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30 Times People Noticed Something Was Off About Their Friend’s Significant Other And Were Proven To Be Right Later
Very few things can make you as thrilled to bits as those early days of a new relationship. You get stirred up by the idea of love. You feel like walking in a fog of bliss and can’t stop thinking about the person. But an apparent match made in heaven can potentially cloud your judgment and make you ignore or miss the bright red flags waving directly at your face.
Luckily, seriously negative behaviors are obvious-looking from afar. And if relationship warning signs somehow go over your head, friends and family members are on a mission to keep an eye on things. So Redditor Nameshavebeenaltered decided to reach out to these attentive people to ask about the moment they realized there was something off about a loved one’s SO.
Thousands of members of the Ask Reddit community flooded the thread with responses about how their gut instinct proved to be right. From less-than-pleasant girlfriends with a taste for threats to boyfriends shamelessly lampooning their partners for everyone to hear, Bored Panda has picked out some of the worst relationship horror stories from an outside perspective. Continue scrolling and be sure to share with us what you think about them in the comment section below.
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#1
Whenever she would be having fun, he would pull her to the side and whisper lecture her about how she looked stupid. For dancing, laughing too loud, s**t like that.
Spoiler: Six years later and the divorce is finally underway!
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
It’s upsetting that it took 6 whole years for the relationship to end
Bexx 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦 3 years ago
As someone who has been on the other end of a relationship that was past due - at least it’s over now! Can we stop bringing attention to the fact that it’s long overdue? Yay it’s over!
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Ange Marsden 3 years ago
My ex husband used to do that. He'd tell me Noone wants to hear what I have to say so if anyone I met asked me anything I'd clam up or he'd squeeze my knee so hard I'd get bruises
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
What a nightmare for that woman. I hope her confidence and self esteem recover ❤️
Leoninus Fate 3 years ago
my brother would do that to me and my sister, to the point where my sister and I wouldn't go out or talk
Bruno Madrigal 3 years ago
I know sometimes I can go overboard, but I can tell you from experience the people doing the whispering and trying to 'make you act right' are just miserable. They want you to be miserable too.
ScarletBear 3 years ago
Eerily similar to the story of myself and my (almost) ex-husband. Same timeline as well!
Larissa Smith 3 years ago
Wow, talk about mental abuse!!!!! His parents sure did a number on him.
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#2
He called her because the baby woke up and the baby is her responsibility. He went off about how she wanted the baby so it's not fair that he has to wake up and change a diaper. It was her first night out in months and he wanted her to come home to change a diaper. She hung up on him.
Anna Tribe 3 years ago
Sounds like my son in law. My daughter had two kids with him at the time and for the first time her work colleagues invited her for a party. Of course he refused to take care of their two kids and instead I took them. She wasn't home by 11pm so he started blowing up my phone because she wasn't answering hers and mine was on silent so didn't answer. By midnight he was out in his car driving around the neighbourhood she was in at the party and even called the police to report her missing. She arrived home around 1am and her phone had run out of battery and she hadn't realised. Let's just say she has never been allowed to go to a work event ever again.. She knows my feelings about him and sadly had another baby with him. I just wish she would leave him. He is a useless boyfriend and an even worse father
Dave 3 years ago
She wanted the baby, he clearly did not. I feel there is much more to this story than him being an a*****e.
K Wit 3 years ago
That's the thing men should be protecting themselves if they don't want kids. Make sure you have a talk w any woman and you're on the same page if she changes her mind mid relationship that's the deal breaker. Vasectomies are non invasive and take 15 mins. Covered by insurance unlike procedures for women and not expensive if you don't. If for some reason you change your mind have it reversed. Women don't have that luxury everything is invasive and hormonal birth control is deadly or debilitating for a lot of women. It's not easy taking hormones it changes your whole personality in so many. The side effects constantly change too. It makes so much sense for men to get vasectomies if they want to be child free and wear condoms for std protection. Women need to figure out what works for them too. Like spermicide and diaphragms or gels if they can't do hormones but planned parenthood where it's affordable are being shut down
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Yayheterogeneity 3 years ago
I would have never left my child with him. Leave him and get someone responsible to look after your child, but don't leave the child with someone who clearly doesn't care at all about it.
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
Me and him would have had major problems. The fact that he was saying she wanted the baby and to come. Oh I would have come home alright and I would have kicked you out
eff the haters 3 years ago
I would've made him change the babies diaper first tho
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Dan Padgett 3 years ago
I have changed more nappies than I've had hot dinners. What's the problem? Takes like 2 mins. Also had the odd poopsplosion that takes longer, but screw it. He can't do I himself. (Ive been a stay at home dad for 2 years)
Leslie Donsen 3 years ago (edited)
When I go sleep it takes an act of Congress to wake me. When my son was an infant crying in the middle of the night? It was my husband who woke up and changed his diaper. Then he would play with him for a while before waking me up so I could breastfeed him. Edit: BTW My son was also a stay at home dad.
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Luke Oakridge 3 years ago
If a woman wants an abortion, do you tell her "No, you should have used contraception"? If not, then why do you say that to men in this situation?
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marianne eliza 3 years ago
I bet she thought a kid would tie him to her forever. Ladies! That is always, ALWAYS, the wrong reason for having a baby.
Lisa Intally 3 years ago
I don't think that applies to anyone who is not involved with a very wealthy person. For the men you have to "trap," it's not worth the trouble.
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We were out to dinner. I told them a story about my ex GF about how she never got a job after we moved, spent all my money, forced us to get a luxury apartment and, as soon as she did get a job, started f*****g some dude at her job. I literally came home one night and found them in bed. After hearing all this my friends GF said "wow, she sounds really resourceful. She took you for a ride and got away with it. Good for her."
As soon as she was in the bathroom I told my friend to break up with her.
AW 3 years ago
Without context it's possible it was meant sarcastically. While OP's ex was a s**t person for sure, OP was just as much at fault for allowing the above mentioned to happen. No need to project one's feelings onto someone else
H Edwards 3 years ago
I can kind of imagine a situation where this guy is telling the story about his ex and kind of coming off like a bit of a misogynistic git, and this girl getting sick of it and saying what she said. Maybe he had spent way too long telling a story that was making people uncomfortable, it doesn't sound like the best dinner conversation.
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madbakes 3 years ago
Me too. Ended up having to go to court to get him out.
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Even sarcastically, that's a horrible thing to say to someone.
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Adam Wood 3 years ago
A co-worker admitted to me that she cheated on her ex-husband and now on her current boyfriend. I asked, "what's the point of that?" and she responded, "What's the point if I can't have fun?" Seems to me you'd settle with someone you can have fun with and stop jerking people around.
Sundy Gilchrist, a relationship coach and founder of Sublime Relationships, explained that we often turn a blind eye in those early days of a relationship. "Two things tend to happen when we first meet someone and take those first steps into increased intimacy with them," she told Bored Panda.
"One is that we tend to be on our best behavior and behave in ways that we think the other wants, so it ends up with two people wearing masks and pretending." When the facades finally come off, and the real person steps out from behind the pretense, "it can be a shock to find that the person you fell in love with was just a story."
Another thing that often happens in new relationships is that the "love drug" takes over and "can have us in a mild to severe obsessive-like state with a lack of appetite, sleep, concentration, and an overwhelming desire to be with the focus of our desire, sometimes to the exclusion of all else," Gilchrist said.
#4
Someone 'hacked' a friend's boyfriend's computer and posted a bunch of very sensitive photos on 4chan and other similar websites. But for some strange reason nothing else (like his bank records, email, etc.) was compromised. How odd that this hacker would **only** be after her nudes.
I immediately said "It was him. He's the one posting the pics online." She spent so much time saying what a great guy he was and how it couldn't possibly be him because he had an important job (working for a major politician) and that he wouldn't compromise his dream of a career in politics.
A few months later, she finally came to realize that he was an emotionally abusive psychopath and dumped him. Then he started posting her name and address (and pics) on fetish websites, claiming that she had a r**e fetish and wanted people to just barge into her apartment and r**e her. She got a restraining order, he kept doing it, and eventually he got prosecuted and is no longer allowed near a computer. I still think he got off way too easy.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
That’s too messed up. Wtf. And she’s the one who got in trouble for s**t she didn’t do? Read the room guys!
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
She will essentially live with the fallout from this pathological predator for the rest of her life. She will probably always feel like she has to look over her shoulder. Of course this monster got off too easily. He should of been locked up in a very small cage, for a long time, for inciting and provoking rape.
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Martha Meyer 3 years ago
And this, dear people, is the reason you should never ever send nudes to anyone ever. Even your married partner of 30 years can turn out to be a vengeful jerk after divorce.
Stephanie Wittenberg 3 years ago
The truth, but how sad that people can be such cruel a*****es.
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🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
I hope they let his boss know and that this psychopath is nowhere near the political system!
MandiMay 3 years ago
I'm thinking those traits are minimum qualifications for politicians these days
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Kristal 3 years ago
Real question: how is one legally kept away from a computer in today's society? Computers everywhere, cars, phones, libraries, offices, schools, restaurants (some have iPad things for seating/ordering). How can one make a living without the use of some type of computer? I'm greatly confused how a person can legally be kept off/away from computers.
Bobby 3 years ago
The way they do it now is to say you can not have access to a computer with internet access unless that computer is monitored by a 3rd party. But that restriction can only be enforced if the person is still under supervised release. Once that's up they can't really do much
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#5
I met them as an already married couple and everything seemed fine until she went into labor at my house. It was her second child so she knew it was early labor and decided to rest on our couch while we hung out. We were going to watch her older child when she went to the hospital anyway and our house is 30 minutes closer to the hospital, so it made sense for the three of them to hang around our house until "go time." That's when my husband and I started noticing her husband's strange behavior.
He was a very charming guy and a very good father to his son, but he started making fun of his wife during contractions. He would roll his eyes and tell her to shut up if she even made the slightest groan. He joked that she was a p**sy and was overreacting. The whole situation got so awkward that my husband insisted he go home to get their hospital bags, just to give the poor woman a break from her crappy husband.
A few months after the birth of her second child, he hit his wife with his car while she physically tried to block him from leaving during an argument. He disappeared for days and didn't come home until she proved to him that she hadn't gone to the hospital or contacted the police. Thus began systematic abuse that continued for two more years and she hid from me like an expert. He would hurt her and then threaten to withhold money for groceries if she said anything to anyone.
I knew he was a d**k and I knew she often needed me to pick her up to get food from food pantries because "he was bad with money," but I had no idea he was hurting her. She finally left him after he threw her through a window while she was eight months pregnant with their third child.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
If I was the friend and knew my pregnant friend with children was being repeatedly abused, it’s straight to the police I don’t even care. And the fact that it went on for years? All that emotional and physical abuse and food and money deprivation! That poor woman and her children.
K Wit 3 years ago
Oh god please don't ever do this until the woman is safe and far away from the abuser this is when women get murdered when the guy thinks they're about to leave them or it gets out in the open. If she tells the cops there's no concern as soon as that door shuts she's getting beat and you will never ever be able to talk to that friend again he'll make sure of it by threatening he'll hurt the kids too. Women in abusive relationships need escape plans that need to be secret until the day they leave and a support system to help. The leading cause of death of pregnant women in the US is partner gun violence. I know that sounds crazy but it's absolutely true you can google it yourself. That's another reason why forcing women to give birth is going to cause so many more murders due to domestic violence
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Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
Men who abuse often get triggered by pregnancy and childbirth. That's why when you are pregnant, health care workers are required to ask if there's ever been violence in your relationship. Even if it was in the past. And as for OP reporting it to the police... sadly it's not likely to lead to a conviction if the woman isn't willing to report as well. CPS won't take away the right for his children to see him as long as there isn't evidence of him hurting his kids. It isn't enough that he's abusing her, even if statistics show that men who abuse their partner often abuse their kids as well. You could argue that they should have been using birth control but in abusive relationships you can't really expect logical solutions. Maybe he didn't want to use a condom and she wasn't allowed any bc? Maybe he required her to keep getting pregnant? We don't know. It's complicated and sad.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
JFC! Hopefully it will be easier to recognize some of these signs going forward. I hope that poor lady and her kids are ok.
I' Gomez & Morticia's kid 3 years ago
BP didn't add. Apparently the story doesn't end there. After the divorce he and his friends started making ¢hild Porno, it started by giving meth to teens and then filming them having $ex and eventually they were molesting his daughters ages 18 months and 3 while taking video and when the older daughter turned 4 she told her mum what was happening. Now he's in jail
Thee8thsense 3 years ago
This might be an unpopular opinion, but in a case like this,. please consider strongly the use of birth control. It's tough enough for this poor woman and her two children, so why bring another into such suffering?
Stoopham McFernybabes 3 years ago
She couldn’t even get enough money for groceries. Getting to a doctor getting and script and affording birth control was probably going to be even more difficult.
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Barbara Vandewalle 3 years ago
The abused become very good at hiding the signs. They are so terrified they don't know what to do. Usually comes to an end when a child is directly harmed. The experts say it takes 6 tries' before they successfully make the break,
Dan Padgett 3 years ago
This guy is pure evil. One thing though. If you physically block a car from leaving, any injury you incur is on you. But yeah, this guy is an oxygen thief.
Tiffany Head 3 years ago
So if I run over someone as long as they were just standing in front of my car, it's their fault? Jesus christ.
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Douglas Mock 3 years ago
Some people have a weird blind spot when it comes to choosing to be alone.
Demongrrrrl 3 years ago
Wow, can't you go to the police and file a report of domestic abuse on her behalf? Although I guess it would enrage the spouse even more. OP could call CPS and report danger to the children. If he hits his wife, it won't be long until he starts in on the kids
#6
Well, she's 20 and he's over 10 years older. Six months into their relationship she tells me he wont let her touch his phone, but gets mad if she doesn't let him touch hers. A year passes and she's never been to his place, met his family, and the only time they see each other is at work.
Dude is either married or has kids
EDIT.
Just to clarify some stuff
I don't believe age gaps are bad, my friend is very mature for her age, but I'd never date my boss.
The phone thing isn't bad, i dont check my bfs phone, but it's kind of weird if you forbid your partner from ever looking at your phone
They've been together for more than a year, he doesn't want to meet her mom, they don't go to his place (i haven't asked why because she gets mad)
And no, having kids is not bad either, but being lied to about having kids is not okay for some.
