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30 Times A Date Took Such An Awkward Turn, People Couldn’t Wait To Nope Out From It
Interview With Expert
Finding love isn't easy; you have to kiss a few frogs in the process. That means going on a bad date or two. One poll found that 44% of people in the dating scene have gone on so many bad dates that they don't think they'll ever find "the one" anymore.
We're not that pessimistic, but we still like bad date stories. Ergo, we present to you some of the worst text exchanges and the worst date experiences shared by folks online. I think it's safe to say that their disappointment in their dates was immeasurable and their day was definitely ruined.
To learn more about how to avoid bad and awkward dates, Bored Panda reached out to dating coach Sabrina Bendory. She walked us through some red flags people looking for love should look out for. Read her expert advice below!
More info: Sabrina Bendory | You're Overthinking It | Podcast | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok
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#1
Cats Are Family
Azzzzzure 10 months ago
totally fair ... fail the cat test ? f**k off ! ... same for the dog test
Lee Banks 10 months ago
I knew I'd marry my dude when he came home drunk holding a kitten like f*****g Simba and proclaimed "We have a cat, now!"
Austzn 10 months ago
But does sober-dude like cats?....asking for the cat.
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HeavyMetalHeart 10 months ago
When a guy contacted me on Plenty of Fish, one of the things that appealed to me was that he had a cat. I answered his message and we’re getting married in four months ☺️
If you're preparing for a date, there's more to do than just gussy up and look your best. There might be some red flags that you didn't spot before agreeing to a date. To know more about how to avoid bad dates, we reached out to dating coach and author of You're Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love by Being Your True Self Sabrina Bendory.
The first thing people should do, according to her, is make sure that your date is who they say they are. "Google can definitely help with that!" she adds. Second, think about whether they're committed to the date. "Have they been saying they want to take you out but then not making a plan? Or making a plan but then canceling last minute?" If the answer is "yes," there should be some alarm bells ringing in your head.
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#2
The Giver? Like The Tree? Grow Up Dude
Veronica Jean 10 months ago
I went on a date that seemed to be going.../ok/. He lied about his religion and actually hated religious people who belonged to the religion his profile claimed (red flag one), insisted on buying my alcohol and said i could 'get the next bill', then proposed we go out to eat where he ate appetizers and a full meal (I wasn't hungry but he insisted, then asked me to pay, red flag number 2). I mentioned a Mary Poppins reference that he didn't understand, so I asked "You know, from Mary Poppins, have you ever seen it?" to which he FREAKED OUT. He was /so offended/ i asked him that, because /clearly/ that's a children's story and why on earth would I even ask? His fragile male ego just about had a seizure. Later he sent me two paragraphs about me trying to force my religion on him and not respecting his boundaries or views.... because i wished him a happy easter. I gently reminded him that non-religious people celebrate too, hence 'easter bunny', and cut him off after that.
Michael Largey 10 months ago
He, on the other hand, is not too old to be reading children's books.
Erla Zwingle 10 months ago
He says that because he's never read it, but if there's the word "animal" in it then it can't be for big important grownups.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
There was a full length cartoon made of it. He may have heard of that and thought it was kid's stuff. Believe me, it wasn't.
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TheForrestGreene (he/they/it) 10 months ago
well, if i had to choose between some pregnant girl on a planet with two old dudes(an actual book in my school library) or a book about a magic tree house, im going to pick the magic tree house
#3
That’s Horrifying
Santrikea 10 months ago
Been there. First "date" he stopped at the grocery store, picked up some toiletries for me to keep at his house, drove to his house and suggested I make dinner while he goes to a friend's house. I suggested, none too kindly, to take me home immediately.
TribbleThinking 10 months ago
Wow. I had to read that thrice. Totally gobsmacking! 🙂↕️
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Lee Banks 10 months ago
Omigosh. Went on a first date with a dude. We went back to my place. He pet my belly, and said "Little babies will fit so nicely in there." Feel ya, girl.
Your Local Raccoon 10 months ago
Weirdos like this guy need to know to only talk about pregnancy when they have a strong relationship with their partner and trust 😦 who raised this guy?!
Sven Horlemann 10 months ago
Unbelievable. On the other hand - thankfully, she was able to make her decision early on.
Hoi-Polloi 10 months ago
The guy probably got on the next one in line and barked out, "Follow that bus!"
Coming on too strong should also be a red flag. Bendory says that if your potential date is showering you with excessive praise without knowing you, be cautious. She tells people who are looking for love to consider questions like: "Are they trying to propel the relationship at a very quick speed?" and "Are they already planning out a future even though you haven't even met?"
