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“The Rest Of My Present Was In His Pants”: Woman Breaks Up With Boyfriend Because Of Gift
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“The Rest Of My Present Was In His Pants”: Woman Breaks Up With Boyfriend Because Of Gift

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Some people put quite a lot of effort into choosing the best gift for their loved one, as, no matter how big or small, a thoughtful present is likely to be a well-received one.

This redditor wasn’t too happy with what her boyfriend got her for Christmas, though. To make matters worse, his behavior on Christmas day was arguably even worse than the gift itself, which eventually led to the woman ending the relationship.

Bored Panda has reached out to the OP and she was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find her thoughts in the text below.

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    This redditor wasn’t too happy with the Christmas gift she got from her boyfriend, but his behavior made the day even worse

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    After receiving her gift, the OP felt disrespected and used by her partner

    The OP shared with Bored Panda that the thing that upset her the most was feeling disrespected by her partner in the overall sense. “I’m perfectly fine dating someone who makes significantly less money, but he treated me like I deserved the leftovers of his respect, energy, and affection.

    “He could have baked a small cake or made a pendant—both within his talents—and I would have been way over the moon,” the redditor said, suggesting that he could have gotten her something affordable yet more personal than the gift she received. She added that even a pajama or an ugly Christmas sweater would have been better, truth be told.

    The woman admitted feeling used, too, because her partner could always count on her but couldn’t be bothered to set some time aside to get her something meaningful. “To be honest, the more material gifts or favors—helping in any way—he got from me, the more distant he became. This is why I felt used; it’s like he didn’t need to pursue me anymore.”

    The OP told Bored Panda that she didn’t expect the huge response her story received from the online community. “I just came to Reddit to express my aggravation and confusion because I was being gaslighted but I never expected so much support.

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    “This has made a huge difference,” she said, adding that reading through the comments helped her realize that she should block her ex-boyfriend’s siblings, who have started calling her from unfamiliar numbers.

    One of the best ways to ensure the recipient enjoys their gift is focusing it on their personal interests

    It’s safe to say that an excellent gift often involves a great deal of consideration. The gift giver might want to think about the receiver’s hobbies, taste (be it food, clothing, music, or else), wishes and feelings, among other things, as taking all of this into account can help choose something they would sincerely enjoy.

    It’s important to note that it doesn’t have to be a grand expensive gift for it to be a special one or to bring joy to the person on the receiving end; something useful—like a pair of AirPods, for instance, which the OP got for her boyfriend—can surely do the trick. “Price doesn’t play any impact on how people enjoy something,” celebrity stylist and personal shopper Sam Spector told The Wirecutter when discussing what makes an excellent gift. “It truly is the thought that counts.”

    Spector seconded the idea that taking the recipient’s interests into consideration is a good way to go about Christmas presents; but it’s important not to overdo it. “I love following themes. I think that’s a great way to gift-give,” the expert shared, pointing out that a runner, for instance, might enjoy some new gear. (But that doesn’t mean that all gifts from now on should only be focused on their love for running.)

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    Personal gifts can strengthen people’s relationships

    Surveys reveal that a personal gift is something the majority of Americans would choose over an expensive one. A study from 2021 found that 62% of respondents would be happier with something of a high sentimental rather than monetary value, with gifts that are considered heartfelt and personalized topping the list.

    According to award-winning author and behavioral ecologist Caitlin O’Connell, personal gifts that symbolize affection and knowledge of others can strengthen people’s relationships. “A gift shows our appreciation in a lasting way, as a reminder that inspires continued connection,” she suggested in Psychology Today.

    “The goals of any gift <…> are to be a reminder of our relationships, to express our appreciation to someone by showing that we are thinking about them, and to solidify our commitment to that relationship and its future,” the expert wrote.

    After the gift the OP received from her boyfriend and the way he responded to her efforts of creating a festive mood, the woman saw no future in the relationship and decided to end it. Such a decision was seemingly met with support from fellow redditors, who didn’t refrain from sharing their opinions on the boyfriend and the situation in the comments.

