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MIL Believes DIL Rigged Baby’s Gender, Husband Quietly Moves Forward With Divorce Papers
Welcoming a child into the world is often one of life’s most joyous moments. Yet, for some families, the excitement of pregnancy is overshadowed by deep-rooted expectations and cultural pressures that can turn celebration into conflict.
Today’s Original Poster (OP) shared the heartbreaking story of the moment she found out she would be having a baby girl, and what it meant for her. Unfortunately, it was waking up to an empty side of the bed, a half-empty room, and divorce papers.
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The author and her husband, married for four years, finally got pregnant after months of trying, hoping for a big family
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Though her husband wanted a boy and she hoped for a girl, they treated it as playful banter until the gender scan revealed they were having a girl
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After sharing the news with his family, her husband mysteriously left overnight and blocked all contact
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When she reached out to her mother-in-law, she was accused of manipulating the conception to have a girl
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After weeks of silence, she caught her husband after work and learned he left because his mother pressured him, despite him initially being excited about having a daughter
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She pleaded with him to fix things, but he also cruelly accused her of being manipulative and agreed to give full custody
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She then later learned her husband and his family planned to seek full custody, leaving her scared and devastated for her baby’s future
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After noting that the family’s dynamic was just toxic, the author mentioned that her brother-in-law noticed the misogynistic patterns and was planning on leaving the family dynamic
For years, the OP’s husband’s family joked that a firstborn girl would be unacceptable because, of course, everyone else had boys. She and her husband were excited to start a family, and like many couples, they had dreams about the baby’s gender. She leaned towards having a girl, while he leaned towards a boy.
They even made a playful game of it with old wives’ tales. However, when the big day came for them to find out the gender of the baby, they found out it was a girl. The OP and her husband were thrilled. But that night, after a call with his family, her husband had a long talk with his mother. She went to bed alone, but figured he’d join later.
Instead, she woke up to a goodbye note and noticed he had blocked her on everything. When she called his mother, hoping for answers, she got fury instead. His mother accused her of “manipulating” the baby’s gender. She claimed the OP had forced the conception on a date aligned with a baby girl according to Chinese zodiac calendars.
She also accused her of trying to destroy the family, choosing her own “disgusting” lineage over theirs, and manipulating everything from timing to genetics. After a month of the OP not hearing from her husband, she began to wonder if her husband was brainwashed by his mom.
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Baby Center describes gender disappointment as the sadness some parents feel when their baby’s sex is different from what they hoped for, even if they weren’t fully aware of that preference beforehand.
They also highlight that research spanning over 50 years indicates that many parents historically preferred boys, though others wish for a child of the same sex as themselves, with fathers often wanting sons and mothers, daughters. Overall, gender disappointment is a complex emotional response tied to deeply personal expectations and cultural influences.
The Chinese gender chart, as mentioned by the OP, is a tradition believed to be around 700 years old, originating from a gender prediction calendar reportedly found in a royal Chinese tomb. However, while many who practice Chinese astrology trust the chart’s ability to predict a baby’s sex, What To Expect affirms that there is little credible scientific evidence supporting its accuracy.
They agree that the chart is essentially an old wives’ tale, with no reliable data confirming it works better than chance. Since the outcome is binary, boy or girl, any unscientific method, including this chart, will be correct about half the time, purely by luck.
Regarding the OP’s mother-in-law and her insistence on her manipulating the results, Healing Hearts of Indy highlights this as one of the challenges of having in-laws overly involved in a couple’s life. They explain that in-laws often hold expectations for how the marriage should be, even if they don’t openly express them. However, this boundary overstepping can put a strain on the marriage.
Netizens were completely shocked and outraged at the husband’s and mother-in-law’s behavior, with many sympathizing deeply with the OP. They were also frustrated by the husband’s apparent blind obedience to his mother, calling him out as a “spineless coward” and urging the OP to protect her rights and those of her unborn child by taking legal action.