"Yes, sometimes we can get excited by a new romantic prospect, but if [their] interest is completely disproportionate to the time you've actually spent together it's a red flag," Sabrina says. A good date should show genuine interest in you and the conversation should be about more than just themselves. Your intuition, Sabrina says, is often right. "If something feels off… then it probably is."
#4
Yikes
Multa Nocte 10 months ago
Yeah, but the problem was that because his one foot was bigger than the other, he kept walking back into the restaurant.
Bob Brooce 10 months ago
You've obviously confused him with somebody who has one leg that's longer than the other.
michael reid 10 months ago
Did he walk round the building and come back in through the back door?
Midoribird Aoi 10 months ago
I honestly give my pity to him, for obviously he was sensitive about it.
Sergio Bicerra 10 months ago
He got up and walked out. 30 seconds later 'What, here again? Forgot something?'
#5
Oops
Sara Frazer 10 months ago (edited)
Ooo...there are so many different points at which I would've left....
Melinda Flick 10 months ago
Maybe she let it play out just to see and revel in the insanity of it?
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Lena Flising 10 months ago
His ex-wife brought him money? No wonder she's the ex... Maybe you ought to EXit, before it gets more serious?
#6
Glad You Left Her With A Bill
Hoi-Polloi 10 months ago
If the gal had truly been blind, we wouldn't have run into this little problem!
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LittleTeapot 10 months ago
“At least my ugly is on the outside”…I don’t know why I like self-deprecating burns. They always seem to hit different.
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
I would have responded, "why I do get the a*****e?" before leaving.
Dragons Exist 10 months ago
It's more shítty to invite someone to dinner and call them ugly behind their back
Load More Replies...Once you're on the date, there are some things to look out for, too. If they, again, only talk mostly about themselves, that's probably not a good sign. "This is okay to an extent because if someone is into you then they want to impress you," Sabrina notes. "But if it's excessive then it means they are self-involved and possibly a narcissist. You want to make sure they are also asking questions to discover who you are."
#7
Well That's Messy
Ms.GB 10 months ago (edited)
My husband once went to meet up with an online date (before we were married obv.) He got to her apartment and when she invited him inside 3 kids jumped up from behind her couch and yelled "surprise!". They were all laughing and she goes "Yeah, these are my children." My husband who is extremely nice and polite didn't want to just leave so they went to dinner, he stayed and played with the kids etc. By the end of the night the kids were asking "Can (husband) come to our soccer game, can he come over tomorrow etc." He said he felt bad because he likes children but he knew he wasn't going on a second date with her. Not only did she spring her children on him but she introduced her kids to him on the first date so now they like him and he's not coming back. Not to mention she invited him into her apartment with her 3 young children there when she didn't know him which I always thought, geez she's lucky it was him and not some psycho or pedophile!
Michael Largey 10 months ago
There is good news and bad news about this guy as a prospective mate. The good news is that he's not sterile. That's also the bad news.
CatWoman1014 10 months ago
I had a park date with a guy once and he brought his toddler with him. At this point I was like 24 and had no desire to be someone’s stepmom. It was clear that’s what he wanted
Lene 10 months ago
Poor kids. Both for being brought on a first date and for being raised (what I suppose is) badly. I suspect they will either learn proper behaviour from other adults than their parents or they will have a tough life not understanding why people avoid them. I hope for the first.
#8
Worst Date
Jeff White 10 months ago
In general, not a fan of emoji's. Yet the one you choose perfectly fits my same level of ... whatever this feeling is. Well done.
Load More Replies... Bob Brooce 10 months ago
I like trivia as much as the next guy, but that's not trivia. And that's about the most charitable thing I can think of to say about it.
Michael Largey 10 months ago
I suspect that, although he was well versed about age, he had very little experience with consent.
Ervin Conn 10 months ago
In his defence he might have been a lawyer or work in CPS (Child Protective Services). I am just saying it might not have been what it seemed.
LB 10 months ago
Meh, even if that's your job, those are not 'fun facts'. In that case he must have been a very tone deaf or socially awkward lawyer. I'm autistic and I can tell you this is not okay, socially.
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Mark Kelly 10 months ago
Well, I guess on the positive side i make sure to research the age of consent.
#9
And Yes, Yes He Was
Azzzzzure 10 months ago
I didn't know dead rabbits could remove testes - thats what I love about BP - learn so much
François Carré 10 months ago
I mean, if his rabbit taught him how to "smell desire", his expectations about seducing humans might have been a bit awkward.