She won't let me meet him, or see him because he doesn't want to (they dont take pictures) but I've heard him on the phone
Im not saying this means the guy is a bad person, but it feels off and i felt like it fits here
Busy Panda 3 years ago
I bet dude is married with kids. The signs are all over the place. It's so cliche that I can't believe there are girls who still fall for that kind of j***k.
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Sinead Kenny 3 years ago (edited)
Listen trust your gut instinct. It all stinks of what you mentioned in your post or like another post she is slowly being drawn into systematic abuse. As someone experienced with being the one abused.... stick with it, at some point you may be the only one she feels she can either A. Confide in B. Help her get out of it. Unfortunately she won't admit anything at this stage but stick with your gut. It's a dark place when you finally realise and you have nobody who will listen, not judge and help you out of the dark whole xxxx Good Luck xx
Lisa Hewes 3 years ago
Got out of an 8 year relationship a little over a year ago now. I always went with his to his family events/holidays, but he seldom joined me with my family. It caused a major rift and was one of many reasons why we didn't work out. Looking back, I should have left him a long time ago. He also "had" to monitor every word I said/texted to his friends and family and would always tell me that I should/should not have said this, that, and the other thing. I feel pretty stupid for staying with him for so long. There's a lot more, but I've already aired enough dirty laundry.
Amy S 3 years ago
Hi, you're not stupid for staying or for believing someone you should have been able to trust. I'm happy you got out however long it took!
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We also managed to get in touch with Katherine Baldwin, a love, dating and relationships coach, and the author of How to Fall in Love. She told us that one reason why we miss, overlook, or even override red flags when we do spot them is simply that we’re too excited.
"Our hormones are all fired up and it's easy to let our passion and our desire for the relationship to succeed to blind us to the other person's less-than-ideal qualities or any red flags," she said. "That's why it's so important to date in a healthy, grounded way, with our eyes wide open, instead of dating with a deep craving."
Negative behaviors can turn an apparently romantic relationship into an ugly partnership if they are ignored. And the deeper you get, the more painful it might become. "Red flags we miss or overlook at the start of a relationship will always be there, and unless they're addressed and resolved, they can develop into serious issues that sabotage the relationship, causing hurt and heartache," Baldwin argued.
#7
Whilst out at a uni party, I ran into my friend's SO. He was out of town at the time. She started dancing with me, getting closer by the minute. When she was about to start grinding on me, I asked "what are you doing?" To which she replied with "it's okay, *** likes it when I flirt with other guys." Uh, no he f*****g doesn't. He's one of my best mates, I know him pretty damn well. We eventually convinced him to end it with her, and he's much happier for it.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
That's a good friend. I've known far too many people who'd have gone right along with it 😒
Who Panda 420 3 years ago
Yup. My friend had a boyfriend I thought was so sweet and handsome until he hit on me one night when she went to bed early. I fought with myself all through that night because she was so happy with him but I told myself I needed to be a good friend and tell her what he was like. She was so grateful for a little while then it seemed that she blamed her break up on me so oh well at least I feel like I did the right thing.
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Lena Flising 3 years ago
Even if the friend likes it when she flirt with others, he (the one writing this) might not want to flirt with other people's SO's.
#8
The second time we met she cornered me in the bathroom and threatened to cut me if I spoke to her boyfriend again.
Chinmayee Kalghatgi 3 years ago
The flag breaks the world record of largest flag
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Mad McQueen 3 years ago
Had a guitarist friends wife who was drunk an stoned a lot but not at the time this happened. At a bar. I'm leaning on a pool table. He's at the far other end. There are two people between us. Not even talking to him. She storms up to me and screams "get your tits off my husband!" Like wtf? I just was like "get your husband off my tits and f**k off". She huffed an stomped off. No one likes her
Got Myself 4 Pandas 3 years ago
I'd have walked out, sat with a drink and conversation started flowing just slip in "so you were totally joking when you threatened me earlier, right?"
Pontificate 3 years ago (edited)
Happened to me,, male version. Christmas party, everyone's drunk. Friend's (J) gf (A) casually had her hand on my arm I think (we were friends and I'd never dream for a second of trying anything) and J pulls me into the hallway and says "Keep your ****ing hands off A!" (Um, it was her hand on me?) We go back inside, I grab my coat and say I gotta go. Never spoke to them again for at least 3 months until...mutual female friend tells me to reach out to A and I'm like "hell no" but she's insistent so I do. Turns out....A was moving into J's apartment and walked in with a box of stuff and found J banging his ex. (Studio apartment so...yeah walk in and bam there's the bed.) She wants to meet for drinks so we do and I end up the revenge bang. J was a fool to mess that up, A was amazing.
Barbara Vandewalle 3 years ago
time to file a report. It will put it on record she could be dangerous. This is like going to the hospital after being beaten. It starts a history of the abuse.
#9
Oh boy...
He showed abusive and manipulating behaviour from day one. But it was fine because she loved him and she could change him. A year later he had cheated at least once and was constantly threatening to kill himself if she left him. It was fine though because really he loved her but didn't know how to express it.
Year two and he controlled her facebook and phone, and he decided who she could and couldn't talk to. It was romantic though because he just really cared about her.
Year three and he'd cheated at least 4 times and he'd also pretended to kill himself and break up with her multiple times each, after one of which she tried to kill herself.
We had a whole intervention thing while she was in the hospital and she agreed to leave him.
Two weeks later they were back together. He spent $800 on my birthday gift, how could he NOT love me?! Oh yeah and I cant talk to you anymore squeakypop because he says I shouldnt.
Shes still with him
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
Some people just choose to ignore the red flags. Either because they are scared of/or being threatened. Or they are genuinely being gaslit and manipulated to the point of no return
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Was hoping for a happy ending here. Life delivered disappointment.
Dave 3 years ago
She has decided, to stay with a Narcissistic Psychopath, and she is just as toxic as him. They should never have kids. EVER!!!!1
K Wit 3 years ago
Being gaslit threatened manipulated makes you crazy. Raging codependency goes hand in hand at that point. You really don't know who you are anymore you're just a shell. Seen it a few times. It's crazy who they become when they finally realize what's happening total 180 watching someone dead come to life.
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Robyn Bowns 3 years ago
If only she proves her love a little harder. Each And Every Time. The things taught to girls in my generation boiled down to they hurt you cuz they love you. That's a funked up thing to teach to a whole class of children that were already seen as lesser than. Put on earth by god for adam's comfort...
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Tiffany Head 3 years ago
You might not be able to help them but your can be there for them so they don't become completely isolated.
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Kanye: "I spent $$$$ to dress you up. I bought a whole wardrobe for you to wear. I took 24 hours flight to dress you before your TV appearance. You're my goddess, my muse, the most valuable thing in my house." Kim: *swoon* The rest of the world: *facepalm*
Dawn Marie 3 years ago
Sadly the stats show that the wife will go back 9 time before she leaves for good or worse still, loses her life. I was in this same situation. I left after coming back just once. I told him "I don't care what you do to me,(I didn't believe in divorce) you lay one hand on the kids(2), and we are out of here. My son was 4 and had an accident in his pants. Husband raised his hand I grabbed it, yelled at my daughter to get son and get in the car. I have never looked back. That was 17 years ago.
Robyn Bowns 3 years ago
The bigger the gifts the more that's being made up for. Not a good thing!!!!!
Jason Melvil 3 years ago
I said this before, I don't blame her. I blame society in general that doesn't educate people about these issues.
Gilchrist added that control can be one such red flag. "Control of another, often has its roots in feelings of insecurity, sometimes manifesting as jealousy and possessiveness," she said. "What can initially look and feel like care, attention, devotion, togetherness and belonging, can change into realizing that you have no say, no freedom, and feel controlled to some greater or lesser degree," she explained.
Luckily, our friends and family are on the lookout for such harmful behaviors. But our affection for another person can be so strong that we might disregard their warnings. "It can be very painful to hear criticism and judgments of someone we have fallen in love with, and love can indeed 'make us blind' to their behaviors," Gilchrist told us.
#10
We played DnD with him and it seemed like every week he'd say "rule number 1: don't touch the kids!" (He was a teacher) he always meant it as a joke, and it always made sense in context, but it didn't sit right with me. For one thing, no one thought it was that funny the first time, so why call back to it? Also, the regularity with which he said it made it almost seem like a mantra to me.
They arrested him last year for allegedly snap chatting with an underage girl he met over the internet.
In hindsight there were a bunch of other warning signs too, but that was the one that initially weirded me out.
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
Usually when they saying something like that it is a red flag. Like you don't do that and it something no one was thinking about in there right mind. It usually them who is thinking it. Please remember this. It makes me sick to my stomach to say that but it true.
Paul Davis 3 years ago
I've met people who obsessively joked about something weird - of course it will always turn out to be that that they are obsessed by. Like the guy who is just super "anti-gay" with non-stop "gay jokes" who of course turns out to be gay.
Persp Gold 3 years ago
one time off the cuff it's a funny joke. more than once or part of a repertoire its creepy af
K Wit 3 years ago
An adult male snap chatting a little girl I'm sure it was sexual and grooming. Why else would an adult male try to talk to a stranger that was a child on the internet and snap chat them? He was seeking that out.
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When he started trying to pick fights with me in order to separate me from my cousin. We were in our mid teens, he looked 17 or 18, very clean cut and geeky in a boy band sort of way, you know, the "sensitive one" with the glasses. He was well mannered, respectful to our moms, but he seemed predatory to me. I didn't have the best people around me growing up, so I learned to recognize potential threats early, and this guy set off all my danger bells. Just small things, like watching too closely to see how people reacted to him, and the way his smile never reached his eyes. I wasnt rude, but i didnt fawn over him either. Once he realized that I wasn't charmed by him, he started avoiding me, telling her he didn't feel comfortable around me, and she'd have to see him alone. He tried bullying me any time he saw me, while still bragging to me that he was her protector and her white knight.
Found out a few months later that he was actually in his mid twenties, and had a record for stalking and and assaulting underage girls. Too bad we didn't know this before he gave her herpes.
Seabeast 3 years ago (edited)
With herpes it's hard to prove, since people can infect others without ever having symptoms themselves.
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shodokai 3 years ago
I would have invited a few of my 'No Neck' friends to give him a party...
#12
My best friend started to date this girl about a year ago. She was awesome always seemed so nice and was very fun to be around. About 3 months into the relationship and every thing was going great. Then he asked her to move in with him. The day comes to move in and I go over to help move the heavy stuff and low and behold she shows up with a 5 y.o. When he ask who it is she said her son! We were blown away. She never mentioned it, said anything about having a kid.
Her Facebook had 0 pics of her kid, no one mentioned her kid. It was a big cover up and she basically just wanted someone to support her and her kid. He noped outta that one right then and there.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
She should have told him at the beginning of the relationship. A lot of people are understanding of stuff like that. But you can’t just bring it up the bloody day your moving in with him!
Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez 3 years ago
And, this way, she would probably be successful if she found the right guy.
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SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
A really irritating thing single moms do. Not all, of course. I've had done to me twice. Reveal kiddo after things start to get serious. Usually some variation of "Me and my kids are a package deal." Yeah, I get that. But you don't get to make a man fall for you then reveal the kids and say you gotta take them or you lose me. That's just a despicable thing to do. Emotional manipulation.
Dave 3 years ago
I had women hiding their kids from me too. Basically, I am childfree and I make that clear right away. That I am not interested in kids, my own or anyone else's for that matter. I dated single mothers and I am not doing it ever again. When the coverup became clear, I of course walked away. They got offended, I told them to grow up and to stop trying to trap a guy with emotional blackmail and hope that by the time they revealed the child, he will be too invested in her to walk away. The sex tended to be great with them, but the only reason why was to have a guy stick around when the kids came into the picture. Never worked with me.
Libby Tailor 3 years ago
Actually, my husband and I moved in together after one month. This year will be our 26th yrs together 🙂 (Probably we are the exception, I just want to say that move in soon not a too bad idea 🙂)
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Mary Jeffries 3 years ago
If she does this kind of thing, how do you think the kid is doing? A total afterthought.
Jp@nda 3 years ago
Aww man, that really had to have hurt that poor little guy's heart. He probably felt all types of bad thinking they were moving then once mommy's new friend sees him they are not moving anymore, and I'm sure probably had nowhere to go at that moment. That guy sucks and so does that poor kid"s mom.
Scott Crowe 3 years ago (edited)
WTF kind of logic is that ? He was just supposed to "roll wit it" for the sake of not hurting a kid's feelings ? Good for that guy for telling her to get lost since she's sounds like the type that would also clean out his bank account and skip town.
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Baldwin agrees it's a good idea to take on board what our friends and family members are saying about the relationship. "They have our best interests at heart and can often see red flags that we are oblivious to because we're so caught up in the thrill of the relationship."
"Of course, it's important to make our own decisions, so listen to other people's advice and then listen to yourself, to your truth, to your intuition. In order to do so, you will need to come down off the pink cloud and see the relationship for what it is rather than look at it through rose-tinted spectacles," she added.
#13
First time I met him, he told me he had the biggest crush on her for two years before they started dating, but he was waiting for her to lose her virginity and turn 16. He was 33.
*Edit: We're in Canada and age of consent is 16. Still f*****g gross.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
Wait. So he stalked her for 2 years. Waited for her to lose her V-card. Turn 16. And then now there dating. And she is aware that he is 33?
humdrum 3 years ago
A pedo is someone who lusts after prepubescent children. It's definitely immature, but the part where he waits for her to have had at least some experience makes me think he may not be evil.
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Aussie panda 3 years ago
Just curious if at 16 you can consent to sex with someone that much older? In All, at 16 you can consent to sex but only with a partner up to an 18 years old. Once you’re 18, then you can do as you like. I would have thought Canada was the same.
Linchen8282 3 years ago
Virginity is a myth. We all experience the "first time". Women don't "loose" anything when having intercourse for the first time.
#14
me and my cousin grew up together like brothers,
I immediately knew his new girlfriend didn't like me from the looks she would give me or how blunt she was when I tried to engage her in conversation.
