can throw my voice deep enough to convince people I'm just a feminine guy.

Think my boyfriend is starting to get it, but said male friends do not.

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So a couple years ago my SO told me he didn't want more kids (I don't have any, he does) and the next morning I was server for a baby shower at work. It was obviously kind of a rough morning and my boss genuinely tried to comfort me with the insistence that: 1. Men never really mean that kind of thing, they can always be convinced and 2. It wouldn't be all that hard for me to be a mom and have the life I want.


I want (and do) own a distillery now. I want (eventually) to take months in the summer to backpack through Europe learing more about distillation. He genuinely didn't see how being a mother would impact any of that. Like, some people do it for sure, but I don't think any of *them* would say it's no big deal to balance motherhood, entrepreneurship, and working in the alcohol industry

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On a side note if one person in a relationship wants children and the other doesn't, then it's best to accept that and move on. Don't wait around hoping they'll change their mind. Or even worse, to go ahead and have a baby that only one person actually wants.

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My husband's bf told him that plan B pill is for abortion and he carried that belief to our relationahip till I corrected him.

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Happend yesterday at a friends party:

Friend (male) comes later to the party and hosts introduce him to a female colleague of them. The first thing he (the male out of touch friend) said to a woman who has never heard of him:

-Said without emotion or kindness-

„You don’t look like this on your WhatsApp picture.“-

And then continues with the other guests.

Obviously someone showed him a picture of her. But he not even thought about that she doesn’t know.

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Didn't happen to me but I know a lady who got pregnant. She never wanted it but her husband did and he now convinced her to carry it out and she feels so bad and sick and says feeling it moving is really disgusting for her. He now tries to get her to do therapy á la "talk about it, eat two smarties, you'll feel fine"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so sorry for her, for the kid (if she goed through with this) but also for the husband. Clearly they don't have the same goals in life. Everybody is loosing here...

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idk if this counts but some guys ik asked why we need international womens day

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as a woman, I also don't approve of this anniversary... it's hypocritical, it's full of empty words, because they are said that day and then nothing concrete is done to improve the situation.

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My husband sees clearly edited photos (I am talking almost cartoonish) and thinks: yup that makes sense.

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