Your date might be nice to you, but rude to others, like the Uber driver or the waiter. Sabrina says that it's more than just about how a person treats service industry workers, but about how they treat people and relate to them in general. "Are they inappropriate? Do they make disrespectful comments about you or your appearance or about other people or strangers? Do they say mean, sexist, or racist things and then say they were 'just joking' and you need to relax?" Sabrina gives examples of a bad date.
#10
Lucky Escape To Find Out So Soon At Least
Ripley 10 months ago
Go home and change . . . your contacts, so that he is no longer listed on them.
Moana Manana 10 months ago
I would be like: sure. let me just order. Then proceed to the most expensive thing on the menu and wine, go home and block him on everything.
Emma London 10 months ago
That was obviously a test. Some people look for persons who have very low esteem, it's thought that they never leave you even if you abuse them, because they believe that they can't do better.
#11
A Sucky Date
A girl 10 months ago
Oh, come on. That's gold. We called them Jack Daniels terriers. Crazy dogs. Crazy smart
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
"Well, I don't think you have a sense of humor." *flags down the server for a to-go box*
#12
Bruh Living In 3022
Nicola Roberts 10 months ago
No. The correct thing to do would be to say I have a 2 for 1, would you like to go halves on a ticket?
David Morgan 10 months ago
If the guy had a bit of swagger, gave you a cheeky smile and paid for your food and drinks etc to show that it was just a joke and not being a cheapskate, that could be quite charming. If he's just genuinely trying to trick you at such an early stage, you're better off ending it immediately.
Gracie Mae 10 months ago
oh hell no--he could've at least paid half of her ticket to cover his own! friggin cheapskate
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
He could have looked like an absolute hero by paying for his ticket and giving her the voucher.
If there's one golden rule to any date, it's to not bring up your ex. Bendory says that there are a few things to look out for here. "First: are they still hung up on the ex or in love with them? Or, are they still bitter and angry? Or, do they take zero accountability for any failed relationships and just say all their exes were 'crazy' or 'psycho?'"
#13
Pos Made A Guy Wait For Her For Over An A Hour, Let Him Buy Her Food. Then She Didn't Show And The Told Him She Was On A Date With Another Guy And To Stop Texting Her
Petra Peitsch 10 months ago
But the guy dodged a bullet, at least for a price of a meal, and not 10 years later with 2 kids leaving fast everything for her, plus paying alimony.
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Debbie 10 months ago
He didn't ask her if he should order already, he didn't wait for her to confirm she wanted the same. He TOLD her he ordered for her. She might have been at the door and reading that he had ordered for her decided to turn around. I might have done that. "You order for me without asking me, you're telling me what to eat? Not sure I want to go in..." I'd like to see the timestamps.
Murdock Schlegel 10 months ago (edited)
Really? That is your conclusion? Even if, turning arroud at the doorstep and telling him to stop texting, with a hurtfull explanation is way more unpolite, than the guesture ordering some food, cause somebody liked it before/has some sentimental value. You dont even know how long theses two been in contact, but want to know the timeline, because people may have come to the wrong conclusion?
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Nina 10 months ago
She should've replied when he said he was at the place that she wasn't coming. Him ordering whil she isn't there yet is stupid and controlling if they don't have a habit of doing that. She could've been late for any reason (so stupid), he took away her choice of food and drink (controlling).
Rose Walker 10 months ago
I really would love for the date she was with to find out how badly she treated the other guy who was waiting for her, so he could just leave her on her own.
Steven Meyer 10 months ago
Better to find out now than carry on the relationship any longer. She is shallow and will always be looking for the next big thing
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
Tomorrow's meal is sorted, anyway. And I would have found a way to share her contact information with the note that she dines and dashes.
#14
Dating These Days Has Gotta Be Crazy
Uncle Schmickle 10 months ago
That was the appropriate thing to do. What a self - centred mole she must have been.
Max PePel 10 months ago
That's insulting to even the most self-centred mole on this planet
Load More Replies... Ervin Conn 10 months ago
I am a bit confused. You are on a second date and you think she should be exclusively dating you? Until exclusivity is declared she is allowed to date whomever she wants. Is it the pick up location that is the problem?
Curbz81 10 months ago
I think its the pick up location. I’m all for dating more than one guy if i’m not in a committed relationship, but not literally back to back like a chain smoker. And pecking the other one in front of him seems a bit uncouth.
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Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
"No, we are not in a relationship, so maybe your actual relationship there can drive you home. Get out."
#15
One Date And Hardly Spoke
Took her out, hardly spoke to me, and didn't bother following up, apparently, that's the new norm.