A few months down the line and I try and arrange a meal with my cousin, asked him to bring his girlfriend along so we can break the ice. everything was arranged, I showed up at the restaurant and they didn't. I was stood up.
they are now married and have two kids. I wasn't invited to his stag night or his wedding I was (and still am, gutted)
I met my wife and invited him to my stag do, he was all paid up and I couldn't wait to see him again. it was the thing I was looking forward to the most..... he didn't show... again gutted
he and his wife showed up to my wedding and acted as if there was no problem, it was quite strange but I didn't care as it was great to just spend some time with the man I had considered my brother.
we kind of kept in contact via text but never met up, even though I tried to arrange it a few times.
Then my son was born, I was desperate for them to meet each other and bent over backwards to meet up.
I agreed to meet at a play area so his daughters could tag along and go play and he got to meet my son (who is named after his brother who passed away)
I sat there for an hour before he messaged me to say he wasn't coming.
as a final attempt to salvage some kind of relationship I invited his family to my sons christening, I got a message an hour after it had finished to say he wasn't going to make it as his wife had arranged to do something.
that was 4 years ago and I haven't heard, seen or spoke to him since.
still makes me sad but as long as he is happy, then that is all that matters.
EDIT: Just to expand a little, I have tried to contact him many, many times, via text, phone, facebook message but I haven't had a response.
I don't believe he is happy, but I don't know enough about his relationship to pass comment.
He has cut me off and there is nothing I can do to change that, I just hope that one day we do get a chance to sit and talk it through, just so he knows I don't hold anything against him or her. if he wants me to be part of his life then great, if he doesn't, then at least he knows I still love him.
Dave 3 years ago
She is a Controlling, Narcissistic Psychopath and abusive as f**k. She had him break all contact with family and friends so she can control him. The OP was a threat to the wife because she knew, that the OP could make the cousin see the light and have him walk away from the criminally toxic relationship.
Kate Ayrton 3 years ago
Had this recently. A very loved friend of ours, was basically missing in action for 8years. But we always left a light on for him in the friendship. Their partner left them. They came back. They are happy now and we are just so happy they are back in our lives. We made sure they could always call us, talk to us, and that they knew we were there for them no matter what. It is such a hard thing to do. But getting away from a toxic partner, which is still mental abuse, can be realLy really difficult.
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Thida Yang 3 years ago
He's not happy. Happy people in happy relationships don't isolate themselves or avoid people they care about. .
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
Aw. This one made me sad. I wonder why the wife didn’t like him…..?
Sapna Sarfare 3 years ago
This is truly sad... If someone came between me and my family members who i love, I would leave the person... it is a wake up call
Debbie Burton 3 years ago
My brother's wife did this to him as well.... seems only after both parents died that he has any contact with the rest of us.... although I have his daughters (& now him) on my FB friend's list
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Sounds like a jerk. They skipped your bachelor party but then showed up to the wedding for the free food and booze? What a couple of classless twäts.
Random Panda 3 years ago (edited)
I think so too and just look at how many times he stood up OP. Op is way too nice for his own good.
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Randy Klefbeck 3 years ago
He clearly does not value you. Let it go. Trying all you did, not an explanation one, about the whole ghosting episodes....not one....not two...many multiples of times. Will drive you nuts trying to figure it out on your own. Not worth anymore time or energy, for considerately more grief.
#15
She was super friendly, but I’d catch her looking at me out of the corner of my eye with… not a nasty expression exactly, but not a friendly one either, sort of wary (I’m also a girl) …
She’d also casually say odd little details when talking about her life that made it seem like she had a pretty skewed idea of relationships and gender roles (she went to an all girl’s [boarding] school, and even though she was 24 she was the first of all of her friends to ever have a boyfriend) like saying “it’s ridiculous to expect a woman to change a lightbulb on her own haha!” or making out that some things were a big deal in relationships, when they’re really not, as if she’d got all her knowledge from rom coms… Just really tiny things that wouldn’t be significant on their own, but added all together it really set me on edge.
She ended up going full on psycho and not letting him see any of his friends or do any of the things he enjoyed for two whole years, because she was basically jealous of every single other woman in the world, even his male friends’ girlfriends. It took his brother to come round and have good long chat for him to realise she was a control freak who was ruining his life - it was a timely escape too, since she was starting to talk about babies.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Sigh...this is why it's important to actually have social experiences in your teens! Sheltering kids from the real world does not help them to learn or grow.
Martha Meyer 3 years ago
I think the all girl's school she went to had nothing to do with her behaviour...
NsG 3 years ago
It narrows your frame of reference, depending on how they approach it. My mum went to an all girl's highschool in the 60s where they would check to make sure you were wearing the right knickers because [insert some BS about boys]. Now, granted this was a long time ago, but any single sex organisation now is still going to have some warped ideas about how to shape the young minds they are responsible for, because there's no good reason to have single sex organisations any more.
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Lara Kristelle 3 years ago
I used to know someone wherein the girl was even jealous of his mom.
Lena Flising 3 years ago
It's ridiculous to not be able to change a light-bulb on your own. It's less technical than using the oven or the washing-machine.
Lynn Morello 3 years ago
My son got into a relationship with a control freak, 5 kids later and she has convinced him to cut off ALL ties to his side of the family. They only live 5 minutes up the road, but are never in conveniently) when I tried to visit.
Jonathan Labelle 3 years ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23FjDtbVIkY&ab_channel=NatabeePluche
Annabelle 3 years ago
Most of these relationships take time to grow into the monsters that they are. The changes are really subtle. If you are rude to someone from the start, nobody will accept it.
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#16
Throwaway for obvious reasons. I always knew, from the very first time I met him, that he was a bad person. Charismatic, charming, affectionate to her. But his eyes were...empty? They married 14 years ago, when she and I were in 11th grade. She just turned 18, had a horrible home life (she unofficially lived with us, my parents being more of parents to her than her own). He was a bit older and had enlisted in the military, this was during the height of the Iraqi war. A month before he deployed, after they had moved 3,500 miles away, he beat her in a drunken rage after she discovered he was having an affair. While he was deployed, he won her back thru emails and phone calls. He came home far more damaged than before. Things seemed OK for a few months, until she walked in on him in their bed with another woman while their infant son slept in a bassinet beside the bed. She naturally threw the chick out before trying to make him leave as well. He broke her phone and her jaw. She was still thousands of miles away from me but I packed a bag and drove 4 days to get to her. She ultimately took him back and things seemed to stabilize. 3 more children and many years passed without incident. When their youngest was 2, he beat her again, this time in front of their children. Police were called and he played the role of victim, using his PTSD and other post-military diagnoses. She has no job, no high school diploma (she dropped out to be a military wife), and no family to fall back on besides me. We offered to have her and the kids move in with us temporarily until she got on her feet. But she chose to stay. Recently, she and I drew up a notarized document stating that I am to get their children if something were to happen to her caused by him. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it never comes down to that.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
This is so sad. She probably feels tethered to this relationship a) because of the kids but also b) because she has absolutely nothing to fall back on - no education, no job, no marketable skill sets. I hope this lady takes advantage of the kids being in school and does the same for herself. Financial independence as a woman is EVERYTHING.
Sue User 3 years ago
Probably not going to help, may make things worse. My dad's commander told my mom that if the military wanted their men to have wives, they would jave issued them one.
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The only marketable skill I had when my husband and I split (he should have been put in prison) was that I could drive. For 19 years, I supported my children and myself by being a delivery driver. There is always a way to leave the psychos.
UpupaEpops 3 years ago
Stories like this are why I would never be able to be a stay-at-home mom. I get that not every husband is an abusive AH. And sometimes it might be a cheaper option. But if things do go south, how do you leave?
PixelShroom 3 years ago
Umm no. That is not okay. She shouldn't still be living with him. Especially if she had kids. You say in case something happens to her. Who's to say he won't not let the kids leave. Who's to say he won't hurt them as well as her. This situation is extremely dangerous. She needs to leave immiadietly. Screw love. You can't love if you are dead.
AK to LV 3 years ago
I wonder if she lies to herself by saying that he's only hurting her and not the kids because if he hurt the kids then she would leave. It's so sad.
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Mateo Buysse 3 years ago
Stupid choice. Knowing she actually has people to fall back on, if only for a moment, she should just leave.
#17
The three of us were cooking food for a school project and he jokingly splashed us with water. We splashed him back and he proceeded to have a temper tantrum and sit on the couch in the other room for an hour.
Irishwoman abroad 3 years ago
Yeah, he can dish it out but he can't take it.
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Spiral Agent 3 years ago
Sounds like my 14 year old sister in law (we are 32 & 34). She's such a pain in my a*s. All the time. Constantly. She's been like this since I first met her at 4.
V Martinez 3 years ago
With behavior like that, I'm surprised he didn't melt, or send out his flying monkeys.
Robyn Bowns 3 years ago (edited)
Someone never learned the lesson about geese and gander. Or even about equal but opposite reactions 😜
Bobby 3 years ago
This sounds like something my 40 year old BIL would do. I wonder if this guy is on the spectrum? BIL often thinks things he does are funny but lacks the ability to consider if roles were reversed and gets extremely upset when they do
Blackstone 3 years ago (edited)
Yeah I was thinking this. I know as someone with ADHD, I struggled with that a bit especially when I was younger, just self awareness and being able to think through things if the roles were reversed. For some people on the spectrum, ADHD, etc, it can be a skill they have to actually work to learn, and some don't learn it as well as others. It's hard having a disorder people can't see, because 95% of the time when your disorder is in play, people just think you're an intentional jerk or lazy or overreacting and that's not the case.
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Leigh Boatright 3 years ago
If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen! Hah ha. Get the joke?
Mayrene Chester 3 years ago
Was he playing OP and trying to get out of working on the project?
#18
Was friends with this guy for a year while deployed overseas in the UK. His wife was always just plain mean to him in front of others, like on everything ie calling him stupid, talking about their failing sex life in front of him to friends, telling "a real man would earn more money for the family" let alone she was also calling her two year stint in the UK her vacation from work. She also refused to stop hanging out with his male friends (who she always would stay with even overnight). After one nasty comment she said to him in front of our boss at a retirement dinner, i said in front of him, "dude, your wife is a b***h".
A week later, while he was at work and thinks shes in the states visiting her mother, he comes home to an empty home. Everything was gone from couch, bed, even his laptop and video games. He calls the cops thinking hes been robbed. Turns out the his future ex wife came back with her family and movers, cleaned out the home, his savings accounts...everything without a word. He lost his home and was forced to move into barracks.
I just said to him, im sorry dude, but your wife is still a b***h.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Well that wasn't very nice. He needed a friend in that moment, not someone to rub salt in his wounds.
I' Gomez & Morticia's kid 3 years ago
She also took his cat and dog, which she hated the most. *facepalm*
JMC5003 3 years ago
In the US it isn't considered theft- it's communal property, even the bank accounts, if her name was on them. Civil matter, not criminal.
Load More Replies... SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Ugh. Really despise the people who leech off military service people. Gdamn parasites.
Once the love glasses fall off and you end the relationship because of your partner’s negative qualities, you may end up with another person that showcases the exact same red flags. "This shows us the personal growth work to do," Gilchrist said and added it might be wise to seek help from professionals.
"We tend to think that the other person is the one with the problem and needs to change, and whilst this might be indeed true, what’s truer is we need to change too if we are to have a great relationship where red flags get to be used as indicators for transformation, rather than just things to look out for and avoid," she said.
#19
He made her stop being a vegetarian. He would slip meat into her food or outright force her to eat chicken nuggets.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
Wtf? What a horrible person. Why would being a vegetarian even matter to him? Is it hurting him in any way? No. Then whyyyy
Chinmayee Kalghatgi 3 years ago
That can be dangerous depending on if she has allergies and for how long she was vegetarian. If you eat meat after being vegetarian for years then you get terrible stomach problems
Bruno Madrigal 3 years ago
That's messed up. When I was vegan I had someone slip me bacon. My body rejected it and I was sick for like a whole day. It's not funny or cute. It sucks.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Bruh just let your girl eat greens. That's more meat for you, dumb-dumb.
eff the haters 3 years ago
That's bad enough but making someone eat chicken nuggets? Especially if they're from McDonald's /s
Lena Flising 3 years ago
That's abuse! If you're a vegetarian, you can get stomach-problems from eating meat; you're more or less "allergic" to meat.
#20
He is genuinely concerned that I am going to turn his girlfriend gay. He goes on and on about it, well beyond a joke, and she just rolls her eyes. No idea what it is based on, but he's obsessed
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
Yeah, girl pls that is not a healthy relationship. I’d try to get her outta there ASAP before s**t escalates
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
🙄 I've heard this c**p before from guys. He's trying to get a 3some going.
Poultry Geist 3 years ago
That’s best case scenario! It’s when they think you hook up with chicks and don’t like it that’s a bigger problem !
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SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
He could also possibly doing some kind of weird reverse projection thing. "Oh noooo. Don't make my girlfriend gay. Then I'll have two girlfriends." Very, very VERY wishful thinking lol
Rannveig Ess 3 years ago
He's dropping hints, hoping that planting that seed will make it happen. He's a pig. He just thinks girl on girl sex would be fun, for him, and it'd have nothing to do with actual love or closeness.
Poultry Geist 3 years ago (edited)
Yeah I had a boyfriend like this ! The last time I saw him I was pregnant with his daughter! We got in a fight that day and he grabbed me by my bun (hair) pushed me on my bed and held his hand over my mouth so hard that my teeth cut into the skin in the inside of my mouth! It was so scary! That’s a bright red flag for me now !
Rabbit-Of-ill-Portent️ 3 years ago
Oh God that happened to me once, a lesbian brushed up against me and now I can't stop reading playboy! #sarcasms
#21
Long story. Best friend was adopted as a kid. Adoptive parents killed in a car accident when he was 11. He was in the back seat. He survived. Became even better mates. Same schools and college. He decided he was gonna marry this girl. I was happy for him but I had never met her as I lived out of the country at the time. So wedding is in 6 months. I fly down to see family and end up going with my the girl friend and some friends and we all meet up at a local restaurant. Meet his fiance. She seems nice and welcoming. She flirts subtly with me. Nothing major but talks about my appearance quite a bit. In front of her fiance. I think nothing much of it. Later in the evening I go to the bathroom. I end up walking to a cubicle and as I enter she jumps in front of me and closes the door with me inside... I ask her what she's doing. Her response is anything I want. I immediately push her out. Sit down and in shock have no idea what I'm supposed to do. I go back to the table. I'm quiet. I realize that I should tell or say something to him. I pull him outside and tell him what happened. He is too in shock. Ruins the whole evening and next day I flew back to my home town with my girlfriend to see my family. We don't speak for months until the wedding. I'm his best man. Whole family was off to me. Bride hated me. We don't speak anymore but I know what happened and friends support my decision to tell him. He claims she says it was all a misunderstanding due to being drunk. I know what I saw. I know what happened. I know what she was trying to do. I feel bad because I have probably lost a friend but my conscious is clear. Good luck Philip.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Yeah and she's definitely gonna do it again, too. At least you did the right and honorable thing.