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    Netizens shared their views in the comments, the OP was not the person the majority of them considered a jerk in the situation

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    Groundcontroltomajortom
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's 38 and still acting like that....no wonder his daughters mother is an ex!

    Ms.GB
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He sounds TERRIBLE and what's worse is his family is enabling him which probably has a lot to do with his personality.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't afford a christmas present, then you can still give someone your time, attention, love and respect.

    Gardener of Weeden
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very corny - One year we were so broke it was not funny - I made booklet of IOU's - foot rubs, favorite meals, automatic win a small argument type of things. 40 yrs later - I saw he had kept it - he did use a few of them

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    Nigel Sulley
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The rest of his gift was in his pants? So not even a stocking stuffer..

    Saphyre Fyre
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As soon as he got in he was insulting everything she did FOR HIS SAKE! SO glad you dumped him, he doesn't give 1 chit about you!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When he told her his present was in his pants, she should have groped his crotch for a few seconds and said "Hmmm. This present feels like a d**k - only smaller."

    N Burnette
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder how he'd feel about his daughter being treated that way.

    Stylishsidewaysbird
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Effort is sexy. Most women I know all say the same thing....it isn't the money that makes something special, it's the effort. Would I love a pair of diamond earrings? Yes. Would I love a homemade ornament for the Christmas tree? Also yes. And I would prefer that honestly. Same with dates. Sure a fun cocktail lounge or live music event would be fun but I would prefer a candle lit PB&J picnic in the living room with all my favorite treats. It's so much more memorable and it's all about the thought and effort.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should have thrown him out when he walked in the door and made fun of her makeup.

    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah its not about the money spent, its about the lack of thought that went into it, as well as the disrespect over the day. I'd be texting the relatives back and letting them know -exactly- what happened.

    Carole G.
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Critical & belittling first thing in the door. Your present is in his pants - EWWW! He's been using you & you my dear have just dodged a bullet! Carry on & be happy with someone that will appreciate you. Please, don't go back 🌻

    Katrina VanTassel
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn. Anyone else want to hunt this guy down and rip his “gift” right away from him? If we could find them, that is. Not like he has any balls to begin with. Disgusting.

    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "it's the thought that counts" was invented by a woman. Same monetary value but for something that showed at least a bit of consideration and she'd be fine.

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    C W
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "He arrived and the first thing he did was to make fun of my makeup." Nope. You were within every right to kick him out permanently right then.

    TalontShow
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would've been happier with nothing and my s/o telling me they just can't afford anything. It's xmas, we're adults, who cares about the presents. What matters is if the other person actually takes you into consideration about what they do/don't

    MR
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should tell his brother calling her materialistic that he have his brother's gift her. Both of them. If he couldn't afford a gift, so be it. But to give her a $5 wine when she doesn't drink and then offer her his junk like that? I didn't need to read the next line to know exactly what he meant and that she needed to boot his tail to the curb.

    Herb Jerb
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. Best course of action when dealing with white trash is no action at all. Ignore them. They’ll eventually OD or end up in jail.

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Obviously NTA. OP didn't break up with that POS over him not getting her a gift, it's what not getting her a gift (and literally all of his actions that day) represent. Don't keep people in your lives who can't see or understand that.

    TrdFrgsn
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Note to self: offering ‘what’s in my pants’ is not a good gift.

    Ginger Winters
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly that depends on presentation of the gift and wording... its a fine line between trashy and appeasing when it comes to that

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    Valerie Woods
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not a gift, gentlemen. I know most of you know this, but just in case there's a clueless man out there...it's not a gift.

    Carole G.
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Criticism & belittling first thing in the door & then - "In his pants" - EWWW! You were being used & thanks to all that's holy, you, my dear, dodged a bullet. Carry on & be happy 🌻

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't about "materialism". It's about basic respect, and treating another person like they're special. That guy is REALLY immature.