KatSaidWhat 10 months ago
Sure, except you are paying. And I will 100% ditch you before the bill comes.
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago (edited)
"Your supposed to try a bit harder." "*YOU'RE". Also, what an absolute f*****g twat.
Lena Flising 10 months ago
Why would YOU work hard, while SHE more or less ignores you? A date is an opportunity to get to know each other. She's showing that she's not interested.
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 10 months ago
Her profile should just be called gutter twat.. he ABSOLUTELY should have ditched her to pay for herself.
Sabrina is a big believer in trusting your gut. If you don't feel comfortable around the person you're on a date with, then it's probably not meant to be. "It could be the way they're looking at you, touching you, the things they're saying," Sabrina says. "Or maybe it's just a vibe you're getting… but you just don't feel secure and at ease with this person."
#16
Embarrassing First Date Story
Debbie 10 months ago
Was he also taking shots before the date to calm his nerves?
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Erla Zwingle 10 months ago
His idea of human interaction is to set up a drinking contest? Aaaaaaaand it ended with another human interaction. On brand for him.
Your Local Raccoon 10 months ago
It wouldn't be funny to be the one experiencing it, but gosh I could picture it as a comedy scene 🤣
#17
To Have A Pizza Date
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 10 months ago
Drop her off, but go to the door and tell the tinder guy she gave you HPV and leave her there.
#18
I Would Definitely Be That Same Girl
Sara Frazer 10 months ago (edited)
Dating is rough if you have to "chug vodka" before an interaction, yes....also hoping this ~quality~ person found a ride home after "chugging vodka*.. :p
Love bombing doesn't just happen in long-term relationships. It can happen during a first or second date. If a person is saying things like "I've never felt this way before" or "I feel like I could marry someone like you," it's a bad sign. "Healthy relationships build slowly and a rushed pace is usually a red flag," Bendory explains.
#19
Keep Your Head Up Queen
Lost Panda 10 months ago
I mean, as an adult I know that is not upscale, but when I was growing up any sit down resturant (Applebees, Sizzler, Ponderossa, etc.) was considered extravagent... I mean we were poor, but I didn't know it, so maybe this guy also knew no better
HTakeover 10 months ago
Real. Someone I dated years ago grew up in a small town that only had bars and a Sonic, so driving the hour to the city was a suit & tie & floor dress occasion. They considered Olive Garden to be Michelin star food. In their case, they had the money to spend but everywhere was far enough away that they became special occasions to go.
Load More Replies... HeavyMetalHeart 10 months ago
This happened to me but it was Pizza Hut. I was the only dressed up person in there.
ILoveMySon 10 months ago
I went on one date with a person to an upscale restaurant. He was conspicuously underdressed but that didn't bother me. However, when he literally pierced a piece of fat from his steak IN HIS MOUTH with his knife, I knew it was not a love connection. He also chewed with an open mouth. That may be fine for some but not me.
Hoi-Polloi 10 months ago
Applebees is a decent joint, but the guy really missed the mark by hyping it up too much.
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
What? He didn't take you to Taco Bell? Oh wait, that was a movie. NVM.
#20
The OCD Be Running Strong
HTakeover 10 months ago
"Hey baby, what do you say we go back to my place and I moisturize those dry, cracked knees?"
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Lena Flising 10 months ago
To be "whole and clean" is a saying in my language, i.e. you don't have to be fancy or richly decorated, being clean and having clothes that are not ripped or worn out is enough. This guy clearly didn't follow that line of thinking.
#21
Date Asked Me To Pay For Her Uber At The End Of Night
Went to dinner on a first date with a girl to a pretty nice restaurant; bill was $215 which I gladly paid and offered her dessert which she declined.
We had a fine date. Nothing memorable but she was polite and enjoyable in conversation. I probably would’ve taken her out again if she was interested.
She ubered there and I offered to drove her home after the date. When I offered, she said ‘sure’ and asked if I could drive her to buy some skin care at a market and she said she could Uber from there. I let her know I’d be happy to take her home after the market, which she appreciated.
For context, she declined my offer to drive her to restaurant, not wanting a stranger to have her home address, which I totally understood.
As we’re pulling up to her place she asked me if I could pay for her Uber ride to the restaurant. Surprised by this request, I said ‘sure’ to avoid an argument in her driveway; again I don’t know this person so I figured I’d avoid a conflict. I get out of the car to say ‘bye’ and as I’m headed back to the car door she asked me about the money again which I replied to her saying I can send it over the phone.
We then had the following conversation which I’m not planning on continuing further. As you can see, I have some work to do to be a ‘gentleman’.