Blackstone 3 years ago
We as a society need to teach our kids that a trusted relationship (like parents if they are good parents, or close friends) are to be trusted when it comes to romantic relationships? If someone who you know truly loves you tells you something is off, you need to listen and at least take a step back and consider it. Let's normalize listening to those people. Spoken as someone who was in a bad relationship for a time.
ᔑᓵᒷ 𝙹⎓ ᓭ!¡ᔑ↸ᒷᓭ 3 years ago
so from what i get from this, she tried to f*****g rape you!? can't she be arrested?
However, Baldwin would also like to remind you to be aware that we might see red flags where there aren't any. "We might put barriers and blocks in the way of relationships because we're scared to love. If this resonates, it's time to explore your fears about getting into an intimate relationship," she concluded.
#22
He had a full-on, toddler-level temper tantrum twice at a group game night. Once because during a trivia question he couldn't remember the planets in the solar system. Then, in the same night, he got pissy playing Uno, threw his cards down and stormed out. We all kind of looked at each other and at our friend. That was when we knew he was.. 'off.' My friends and I were all in our mid-20's and he was over 30, so it was definitely not acceptable behavior. A couple weeks later was my friend's birthday, so we all went out for the night and ended up at our neighborhood bar. He threw another temper tantrum (I think it was over scoring for darts or something equally ridiculous...), stormed out and peeled away in his car, leaving us with no ride home. This was pre-Uber/Lyft and none of us wanted to spend the money on a taxi, so we sobered up on the ~two mile walk back to my friend's house. Thankfully...she broke up with him not long after. She is now with a wonderful guy who not only knows the planets of the solar system, but also treats her a lot better.
Barbara Vandewalle 3 years ago
After a former friend pulled a drunk driving stunt, I would always drive my own car to where we would be going. Never got into her car again.
Antisocial Butterfly 3 years ago
''She is now with a wonderful guy who not only knows the planets of the solar system'' 🤣😂😂😂😂😂
JASH80 3 years ago
I think the big question here is: does he or does he not include Pluto? Tells ya a lot about a person ;)
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My friend's SO in high school had a skinned cat hanging on his wall!! I knew right then that he was f*****g crazy. Thank god she isnt with him anymore! Edit: He had just graduated. I was hanging out with them in his room, look up and see this pelt with head and everything. I obviously ask "What the f**k?" He then brags about how he killed it and skinned it himself. I love cats and was disgusted and horrified at the same time. I dont think I ever left a place so fast in my life. He seemed like a normal dude, but my first thought when seeing this poor kitty was "serial killer" Edit #2: It was just your average house cat.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago (edited)
Admittedly when I was a teenager, I lived out in the sticks and would lop the heads off roadkill. Anything from raccoons to deer to dogs and coyotes. Would always go bury the body in the woods nearby. Return to sender, right? Clean the skulls up and paint artistic designs on them. My girlfriend and her girl friends at that time thought it was super cool, the end products. But they were pretty uncomfortable with the way I got my uh, materials. But a skinned cat? Yeah that's as clear a red flag as you're gonna get, lady.
Nunya Business 3 years ago
Serial killers start out killing small helpless creatures . . . Then they move on.
Brazen 3 years ago
"It was just your average house cat." Like that somehow makes it better? Wonder why they had to edit it like that.
NotTodaySatan!! 3 years ago
I'm guessing there were questions as to what kind of cat it was. Which is the only logical reason, I would think.
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foxgirl158 3 years ago
Based on the story, this is NOT taxidermy. This is the skin of a cat hanging on a wall.
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When he installed some kind of app on my best friend’s computer so that he could control the mouse with his phone. I think this was two months after I met him - 6 months into their relationship. I thought that was real [messed up] but “haha it’s only a joke, why do you think it’s weird gan1lin2?”
About a year later, he asked her to sign into Facebook to ‘see if Facebook was working for her’. Later that day she came over worried and asked me if he could’ve saved her password even if she told Chrome to not save it. We kind of bounced ideas around that “no, I don’t think so... I mean unless he put a keylogger on his computer? But that would be messed up.” And sure enough, that’s exactly what he did.
Notable favorite: After breaking up, he also tried to pose as me on kik so he could talk to her. He used a username that was like “gan11in2” so it was easily mistaken.
The whole relationship was a mess.
K Wit 3 years ago
That's like that American idol guy leaving a voice recording device in his girlfriends room then she broke up w him and she found another one later. He kept calling her and asking her about stuff he shouldn't know about. Her and a friend searched and found it. He was arrested and charged all the evidence was logged into the device that pointed right to him
AndThenICommented 3 years ago
My ex husband did something like this. I wish I could tell you that I divorced him right afterwards
Ovata Acronicta 3 years ago
My abuser did the keylogger sh*t to me too. Got into my facebook *almost a year* after we were separated to see if I was partaking in relationship stuff with anyone else - his parents had taken me in following some really awful things in my house. He planned out how to paint himself as a victim then held me hostage in his room one morning to give me the ultimatum to either get back together with him or leave and paint myself as a terrible person. So anyway I'm a terrible person.
JMC5003 3 years ago
THIS!!! Women in the US are taught from the time they're little to "act like a lady," i.e. don't embarrass men for calling out their publicly bad behavior in public, always "be polite," even when that means not standing up for yourself or protecting yourself. It's even worse when the abuse has only occurred in private (don't embarrass the family by letting it be known). Heaven forbid your reputation is tainted by pointing out that someone abused or raped you! US society teaches women to quietly accept the abusive of men from a very young age. And that if you've been victimized, it's somehow your own fault. And if you don't have resources or ability to leave, well you must like/deserve it. Yeaaa patriarchy! (Sarcasm)
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The first time I met him was at her birthday party. He shook my hand then proceeded to try and grind on me in front of her and her family. Then when I called him out on it everyone said I was the problem and was just jealous. A year later, it turns out he had been cheating on her continuously and had gotten 2 girls pregnant while dating her.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
What in the actual frickity frack? He got 2 girls pregnant whilst dating her?? Kick him to the curb sis, kick him to the curb
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Sounds like she dodged quite a bullet there (assuming they're no longer together)
Barbara Vandewalle 3 years ago
My cousins husband got at least 3 children, that we know of, with other women while they were married. He was always accusing her of cheating.
JASH80 3 years ago (edited)
that's not uncommon. Someone who cheats knows how easily it can be done and will assume everyone else does it as well, hence accusing their SO of doing it is a normal reaction.
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When my husband and I were helping them move and he would only speak to or answer my husband. I had an idea of how to move some stuff up the stairs and the guy just blew me off. So I told my husband to casually mention the same damn idea and poof! It was an awesome idea so we had to try it right then and there. This always put her down and she would just take it. In the end HE broke up with her because he felt she wasn't thin/pretty enough for him. Then would get mad at her for trying to move on and tried to sabotage every relationship she tried to have. I ended up ending the friendship because I couldn't stand listening to her complain about how he was treating her and she would keep going back.
El Dee 3 years ago
I had a boss exactly like this. Took over from my old boss when she retired and ANYTHING I said was ignored or a stupid idea. I knew that some of the things I said were definitely not stupid and, in fact, the only solutions to the problems we had so I started 'talking' through a colleague. Suggesting, eventually, the same things I'd already said. This was done at dept meetings while I was there and said colleague was praised for the ideas. I brought it up at an appraisal as 'feedback' needless to say the boss wasn't please and precisely nothing changed..
Riley Quinn 3 years ago
I had a friend that I eventually ghosted because year after year I listened to her complaints about her husband's constant cheating. I finally had to tell her she got exactly what she deserved.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago
Idk why it upset me that she broke off their friendship. Friendship means you are willing to support and help someone, not quit because you find it hard. I would have stayed by her side and tried to help her through it
Kate Ayrton 3 years ago
Sometimes you have to do such a thing to protect you're own mental health. You don't know if the op had a ton of stuff going on. Whilst morally these things seem like the right thing to do, sometimes it is difficult to do so if you are trying to keep yourself afloat and are only just managing that.
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#27
My best friend's ex boyfriend walked like he was trying to intimidate people. And every time he asked someone a question about someone's opinion (hey what do you think of that statue, do you like sauerkraut) he'd respond to their answer with "I had a feeling you were going to say that." It seems harmless but it was every single time, and if you called him out on it (you couldn't possibly have known I was allergic to x!) he lashed out in anger. Every time she tried to break up with him he cornered her and wouldn't let her leave the room until she relented, and even their couple's therapist thought she should leave him for her own safety after two or three sessions. He would wait for her shift to end just sitting in his car in the parking lot and if she didn't come out fast enough he'd storm into the building in a fury, but if she came out on time he'd just leave. He wasn't there to pick her up, just to monitor her... which he also did through a gps tracker he put in her car. She now has a restraining order and has moved twice. He broke into her apartment with a gun while she was deep asleep and just snuggled up behind her with the gun between them as if it was his d**k, and that was how she woke up. There are other things but this is getting long. edit because people are ~~nosy~~ curious about other things he did: -helped me move, but only to find out where I lived. After their breakup he came to my door several times looking for her, and when she was generally Not Here he settled for monitoring my house -extreme fitness nut who was obsessed with telling people whether or not he could bench them (hint: usually not) -lots of gaslighting, don't remember the details -insisted on changing her cat's name, which didn't stick -wouldn't let her *not* watch tv with him even though there are a hundred things she'd rather do than watch tv at any given time, up to and including a pap smear. This inspired multiple fights -charmed her parents so successfully that they insisted she go to couple's therapy to "work out their differences" which were "I don't want to be constantly monitored, also your general controlling behavior is creepy" vs "you have nothing to hide if you're doing nothing wrong" -ultimately their breakup was supervised by the couples councilor , who had building security waiting in the lobby and her hand on a panic button (who knew she'd have that) -stormed into her work when she quit (post-breakup) because he decided they fired her and his plan was apparently to threaten them to get her her job back -took her to court to argue against the restraining order. Judge looked at friend's documentation and how she was leaning away from him even on opposite sides of the room and he was making kissy faces at her and granted the order -made very public posts on some weightlifting social media thing about what a crazy ex-girlfriend he had and *linked her profile in his own profile*
Dave 3 years ago
This guy is an extreme case of narcissistic Psychopathy and Borderline personality Disorder. He should have been thrown into the asylum for criminally insane by the order of the Judge. If I were a judge and when I would have cases like this, I would make sure, the bastards felt the full wight of the law and they would not see any daylight if it were in my ability to do so.
Sasha Grojean 3 years ago
Nothing about this reads as a diagnosis for borderline personality disorder. Narcissistic psychopathy is not a recognized disorder - as these are usually either diagnosed as narcisstic personality disorder and/or antisocial personality disorder. Is the person described in the post obviously messed up and an a*****e seemingly with a huge lack of empathy? Yup! Does this mean they *must* have NPD or BPD? Absolutely not. People with those disorders struggle IMMENSELY to even find therapists willing to treat them because of the extreme stigmatisation, which isn't helped when everyone that is a crappy, messed up person who hurts others is immediately labeled with a disorder that doesn't necessarily have much to do with the behaviors listed here. So please stick to calling a**holes what they are - a**holes, and don't label every a**hole as someone with NPD or BPD.
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Mateo Buysse 3 years ago
The fact that that person seemingly still walks the earth after stalking, break-in and gun violence is also quite disturbing.
#28
She messaged me to let me know she wouldn't be on her phone until she got a new one bc the one she has is busted. When I pressed a little, he had thrown it and stomped it when she complained about it dropping calls and having a s**t battery. So, typical best friend I'm like, I would make the bastard pay, blah blah. Fast forward a few hours, he is on her Facebook messenger, reading our conversation, trying to justify it to me. It gave me the w*****s to have him read our conversation. He has also thrown a remote through their plasma tv when he was mad. I know that he will be violent with her one day, if he hasn't already and she is just keeping it secret. It makes me sick to my stomach.
ThePanInPanda 3 years ago (edited)
Wait until the censors find out W***y is also a name. I know someone named W***y. W***y w***y w***y w***y w***y. (Edit: oh, screw this website.)
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Hannah Hudson-Lee 3 years ago
Oh dear. Censored for a typo. "Wilis" is nothing to do with genitalia. This term for feeling creeped out comes from a type of fairy ghost spirit in slavic folklore. A.k.a. Vilis, Víla. In western european culture, they crop up in the ballet Gisele, a book by Victor Hugo and as Veela in Harry Potter.
Dave 3 years ago
In the end, many people wilfully ignore glaring warning signs early on when they still had a chance to get the f**k out of the relationship, but they decide to stay.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Hopefulness. At least the times I was fool enough to stick it out in an abusive relationship. Thoughts like: This isn't her. She's not normally like this. She's overwhelmed. Or. I know I can help her find some peace and stop being so angry and hateful. To. I've been in this too long to give up now. Surely the woman I met and fell for is still in there somewhere.
Load More Replies... ᔑᓵᒷ 𝙹⎓ ᓭ!¡ᔑ↸ᒷᓭ 3 years ago
it's another name for a male appendage, so apparently yes.
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#29
He hated her spending time with me. Snide jokes about lesbian lovers and wondering about the true mature of our relationship. The day we met finally, he told me that m**f-munching can't compete with a good hard dicking. Then he started insisting that I was closeted and obsessed with her, my boyfriend was just a beard. Funny thing is, I was meeting this girl after 5 months. He was scary controlling and insecure.
4 years later, they are sadly still together. I have given up at this point.
Kristin Ingersoll 3 years ago
So... Bored Panda has moved on to misogynistic censorship. We're only censoring the female sexual word??? Nice one, BP. Personally, "dicking" is much more offensive that the word "m**f." FFS.