    Valek Fermiga
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Immature, selfish, worthless piece of s*** deserves to be single, and his daughter living with his mum full time, just imagine what a toxic pr*** he's going to be on his daughter's life....

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, insulting my makeup (I don't wear any, BTW) would earn him the silent treatment for the day. Offering me the gift-in-the-pants would get him bounced out of my life permanently. OP handled the situation like the boss she was meant to be. She saved herself from becoming a sugar mama and a side piece. I certainly hope that the jerk's daughter doesn't follow his example.

    Lise Brouillette
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Materialistic and shallow? I see no indication in what you wrote that you expected him to put himself in the poorhouse. It's not necessary to spend much money on a thoughtful gift when you bother putting some thought into it. And HIS only thoughts are about ridiculing your make-up and your Chrstmas hat, and then spending three hours with others when he should have been with you. There is an income gap, you say? I have a sneaking suspicion this is the real problem - the guy is resentful and feels pettily diminished in his male ego, hence the retaliatory, mean-spirited put-downs. This guy is a nasty SOB, and it looks like his family is no better. They all deserve to be hoofed to the moons of Jupiter.

    TomCat
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be glad you recognized him for who he is and you're able to move on. That's a pretty good gift!

    moggie63
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a shame you didn't gift him a really hard kick in his present to you before you threw him out. What an absolute t****r. You deserve so much better.

    Natasha Arruda
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op needs to tell the relatives "If you think his c*ck is such a gift, y'all can have it."

    Ben
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I saw the ages I totally thought this was going another way. Usually the older person is more mature. But a 38 year-old is doing something a college kid would do.

    FluffyDreg
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You want to know what he could have gifted her without any kind of job or income? "Okay now you sit back watch TV, I'm going to clean for you." Doesn't cost a penny and would have been likley sent her over the roof with appreciation.

    Foxy Sammy
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol his siblings telling OP she is materialistic. As if there's a materialistic who want to date him and use him for money he doesn't have.

    Janet L
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should tell his family his “your gift is in my pants” comment and see how impressed they are with that.

    Sarah Jan
    Community Member
    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me the belittling comments are worse than the “presents.” I don’t think I would break up with someone over 1 thoughtless gift like crappy wine, but i would certainly break up over the disrespect of making fun of my appearance. If the gift thing was a recurring problem it might bother me but gifts just aren’t really my love language. (P.s. I can’t believe he didn’t just offer her a massage when he realized his gift sucked! Free, could have led to some adult fun, and way classier than his pants nonsense. What an idiot on multiple levels.)

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His siblings need to be told straight up - your gift was his d*ck. Let them think about that for a minute. WTF

    Herb Jerb
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first warning flag was he’s 38 and she’s only 28. Then the teenage daughter. They’re both emotionally immature but she just did some growing up. I wonder what he got his other girlfriend.

    JP Purves
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad you dumped his useless a*s, but you should have seen this coming. He's a user. He even had you drive his daughter to her mother's house! What a slug.

    Ryan Mercer
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited)

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    While certainly not a classy moment, this guy probably isn't so bad. She liked him at one time. But this incident is just an excuse to move on because he isn't what she wants for herself any longer. It sounds like the "in my pants" thing wasn't always something that would have offended her so much. He's probably pretty confused, because he never changed, she did. But I'm guessing that's the real problem for her. She's changing and he isn't. But to be so suddenly drastic and try to make it all his fault seems a little emotionally self serving. Just admit you've been wanting to breakup for awhile.

    whiterabbit
    Community Member
    1 year ago

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    You're an adult, you don't need other adults to buy you gifts. If you want earrings buy them yourself. The relationship must not have been great if you ended it over something so meaningless. If it was great then you are materialistic and shallow.

    Jennifer Ness
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do yourself a favor and read what she said. Then read the comments posted here. If you don't come away with a different take than your first reply, I hope for your sake you're a kid

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    intermezzono1
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    1 year ago

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    even though i dont agree with his comments, its interesting how everyone completely ignores that what she wants is gifts and material stuff and thats the only thing she is mad about.