P.S. Funny enough, her card was declined on her first attempt to purchase the product.
Bob Brooce 10 months ago
I don't think a woman is ever obligated no matter how much a guy spends on the date, but I'd only be paying for the uber if it picked her up from my place.
Ace 10 months ago
Well yes, and conversely a man should never be expected to pay for the date, let alone the Uber, just because he's the man. Based on traditional ideas that the man should be the breadwinner, I honestly thought that idea had disappeared decades ago (not having been "dating" since I was about 30).
Load More Replies... Steven Meyer 10 months ago
A date is a 50-50 thing. The thought that a man always has to pay for everything on a date is outdated. The couple should talk and decide who's going to pay for what prior to the date even starting. If she doesn't want you to pick her up at her house, I can understand it may be a safety thing, but if she expects you gotta pay for any transportation, it's got to be decided upfront.
Fox with a Dragon Tattoo 10 months ago
All that word vomit from her and in the end nothing but a low class trashy ho.
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
"My standard doesn't fit you." What, your standard of being broke?
Binky Melnik 10 months ago
I’ve had plenty of dates offer to pay for my cab home, which struck me as awfully nice, but it has never crossed my mind in my life to ask for the cab money TO the date. As far as I’m concerned, I’m responsible for my own travel. (And I always turn down the cab money unless really pressed, and then I’ll give in so it doesn’t become an argument.) I wouldn’t ask for th cab money TO the date even on a dare; that’s just gross.
The dating coach also advises looking out for too much negativity and complaining. "Is the date more like a vent session where they detail everything wrong with their job, their friends, their family, and their life in general? It's fine to share some grievances, and we all have our fair share, but if that's all they share and if everything in their world is terrible then you probably don't want to be a part of it," she says.
At the same time, if they're too secretive, that's not good either. According to Sabrina, "[If] they don't give straight answers, you catch inconsistencies, it just seems like they are hiding something," that's a red flag too.
#22
The Entitlement Is Strong With This One
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 10 months ago
Guys who like being seen out with a group of attractive women. Thats not so much a "date" as a "transaction", though.
Load More Replies... Uncle Schmickle 10 months ago
Hah, I would have done the same 1 What a bloody cheek to bring friends along and expect the guy to pay for them as well.
Lyoness 10 months ago
Actually she was talking about a "gentle man" too. A not so gentle one would have insisted she pay HIS bill for being so thoughtless and rude.
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Apachebathmat 10 months ago
I can understand if it’s a blind date and they take a friend that sits elsewhere to keep an eye out (I did this for a friend a couple of times) but expecting to actually pay and spend the date with two people you never invited is crazy!
#23
Got Ditched For A Date, Took Myself Out Instead
HTakeover 9 months ago
It's a test tube shot. You pour it in, or take it separately.
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Cancelling A Date Last Minute Because She Couldn’t Be On Time?
I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.
I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.
A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.
We decided to meet up for boba tea.
I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.
I then sent her the above message.
AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.
Ripley 10 months ago
NTA. Timekeeping compatibility is important - it would colour your entire future relationship. Also, there's a difference between "I got stuck in traffic" or "the bus was late" and "I haven't even left yet and need another hour to get ready".
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 10 months ago
My partner is perpetually late and it drives me mad. Her friends are the same, so if we agree to meet anywhere, not only do *we* arrive late because I couldn't get her out the door, but we'll still end up waiting around for the friend because she'll be even later. Of course, you can't just decide to be late based on the friend's persistent lateness, because you know that on that occasion she'll be early or on time!!!
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PFD 10 months ago
I went on a first date once where she came almost an hour and a half late. I was literally waiting by the side of the road. This was before we had mobile phones, too, so I had no idea if she was even coming at all. On the other hand, we've been married for 19 years now so the patience paid off. She's still c**p at being on time though!
Michael Largey 10 months ago
OP did her a favor. You can't learn a lesson until someone teaches it to you.
Bored Birgit 10 months ago
Being not on time twice with a new person in your life is so disrespectful.
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
Nope. Not overreacting or the a*****e. She just showed you that she is chronically late all the time. That would be an absolute deal-breaker for me.
Ghosting, catfishing, hookup culture: are the dating world problems the consequences of the apps? Are we experiencing so many awful dates because of the apps?
Dating coach Sabrina Bendory thinks it might be more common because people have to provide less information about themselves on the apps. "It's so easy to be bamboozled on the apps," she admits. "People can use AI to create a whole image and perception of them that just isn't who they are."
