Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app
Continue in app Continue in browser

Add post form topAdd Post
Tooltip close

The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here.

Babysitter Is Fed Up With No-Show Mom, Calls The Cops And They Take The Kids
6.3K

Babysitter Is Fed Up With No-Show Mom, Calls The Cops And They Take The Kids

Babysitter Keeps On Having To Cancel Her Plans Because Mom Is Always Late, Wonders If She Was Wrong To Finally Call The PoliceIrresponsible Mom Doesn't Come Back Home And Ignores Calls, Babysitter Calls The PoliceMom Doesn't Come Back Home And Ignores Calls, Babysitter Calls The Police And They Take The KidsBabysitter Reports No-Show Mom To Police, Asks If She Did The Right ThingInternet Backs Up This Babysitter Who Reported This Mom To Cops For Not Coming Back Home On TimeMom Furious At Babysitter After She Called Cops On Her For Not Coming Home On TimeBabysitter Calls Cops On Mom Who's Gone AWOL, Now She May Face Kid Neglect ChargesBabysitter Calls Cops On Mom Who Promised To Come Home At 9 PM But Didn't, Wonders If She Did The Right ThingBabysitter Left Waiting For Mom To Come Home For Hours Decides To Call The Cops, Wonders If She Did The Right ThingBabysitter Accused Of Making This Mom Potentially Lose Her Kids After She Called The Cops On Her
ADVERTISEMENT

Babysitting comes with a host of its own unique challenges. Sometimes, taking care of the little munchkins isn’t even the hardest thing! Sometimes… it’s the parents giving you headaches and seriously making you reevaluate choosing to help this particular family out. That’s the kind of situation that redditor Electronic_Professor was in.

The redditor shared a dramatic story about a babysitting client for whom punctuality and proper communication simply didn’t exist—a mom who would be constantly late coming back home without giving even so much as a heads-up.

Eventually, the babysitter grew more and more frustrated. The last straw was when the mom was soooo late coming back home, she completely ruined Electronic_Professor’s plans for the evening. That’s when the redditor felt like she needed to call the police about what was going on. She then asked the AITA community for a verdict about who was wrong in this case.

You can read the full story about what happened in Electronic_Professor’s own words below, dear Pandas. When you’re done, be sure to let everyone know your thoughts about the entire bizarre situation. What would you have done if you were in the babysitter’s shoes? Who do you think was in the wrong in this particular case?

A frustrated babysitter shared her story on the AITA subreddit about how she ended up calling the police on one of her clients

ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: cottonbro (not the actual photo)

Here’s how everything went down, in the babysitter’s own words

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: Electronic_Professor

Personally, I believe that Electronic_Professor showed a lot of patience and restraint dealing with that particular family. As she said in her post on the AITA subreddit, she liked taking care of the kids. And the extra money never hurt, either.

However, the main problem was that the mom kept returning home late hours and hours later than she was supposed to. This meant that the babysitter’s weekends were effectively ruined because she couldn’t make any personal plans or would have to cancel them.

ADVERTISEMENT

Here’s the thing, though. It would be perfectly acceptable to babysit the kids the entire day if the parent would explain in advance exactly when they’d be coming back. However, lying about the time and being unable to pick up the phone and give a simple heads-up if they’re running (a bit) late? That’s unacceptable. Even worse, it shows the mom’s attitude towards babysitters in general, as though they might be unworthy of basic communication.

One evening, the mom was supposed to be back by 9 pm. Surprise surprise, 9 pm rolls around and she’s nowhere to be seen. The babysitter kept calling and texting her without any success. Eventually, her plans for the night were ruined, feeling completely ignored by her client, she decided to go with an ultimatum: either the mom comes back by 1 am or the redditor considers the kids abandoned and calls the police.

Electronic_Professor followed through on her threat and the police came along to pick up the kids and take them to the station. Naturally, the babysitter provided all of the evidence of having tried to contact the mom throughout the evening.

The redditor didn’t get a chance to sleep easy, though. She was woken up in the middle of the night by the mom who “cursed her out.” Meanwhile, in the morning, the mom sent her a long message blaming her for everything. The reason why the babysitter asked the AITA community for a verdict was that she spoke to a friend with kids who said she might have been acting petty calling the police.

ADVERTISEMENT

The babysitter’s post got 27.7k upvotes in a single day and she started a real discussion on the subreddit, getting over 3.4k comments. A lot of people supported what the redditor did, speculating about the potential reasons why the mom was constantly late. Unfortunately, it seems like the babysitter didn’t even get paid in the aftermath of the drama. What’s more, it’s still not clear as to why the mom was so late.

The author of the story had some additional information she wanted to share with those interested in what happened

Earlier, Bored Panda spoke to a professional babysitter, redditor Nannyponyo, about some of the challenges the job presents and the unreasonable demands some parents have for the people they hire.

“I think the most unreasonable demands are absurd restrictions for no reason. I have worked with several special needs kids or kids with special circumstances (severe allergies, anxiety, etc.), and some truly need healthy restrictions, but I’ve met with many families who expect a 45+ hour work week and the caregiver is not allowed to leave the home with the child,” they said.

ADVERTISEMENT

According to the babysitter, some parents do a lot of harm to their kids by being overprotective, for example, by not letting them leave the house and play. “They’re destroying any chance for their child to grow and develop socially and often motor skills are delayed because they’re afraid to let their child out of the house to run and climb and play the way they should,” she said.