    Groundcontroltomajortom
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's 38 and still acting like that....no wonder his daughters mother is an ex!

    Ms.GB
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He sounds TERRIBLE and what's worse is his family is enabling him which probably has a lot to do with his personality.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't afford a christmas present, then you can still give someone your time, attention, love and respect.

    Gardener of Weeden
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very corny - One year we were so broke it was not funny - I made booklet of IOU's - foot rubs, favorite meals, automatic win a small argument type of things. 40 yrs later - I saw he had kept it - he did use a few of them

    Load More Replies...
    Nigel Sulley
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The rest of his gift was in his pants? So not even a stocking stuffer..

    Saphyre Fyre
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As soon as he got in he was insulting everything she did FOR HIS SAKE! SO glad you dumped him, he doesn't give 1 chit about you!

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When he told her his present was in his pants, she should have groped his crotch for a few seconds and said "Hmmm. This present feels like a d**k - only smaller."

    N Burnette
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder how he'd feel about his daughter being treated that way.

    Stylishsidewaysbird
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Effort is sexy. Most women I know all say the same thing....it isn't the money that makes something special, it's the effort. Would I love a pair of diamond earrings? Yes. Would I love a homemade ornament for the Christmas tree? Also yes. And I would prefer that honestly. Same with dates. Sure a fun cocktail lounge or live music event would be fun but I would prefer a candle lit PB&J picnic in the living room with all my favorite treats. It's so much more memorable and it's all about the thought and effort.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should have thrown him out when he walked in the door and made fun of her makeup.

    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah its not about the money spent, its about the lack of thought that went into it, as well as the disrespect over the day. I'd be texting the relatives back and letting them know -exactly- what happened.

    Carole G.
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Critical & belittling first thing in the door. Your present is in his pants - EWWW! He's been using you & you my dear have just dodged a bullet! Carry on & be happy with someone that will appreciate you. Please, don't go back 🌻

    Katrina VanTassel
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn. Anyone else want to hunt this guy down and rip his “gift” right away from him? If we could find them, that is. Not like he has any balls to begin with. Disgusting.

    Pittsburgh rare
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "it's the thought that counts" was invented by a woman. Same monetary value but for something that showed at least a bit of consideration and she'd be fine.

    Load More Replies...
    C W
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "He arrived and the first thing he did was to make fun of my makeup." Nope. You were within every right to kick him out permanently right then.

    TalontShow
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would've been happier with nothing and my s/o telling me they just can't afford anything. It's xmas, we're adults, who cares about the presents. What matters is if the other person actually takes you into consideration about what they do/don't

    MR
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should tell his brother calling her materialistic that he have his brother's gift her. Both of them. If he couldn't afford a gift, so be it. But to give her a $5 wine when she doesn't drink and then offer her his junk like that? I didn't need to read the next line to know exactly what he meant and that she needed to boot his tail to the curb.

    Herb Jerb
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. Best course of action when dealing with white trash is no action at all. Ignore them. They’ll eventually OD or end up in jail.

    Load More Replies...
    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Obviously NTA. OP didn't break up with that POS over him not getting her a gift, it's what not getting her a gift (and literally all of his actions that day) represent. Don't keep people in your lives who can't see or understand that.

    TrdFrgsn
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Note to self: offering ‘what’s in my pants’ is not a good gift.

    Ginger Winters
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly that depends on presentation of the gift and wording... its a fine line between trashy and appeasing when it comes to that

    Load More Replies...
    Valerie Woods
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not a gift, gentlemen. I know most of you know this, but just in case there's a clueless man out there...it's not a gift.

    Carole G.
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Criticism & belittling first thing in the door & then - "In his pants" - EWWW! You were being used & thanks to all that's holy, you, my dear, dodged a bullet. Carry on & be happy 🌻

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't about "materialism". It's about basic respect, and treating another person like they're special. That guy is REALLY immature.