#25
My Date Bit Multiple Candies And Put Them Back In The Shared Cup. I Asked Why, No Straight Answer
Depressy spaghetti 10 months ago
Id lose my calm if this happened. Id rather they eat it all than bite half cus i hate eating food people took a bite out of.
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Bewitched One 10 months ago
Looks like the like the red parts only? And didn’t want to waste the other colors? 🤷🏼♀️😂
JoMeBee 10 months ago
Okay, weird but flip side: ""why is this guy photographing my uneaten food?!?!"
Nicola Roberts 10 months ago
That's funny, no idea why you were being down voted.
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He's A Keeper
Megalodon Meg 10 months ago
She very much could have ordered only what she could afford.
Load More Replies... Your Local Raccoon 10 months ago
Well, she's in a bad financial situation and her date covered her for that. I don't see what's exactly wrong besides her terrible money management skills
#27
Why Don't You Just Cancel The Date Before I Come There?
For the first time in a while I had a match on Hinge.
We were hanging out for a week and decided to go for a date. Scheduled the location and time. I bought flowers, and came to Brooklyn Bridge Park.
I arrived there early. I texted her 10 minutes before the meeting time. No response. I texted her 15 minutes after the meeting time. She unmatched me. No response, no message, nothing. Just removed the match. Not ideal.
I'm not even sad. Just disappointed. I still followed the plan, enjoyed the sunset in the park, got some food, etc. But why would not you just text me in advance before I come? I don't care about flowers cost, because it's almost nothing. I don't care about wasted time, because the weather is very nice and I wanted to go for a walk anyway. It's more about respect and responsibility. Just be an adult and make decisions.
This is still not the worst date in my life. At the worst one the girl just told me- "you have red hair. I hate red hair" and run away.
Maybe I'm that ugly. I don't know. I guess so. But this time I was using very recent photos with no editing. She knew how I look like.
It's frustrating to have just two dates in my life and both are going this way.
Ps. It was surprisingly hard to get rid of flowers. I approached at least 5 people and offered them the flowers. Nobody wanted them.
I was able to give flowers to a girl who was alone in the bar. She liked them and took them. But then her boyfriend (I guess) got back. Brother, sorry for interfering with your date. I tried not to approach couples.
I'm just surprised that nobody wants to take flowers. Idk whether they don't want to take them from me, or they just expect some kind of scam, but I'm just surprised, that getting rid of flowers took about 30 minutes.
I guess I'm done with dating. I'm just tired of it. And I guess I don't have chances. So, why bother. This is such frustrating experience.
JoMeBee 10 months ago
This guy sounds sweet and sensitive and maybe a little too desperate, and I think it conveys. I also know nothing about current dating apps but they sound horrible, and are probably the reason he's so desperate. What happened to the good old days where you met your partner on an actual website and you couldn't swipe???
Atlas 10 months ago (edited)
What happened to the good old days where you met your partner at an actual place and you could just have a conversation???
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Erla Zwingle 10 months ago
You had two bad experiences and I'm really sorry. Those two girls suck. But everything good and everything important requires time and patience. You take two guitar lessons and suddenly you realize you're not Eric Clapton so you quit guitar? Two skating lessons and you're not landing triple axels, so you give up? You might be a little young yet to be dating if you have so little persistence. Maybe try something simpler for a while.
Lena Flising 10 months ago
The least you can do, in today's word with mobile phones in every pocket, is to send a text saying you won't come, and make up some plausible excuse. Headache, sick niece, work emergency, or something. To not come AND not inform your date that you are not coming is both rude and immature. Giving flowers can be a scam, yes. They take them, and suddenly you want money for them. Did you try older women? Might have looked more kind and less desperate that way.
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 10 months ago
It is a common scam to offer people fliowers or a bracelet and then demand payment. Especially in a tourist area like nyc
Nicola Roberts 10 months ago
On the point of flowers. My daughter came home with a huge beautful bunch of flowers. I said we can't keep them the lilies are poisonous to the cats. In our neighbourhood we couldn't find anyone that could take them. I know that's unlikely in this case but if you're wondering I have no problem with red wine or chocolates.....
LongFang 10 months ago
Bruh has 2 failed dates and is done ? the last 2 Likes i got were from Trans women... I'm partial to the real deal....
Svenne O'Lotta 10 months ago
Most women are partial to men who aren't complete asswipes so I hope you enjoy your alone time :)
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"It's also hard to gauge chemistry through someone's dating profile," Bendory continues. "At least, when you meet in person, you have established a baseline level of chemistry and compatibility and then you can build on that on a date."