Kristin Ingersoll 3 years ago
And here too. Seriously????? How can dicking not be censored??? I had a lovely m**f and earmuff combo when I was a kid. That is a real thing. GOOD GRIEF!!!!
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When she tried to f**k me, I felt like that was a bit odd.
June’s Very Own 3 years ago (edited)
We need more context here EDIT: lmao I read it again and kinda understand what’s going Lol. But more context is always good
#31
Was best friends with a dude (I'm a lady). Had been for a few years, never any chemistry or anything like that, at least on my end. He gets out of a long-term relationship, starts dating around. He'd often introduce me to these ladies as sort of a barometer of whether or not he thought they were a good match. One weekend he invited a girl out with our group. She's super standoffish. Won't smile. Clearly isn't having a good time. I try to talk to her, get to know her, try to tell her about my friend and how great he is... she acts like I'm not there. Might as well have been the wallpaper. A month later I'm on a date and we run into them. Remember: I am also on a date. With a man. As they are leaving they come over to say hello. She seems equally unhappy to be alive. I introduce my dude, the three of us chat for a minute while she stands there. I jokingly tug at his shirt in a "you ol' dog" kind of way. She STORMS OUT OF THE RESTAURANT. Both dudes are confused. Was not a flirty touch of any kind, more like a bro touch. Anyway. Next day at work (I work with this guy), he comes up to me and says, "Hey, you can't do stuff like that. She's really damaged. Has jealousy issues. Doesn't trust men." I apologize profusely, because I didn't realize I had done anything wrong, even asked my date and he was baffled as well. This friend had an emergency key to my house, in case I ever got locked out. He returned it a week later, citing something about "what if you call at 2am?"... but isn't that the point? Isn't that what BEST FRIENDS do? Help each other in times of need? Flash forward a few months in. He refuses to speak to me. Again, we WORK together. Won't look me in the eye. He slowly gives up other relationships, male and female. After dating the girl for 6 months, they get engaged. Now married. No idea how it's going or if he's happy. I ended up moving and haven't spoken to him since. Makes me really sad to see people give up who they are for a relationship.
M. William Bell 3 years ago
The worst part is that one day he will wake up and realize that he’s got nothing left.
Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
That's what abusers do, alienate you from friends and family until they are all that's left (doesn't have to be physical abuse although women sadly are capable of that as well).
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
He's a moron for putting up with that and even dumber for marrying her. That will not be a happy union. People that are this insecure about their relationships shouldn't even be allowed to date, FFS.
JASH80 3 years ago
how do people not realise that no one is so special that they are worth giving up healthy relationships with friends or family? I mean, maybe there is something wrong with me, but I've never been so madly in love that I cut all ties to my friends and family. But then I also don't believe in this "there is this ONE person for us", because after all, we've all had relationships where we thought THAT person was TRULY special and yet, it ended and we found another special person. I know that if one thing ends, something else will start eventually. And if not, just as well.
#32
The point at which she called him and yelled at him... For ninety minutes. It was on speaker, I heard everything, and holy s**t that chick has more red flags than soviet Russia.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
ROFL. So my partner and I are both open to a third person in our relationship. Someone we could both get along with and have fun with, ideally. An ex friends friend heard about this from said ex friend, made several attempts, without ever speaking to me even once, to sleep with my partner. This goes on for a few months until we all go to an adults only pool. She makes another pass at my girl while I'm using the head. Gf tells me and I go ask why she keeps trying to bang my girlfriend but can't even show the basic level of respect and courtesy to talk to me. Her response "I know you heard me screaming at my last ex over the phone and I know you don't like me." And you thought I'd let you have a moment alone with my girl so I can clean up your emotional traumatizing? Nah.
Chich 3 years ago
Had this happen with a friend. I'd never met his wife but had heard she was "a piece of work" as they say. We were out working for the day and pulled into a restaurant for lunch. He had to call her about some run of the mill things. I could hear her from across the table. Screamed and belittled him the entire time. Just nasty nasty things. Felt really bad fror him because he was basically a good guy. Nobody should have to put up with that level of abuse.
#33
Wasn't yet a friends SO (i made sure of that s**t) but we were at a music concert at our uni and my friend (who is Nigerian and I am a light-skinned Brazilian. It's relevant later) had had a crush on her for a few years before inviting her and her other chick friend to spend the weekend with us. I had absolutely no desire to be with either of them so really I was giving up my bed so my friend could get his romance going. Midway through one of the acts, she is grinding on my friend directly behind me when suddenly **she reaches around me and grabs my junk through my pants**.. in the middle of the crowd.. It was pretty f****d up how I felt at the time but I walked away thinking she's probably just too drunk and wants us both or something and I wasn't really having it. Later on while my friend is in the bathroom, she finds me in another part of the crowd and starts dancing on me saying we should head back to the room. I asked why she wasn't with my friend who obviously liked her and she was also vibing pretty openly with him when she was sober. Her response? "My parents would totally freak out if I brought home a black guy. You're not too dark though." My boy and I are still tight as ever but F**K that noise.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
She's disgusting! If he's good enough for her to grind up on, then he should be good enough to be seen with in the daylight, and if he isn't, then she needs to GTFO and not play games with him. Either stand up to her parents or don't drag innocent guys into her mess, leading them on, cause she knows that she won't have a real relationship with them. It's too tiring that in this world we still can't be accepted for who we are inside and not our appearance 😔.
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When he said he didn't like black people. And in turn didn't like me because I was, "loud like black people." I'm not black and it certainly shouldn't matter whether I am or not.
#35
Ugh. The year me and my (now ex) visited my best friend for Thanksgiving. This is a fairly long story btw. I tell this story to people all the time because she's just an awful human being, and this story was just a perfect example of it. In 2009, We traveled from South Carolina to Orlando to stay with my best friend Tom (of about 22 years now) and his then gf, Lauren. We decided it was too expensive to fly up to NY to see our families, so we drove down a few hours to have a friends thanksgiving. We used to be roommates and he is a bad a*s cook, so we figured let's do this. So he and I spend all day shopping, cooking, etc. and dinner rolls around. So we have the usual spread, Turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, rolls, and it's all sitting on the counter. We go in the living room to get the girls, Lauren comes in first. Lauren goes into the cabinet and pulls out 3-4 large Tupperware containers, and says hang on. Nobody take anything yet. I need to make sure that I have leftovers for work this week. Proceeds to take about 60% of each dish, leaving it so everyone has extremely small portions, with no options for seconds. Also takes about 85% of the white meat, because reasons, puts all her Tupperware in the fridge and then grabs a plate. From the already small amount remaining, she takes about half of each dish and slops it in her plate and walks into the dining room. Me and my gf, look at each other, take small plates and go sit down. My best friend was visibly upset, but didn't know what to say. She eats about half her food, then proceeds to throw what's left on her plate out. Now to clarify, Tom has the biggest heart of anyone I know. He's a 6'5" guy who has a heart of gold and would give you his XL shirt off his back. Why he was with her, I don't know. He had a good job, making 50k+, She was not a large girl, average build. Worked at an architectural firm doing 3D renderings, fairly book smart girl. Not starved for money. (Important for story reasons) I really wish too that were the end of this, but fast forward to the next morning. Tom decided he was going to make some [turkey soup](https://imgur.com/a/00Afn) with the leftover carcass and meat. YUM. Big giant pot, lots of goodies inside. Now at the same time in between watching the soup, he had been browsing craigslist at the time for an Xbox 360, and came across someone who was willing to meet that day. So he puts the soup on super low, and we all decide to go out and get his Xbox. Lauren, says oh I'll get it for you as an early bday present, and I think wow, maybe she's not so bad! So we go out, buy the 360, on our way home. Now literally the second we walk in, we could dig in on turkey soup. But, as we are about 4 minutes from home, Lauren is hungry. She says I want a double cheeseburger from McDonalds so she can dunk it in her Turkey soup. Tom argues that food is ready, we can see the driveway, but she makes him go to McDonalds so she can get a double cheeseburger...ok... she's the only one who gets anything and we get home. She rushes to the kitchen gets a HUGE bowl, and proceeds to take the large ladle and scoop right from the bottom. Filling her bowl with most of the goodies and little soup, leaving mostly broth for everyone else. Goes into the living room sits down and eats, while we stand there dumbfounded. Almost there, I promise. We make our soup sit down, eat, and Tom wants to set up his new Xbox. Lauren doesn't really respond as she's dunking her burger in soup stuffing her face. So he gets it set up and fires up Dragon Age, Just playing around with it. Lauren has now had enough soup, which btw is her burger and about 3 spoonfuls, gets up and throws out about 75% of her meal. Walks over to the tv, turns off the Xbox, and says ok you played enough. I want to watch TV now, and ending with "well because I bought it for you, I can decide when you can use it and when I want to watch tv." Mind blown at this girl, the next day couldn't come any faster. /end story. Absolutely mesmerized by her, and how she can be so so selfish. About a year later btw, he went to work, waited until she was gone, came home, packed up his s**t and left, never speaking another word to her again. Being the nice guy he is, he even left her money for his portion of the rent for he remaining months on the lease. **TL;DR** best friend with heart of gold dated a selfish monster for years who had no regard for common courtesy. **Edit:** for anyone curious, he is now engaged to a wonderful girl that is a very big part of our small core group of friends. She treats him extremely well and he's way better off now. They also live together about a half a mile from our current house, and our dogs are [absolute best friends](https://imgur.com/a/eDlpO) **Edit 2:** Had the wrong year! Also, LOTS of questions about why he even stayed with her, or if we talked about it. We had a lot of conversations about it. At the end of the day, it was a comfort thing. They owned two dogs together (different than the beagle in the picture), and he would have had to save up money to move out to his own apartment and maybe some other reason that I don't know about? I think we've all been in those toxic/abusive relationships where no matter what, we are in them for way too long. Not saying its right, but it happens. He knew he was in a s**t spot. Also, yes he took the Xbox, lol. That was about the only damn thing aside from his clothes. **Edit 3:** Thank you anonymous giver of gifts for the gold! First one, and never thought this would blow up so big haha. I'm glad that everyone is enjoying the story, hating the girl, and virtually high giving Tom. Some strange part of me feels like He's getting some form of retribution as over 6k people have seen her monstrous ways. Thanks all! Trying to answer questions as I can heh, it started moving real fast all of a sudden.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Geeze, what a bïtch. Someone should have called her on her bad behavior as soon as she started with it.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
You're absolutely right! What a monster! That taking all the food would have never flown at my house. Only if she bought it and cooked it, other people needed to eat. What a horrible person.
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" I think we've all been in those toxic/abusive relationships where no matter what, we are in them for way too long." I have been never in abusive romantic relationship and am kind of proud of myself to be able to see through guys' usual bull***t. Suddenly I realize that work relationship IS also a relationship and could also be toxic. Damn, now I think I need some soul searching to do...
#36
The first time we met her was at a bar. My bf and I arrived early, so we found a scrabble board on the game shelf and started playing. When my friend and his SO got there, literally before even introducing herself, the SO looked at our scrabble board and said, "Wow that's a lot of small words. Are you guys stupid?" My BF and I were so stunned that we kinda just ignored the comment. Was she joking??? Anyway, she (unsurprisingly) turned out to be a psychotic ultrabitch.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
"Wow. What a stupid thing to say to people you're just meeting. Are you socially r******d?".
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Oh hell no, it's on, bïtch! Let's see you do better in Scrabble...being able to throw that comment back in her face would've been grand.
#37
When my friend told me in great detail about her new boyfriend's work with the CIA - time travel and other secret projects. I expressed some skepticism, but she told me I was just jealous of her great catch.
Nemo 3 years ago
If you have time you should watch Bad Vegan. It's just as bad as this
Load More Replies... Busy Panda 3 years ago
Is the friend or the boyfriend a Republican? Not trying to be a d*** but Marjorie Taylor Greene's Jewish space laser story came to my mind, and out of curiosity I just have to ask...
#38
College Roommate's GF had weird sexy time rules. Apparently it was as follows: Sex between 5AM and 10AM only. Must shower after. Missionary position only. Doggy style for special occasions. Only oral sex in the shower. Only sex in his bed, not hers. If they were drinking, sex was out of the question because it needed to be out of love and not an altered state of consciousness. He was thinking about proposing but walked in on her with two dudes on her bed. Obviously she broke all of her own rules. In so many ways. When he broke up with her she explained the rules were because she could control him better that way so he wouldn't ever think about cheating.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
I kinda like the morning toss 😂 For whatever reason, it's always much easier to "arrive" than it is if we try at night.
#39
When they were married, she used to hit him. That was a big indicator. Later, when she lied to the cops to get him charged with assault, it was pretty satisfying to watch the judge basically pick apart her testimony and say that it was rare to find someone who was so clearly lying, and so brazenly. In the end, he was exonerated in court, and due to a stupid crime she committed during the time of the trial, she ended up with a criminal conviction as a plea deal to settle the first case without having to go to court for the second.
Chich 3 years ago
Had a friend's wife beat herself up and call the police to have him arrested fro abuse. She ended up arrested herself because A) he had witnesses that saw her in the morning and she was fine and who spent the entire day at work wth him and B) for some weird reason she recorded herself doing it and saying she was going to frame him and they found the recording on her phone.
#40
Not sure whether I prefer the occasion where he scolded her over wanting to treat herself to a $2 piece of clothing (with her own money), or when he scolded her about going to a male dermatologist because "they're just perverts who turned their hobby into a career."
Memere 3 years ago
A dermatologist is gonna look at all your skin, so not really that strange.
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How insecure do you have to be to be jealous of a dermatologist. It's all about control, that never ends well for the partner.
over it already 3 years ago
? Dermatologists? Lol gynecologist, maybe (but still a totally valid medical specialty,) but skin doctor? Weirdo.
Memere 3 years ago
Well, dermatologists do look at ALL the skin on a patient's body. But yeah, super weird SO.