“I think they believe that it’s their child that they are raising the way they want to (which I do agree with, to an extent) and all rules should be blindly followed. But some nannies (like myself) have been in the field for many years and can offer valuable insight and advice, which they are rarely willing to take because parenting is so personal.”

They continued: “That’s the same reason I believe they often don’t want to offer adequate compensation: it’s personal. They’re (most likely, in my experience) paying you under the table, they’re trying to get a good deal, and they love their child. They don’t think that looking after their ‘precious angel’ is a job; it’s a treat. They would love to be home with their child all day, so I think they feel like it’s not a real job. It’s something you get to do, and they’re mad they have to pay someone to do it.”

ADVERTISEMENT

Meanwhile, some parents believe that looking after their kids is a privilege, so they’re blind to how difficult the job may be for a stranger. “There’s a connection there that someone else could never have, and they can’t imagine not having that connection, so they treat it like it’s not a job, it’s a privilege. The ‘you’re so lucky you get to stay home with my baby while I have to go to work’ mindset, when in reality we leave our families to take care of yours; we don’t want to leave our families in the morning for work any more than you do, but it’s our job.”

Most redditors were very sympathetic to the babysitter. Here’s what they had to say about the dramatic situation

ADVERTISEMENT
Share on Facebook
Jonas Grinevičius

Jonas Grinevičius

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Read more »

Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

Read less »
Jonas Grinevičius

Jonas Grinevičius

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

Mantas Kačerauskas

Mantas Kačerauskas

Author, BoredPanda staff

Read more »

As a Visual Editor at Bored Panda, I indulge in the joy of curating delightful content, from adorable pet photos to hilarious memes, all while nurturing my wanderlust and continuously seeking new adventures and interests—sometimes thrilling, sometimes daunting, but always exciting!

Read less »

Mantas Kačerauskas

Mantas Kačerauskas

Author, BoredPanda staff

As a Visual Editor at Bored Panda, I indulge in the joy of curating delightful content, from adorable pet photos to hilarious memes, all while nurturing my wanderlust and continuously seeking new adventures and interests—sometimes thrilling, sometimes daunting, but always exciting!

What do you think ?
Add photo comments
POST
Caro Caro
Community Member
3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG. NTA for sure. What if there had been an emergency??? She is just ignoring the phone because I'm pretty sure she did look so now and then, everybody (well, nearly everybody) does especially if you have children. Coming home late is one thing, making the baby sitter stay longer without notice is a shitty thing to do but ignoring all the phone calls is neglect. What a cow!.

CatWoman312
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought the same thing! What if the kid was choking or fell and broke their leg!? Anything could have happened. I couldn’t imagine ignoring my phone if someone was watching my child

Load More Replies...
Trillian
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she loses custody it's not because OP was being "petty" but because she was being extremely unreliable and obviously not caring about them. So no one to blame but herself.

classbag
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. The mom friend who called OP petty is so wrong. Leaving your kids with someone else and disappearing without being reachable is unacceptable. It is neglect, even if your kids are in a babysitter's care. The babysitter is not responsible for your children indefinitely--they are YOUR kids! The mom deserved to have DCF called on her.

Load More Replies...
Anne
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's all on the mother. Want to pull an all nighter? Have fun! Just let the sitter know in advance. Simple. I just hope the dad is a good one.

AnnMaria Petrini
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom was out having fun. I remember on the rare times I ever used a sitter it was work related and I used a relative yet, I called periodically to talk to my kids and sitter to see if everything was ok. This lady not only doesn't check on her kids and sitter but ignores all calls from the sitter! Omg! And then she doesn't show up too!?! What if the kids were hurt, hospitalized, home invasion, fire...so many things can happen yet she just didn't care. She's unfit.

Load More Replies...
Load More Comments
Caro Caro
Community Member
3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG. NTA for sure. What if there had been an emergency??? She is just ignoring the phone because I'm pretty sure she did look so now and then, everybody (well, nearly everybody) does especially if you have children. Coming home late is one thing, making the baby sitter stay longer without notice is a shitty thing to do but ignoring all the phone calls is neglect. What a cow!.

CatWoman312
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought the same thing! What if the kid was choking or fell and broke their leg!? Anything could have happened. I couldn’t imagine ignoring my phone if someone was watching my child

Load More Replies...
Trillian
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she loses custody it's not because OP was being "petty" but because she was being extremely unreliable and obviously not caring about them. So no one to blame but herself.

classbag
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. The mom friend who called OP petty is so wrong. Leaving your kids with someone else and disappearing without being reachable is unacceptable. It is neglect, even if your kids are in a babysitter's care. The babysitter is not responsible for your children indefinitely--they are YOUR kids! The mom deserved to have DCF called on her.

Load More Replies...
Anne
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's all on the mother. Want to pull an all nighter? Have fun! Just let the sitter know in advance. Simple. I just hope the dad is a good one.

AnnMaria Petrini
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom was out having fun. I remember on the rare times I ever used a sitter it was work related and I used a relative yet, I called periodically to talk to my kids and sitter to see if everything was ok. This lady not only doesn't check on her kids and sitter but ignores all calls from the sitter! Omg! And then she doesn't show up too!?! What if the kids were hurt, hospitalized, home invasion, fire...so many things can happen yet she just didn't care. She's unfit.

Load More Replies...
Load More Comments
You May Like
Related on Bored Panda
Related on Bored Panda
Trending on Bored Panda
Also on Bored Panda