Alone and overwhelmed, the OP realized she wasn’t only fighting for her child but also for her future as a single mom. What would you do if your partner suddenly cut ties over something beyond your control? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens encouraged the author to continue to prioritize her well-being and the safety of her baby girl, insisting her husband was a coward
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Janelle Collard 7 months ago (edited)
OP updated on reddit 3 years ago: she got full custody, a**wipe signed over all parental rights + MIL had a *total* meltdown in court. 😁The judge was *not* impressed with her BS.
Indi 7 months ago
I really wish I could see that court hearing, I'd love it
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Debbie Ryan (Deb) 7 months ago
How could you insult a poor brick like that . He's dumb as a t**d but that's a insult to turds too
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KatSaidWhat 7 months ago
she had divorce papers ready? How long was she planning getting him divorced?!?! Well shot of both of them - would love to see how that custody meeting with the judge played out "your honour, she tricked me with a chinese horoscope" should get him and his demented mother laughed out of court. Hope it all works out for the best.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
“ she tricked me with a chinese horoscope and reverse cowgirl.” 🤭 ‘Cause the position *definitely* gives an advantage to the s***m carrying the X chromosome! 🙄
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Yu Pan 7 months ago
I've dug into more about this story, many more things happened before, during and after the custody case. After Op posted her first post, her ex got wind of what she posted THROUGH HIS GIRLFRIEND, about 2 months after he left Op and left his own message, accusing Op being manipulative because she made the whole pregnancy about her, didn't want to be intimate because she's tired and didn't want to eat sushi 🙄. Then he broke into her house. She filed for a restraining order, suing MIL for trauma, Ex went to jail, MIL trying to put a hit on her...etc. https://youtube.com/watch?v=F005SIfPkSM&lc=UgzHpDWG5NkYzdoI2wV4AaABAg&si=5W61sKCGAiGWZ9-t
Milky 7 months ago (edited)
From the comments on YouTube, I saw a looooooooot of drama going on. Glad it's (at least) over, tho. Hope OP's okay and gets a happily ever after
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Earonn - 7 months ago
This is what misogyny does. A woman is now carrying the often disapproving title of "single mother", a little girl grows up without a father ( though no loss there ), they will be so much worse off financially. Tell me again how "bohoo, women only want tall men" is so much worse. And people are wondering why young women hesitate to start a family. It's because thanks to the internet we now learn what can happen to us.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
Mil has GOT to be a religious lunatic , has to be , to be that so far gone in the head , I’d say the asylum lost another lunatic , but they likely threw her out for being way way past helping , 😂🤦♀️there is a special place in purgatory for mil n ex husband as the devil will not take em !
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sweet emotion 7 months ago (edited)
OP needs to hire the toughest, most vicious lawyer she can find and take that weasel of man for everything she can get (not to mention full custody with no visitation for him or his looney mother) and THEN sue the MIL for emotional and reputational damages. Think of it as ensuring a father-less child's future.
Marnie 7 months ago
It's much crazier than one can imagine. See Yu Pan's update above. They could make a movie out of this.
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Charles McChristy 7 months ago
I hope she's avvy enough to leave the husband's name off of the birth certificate. They'll be forced to seek paternity, which can definitely be dragged out and give more time to collect evidence.
Ben Aziza 7 months ago (edited)
Yeh this sounds like some cult s**t... Talks about manipulation and abuse as he ghosts his wife? The leader of said cult being batshit insane with her fked up logic. Plus the other family members who wanted to "leave" the dynamic... There is more to this story. Meaning more sinister b******t... ps: The dad is not a "victim" here. Nor is he dumb. He is fully aware of what he is doing and chooses to let another person decide things for him. As you can only be in a cult and "manipulated" like that if you actually want the outcome and the comfort of having a "manipulator" aka the cult leader aka the mom... Fk him. As op said.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
That’s what I said to , religious cult shite isn’t it , and 100% gaslighting op , by reversing what they are doing to make out it’s all her , ie the manipulation c**p m that’s not her that’s the mil , honestly this has all the makings of a bloody good film , n you most def couldn’t NOT make this up could you 😱
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 7 months ago (edited)
OP updated on reddit 3 years ago: she got full custody, a**wipe signed over all parental rights + MIL had a *total* meltdown in court. 😁The judge was *not* impressed with her BS.