    Valek Fermiga
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Immature, selfish, worthless piece of s*** deserves to be single, and his daughter living with his mum full time, just imagine what a toxic pr*** he's going to be on his daughter's life....

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, insulting my makeup (I don't wear any, BTW) would earn him the silent treatment for the day. Offering me the gift-in-the-pants would get him bounced out of my life permanently. OP handled the situation like the boss she was meant to be. She saved herself from becoming a sugar mama and a side piece. I certainly hope that the jerk's daughter doesn't follow his example.

    Lise Brouillette
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Materialistic and shallow? I see no indication in what you wrote that you expected him to put himself in the poorhouse. It's not necessary to spend much money on a thoughtful gift when you bother putting some thought into it. And HIS only thoughts are about ridiculing your make-up and your Chrstmas hat, and then spending three hours with others when he should have been with you. There is an income gap, you say? I have a sneaking suspicion this is the real problem - the guy is resentful and feels pettily diminished in his male ego, hence the retaliatory, mean-spirited put-downs. This guy is a nasty SOB, and it looks like his family is no better. They all deserve to be hoofed to the moons of Jupiter.

    TomCat
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be glad you recognized him for who he is and you're able to move on. That's a pretty good gift!

    moggie63
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a shame you didn't gift him a really hard kick in his present to you before you threw him out. What an absolute t****r. You deserve so much better.

    Natasha Arruda
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op needs to tell the relatives "If you think his c*ck is such a gift, y'all can have it."

    Ben
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I saw the ages I totally thought this was going another way. Usually the older person is more mature. But a 38 year-old is doing something a college kid would do.

    FluffyDreg
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You want to know what he could have gifted her without any kind of job or income? "Okay now you sit back watch TV, I'm going to clean for you." Doesn't cost a penny and would have been likley sent her over the roof with appreciation.

    Foxy Sammy
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol his siblings telling OP she is materialistic. As if there's a materialistic who want to date him and use him for money he doesn't have.

    Janet L
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should tell his family his “your gift is in my pants” comment and see how impressed they are with that.

    Sarah Jan
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    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me the belittling comments are worse than the “presents.” I don’t think I would break up with someone over 1 thoughtless gift like crappy wine, but i would certainly break up over the disrespect of making fun of my appearance. If the gift thing was a recurring problem it might bother me but gifts just aren’t really my love language. (P.s. I can’t believe he didn’t just offer her a massage when he realized his gift sucked! Free, could have led to some adult fun, and way classier than his pants nonsense. What an idiot on multiple levels.)

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His siblings need to be told straight up - your gift was his d*ck. Let them think about that for a minute. WTF

    Herb Jerb
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first warning flag was he’s 38 and she’s only 28. Then the teenage daughter. They’re both emotionally immature but she just did some growing up. I wonder what he got his other girlfriend.

    JP Purves
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad you dumped his useless a*s, but you should have seen this coming. He's a user. He even had you drive his daughter to her mother's house! What a slug.

    Ryan Mercer
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    1 year ago (edited)

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    While certainly not a classy moment, this guy probably isn't so bad. She liked him at one time. But this incident is just an excuse to move on because he isn't what she wants for herself any longer. It sounds like the "in my pants" thing wasn't always something that would have offended her so much. He's probably pretty confused, because he never changed, she did. But I'm guessing that's the real problem for her. She's changing and he isn't. But to be so suddenly drastic and try to make it all his fault seems a little emotionally self serving. Just admit you've been wanting to breakup for awhile.

    whiterabbit
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    1 year ago

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    You're an adult, you don't need other adults to buy you gifts. If you want earrings buy them yourself. The relationship must not have been great if you ended it over something so meaningless. If it was great then you are materialistic and shallow.

    Jennifer Ness
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do yourself a favor and read what she said. Then read the comments posted here. If you don't come away with a different take than your first reply, I hope for your sake you're a kid

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    intermezzono1
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    1 year ago

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    even though i dont agree with his comments, its interesting how everyone completely ignores that what she wants is gifts and material stuff and thats the only thing she is mad about.

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