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Seeing something cringeworthy is like watching a trainwreck. It’s uncomfortable and unpleasant, yet you can’t seem to take your eyes off of it. 

If this forgettable mishap happened in the digital realm, it may have been broadcast in the Cringetopia subreddit. As the name suggests, it’s an online group that immortalizes people’s embarrassing situations. 

We’ve collected some of the posts that stood out. These may amplify feelings of secondhand shame or induce a headshake of disappointment. Scroll through and see which resonates with you the most.

#1

W H I T E P E O P L E A M I R I G H T!!!

W H I T E P E O P L E A M I R I G H T!!!

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mandy the capibara
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are sadly serious ethical issues involved with the practice of adoption, especially from developing countries. Luckily, the difference of skin colour between parents and children isn't one of them.

Lee Banks
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I walked to work past an abortion clinic (back before it was made illegal in my state).Every time there were protesters, I'd ask how many kids they'd adopted. Not aggressive, just curious. Not one

FABULOUS1
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats because these people think they are pro-life when they are just anti abortion and cannot see the difference. They dont do anything to help the lives of children already in the foster system. Its a religious and power trip, they think their religious beliefs gives them the right to tell women what to do with their body, and old white men are just on a power trip because apparently they can be.

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Tabitha
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All adoptive parents should realize their children are going to be curious about who they are, where they come from, what their biological parents and families are like. We are all curious about ourselves, even if we’re not adopted. Why do you think DNA tests and genealogy websites are so popular? So parents who adopt children from a different race, ethnicity, culture, etc should be respectful of that, and learn as much as they can about their child’s background so they can help their child learn about themself. When that child gets old enough to find their bio family, please remember it’s not a snub on their adoptive parents, it’s just them learning about themself so they can be more comfortable in their own skin, and blend their two families together. Yes, as teenagers they can get a bit stroppy about it and say things that hurt. But teenagers say that to biological parents too at that age. Don’t give up on them because they’re just being teenagers. Of course, that’s only if what they find out about their biological family makes them want to have them in their lives. Sometimes children are put up for adoption, either through adoption agencies or the foster care system, for very good reasons, including the horrible unsuitability of their biological families. In those cases, it is essential that the adoptive parents never waiver in their live and support of their child.

Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*knocks the soft can-opener's paints on the floor, so everybody can be whatever color they like*

LakotaWolf (she/her)
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's awesome, Dogs! I'm adopted too - I'm white and my adoptive family is Mexican. :) My cousins liked to tease me growing up - whenever I stood next to a wall that was painted white they'd go "Where's Crystal??? Where'd she go?" (ha ha, very funny!) But honestly they're 100% my family - they have never treated me as an outsider. I'm sure you understand :D

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Dan
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should do a reverse diff'rent strokes. I'm not saying it'd be GOOD, but it WOULD be interesting.

Mike Ray
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only issue I have with a white couple adopting a non-white kid is with those that have to brag about it

FABULOUS1
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think any child that can find a loving home no matter their race or the race of the adopted parents should get that. I do think however it is important to understand their ethnic culture. I think parents of adopted children of a different race need to understand that there are certain conversations that cultures have with their children as they grow up. They may be safe in their surroundings (sometimes) but black children do need to be told about racism before they go out in to the world. They have to understand how they are seen by law enforcement and how they rest of the world may see them. At the end though each child deserves a great home and loving parents, people just need to be sure that they are educating themselves when they adopt children of other races.

Natasha Brodie
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know a white family who adopted two black children (two different adoption processes) They actually were chosen by the birth mothers as who they wanted to adopt their children.

SkippityBoppityBoo
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Punk rock Draumbouy. As a non-White adopted by a single White person? Yes, there can be difficulties when it comes to finding out about your own culture, heritage etc but with the right support? You get there....... I sooo want to rant but I won't 😉

Allayna Epp
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am adopted into a white family and I am Black you Fvcking arsehole

DutchPanda
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, but no. Saving a child is always good. If you do it out of love and it doesn't matter to you what the skin color or ethnic background it is, fine. You do you. But, if you do it for you, like a conversation starter, attention or to brag about how good of a person you are, then it's a big no.

Linda Robinett
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I heard a story where a white mom had a black daughter (bio, adopted, doesn't matter) and when the girl got older the Mom would take her to Oakland (about an hour's drive but lots of money for the hair salon) to have her daughter's hair properly braided.

Michelle
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I are white, our 10 year old adopted son is black. There's more love in our house than you could ever imagine.

Riley Quinn
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't have a problem with mixed race adoptions in theory. I really appreciate it when white people who've adopted Black kids ask Black people questions so they'll do the right thing by them. Ditto for other races/ethnicities. Learn the hair care routine, how to interact with the police, etc. Way too many white people don't have a clue what it's like to be a minority in this country.

Leigh
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Theres a law in the US that native children need to be adopted by a tribe so they can learn the traditions. A white couple who wanted to adopt a Navajo boy sued to get it overturned.