However, when we think about it, before dating apps were a thing, people used to go on blind dates. That's when people really used to have zero information about their date! "I imagine a lot of people had negative experiences dating that way as well!" Bendory observes.
#28
28m And “Dating A Cop”
First attempt at dating after a divorce.
Met her at an after work event- Latina, 23F, a lot of tattoos, seemed really nice at first and interested in me… First date was at a Mexican place, told her I was in recovery, she had two shots, figured it was first date jitters.
The rest is all there… I work for the State of MI and she’s a city LEO; and yes, have a record of two DUIs from when I was 21, not proud but working on my alcoholism and toxic tendencies to be a better partner for future Mrs. Right.
REALLY?! WHAT is wrong with people? I just decided to start dating again after the divorce, trying to turn my life around and these are the options?
JoMeBee 10 months ago
Illegal for her to run a background check without cause. You could f with her career if you wanted to. Sounds like she's a terrible person who shouldn't have the authority) responsibility of being a cop...
Peter Bear 10 months ago
Like most cops, sadly. Respect to the good ones, but... 'we must all fear evil men, but there is another kind of evil we should fear most, and that is the indifference of good men'. If you're out there, and you're a good cop, it's your duty and requirement to stop the bad ones. There's no 'thin blue line'. Serve and protect, or else you're part of the problem.
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Lew k 10 months ago
Running a background check is improper use of police resources in the least. Coupled with this exchange could probably be grounds for a restraining order is not outright charges. I know where you live as a threat from a police officer would be under color of authority for sure.
Bacon Tentacles 10 months ago
I would absolutely report her to her superiors. She has no business being in law enforcement and someone can and will get hurt because of her.
Charles McChristy 10 months ago
Man, same. Sometimes I think the universe was just showing me how hideous people can be, but I put a pause on dating again after that.
#29
Always Doing Business
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 10 months ago
From the Diva Horse Goddess's perspective: "I went on a date with this woman and she didnt trim her nails. So I gave her my card and got out of there."
#30
She Doesn't Know What She Will Be Missing Out On
Khavrinen 10 months ago
And were too cheap to even pay for it legitimately.
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What about you, Pandas? How's your dating life going? Do you have any nightmare date experiences to share? If you feel like venting, share with us in the comments! And if you'd like to see more posts about terrible dates, head over here, here, or here!
#31
That's So Cool
#32
Someone's Date Did Not Go According To Plan
Simon Chen 10 months ago
Dumped flowers allways make me sad. It is actually even sadder than any other item in the trash. Poor flowers, never understood why you not just keep them for yourself
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#34
Well That’s Honest
Debbie 10 months ago
This might hurt but it's good? I mean, they cancelled up front, didn't string you along or ghost you. It's clear they changed their mind.
Nikki van Reenen 10 months ago
Absolutely. I'm sure it stings to get a message like that, but you know exactly where you stand and you can both move on.
Load More Replies... Dogcat vet (retired) 10 months ago
That would be a good place to give away all those flowers too
#35
Randomly Blocked By This Girl I Had A Date With Tonight
Matched on tinder like 3 weeks ago and have been casually talking since. We went on 1 date and I planned to take her to the state fair for our second date. Paid $100 for these fair tickets and trying to get time off for work was a huge debacle :( she seemed so nice too I’m shocked this happened, but at least we were never something official.
#36
Straight Up Panicked
Michael Largey 10 months ago
I would just have not shown - to respect the other party's obvious love of surprises.
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#38
Worst Date Of My Life Tbh
Everything was fine before that! And we had been talking for two weeks before this date and he has been nothing but nice! I even thought in my head at one point how it seemed like the date was going great, but then it turned left so hard I had to cut the date short ! I felt so uncomfortable him touching and talking about my features…. It’s just a dealbreaker to me especially this being the first date how zero-ed in he was on my details when I never once even went there with him.
#39
That’s A Power Move Tbh
Clown fish 10 months ago
Lol I went on a date. He then told all his family and friends he was going out with me. But I'd already said on the date I didn't want to see him again because he was 18 yrs older than me and lied that he was only 7 yrs! He was that bad he ended up seeking out another girl with the same name as me! So he didn't look stupid because he already told everyone we were dating! (Oh by the way my name isn't a very widely used name)
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#40
You’re Joking, Right?
PeepPeep the duck 10 months ago
Is this the new ‘pick me girl’ routine? I hate this trend atm and most lead back to a only fans account 😂
Antoinette the Red 10 months ago
42 and puts her crying pic on the internet over an off-handed remark on a Tinder date like a 17 yr old.