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The amount of animals she had. I would understand if she was a farmer or was running a fully stocked zoo with trained staff but she was a girl in her mid 20s that lived in a small 2 bedroom house. She had 12 or so dogs, a bunch of cats, a couple of hairless rats, snakes, hamsters, and fish. Her house stunk really bad because she couldn't keep up with all the animals. All of her furniture was gross and she had a deal with something taking a dump in her bed almost daily. She was bad about stealing people's pets if she felt like they weren't taking proper care of it. There was also something dying in her house all the time. She was in a constant state of morning something. Animals just weren't meant to live in a person's house all bunched up together like that. My friend later dumped her when he found out she was cheating on him. She got pregnant and never really stopped drinking or doing drugs while she was with child. The child was born 3 months premature with a lot of health problems. That was over almost a year ago when she had the child and the baby is still in the hospital today.
eff the haters 3 years ago
"she had a deal with something taking a dump in her bed" amber heard is that you?
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
So much wrong in this story 🤦🏻♀️ Animal hoarders are never right in the head and it seems like there's always a fair bit of enabling going on with the folks around them. The baby is what really kills me, though. There is help out there for pregnant women in addiction. Different drugs have very very different outcomes during pregnancy. Cocaine is mostly harmless to an adult body since it's non addictive but do that while you're pregnant and you will absolutely destroy your developing baby. Opiates wreak havoc by causing lifelong addictions in adults but, if managed appropriately and switched to a safer option like methadone, will often leave no lasting effects and in about half of pregnancies doesn't even require the baby to be weaned off. Many addicted moms to be don't think that anyone can or will help them but that's simply not true. There are lots of places that will work with you to have a healthy, comfortable, & SAFE pregnancy. Shame she couldn't even do THAT much 😔
over it already 3 years ago
Yeah, truth for much of that except the cocaine bit - def both physically and psychologically addictive, and not harmless at all to an adult body.
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He was 25 while she (Edit: my friend) was 15... Didn't rub me the right way
J. F. 3 years ago (edited)
Would also be illegal in Germany (my home) - age of consent is 14 here, but there is an age border within that
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Inclusion2020 3 years ago
Illegal. And at that age, they very much look and behave like children. Not to mention that’s such a vulnerable age. This relationship will change how she views herself and future relationships. It’s just outright pedophelia. It’s wrong on every level.
JASH80 3 years ago
well, have a look at today's teenage girls. Most do not look or behave like children. The girls in my son's class might as well be in their early 20ies, the way they dress and talk. However, once a guy knows she's underage he should keep his fingers off her.
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When she went off on us for arranging a camp site at another friend's wedding (they got married on a 20 acre farm, and the reception was on-site) instead of agreeing to split a hotel room, with one bed, between 8 people (she got the bed, the rest of us would sleep on the floor.) Yeah, no.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago (edited)
WTF, why would 8 people need to split a hotel room? How cheap was this bïtch?!
Candy_Sneke! 3 years ago
Apparently very cheap. Also, how did your username get past the censoring?
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#44
He constantly made fake social media accounts to try and get her to cheat on him.
Randi Campos 3 years ago
Sounds like my ex.. He would use text apps to get different phone numbers and text my phone pretending to be random people either acting like they have the wrong number or I have them my number but don't remember. And when I would say"wrong number don't text"they would go in and on top I blocked them. This went on over and over off and on for 3 years!!!
#45
He tried to feel me up at her birthday party. I tried to tell her, but she took his side. We're no longer friends.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's really sad when they don't listen in a situation like this, but it's hard when they have someone gaslighting them on Maxx Pro the entire time also. It's really difficult to figure out who's being the honest person with someone in your ear, telling you that they're just jealous of what you have together and don't want you to have a successful relationship because they don't, amongst so much more love bombing. They have a tendency to choose people with fractured and damaged families and childhoods, which makes what they say a little easier to believe.
#46
My sister's friend married a guy she met in the Air Force. She was an okay looking girl, not ugly but not gorgeous, a little awkward. She probably would've done fine at college, but high school was hard for her. In the AF after high school she got tons of sudden attention and didn't really know how to handle it. She ended up marrying a guy who: * Was so bad at sex that she told my sister she "preferred a**l because it wasn't quite as painful" * Pushed her for threesomes she didn't want, but said he'd "settle" for a sex doll * Gave her chlamydia. Twice. Ultimately he was the one who divorced her, because she eventually started saying no to some of his more unpleasant sexual preferences (I was never told what, but if she thought a**l was "less painful" I'm going with "abuse disguised as BDSM"). She would've stayed with him even though he was an incredible sleaze. We didn't hear from her much after the divorce. I've always hoped she found someone better. She really just wanted a regular vanilla romance with a good guy, but she said yes to the first one who asked because nobody had asked before.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
As a female who has tried it in both holes, I can assure you the behindus hole is normally FAR more painful than anything even relatively “normal” done to the upper hole. And I’ve trained to get an acclimated behindus hole!
JASH80 3 years ago
super sad.. but.. how are her looks important in this? Are non-gorgeous women less likely to pick a good guy, or do they have to be happy with being picked? I read this a lot, especially in comments from US americans.. is this really such a big deal, how someone looks, as if the character didn't matter?
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
Unfortunately certain cultural aspects of America, including our media/TV shows/etc, put a premium on good looks/a nice body, and make less-gorgeous women the “nerdy ones”. This has been changing a little recently, but yes, the overall culture of the US puts value on appearance.
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#47
My roommate's ex-girlfriend talked him into a open relationship. My roommate is one the nicest, most easy going people i've ever met, he has a great rapport with everyone he meets and he'd go out of his way to sort you out. Enter Charlie. His first serious relationship was with this quiet, reserved girl called charlie; she never came out with him when we had a drink, never came to parties. We never really got to know her in the year they were together. Suddenly we start to see more and more of my roommate without her, even though they lived together (this is before he lived with me) and after a few weeks I asked him, why he's always on his own. He dropped the bomb that they had started an open relationship and more importantly she'd convinced him it was a good idea. As calm a face he was putting on, I could see it was ruining him inside. He was a fairly sexually liberal kinda guy, which is probably how it came up in the first place, but she pushed it way too far. He would come down to the bar with us while she f****d guys in their apartment, it was horrible to see him go through because he loved her, so I kept my mouth shut. Now, here comes the kicker; after a few weeks of it he actually managed to find a girl who was okay with the open relationship thing, and as soon as he told Charlie about it, *she broke up with him.* Guess she couldn't handle it when it happened to her. She was such a f****r, good riddance.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
My brother is with a dumpster slüt like this that he can't seem to rid himself of. He's on the spectrum, has a had time speaking up, and is a submissive. She's taken his car to go screw guys, leaves him with my sister so she can bring dudes to their home, racked up $7k in debt, got him hospitalized because they "foraged" for mushrooms in their backyard, and has on several occasions caused him to snap and take off/attempt suicide/disappear for days at a time, etc. Then when I told him to consider some time alone, she called CYS on me 🙄 I've had to cut him off completely cuz of that psycho. But he's also a grown man who needs to make his own choices 🤷🏻♀️
Mouse 3 years ago
That must be hard for you. Sucks watching those you love make bad decisions.
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#48
He was "cuddling" with her when we met and refused to even take his hands off her for one second to shake my hand when I offered it. He just looked at my hand and held her in closer.
She thought it was sweet. I thought it was rude. Turns out he didn't much care for women who he couldn't hold in and he found many such women in the course of the marriage.
Drea Benoit 3 years ago (edited)
One of my friends has a gross, insecure leech of boyfriend like this. She and I literally refer to him as “the leech”. He always has to overdo the PDA around her friends, but she said he doesn’t do it around his friends. The first time I met him he wouldn’t stop trying to cuddle and tickle her in this icky way under the table at a restaurant. It was just the three of us and I was so uncomfortable that I just stopped trying to eat and started packing up to leave. He never liked me, but after that he’s taken his derogatory comments towards me so far that I banned him from my house. In turn, he banned her from my house. So she has to sneak around to call me or visit. I hate it and I miss my friend a lot
#49
She's 19 and claimed to have written with JK Rowling, GRR Martin, John Steinbeck (huh?); discovered a new metal; and "solved" (i.e. knowing the result of every possible game) of chess. Something seemed a bit off about her.
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I had a primary school teacher when I was a kid who was like that - ie a pathological liar. The lies she told were just as ridiculous as these. Her brother played Emperor Palpatine in Star Wars (she's not even British), she was friends with a rock star, she hung out with Olympic athletes, she was married to famous Australian author Tom Keneally... even us little kids didn't buy a word of it. I for one resented that she apparently thought we were that stupid.
Inclusion2020 3 years ago
As a teacher, this just sounds gross. Your priority should be education and social skills. Providing opportunities for your kids that they might otherwise never receive. This lady sounds absolutely nuts and shouldn’t be a teacher haha.
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🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
I will never understand people with that one-up syndrome 🤦🏻♀️ Like, why do you lie about stuff that is so easily disproven?! And why do you have to make yourself seem bigger/smarter/cooler/etc. whenever anyone mentions something? That gets so freaking annoying very very fast.
Nemo 3 years ago
There's a difference between a mental health issue and one-upping
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#50
My friend randomly made an Instagram and only followed his GF, GF's mother, sister, and some of her friends. Naturally I was confused why he didn't follow his best buddy, me, so I followed him and he followed back. I asked him if he saw a picture I uploaded and and he said "oh yeah I didn't make that, my girlfriend was looking at my new phone and it had instagram predownloaded and accidentally clicked it and it automatically made an account for me." I replied "Oh, so it automatically knew to make an account with your name, a username with your name, a profile picture of you and her, have one post of you and her, make a cheesy bio about your GF, and follow her family and best friends? Oh, and it followed me back weeks later so it must be acting on its own well after she accidentally pushe it once." Only thing he could say is that the Internet is crazy and you never know what type of AI technology they have out these days. No mate, your girlfriend is f*****g crazy.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
He knows. He's embarrassed to admit that he knows and yet can't bring himself to leave.
#51
A bit of background, this was a good friend of ours and previous roommate. At this point he'd moved out about a year and a half prior and we'd only had internet contact with him since. It was a meetup of old friends when we went to visit home. This was the first time we (wife and I) met his newest girlfriend after his previous long-term relationship ended. She wasn't so bad, kind of giggling and goofy for him since he's a bit more serious, but fine, they seemed happy. We were out for dinner and her and my wife go off to the bathroom. I thought this was odd, since my wife is kind of a tomboy and doesn't do the whole 'girls go to the bathroom to do their makeup and gossip' thing, but I find out later friend's SO invited her to ask her a few questions about our friend. Well, after about 20 minutes went by, I realized they weren't back yet. We were both tipsy and engaged in conversation and time got away. This was a small gathering of a few couples, and one of hte other girls goes to check on them. Come to find out, friend's SO basically had my wife cornered in the bathroom, crying in her face and demanding to know why our friend had a secret crush on my wife and why he wouldn't admit it to her. After getting the recap from my wife, she said she had no clue if the girl was going to attack her or molest her since a few times she was apparently completely against her to the wall. Apparently it was a mixture of my wife wanting to calm her down, and also a little afraid since she was half this girl's size and legitimately couldn't get past her that caused the long drawn out... issue. Luckily the person going to check on them snapped the girl out of it and diffused the situation. Very bizarre, we've seen her one time since (not exactly on purpose) and she acts like the whole thing didn't happen. She apparently has no history of mental illness, but I have no clue beyond that.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
That behavior towards the friend's wife was absolutely NOT okay by any means! That's so dâmn disturbing to me. I would have really wanted it addressed right there, while there was a witness to the incident. That's just all kinds of crazy.
Wonderful 3 years ago
I 100% agree. Party’s done. What the hell is going on and who do you think you are cornering my wife like that! Put it out in the open, all friends to see and your buddy’s girlfriend having too explain herself to your wife, you all the party guests and importantly her boyfriend. Don’t sweep this s**t under the rug.
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#52
He wasn't allowed to come over and have a "hang over day" (couple beers, greasy food, smoking, football) this Sunday because his girlfriend was doing homework. He's almost 27 and she's 21. They showed up at like 6 (was invited at 12) and it was me and 2 other dudes just shirtless, not showered, and napping on the couches with the game on. I woke up to him getting yelled at by her.. EDIT: Okay so this is blowing up and theres some really weird homophobic comments starting so let me specify. I sleep without my shirt on and so does my roommate I assume. The reason why we are shirtless was because we didnt think to shower or get dressed. Just wanted to hang out in some comfy clothes and be low maintenance that day. If we knew she was coming then we probably wouldve got a shirt on or something but as I stated in the story they showed up like 6 hours later and while I was sleeping. Also, just because you didnt shower that day, doesnt mean youre smelly. It not like we just had an intense workout. Were not savages, just lazy that day..
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
These guys seem like my kinda people! Lazy, 420-filled, clothing optional Sunday hangout?! Yes, please!
Electra Complex 3 years ago
If you're not hanging out shirtless with your roommates, are you even friends?
Memere 3 years ago (edited)
All of these were originally posted on reddit. Bored Panda pulls a ton of stuff from reddit, and twitter, and instagram. Here's a link to the original: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/6ztp70/what_made_you_realise_there_was_something_off/dmxzfbd/
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#53
She falsely accused her cousin of r**e. He ended up being jailed, lost his green card, and deported. The nail in the coffin was when she slept with his older brother. Edit: I didn't make my self exactly clear. Let me clear it up a bit. And expand on how psychotic this woman is. When she was 15 she accused her older cousin of r**e. Because he turned her down, for obvious reasons. The question was when did I realized my friends SO was nuts. Well, my best friend married this woman when he was 18. A year after that the false accusation came to light, a month after that, in a series of events that just didn't add up. I uncovered her affair with my friends brother. When I told my friend about the situation, he accused me of wanting to ruin his relationship and basically cut me off. In the years after, it was constant fighting between them. She faked two pregnancies to keep him around, while still sleeping around. One day ( 10 years after being with her) my friend says he's had enough. He leaves her, finds himself another girl. And doesn't live happily ever after. Because his ex filled their kid's head with lies, somehow the divorce went completely in her favor, and she kept it all with an obscene amount in alemony and child support. The man is a responsible father. By the way. Did I mention this woman is my wife's cousin? Yeah. After me and my friend restarted our friendship. She spread lies that I was trying to get at her thinking he would have an issue with that. It caused a major strain between me and my wife. I could go on and on about her, but I'll just cut it here.