Poster
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are issues with white people adopting children of color sometimes so I think there needs to be in depth research done on the parents to ensure so racism is gonna happen but it doesn't always happen and isn't a reason to ban it altogether

HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, there was that white guy who raped the Black foster daughter but left the other white children in-raped, and then the couple who adopted 3 Black children and kept them in a shack worked them like slaves. I think chains were also involved.

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Sadly, quite often adoption of children from Africa by people in my south European high-income country has a despicable taste of performance. Sure, the kids might have it better and get way better opportunities, and it's great for them, but it feels like the parents are making it more about themselves, and less about the children.

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#2

He's Also 1 Million Times More Useful Than She'll Ever Be

He's Also 1 Million Times More Useful Than She'll Ever Be

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Ge Po
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd rather have a partner who is generous, earns a steady income, who's concerned about my well-being and at the same time challenges me to become a better me, than some hot guy who only cares about his looks and popularity. Not that all hot guys are that way, but: looks does not the man make. Attitude does.

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#3

Keep Your Neck

Keep Your Neck

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Alexandra Nara
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so marry your stalker that don't accept your borders? Sound like a happy marriage 🙄🙄

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We cringe because of vicarious embarrassment (a.k.a. secondhand shame). But according to clinical psychologist Dr. Marielle Collins, there is an upside to it. 

“That’s the concept of empathy,” she said in an interview with the Cleveland Clinic. “Our brains are wired to be able to simulate the emotional experiences of other people and feel what another person is feeling.”

#4

Cultural Appropriation

Cultural Appropriation

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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not only that, the Japanese government made a statement that the man is a revered master and a honored friend of Japan for keeping ancient musical traditions alive. Also of note: Not only was the game and western developer praised by the Japanese for being a great representation of the actual Island and culture, the developers were made honorary ambassadors for setting up a donation drive to repair the islands historical locations after a big storm damaged the island.

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#5

The Woman Is The Cringe One Here, In Case Anyone Is Confused

The Woman Is The Cringe One Here, In Case Anyone Is Confused

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Livingwithcfs
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people just take things too far. If someone holds a door open for you just say thank you. It honestly doesn't matter if it's male or female because it's good manners. Getting in a s**t about it is bad manners

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#6

Gatekeeping... A Language?

Gatekeeping... A Language?

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Isabel Galvez
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm Spanish, Spanish is my native language and and very white. And also, there're lots of very white people in Latinoamerica.

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But there’s also a reason why seeing something cringeworthy feels like listening to fingernails running down a chalkboard. Here’s an explanation from Dr. Collins: 

“A lot of times, these feelings can come with anxiety and a fear of negative social evaluation. Anxiety can be distressing and may get in the way of whatever you’re doing in the moment.”

#8

Cringe Post Followed By A Funny

Cringe Post Followed By A Funny

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#9

What Were They Thinking?

What Were They Thinking?

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Since secondhand embarrassment can be an anxiety trigger, Dr. Collins says it could be problematic if you’re already dealing with the disorder. 

“Witnessing someone else experiencing embarrassment could increase anxious thoughts about whether a similar experience could happen to you and activate your body’s stress response.”

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#11

Facepalm

Facepalm

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Iampenny
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4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can confirm that period pain is worse, and I'm clumsy AF and have rolled my ankles a lot (even tore a ligament doing so)

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#12

Hysteria Has Always Been Everywhere

Hysteria Has Always Been Everywhere

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Lyone Fein
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Somehow in my mind Satan, Santa, Satin are all mixed up together. And now that we're throwing tornadoes into the mix, I have a very distressing image of flying reindeer in there too.

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If vicarious embarrassment puts you on edge, Dr. Collins shared some tips on how to handle it properly. It begins with reframing emotions. 

“When we experience emotions that are uncomfortable, we often think they are ‘bad,’ and that makes us even more anxious as we try to get rid of it, increasing distress,” she explained.  

“It can help to have a more mindful approach by acknowledging how we are feeling in the moment without judgment and allowing the emotion to pass.”

#13

Dork A** Losers

Dork A** Losers

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Auntriarch
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, a dress that manages to almost reveal the capillaries, and magically perky booobs; a woman sculptor wouldn't have been my first guess either.

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#14

She Is Not The Cringe But Those 6k Neck Beards Are! I Freaking Love Her Idea

She Is Not The Cringe But Those 6k Neck Beards Are! I Freaking Love Her Idea

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Want Another Baby But Your Husband Doesn't? Just Get Him Drunk

Want Another Baby But Your Husband Doesn't? Just Get Him Drunk

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Dealing with anxiety is primarily about recognizing when it begins to manifest. This also applies to the distress from feeling secondhand shame. For this, Dr. Collins recommends the STOP technique.

This simple method involves four steps: stop what you’re doing, take a breath, observe what’s happening to your body, and proceed mindfully.

#16

Yikes

Yikes

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Virgil Blue
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My tale would be "mate, kindly p×ss off I'm having some quality alone time. Now away."

