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Woman Heartbroken After Babysitter Wipes Taped-Over Notes That Her Late Husband Left 3 Years Ago
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Losing someone you love can be painful because this person was a huge part of your life, so it’s only natural to grieve and mourn the loss. The thing is, there are some people who don’t understand that grief is not something that goes away quickly, and healing can take as long as it takes.
The original poster (OP) lost her husband 3 years ago, but she had still taped the love notes that he had written to her on the mirror and the counter. One day, the babysitter who knew about it took the tape off and wiped it completely!
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The poster’s husband used to leave her love notes on the mirror and the counter in dry-erase marker, and it’s been 3 years since he passed away, so she had taped them
Image credits: Visible-Document-225
Image credits: Artem Podrez / Pexels (not the actual photo)
When she hired a babysitter for her kids, she specifically told her about the love notes, but a year later, the sitter took off the tape and wiped them
Image credits: Visible-Document-225
The poster was immensely hurt and felt that the woman had done it intentionally so she didn’t feel like asking her to return
In today’s tragic story, Reddit user Visible-Document-225 tells us how she lost the precious love notes that her late husband had left her. She lost her husband about 3 years ago, but she still had the love notes that they used to write for each other. It sounds like such a sweet gesture and just shows how the romance between them was still alive.
The thing is, he had written these little messages on the mirror and the counter with a dry-erase marker. To keep this memory of him alive, the poster had taped them so that they would be preserved in their original form. When she hired a babysitter for her 3 kids, she specifically told the woman about the notes.
Now, fast forward to a year later, the sitter removed the tape and wiped away the notes, stating that she was trying to help clean up and thought that the kids had done it. Oh, how devastating it must have been for OP! I mean, the note said, “forever my girl”; why would the kids write that? Also, the tape itself was a barrier to stop her from doing it.
A part of OP wondered whether it was time to remove the notes, but she also felt that the sitter had done it intentionally. She was so hurt by the incident that she told the sitter that she needed space to figure things out, but after 2 days, she just wasn’t ready. In fact, she was also thinking about asking her not to come back as she simply couldn’t get over it.
People were very sympathetic when she posted the story online and sought their advice. Some folks asked if there was a possibility that the kids had done it and the sitter took the fall, but OP said that she was pretty sure they hadn’t. The majority of netizens felt that the babysitter had done it deliberately.
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Redditors felt that she was just one of those people who felt that 3 years was enough time to grieve and decided to take matters into her own hands. She probably felt that she was “helping” OP “move on” from her pain, and frankly, it sounds quite horrendous what she did.
To understand more about grief, Bored Panda reached out to Eden Lobo—a counselor and psychology professor—for an interview. She said that letting go of physical reminders of a loved one can be a deeply personal and complex decision, and there’s no set timeline for when, or even if, it’s necessary to do so.
“It can be healthy to part with these items when a person feels ready, but this readiness often comes from internal shifts in their grieving process and emotional healing. However, it’s equally important to note that some people may never feel the need to let go of these reminders, and that’s okay too. For many, keeping a special item can continue to bring comfort throughout their lives without impeding healing,” she added.
Redditors rightly pointed out that it was nobody’s business when OP moved on as grief has no expiration date. The babysitter overstepped a massive boundary by doing what she did as she had no right to “help” the poster; in fact, it might have an adverse impact on her healing process. Our expert also claimed that these reminders can also act as emotional anchors, especially in moments when the absence feels particularly overwhelming.
When we asked Prof. Lobo about this attachment to a late person’s physical reminders, she spoke about how people often hold on to physical reminders, like notes, after the loss of a loved one because these items serve as tangible connections to the person who has passed away. She explained how these reminders are proof that such a person existed and that they were once truly loved by them.
“In the grieving process, such reminders can provide comfort and a sense of closeness, helping to keep the memory of the loved one alive in a concrete way. These objects, whether it’s a note, a piece of clothing, or a personal belonging, hold emotional significance, representing not just the person, but the relationship and the moments shared,” she narrated.
Well, our hearts also go out to the poster and we really hope she finds the strength to cope with it. That’s it from our end, folks, so feel free to jot down your thoughts in the comments!
Folks online claimed that the sitter had deliberately done it and she sounded like one of those people who had no idea that healing takes time
Image credits: Kaboompics.com / Pexels (not the actual photo)
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AKA AKA 2 months ago (edited)
the leaving notes for each other sounds so cute! - also op needs to get a new babysitter
Ringofant 2 months ago
I definitely agree. This was no stupid little mistake you make when you're in a hurry or something like that (like forgetting to turn on the dishwasher or closing a window or something similar). Removing the tape should have triggered an idea like "Ooof, i mustn't do this!", especially after working there for a whole year.
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StarCrossedFriday 2 months ago (edited)
The option in the poll, where the babysitter did it intentionally but with ‘good intentions’ did make me think - but this would only be plausible if she’d brought it up before, like ‘hey, don’t you think it’s time to let go of those messages? Do you need help moving on?’. Accidental, not a chance. If there’d been no tape, maybe. I just can’t fathom why the hell anyone would do this, unless they were super mad at OP for some reason, and even then, it’s way beyond ‘mean-spirited’, it’s downright evil.
Ben Aziza 2 months ago
They have been EXPLICITLY told something was of vital importance and they have forgotten about it OR They did not forget and did that out of either malice or a misguided attempt at helping someone with how they grieve... For the cases where it was done intentionally: If it is malice f**k that b***h. If it is not... Licences therapists and psychologist deal with that not a random person... Yeh don't have her again. All logical paths lead to that conclusion. I cant trust that person to watch my kids nor would i want them to in case they were actually competent but malicious or deluded.
AKA AKA 2 months ago (edited)
the leaving notes for each other sounds so cute! - also op needs to get a new babysitter
Ringofant 2 months ago
I definitely agree. This was no stupid little mistake you make when you're in a hurry or something like that (like forgetting to turn on the dishwasher or closing a window or something similar). Removing the tape should have triggered an idea like "Ooof, i mustn't do this!", especially after working there for a whole year.
Load More Replies... StarCrossedFriday 2 months ago (edited)
The option in the poll, where the babysitter did it intentionally but with ‘good intentions’ did make me think - but this would only be plausible if she’d brought it up before, like ‘hey, don’t you think it’s time to let go of those messages? Do you need help moving on?’. Accidental, not a chance. If there’d been no tape, maybe. I just can’t fathom why the hell anyone would do this, unless they were super mad at OP for some reason, and even then, it’s way beyond ‘mean-spirited’, it’s downright evil.
Ben Aziza 2 months ago
They have been EXPLICITLY told something was of vital importance and they have forgotten about it OR They did not forget and did that out of either malice or a misguided attempt at helping someone with how they grieve... For the cases where it was done intentionally: If it is malice f**k that b***h. If it is not... Licences therapists and psychologist deal with that not a random person... Yeh don't have her again. All logical paths lead to that conclusion. I cant trust that person to watch my kids nor would i want them to in case they were actually competent but malicious or deluded.
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