Erla Zwingle 10 months ago
How old was he? 20? Pick somebody who recognizes quality before quantity, babe. And maybe do the same thing with yourself? There are thousands, if not millions, of people in the world who literally had no life after 42, so spare us the drama and be grateful that you're still alive and apparently well.
#41
When People Say Things Wrong
Lost Panda 10 months ago (edited)
Maybe I'm petty, but what a pitiful human being this woman is...
Johnny McFearless 10 months ago
I always wondered if spanish-speaking people pronounced it as "emohi".
Sillywaster Stayalone 10 months ago
Bad pronunciation is not a disability and thus can be laughed at, nor it is an improbable mistake that should dictate your choice of how you treat someone.
Sue User 10 months ago
I went on a date with a guy. We went to a exican restersunt and he said he was getting fa - gee - tas . It didnt click , so i asked what that was. He told me, then proceeded to explain everything like i had never eaten mexican. Thisis how you make a wrap, these are sauces, the red is hot, etc.
#42
My Gift I Received From A Date On The Beach
#43
A Real Woman
Robert Beveridge 10 months ago
Let me guess... you'd never been to a hibachi restaurant before. Hopefully you haven't gone again since.
Multa Nocte 10 months ago
You couldn't reach him if you tried. He's taking grammar lessons to get over the shock of having met you.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
I bet she thinks letting a chef throw a shrimp in your mouth means he's gay
#44
Expensive Dinner
E Menendez 10 months ago
It was actually really nice he asked what her budget was. He didn't assume and was considerate of her constraints.
Michael Largey 10 months ago
Her answer will probably inform him more than just about her finances.
#45
Don't Ruin A Good Place With A Bad Company
Jonas Fisher 10 months ago (edited)
I'm concerned by the title that BP put on this. It suggests agreement with this garbage person.
Skogsrået 10 months ago
Why are they a garbage person? Seems to me she was making a joke?
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#46
Even I Don't Know What He Did Wrong
Deta Rossiter 10 months ago
Does it seem like women want to be independent, yet also be supported and coddled at the same time? Bread buttered both sides? I am confused slightly.
Bartlet for world domination 10 months ago (edited)
Yes, and men want a tradwife who brings home the bacon. /s We all want it all, and adulthood means knowing how to compromise.
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Khavrinen 10 months ago
On the one hand, I wouldn't want to leave a woman to stand there alone waiting for her cab to show up, but on the other hand, if you don't want me to leave, don't f'ing tell me to leave, then get peeved when I take you at your word.
Cee Cee 10 months ago
I know I'm old but if I were the man in this position I'd want the woman to go first. Don't think it's right to leave a woman alone that late at night. Courtesy and all that.
Sa Ruuu 10 months ago
She's upset he couldn't read her mind that she didn't want to wait alone for her cab
Load More Replies... Antoinette the Red 10 months ago
Neither do your readers as you did not explain. So what went wrong was probably you.
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Lyone Fein 10 months ago
So much unhinged behavior. And ladies, please wake up. It is the 21st century. You are paying for your own meal.
ToGo 10 months ago
Reckon I'll get down voted for this opinion but here goes... I love when a man pays for the first date. It's generous and makes me feel special. If I decided I wasn't going to see him again, I wouldn't let him pay for me but if we got along well and arranged a second date I'd pay for that one.
Kraven 10 months ago
I have a question about that. How does over 25% of any group not go on dates/not date at all?
Load More Replies... TheForrestGreene (he/they/it) 10 months ago
ive heard of a story of a lesbian who went on a date with a girl, but it ended up being a dude. the guy told her that "there was no hot woman available, so i figured converting a lesbian into a straight woman would be easier". the guy begged her to stay but the girl left. its times like these when i think that there is no hope in humanity
Lyone Fein 10 months ago
So much unhinged behavior. And ladies, please wake up. It is the 21st century. You are paying for your own meal.
ToGo 10 months ago
Reckon I'll get down voted for this opinion but here goes... I love when a man pays for the first date. It's generous and makes me feel special. If I decided I wasn't going to see him again, I wouldn't let him pay for me but if we got along well and arranged a second date I'd pay for that one.
Kraven 10 months ago
I have a question about that. How does over 25% of any group not go on dates/not date at all?
Load More Replies... TheForrestGreene (he/they/it) 10 months ago
ive heard of a story of a lesbian who went on a date with a girl, but it ended up being a dude. the guy told her that "there was no hot woman available, so i figured converting a lesbian into a straight woman would be easier". the guy begged her to stay but the girl left. its times like these when i think that there is no hope in humanity
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