#54
Well when I met her for the first time, after saying nice to meet you and whatever she tries to play matchmaker and wants to hook me up with one of her friends who's been arrested multiple times. And then she tried to hook me up with another one of her friends who had a boyfriend at the time. I ended up being good friends with that girl though and got her to stop being friends with my friends SO because she was a huge b***h to her all the time. And then the ultimatums. She invited me and a couple other people over to her house to smoke and drink and whatever and I go to my friend and asked if he wanted to smoke and she says "if you smoke I'm breaking up with you" right in front of me and that was awkward as hell. She couldn't take a joke. At a Halloween party she came up to me and told me that my friend hit her only to find out that it didn't happen and she was making s**t up to get between me and my friend. It took a while but I was finally able to convince him to break up with her after she had a huge meltdown calling me a piece of s**t even though I didn't do anything to her except try to coexist. She sent angry texts to me about being friends with the girl she tried to hook me up with and not getting in between her already standing relationship that she had with her boyfriend. She called me a bad friend for not supporting their relationship fully. She was mentally and emotionally abusive to my friend. She'd put down anything he wanted to do and made him feel like s**t every time. She was just a huge c**t and I thank god that he got out of that relationship. I also once had her and her friend over my house one day to hang out by the pool or whatever and she asked me for a glass of water so I get it for her and I come outside to see her going through MY PHONE to see what me and my friend talk about. She has no respect for anyone's privacy and it really pissed me off and that was when I realized that this b***h is crazy
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
Not sure which way to go with this one. I've seen girls like this but I've also seen the best friend get involved with a new girl and make changes in his life that his friends don't really agree with and blame everything on the girl, whether it was honestly her asking for those changes or not. I've seen guys actually want to make the changes because they want to at least check out a different type of girl and I've seen the guys that tell the girl they're making changes but only keep up appearances when they're with them. And vice versa with girls doing it towards guys. It's hard to say who's interfering with whose relationship without knowing all the background and details. It's sad that being adults, that you can't have a relationship with your best friend and your girlfriend,and have to choose.
#55
When my dog who never growls at anyone, growled at my friend's boyfriend. That was three years ago and he is still the first and only person she has ever growled out in the six years I've had her. They're engaged now -_-
ThatHuskyStorm 3 years ago
I don’t know why you were downvoted. It’s true you should trust animals. The dog likely read OP’s of the friends body language. That’s how they gage a situation and wether they should trust someone or not.
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not necessarily. My best friend's dog growls at me and only at me, and I love animals, I've never had this kind of issue with any other animal ever. All my friends have dogs, never had an issue. Neither with dogs I meet on the street. Sometimes it just doesn't click.. well, to be fair, she was a stray and no one knows what happened to her (could have been mistreated by a tall blonde woman in her previous life) but I don't think a dog not liking a specific person automatically means it's a bad person, all other dogs might like this friend's BF just fine
#56
When he told me he cannot keep a regular job because he is used to the fame and people asking for autographs and screaming his name. He is an unemployed opera singer who has done a total of 5-10 small shows his whole "career." Baby is due in March.
#57
We'd invite the two of them for dinner, and he'd repeatedly tell my S/O and me that the 4 of us should play a "do-it-to-the-end game of strip poker."
He put emphasis on the word *poker*.
#58
He sent her out of her basement when we were all hanging out one night, and begged me to let him suck my feet. She finally broke up with him a few years later when he admitted to needing to think about raping me to get off while jerking off. The jerk.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
That's insanely disturbing. OP should be very concerned.
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#59
Well I knew he was a creep based on the fact that he was almost 40 and dating a 19 year old. But what really drove it home is when he told her to invite me into a threesome with them (I was also 19). Horf.
#60
She is a Trump supporter. On social security for a disability. That doesn't prevent her from spending ~50 hours a week working on his campaign.
Wonderful 3 years ago
It’s like you’re reading my mind. Word for word lol
Load More Replies... Cold Contagious 3 years ago
If someone can work somewhere of their own choosing for 50 hours a week, then they don't need disability. I do realize this statement could be wildly exaggerated by the person making this post. Several years ago it was fairly easy to get approved for disability most places, but currently it's getting very difficult some places to get disability, even when you have multiple chronic conditions.
JMC5003 3 years ago
Ahem. Not sure where you live, but I live in the US and it's been extremely difficult to get approved for social security disability benefits for at least 3 decades, unless your doctor says you are terminally ill with a very short expected life span. Social security is forced insurance paid through the government. I'm glad we have it, but it's insurance - you shouldn't have to jump through hoops and wait for years to get a claim approved!
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He kept beating the s**t out of her and taking all her money, then he crashed her car while drag racing, gave her herpes and tried to kill her.
Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez 3 years ago
I think we shouldn't speak about flags, at this point.
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She said if the Occupy Wall Street protestors were smart, they'd be working inside Goldman Sachs instead of sleeping outside on park benches. She honestly did not understand ethics at all and thought the protestors were jealous of the wealthy.
#63
When my best friend and his SO started in an LDR, I didn't think much of it. But when she would repeatedly make fun of my him to her friends on twitter I brought it up. She repeatedly cheated on him and acted like they weren't serious at all. Told my friend again because he was head over heels. They finally broke up because of a fight over something unrelated to the things I brought up to my friend.
Then they got back together and my friend used the stuff I told him to make a stipulation that if she wants anything to do with him she has to be serious. For whatever reason she stick with it. She started pulling him away from me gradually.
Quick flashback, when his ex gave birth to his two sons I dropped everything, was late to work because of one of them, and spent as much time as I could with them.
When I had my daughter, I invited my best friend not once, not twice but 3 times to meet her. He couldn't be bothered to come to the hospital. Not because of work but because he "needed" to be on the phone with his girlfriend.
I burned that bridge so quickly. Now they're engaged with a kid of their own. He moved to Florida for her and is an alcoholic now. Good riddance to both of them.
#64
When he forced himself on her to impregnate her a second time, cut her off from her family and took control of her. Got her out of it, kicked his a*s and got her divorced. I hope her ex has the worst life ever.
#65
He started attending my college at 26, which isn't strange at all, but he INSISTED on living in the dorms for three years. It's not like we're a college town with expensive/far away/sh**ty off-campus housing, he just liked the ego boost of being around kids 8+ years younger than him. My friend was 19 when they started dating. Another thing was that he was a "full time" stand up comedian with his own youtube channel. He mostly did open mic events at bars, but couldn't stand watching other people on stage perform if it wasn't him. He would sit and seethe when my friend told him she didn't want to leave when watching other people perform. The creepiest moment was undoubtedly when my friend asked me if my boyfriend ever watched b*********y porn. Taken aback, I said f**k no and told her that'd be a major deal breaker for me if he did. She said "Oh. bf told me that every guy watches it." Thankfully they broke up last week and I couldn't be more proud or happy for her.
Electra Complex 3 years ago
There are so many asterisks in that word like.... Can I buy a vowel??
#66
I worked with a woman who was absolutely without a doubt working only so that she could find a sugar-daddy. She called everyone "love" and hugged everyone the moment she saw them, sometimes up to 5 times a day, then would turn around and talk c**p about them. She told everyone she was in medical school (impossible of course), that she was rich (lived in her car), and any work topic that came up she would immediately insist that she was an expert on it, and would then proceed to babble on about the topic, basically saying nothing that made any sense. Downright crazy! She wore inappropriate clothing to work, too, all in layers. As the day wore on, she would take off her sweater first, then her shirt, and by the end of the day she'd be wearing a very tight-fitting tank top with elaborately knotted scarves around her neck, glittery belts, tight jeans, cowboy boots, etc. We are allowed to wear casual clothes at work, but she dressed like she was going to a nightclub. Anyway ... she managed to get into a romantic relationship and moved in with one of my coworkers (practically overnight!) and then immediately quit her job (supposedly to start working at a better job). He bought into her lies and never questioned them. Suddenly she wasn't working anymore (so he was now supporting her 100%). She wanted to go to concerts, on long weekend vacations, to bars and nightclubs every night ... and this poor guy was getting stretched to his limit both with time and money. After about 6 months, he tried to break it off with her, but by now he was in too deep it would seem. She is a master manipulator, and every time the subject of separating came up, she would pull the "Christianity" card and convince him to pray with her to save their relationship. (He's a devout Christian.) They share a house with 2 other people, and somehow this woman managed to kick the homeowner out of the master bedroom and she now resides in it (and she also took over the master bath, so everyone else has to share the other smaller bathroom). She does zero housework, pays zero rent, and yet she rules the roost. No cooking, no cleaning, just watches TV all day and sleeps. She is the devil incarnate. My coworker is a mess, but can't come up with the balls to kick her out. He's a very loving, forgiving and generous man and knows that she has nowhere to go, so he tolerates her c**p. I keep waiting for the sh*t to hit the fan and maybe the roommates will kick her out, but they all just roll over and play dead while she calls the shots. Weirdest thing I've ever seen.
Memere 3 years ago (edited)
It's legible, and well written. No need to shout at everyone, especially since OP isn't here on BP, they're on reddit. Also this is 5 years old.
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He ALWAYS had to be right, and ANY statement anyone else made had to be wrong (yes, even if you're talking about something you specialise in and he knew nothing about) After four years of marriage they finally decided to end it... by which time very few of her friends were still willing or able to be her friend
#68
Uh... oh s**t I have one for this. So, the first time I noticed... was he had random jealous outbursts aimed at me. Me and her have been friends for years, she's like my sister, if something was gonna happen... it would have about 6 years prior. They would range from an unnecessarily snide comment to him throwing my s**t around. Dude threw my bag, that I was carrying my expensive a*s camera in. Anyway, they moved away eventually for a while... contact got less and less... until, she got back in touch a few times to catch up. Turns out her life was a bit of a hellhole, they lived together but he would have tantrums and she would sleep on the sofa. She had been waking up, going to work, going home, being treated like c**p... then doing it all again the next day. Point is, when she got back in touch, there were things she said as if they were normal "he locked me out of the bedroom", "sleeping on the couch", "just him asking where I am"... her confidence was shot. Long story short, she hit breaking point, moved her s**t out and didn't look back. Still my best friend, wish I could have helped more at the time but it was one f those "people are gonna do what they want to" situations... my job was to step aside and make sure I was there when she needed it. I don't understand controlling people, it shows so little respect for life and someone you profess to love. It's really not right. He got fat and married. It looked like a shotgun wedding because the new girl got him pregnant.
Persp Gold 3 years ago
men who dont understand that i have long-term friends of both genders send a major red flag
Stephanie Ladd 3 years ago
I think it was a joke because usually a shotgun wedding is because the woman is pregnant. but this time the jerk guy looked very pregnant so it was the reverse
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She would try to be flirty with some of the guys in our group of friends. She was 7-8 years younger than my friend. Most of us have known each other for over 20 years, you bending over in a provocative way trying to flash your a*s to us doesn't make you look cute or hot, just immature and stupid. This girl would also get drunk and literally just run out of a party. The girl was unstable and crazy, which meant the sex was probably amazing for my boy. They lasted 2 years before he finally saw the light.
Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez 3 years ago
As a 48 yo man, I've already seen this more than once.
#70
Where to start: The double date we went on where he corrected her on the difference between UFC and MMA and she turned into the corner of the booth and didn't talk to anyone the rest of the night. How he wasn't allowed to hang out with me either because I was dating someone and they might have hot friends or I was single and needed a wingman. There was the time I used my dads truck to help them move and she got mad at me........ I don't remember why I just remember her friends doing almost nothing and then leaving before we were done. The final straw for me (I decided she was an abusive shrew long before this) was when we were working for his parents band on a river boat concert. She got mad that we were hanging out, literally just talking on a small boat. She left the ring on the table and left the boat the second it docked. Unfortunately they made up after this and have been living together for the last year, hoping it ends soon.
Persp Gold 3 years ago (edited)
Going out with a man that corrects his date on the difference between UFC and MMA sounds like a nightmare on both sides
#71
He would always talk about how he was going to be an alcoholic and how he was going to hit my friend. She never thought anything of it until after they broke up, but it bothered me. He also said things about how he was happy her dad was dying/died because he wouldn't have to deal with him anymore.
#73
When she came to a party of mine with my buddy and told everyone while my buddy was out of the room that she "loves to sleep with everyone" and to "not tell" my buddy because he doesnt know. They broke up soon after.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
This girl sounds like a criminal mastermind or a stupid moron and I'm not sure which she may actually be. I know I'd never walk into a room filled with friends of the person I'm seeing and announce that I "love to sleep with everyone" and tell them not to tell their friend. Like they would keep what I had to say in the strickest of their confidence... how crazy is this 😳...
#74
he made a "joke" about having a 4-way with his wife, and me/my husband (2 gay males) one too many times.
#75
When they talked about moving in together and he insisted they don't buy plates. Buying plates was "buying into and accepting consumerism" so instead they were going to use paper plates for all meals.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
...but they'd just wind up spending more money on all those paper plates?! AND they're not reusable!
JASH80 3 years ago
it literally says in the text what they were going to use instead
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He cut himself in front of her in our apartment while I was sleeping as a twisted act of manipulation, she was freaked out but she's pretty good at seeing the best in everyone and quite naive so they moved in together not long after. I ended up telling her I couldn't emotionally support her if she just kept complaining because it wasn't helping her but I would have her back if she left. He kept telling her he would kill himself. She was 18 he was 30 when it began, after two years she finally left him.
Dave 3 years ago
I had an ex pull this s**t on me when I broke it off. She threatened to kill herself. The thing is, I absolutely despise manipulation and I asked her if she wants to jump in front of a train or should I get a rope for her, so she can hang herself. Of course, I knew she is trying to manipulate me, and she got very pissed off when she saw her b******t does not work. The likes of her and what the OP described, never pull the trigger, on themselves that is. They are Manipulative, Narcissistic Pieces of s**t!
ThatHuskyStorm 3 years ago
This is the situation were you call the cops and tell them what was said. Once done you get the hell out of there and never look back.
#77
She became a completely different person around her friends and did nothing to stop them when they started talking s**t about her boyfriend. While he was in the same room as them.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
That sounds like her true nature coming out. I hope he listened while she was telling him who she is.