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#17

Imagine The Conversation

Imagine The Conversation

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Savahax
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Can I pet your muffin". I've gotten in trouble for WAY less at work

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As Dr. Collins explains, the STOP technique makes you effectively take notice when anxiety and self-judgment from secondhand embarrassment begin to creep in. 

“When we go down a rabbit hole with our thoughts and emotions, it can all end up being amplified. This STOP technique helps you move in a more helpful direction by pausing for a minute to stop whatever stream of thought you’re having.”

#19

So Much For Independent

So Much For Independent

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Those Damn Scorpios

Those Damn Scorpios

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However, some people don’t feel secondhand shame. But does that mean they lack empathy? Psychotherapist James Hartley has an answer to this question. 

“It could be that they are on the other end of the spectrum genetically, or their environment didn’t develop their empathy in childhood much, but it could also be that they have learned how to have boundaries with their sense of self,” Hartley told Refinery29.

#22

People Think That Negro Refers To The Racial Slur

People Think That Negro Refers To The Racial Slur

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Whitewashing

Whitewashing

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Virgil Blue
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Evolution noticed those bits of skin were almost always out of the sun and decided to call it an day when applying the melanin.

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#25

I Hate This Sub But This Fits Here So

I Hate This Sub But This Fits Here So

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Fat Harry (Oi / You)
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm convinced that not a single woman alive finds that cringey role play s**t a turn-on.

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#26

The Definition Of L

The Definition Of L

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SCamp
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I right in saying the internship was subsequently rescinded as a result?

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#27

Literal Cringe Face

Literal Cringe Face

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HangryHangryHippo
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh damn! English is not my first language and maybe I'm missing something... but I'm assuming it was "puberty"?

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Cardi B Approves This Message

Cardi B Approves This Message

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#29

When You Just Want A Legitimate Business

When You Just Want A Legitimate Business

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Iampenny
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every Thai Massage salon in the town I live in here in Germany has a sign saying "no erotic" due to this.

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How Does This Even Happen

How Does This Even Happen

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Savahax
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hahahahahaha "Yo gaby this is the surgeon" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Wow Real Help

Wow Real Help

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KaiPonpon
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You either pay us or the hospital! Your choice :) /j (hope that's the right tag, still learning)

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#35

Gatekeeping Children’s Names?

Gatekeeping Children’s Names?

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Cringe

Cringe

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think pronouns should be banned. I will never use a pronoun, especially in reference to me.

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#37

But I Have 11k Followers!

But I Have 11k Followers!

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#38

What Is Even The Human Race Anymore

What Is Even The Human Race Anymore

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#39

Vegans Forgot To Read Food Chain In Schhol

Vegans Forgot To Read Food Chain In Schhol

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Annik Perrot
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And tyrannosauruses ate grass. Wait, guess they don't believe in dinosaurs either...

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Notice At An Anime Convention

Notice At An Anime Convention

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This Is A Classic "Ooof" Moment

This Is A Classic "Ooof" Moment

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Ellinor
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I shaved my hair everyone at my school asked me if it was : cancer, military, my parents forcing me... In their narrow minded heads it just couldn't have been by choice. (I precise that I was in a small countryside school and was previously in an art school so the difference between me and my classmates was WILD)

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#42

That Is A Good Question

That Is A Good Question

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Nannychachi
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I swear I just wanna slap up on the underside of her chin and make her bite her tongue.

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#43

This Would Haunt Me For The Rest Of My Life

This Would Haunt Me For The Rest Of My Life

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Pheyonagh
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More embarrassing than having your assets frozen and being sued by the uk dept of health? Bet she wish it was

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Sheesh

Sheesh

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Virgil Blue
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Better get tested for some other things too if that is the way you handle all your interactions.

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Height Of Stupidity

Height Of Stupidity

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Logic Not Found

Logic Not Found

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SerumSeven
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Excuse me, Mr. Waiter, sir? Will you please escort this woman out and bring me some pie?"

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Huh

Huh

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Break up with him, you'll be doing him a favour, getting your toxic a**e out of his life.

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Prime America Moment

Prime America Moment

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SCamp
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok let me explain, see … it’s … way back when …. ahhh why bother??

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#52

This Post Is Totes Yeets Yo

This Post Is Totes Yeets Yo

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Tucker Cahooter
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I keep reading the right hand side text in the voice of the two WW2 RAF pilots from the "Armstrong and Miller Show"

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#53

Imagine Being That Angry About Someone’s Happiness

Imagine Being That Angry About Someone’s Happiness

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Iampenny
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How dare he care about his life? It's not like he has only one - oh wait.....

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#54

Probably Refers To Him As "He's 173 Months Old"

Probably Refers To Him As "He's 173 Months Old"

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What

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Apparently “Child” Is A Slur Now

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The Baby From Nirvana’s Nevermind Cover Is Suing The Band For Exploitation. This Is Why

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Nobody Cares!

Nobody Cares!

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Trying To Find Logic

Trying To Find Logic

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Virgil Blue
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought maybe a small cam stuck somewhere then noticed the tilting between the 2 images.

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