Indi 7 months ago
I really wish I could see that court hearing, I'd love it
Load More Replies... Debbie Ryan (Deb) 7 months ago
How could you insult a poor brick like that . He's dumb as a t**d but that's a insult to turds too
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 7 months ago
she had divorce papers ready? How long was she planning getting him divorced?!?! Well shot of both of them - would love to see how that custody meeting with the judge played out "your honour, she tricked me with a chinese horoscope" should get him and his demented mother laughed out of court. Hope it all works out for the best.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
“ she tricked me with a chinese horoscope and reverse cowgirl.” 🤭 ‘Cause the position *definitely* gives an advantage to the s***m carrying the X chromosome! 🙄
Load More Replies... Yu Pan 7 months ago
I've dug into more about this story, many more things happened before, during and after the custody case. After Op posted her first post, her ex got wind of what she posted THROUGH HIS GIRLFRIEND, about 2 months after he left Op and left his own message, accusing Op being manipulative because she made the whole pregnancy about her, didn't want to be intimate because she's tired and didn't want to eat sushi 🙄. Then he broke into her house. She filed for a restraining order, suing MIL for trauma, Ex went to jail, MIL trying to put a hit on her...etc. https://youtube.com/watch?v=F005SIfPkSM&lc=UgzHpDWG5NkYzdoI2wV4AaABAg&si=5W61sKCGAiGWZ9-t
Milky 7 months ago (edited)
From the comments on YouTube, I saw a looooooooot of drama going on. Glad it's (at least) over, tho. Hope OP's okay and gets a happily ever after
Load More Replies... Earonn - 7 months ago
This is what misogyny does. A woman is now carrying the often disapproving title of "single mother", a little girl grows up without a father ( though no loss there ), they will be so much worse off financially. Tell me again how "bohoo, women only want tall men" is so much worse. And people are wondering why young women hesitate to start a family. It's because thanks to the internet we now learn what can happen to us.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
Mil has GOT to be a religious lunatic , has to be , to be that so far gone in the head , I’d say the asylum lost another lunatic , but they likely threw her out for being way way past helping , 😂🤦♀️there is a special place in purgatory for mil n ex husband as the devil will not take em !
Load More Replies... sweet emotion 7 months ago (edited)
OP needs to hire the toughest, most vicious lawyer she can find and take that weasel of man for everything she can get (not to mention full custody with no visitation for him or his looney mother) and THEN sue the MIL for emotional and reputational damages. Think of it as ensuring a father-less child's future.
Marnie 7 months ago
It's much crazier than one can imagine. See Yu Pan's update above. They could make a movie out of this.
Load More Replies... Charles McChristy 7 months ago
I hope she's avvy enough to leave the husband's name off of the birth certificate. They'll be forced to seek paternity, which can definitely be dragged out and give more time to collect evidence.
Ben Aziza 7 months ago (edited)
Yeh this sounds like some cult s**t... Talks about manipulation and abuse as he ghosts his wife? The leader of said cult being batshit insane with her fked up logic. Plus the other family members who wanted to "leave" the dynamic... There is more to this story. Meaning more sinister b******t... ps: The dad is not a "victim" here. Nor is he dumb. He is fully aware of what he is doing and chooses to let another person decide things for him. As you can only be in a cult and "manipulated" like that if you actually want the outcome and the comfort of having a "manipulator" aka the cult leader aka the mom... Fk him. As op said.
Crystalwitch60 6 months ago
That’s what I said to , religious cult shite isn’t it , and 100% gaslighting op , by reversing what they are doing to make out it’s all her , ie the manipulation c**p m that’s not her that’s the mil , honestly this has all the makings of a bloody good film , n you most def couldn’t NOT make this up could you 😱
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