#78
His handshake. I feel like a dead fish is usually an exaggeration, but now I see why it's called that. I wiped my hand on my pants afterward.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
For real, a bad handshake feels awful! I've always been proud of the fact that older guys have told me I have a "nice, firm handshake"...of course half the time it's followed by "for a woman" 🙄 But I guess I've got to take the wins where I can 😅
Wonderful 3 years ago
Same here. I’ve even made a guy redo his handshake cause it was so bad. Hopefully he learned not to wimpy limp a handshake when meeting someone. Us womens got good handshakes🤓. Well some of us do lol. A guy friend had a girl who would place out her hand in a way like she wanted you to bend the knee and kiss her ring. She also said, “How Charming.” All the time like she was stooping low to talk to us peasants. She didn’t last long and we all say her catchphrase hautingly when joking around.
Load More Replies... HeatherDPanda 3 years ago
We do all have to realize firm handshakes are a cultural expectation. For many cultures a slight soft handshake is considered appropriate and expected.
#79
When he had to ask her permission to come hang out with us, his best friends. He's 21 years old.
🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Ehh, this one I think is more just common courtesy to your SO. I ask my husband if he minds if I go out/do something and I prefer that he also check in with me, as well. I'd never say "no" but I do want to be able to plan accordingly and know what he'll be doing.
Mouse 3 years ago
You saying you have courtesy between you and checking in, sounds normal to me but this person having to ask permission is treading into problems.
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When she told me she doesn't wear the same outfit twice. EVER.
#81
She said she could see the future and she just *knew* that I was going to be a serial killer.
#82
When he asked me, in front of my best friend, his gf, why I wore a one piece because you have a nice figure and shouldn't cover it....he also smacked her kid for something. She married him and move away and they have another kid.
JASH80 3 years ago (edited)
well, there is nothing wrong with telling your best friend's friend she's got a nice figure.. honestly, is it so bad nowadays that you can't compliment a woman in front of your GF because she might be jealous? I tell my BF's friends often that I like their progress (weightlifter) or that I think they are good looking and my BF agrees, because he knows there are other goodlooking people and me telling his friends they are handsome doesn't reduce his own handsomeness in any way. He also points out goodlooking women to me (and man, some of them are worlds above me), or calls my friends gorgeous, and why wouldn't he? I have gorgeous friends, there's nothing wrong with pointing that out, as long as it's just stating a fact and not drooling over them.. Of course, part 2 of the story is horrible.
#83
My roommate's ex boyfriend had a (new) Dodge Challenger. I had never met anyone with a Challenger who wasn't a gigantic douche. I still haven't.
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
Just touching bases. I've yet to meet a challenger owner who wasn't a douche either.
Wonderful 3 years ago
Ditto. Even the wife of a challenger owner who had her own car was a douche.
Load More Replies... 🧶𝔹𝕚𝕥𝕔𝕙 𝕂𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣🪡 3 years ago
Ehh, you're the one who sounds like a douche - who prejudges someone based on their car?!
JMC5003 3 years ago
My brother owned a Dodge Challenger and he's one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.
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nothing as major as other replies here. but she would, and probably still does, taste the cat food to "make sure it's alright for the cat". My brother told me about that, so I've never talked to her about it, since I dont want to confront a weirdo like that on that subject. she also had to house sit for literally a day and a half while everyone was gone. I had cleaned up everything before leaving, but left the kitchen table full of the mail, all organized, since I didnt expect her to use the table at all. in that day and a half she cleaned up everything again and rearranged all of the vases, flowers etc in the living room and we had to look for the mail with all the bills.. she would also be fine with other people drinking saying "they're grown ups, they can do what they want" yet my brother was not allowed to drink..
#85
He got her hooked on drugs, stole her rent money to buy drugs for himself, and beat her almost daily. I dunno, he seemed a bit off.
#86
Probably gonna get buried, but she told my roommate and I my coworker tried to force himself on her. We got pissed and almost confronted him until a mutual friend told me they were sleeping together... Roommate didn't believe me and it turned into a huge f*****g mess...
#87
I hate half my friends SO's so this is perfect ! One of my friends girlfriends would hit on me thru instagram and Snapchat constantly, she ended up cheating on my friend three or more times. They ended up breaking up, dating new people, then leaving those people for each other. Shortly after they got back together my friend's dad passed away unexpectedly. Weeks later her girlfriend f*****g ends up breaking up with her THE DAY OF HER DAD'S FUNERAL! Who does that??? Another friend was in an LDR and their gf would force them to drop anything and everything they were doing to Skype with them, if they didn't a huge tantrum would ensue, they ended up breaking up and the gf threatened suicide as well as sending graphic images of her slit wrists to my friend. It's been 6 or 7 years and like four girlfriends later and this girl still hits them up claiming they're the love of their life. The most recent one, my friend has been with this guy for four years, I've always been kind of neutral about him like we don't have many shared interests and his personality is very.. mild I guess? But I've always tolerated him. So about a year ago I find out that he has created an okcupid AND a tinder and is talking to girls that his girlfriend was friends with in the past. I end up being the one that has to show her the screenshots, she is understandably very upset and ends up calling him and this dude is so f*****g blasé about it like he was acting like he forgot to pick up milk at the store instead of literally trying to cheat with two separate people. The whole time his excuses are "I was lonely" and "I just wanted to make friends!" but I don't buy it for a second like.. there are plenty of non-dating apps for that. So anyway they end up breaking up shortly after that but he ends up """getting kicked out of his house"""" by his grandparents (which I also think was either exaggerated or just complete b******t) and Rachel being the angel she is offered up her place. They now live in a new apartment together and like.. I'm happy my friend is happy but I do NOT trust her boyfriend I think he's a stupid man child 🤷🏻♀️
SelkieBlackfysh 3 years ago
One time a girl threatened to kill herself I I left. "Okay. Can I take jasper?" (The ball python I bought her lol)
#88
Quite a few of my friend's girlfriends hit on me and have wanted to hook up while they are still together. I would always refuse and would invite my buddy out to go have a drink and tell him but they turn it down and start acting weird/sketchy. We will stop talk and I lose a friend. Wonder if the girlfriends are going back home or to their boyfriend/my buddy and telling him something to make them act different towards me.
#89
It was a little weird at first given she was a reg. High school Girl and my friend was a birdperson. My suspicions were justified later at their wedding when she revealed she was an undercover agent of the galactic federation.
Who Panda 420 3 years ago
Lol took me a sec and I've seen this episode prob 10x. (Don't judge there is always something new to notice in Rick and Morty.)
Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez 3 years ago
This was a total error from her side. Star Alliance agent here... and we are now tracking her and her entire scum group.
The_many-faced_Cod 3 years ago
Well you aren't exactly the hero of this story either, you bailed of tiny planet!
#90
I found out he doesn't like Halloween.
What do you think ?
Justin Arnold 3 years ago
Yet another post blocked on Android. Wish BP would update the app so it actually works.
K Wit 3 years ago
My daughter is going through this right now w her friends boyfriend. He's never done anything outright yet but he's said some things to her that have raised some red flags. Her boyfriend doesn't think much of it but his other friend agrees w my daughter bc he said he noticed he's weird around my daughter sometimes too. He makes sure he's a buffer between them now when they're all doing things together. She doesn't know what to say to her friend bc it's nothing that she can really do or say yet
Cobalt.spike 3 years ago
Had a co-worker a number of years back, not particularly close but enough that when I moved jobs she still invited me to a party for her birthday later in the year (I think she was in her mid 20s). She always had wanted coworkers to meet her boyfriend, finally got a change at a mutual coworkers birthday. Guy was super charming, really friendly, big Texan guy, ex-marine, really generous, offered to lend me one of his consoles and games. Nice guy. The SECOND my wife and I left the party, we're walking down the drive to the car, I said "That guy creeps me the f**k out - he's a sociopath". Didn't really talk about it much after. Few weeks later came close to her birthday. Texted about when it was, texted again, called and left a message. Her mum calls me back, explains that the boyfriend beat the hell out of her, throttled her unconscious and put her in hospital. Helped her move under police supervision. Placard of his on the wall of the apartment"USMC the proud the few". Piece of s**t.
George washingmashine 3 years ago
I guess I’m required to say that this happened to me. My boyfriend loved the outdoors, and we lived outside a major city, a few blocks away from each other. I had just moved from across the country. He would constantly call and text me while I was at school, telling me not to talk to boys, to buy him xyz, to come over immediately after school, as if he wasn’t a year below me and went to a different school. I found him making out with another girl on his couch. (Talked to her after, she’s a lovely person and was also dating him) then he actually tried to hit me and I was done. I still live there, and his parents hung a flag which symbolizes white supremacy, and talking to literally anyone in a relationship I realized that what we had wasn’t love, but a desire to take advantage of a girl who had no friends and had moved across the country a month ago.
Carneirinha87 3 years ago
Ugh, I had to stop being friends with someone because of their attitude. I met both of them through my last job. We're in different countries, I'm an immigrant and they're still living at my home country. We had a lot of fun talking and making jokes all day on Facebook. But one day she calls me out of the blue saying that he hit her... crying, saying she's scared of him... it really shook us (my and my boyfriend were driving to go somewhere and I answered on handsfree). I called him and he was in shock as it didn't happen. Turns out she called his parents, his friends, everyone saying that he hit her but it didn't happen. When I talked to her again, she was trying to say that she never said that. WTF! I told her that she did, we both heard it, and she was crying and everything. Since then, I can't really be friends anymore. It breaks my heart that he's still with her as he's lovely. Continuing in comments.
Carneirinha87 3 years ago
He's such a lovely guy and she has tons of issues in her life, with her family and all. He doesn't deserve this... he's in a situation where he just wants to be there with her but there's no future for them at all... I had to just walk away... we still talk from time to time but I used to have them staying with us sometimes, I just can't now...
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LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
One of my sisters boyfriends, I think she was only 19 at the time, legally an adult and living with a friend but she wouldn't talk about him. Her prior boyfriend I would hear endless stories about, but this one, we only knew she was seeing someone from her roommate telling us. For once my dad's over-protectiveness came in handy. Because boyfriend moved for work, she was constantly taking off to see him, every few days going by bus on her own, my dad figured out she wasn't where she was supposed to be. Eventually it came to a point: she wasn't on birth control and he removed a condom without her knowledge. She had already been trying to break up with him. When she found out she was pregnant she was devastated. She got an abortion only after I admitted that I had one before, and I made her get birth control.
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago (edited)
But he kept on harassing her, phone calls, text messages, endless posts on her Facebook page for all of us to see, even showed up once. Telling me that part was a good thing. I convinced her to tell me where he lived, the next day my husband and my dad were gone all day and she's never heard from him since. Whatever those two did, they aren't telling.
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Justin Arnold 3 years ago
Yet another post blocked on Android. Wish BP would update the app so it actually works.
K Wit 3 years ago
My daughter is going through this right now w her friends boyfriend. He's never done anything outright yet but he's said some things to her that have raised some red flags. Her boyfriend doesn't think much of it but his other friend agrees w my daughter bc he said he noticed he's weird around my daughter sometimes too. He makes sure he's a buffer between them now when they're all doing things together. She doesn't know what to say to her friend bc it's nothing that she can really do or say yet
Cobalt.spike 3 years ago
Had a co-worker a number of years back, not particularly close but enough that when I moved jobs she still invited me to a party for her birthday later in the year (I think she was in her mid 20s). She always had wanted coworkers to meet her boyfriend, finally got a change at a mutual coworkers birthday. Guy was super charming, really friendly, big Texan guy, ex-marine, really generous, offered to lend me one of his consoles and games. Nice guy. The SECOND my wife and I left the party, we're walking down the drive to the car, I said "That guy creeps me the f**k out - he's a sociopath". Didn't really talk about it much after. Few weeks later came close to her birthday. Texted about when it was, texted again, called and left a message. Her mum calls me back, explains that the boyfriend beat the hell out of her, throttled her unconscious and put her in hospital. Helped her move under police supervision. Placard of his on the wall of the apartment"USMC the proud the few". Piece of s**t.
George washingmashine 3 years ago
I guess I’m required to say that this happened to me. My boyfriend loved the outdoors, and we lived outside a major city, a few blocks away from each other. I had just moved from across the country. He would constantly call and text me while I was at school, telling me not to talk to boys, to buy him xyz, to come over immediately after school, as if he wasn’t a year below me and went to a different school. I found him making out with another girl on his couch. (Talked to her after, she’s a lovely person and was also dating him) then he actually tried to hit me and I was done. I still live there, and his parents hung a flag which symbolizes white supremacy, and talking to literally anyone in a relationship I realized that what we had wasn’t love, but a desire to take advantage of a girl who had no friends and had moved across the country a month ago.
Carneirinha87 3 years ago
Ugh, I had to stop being friends with someone because of their attitude. I met both of them through my last job. We're in different countries, I'm an immigrant and they're still living at my home country. We had a lot of fun talking and making jokes all day on Facebook. But one day she calls me out of the blue saying that he hit her... crying, saying she's scared of him... it really shook us (my and my boyfriend were driving to go somewhere and I answered on handsfree). I called him and he was in shock as it didn't happen. Turns out she called his parents, his friends, everyone saying that he hit her but it didn't happen. When I talked to her again, she was trying to say that she never said that. WTF! I told her that she did, we both heard it, and she was crying and everything. Since then, I can't really be friends anymore. It breaks my heart that he's still with her as he's lovely. Continuing in comments.
Carneirinha87 3 years ago
He's such a lovely guy and she has tons of issues in her life, with her family and all. He doesn't deserve this... he's in a situation where he just wants to be there with her but there's no future for them at all... I had to just walk away... we still talk from time to time but I used to have them staying with us sometimes, I just can't now...
Load More Replies... LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
One of my sisters boyfriends, I think she was only 19 at the time, legally an adult and living with a friend but she wouldn't talk about him. Her prior boyfriend I would hear endless stories about, but this one, we only knew she was seeing someone from her roommate telling us. For once my dad's over-protectiveness came in handy. Because boyfriend moved for work, she was constantly taking off to see him, every few days going by bus on her own, my dad figured out she wasn't where she was supposed to be. Eventually it came to a point: she wasn't on birth control and he removed a condom without her knowledge. She had already been trying to break up with him. When she found out she was pregnant she was devastated. She got an abortion only after I admitted that I had one before, and I made her get birth control.
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago (edited)
But he kept on harassing her, phone calls, text messages, endless posts on her Facebook page for all of us to see, even showed up once. Telling me that part was a good thing. I convinced her to tell me where he lived, the next day my husband and my dad were gone all day and she's never heard from him since. Whatever those two did, they aren't telling.
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