Navigating breakups is one hell of a job nobody signed up for. And when you almost start moving on with your life, slowly regaining the joy and confidence of being a singleton, ready to smash those Tinder dates, a message pops up… “Hey, can we talk?”
And no matter how many times your friends have told you it’s a bad, very bad idea to engage in ex-texting, the temptation to respond is still there. And sometimes, it’s you who makes that first ‘long time no see’ text to your ex. In both cases, the results of texting your ex have been very well documented in a self-described “unspirational” Instagram account titled “Texts From Your Ex.”
From savage shut-downs to hilarious revelations, and anything in between, you can see why the account is followed by a whopping 2.4M followers. So scroll through the ex craziness, be sure to share your experiences in the comments and after you're done, part 1 awaits right here.
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This Is The Correct Answer
We All Communicate Differently I Guess
Something tells me the "f**cking everybody" part was also happening before the break up.
Not The Response He Was Looking For Clearly
To find out more about navigating the complicated world of texting with an ex, Bored Panda reached out to James Preece, a leading dating coach for Dating Agency Reviews and relationship expert. Over ten years' experience working in the dating and relationship industry, James has helped thousands of singles through personal coaching and events.
“Texting your ex is rarely a great idea unless it's a special time like a birthday,” James said and added that in that case, “that's perfectly OK as you won't be the only one reaching out to them that day.”
Perfect Way To Start The New Year
No
Enough Said
However, if it's not a general goodwill greeting, then James advises you to think carefully before you send it. “Do you really want to open an old wound? You might have decided that you want to be friends, but that can often lead to misunderstandings. How is a new partner going to feel when they discover that you want to spend time talking (in person or by text) with someone you loved in your past?”James explained that it's usually better to move on and focus on finding someone who makes you happier.
The Feelings Are Not Mutual My Good Bro
Ice F***in’ Cold
Thank U, Next
Having said that, the dating coach added that it's quite common for an ex to reach out to you a while after your breakup. “While this is clear evidence that you are on their mind, it's wise not to jump to the conclusion that they are trying to get back with you. While that is a possible reason, it could just be that they miss you and are wondering how you are. Perhaps they wanted to clear the air or something reminded them of you. Quite often it's just because they are bored and have nobody else exciting to talk to.” James added that you deserve much more than that.
Dude It’s The Middle Of The Day, Relax
When Your Ex Forgets That You Don’t Talk To Each Other Anymore
Hey, you are a baby, too. Someone needs to change your diaper, 'cause you're full of sh*t.
When You Block Them Everywhere And They Try To Slide In On Linkedin
On the other hand, “if you are both still single and didn't break up under bad terms such as infidelity, there's a chance that it might resolve some issues. The very fact you are back in communication is a positive step.”
“However, it requires a lot more work from both sides,” James assured and added that if you both want to move forward, a phone conversation followed by a real life meeting is essential. “That's the only way that you can really see and hear what they are thinking. It's easy to hide behind a text,” the dating coach concluded.
Who Else Out There Has A “Holiday Text Ex” ????
Gentlemen, Do Not Put Your Exes On A Group Chat
Hahah Hahahah
If At First You Don’t Succeed
Many Accidents Over And Over Again Obviously
Sometimes You Just Gotta Get It Off Your Chest I Guess
You Had One Job
You Are Now Officially On The Naughty List
Lol
Again, Gents, Try A Bit Harder With Those Hellos
"Little did she know her husband mysteriously disappeared on his business trip in the Caribbeans. She was yet to receive the bad news from the police. See how things unfolded in the next episode of "Things that did not happen", tonight at 20:00. "
Pick A Lane
Alexa Show Me The Cringiest Text Of The Year
Happy Mother’s Day Y’all
And Back To Our Regularly Scheduled Programming
Oh. Well Then
Some Exes Communicate Only Through Song Titles
The End Of An Era… Probably
B***h Get Your Own Account
And Here We Are
In different circumstances, this might work…for those still in the relationship.
Fellas If You’re Lucky Enough To Get This Nice A Rejection Just Take The L And Move On
Might’ve Worked Better Without The First Line
Not Great IMHO
Savage
Time To Block This Number
Seems To Be Going Well
Hot Tip: Don’t Use Your Exes To Fundraise
Still Living Rent Free In Your Head I See
But why don't these people just block 'em right after the breakup? Honest Question...
Breaking up with someone does not necessarily mean that you don't ever want to talk to that person again. There is a gape between "I think I don't love you anymore" and "f**k off you crazy bitch I don't ever want to see you again or I'll call the police"
Load More Replies...I don't know why anyone responds to their ex's texts. Just block them and move on...... nothing good every comes from speaking to the ex!
I agree to a point. I would not say nothing good "ever" comes from it. Sometimes it depends totally on your situation. I would not be happily married and have my daughter if that were the case. My husband and I were together for a year in college, we kept in touch periodically...then we reunited about 7 years later at an event we both attended. We started talking again, which turned into hanging out again, which turned into being back together. Our 8 year wedding anniversary will be October 29th. So, while your advice can be good, sometimes if you let them go...they come back, and they come back better. Not all breakups are hostile and not all ex's bad news.
Load More Replies...Ok so this is an honest question, Why do all of these messages seem to be from Men...?
They can't all be from men. Women can be just as toxic after breaking up and do stupid crap like this.
Load More Replies...My ex stalked me and ran me off the road with my kids in the car. Some relationships are just toxic. Some just dont want to accept the break up. And some are just f***ing crazy!
Attempting to murder you and your children is a little bit more serious than some creepy texts... I really hope you got the police involved.
Load More Replies...Makes me think of my ex. He started hiding in my garden at night sometimes after we broke up to spy on me. Not so long go he got caught again, this time by my current beau. Sent me a text a few days later suggesting we "have some fun together".
Hiding in your garden at night are nice words for stalking. The police should be brought into situations like that.
Load More Replies...I really feel like a lot of these r my ex chandler.....always on some b.s lol
I had more than one Brad in my phone and I accidentally texted the wrong Brad, the ex who sometimes would randomly text me for a hookup. He replied days later (after I realized my mistake) and I straight up said I was engaged, I accidentally messaged him and I deleted his number now he should do the same. He replied he just wanted phone sex but congrats for me. smh
kinda sad. like all woman thinks that all mens who talk to them wants to get in their pants.
It's because, sometimes it's true. Have you ever walked home with a friend because someone was following you? Have you ever almost called the police because a guy was sending death threats because he wanted a toy? Have you ever had a panic attack because one creep was using very, very disturbing 'pick up lines' on you? It's impossible to know whether someone is being nice or wants something from you these days.
Load More Replies...Why do you assume it is? You should question yourself.
Load More Replies...But why don't these people just block 'em right after the breakup? Honest Question...
Breaking up with someone does not necessarily mean that you don't ever want to talk to that person again. There is a gape between "I think I don't love you anymore" and "f**k off you crazy bitch I don't ever want to see you again or I'll call the police"
Load More Replies...I don't know why anyone responds to their ex's texts. Just block them and move on...... nothing good every comes from speaking to the ex!
I agree to a point. I would not say nothing good "ever" comes from it. Sometimes it depends totally on your situation. I would not be happily married and have my daughter if that were the case. My husband and I were together for a year in college, we kept in touch periodically...then we reunited about 7 years later at an event we both attended. We started talking again, which turned into hanging out again, which turned into being back together. Our 8 year wedding anniversary will be October 29th. So, while your advice can be good, sometimes if you let them go...they come back, and they come back better. Not all breakups are hostile and not all ex's bad news.
Load More Replies...Ok so this is an honest question, Why do all of these messages seem to be from Men...?
They can't all be from men. Women can be just as toxic after breaking up and do stupid crap like this.
Load More Replies...My ex stalked me and ran me off the road with my kids in the car. Some relationships are just toxic. Some just dont want to accept the break up. And some are just f***ing crazy!
Attempting to murder you and your children is a little bit more serious than some creepy texts... I really hope you got the police involved.
Load More Replies...Makes me think of my ex. He started hiding in my garden at night sometimes after we broke up to spy on me. Not so long go he got caught again, this time by my current beau. Sent me a text a few days later suggesting we "have some fun together".
Hiding in your garden at night are nice words for stalking. The police should be brought into situations like that.
Load More Replies...I really feel like a lot of these r my ex chandler.....always on some b.s lol
I had more than one Brad in my phone and I accidentally texted the wrong Brad, the ex who sometimes would randomly text me for a hookup. He replied days later (after I realized my mistake) and I straight up said I was engaged, I accidentally messaged him and I deleted his number now he should do the same. He replied he just wanted phone sex but congrats for me. smh
kinda sad. like all woman thinks that all mens who talk to them wants to get in their pants.
It's because, sometimes it's true. Have you ever walked home with a friend because someone was following you? Have you ever almost called the police because a guy was sending death threats because he wanted a toy? Have you ever had a panic attack because one creep was using very, very disturbing 'pick up lines' on you? It's impossible to know whether someone is being nice or wants something from you these days.
Load More Replies...Why do you assume it is? You should question yourself.
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