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30 Weird And Nasty Things People Actually Put In Writing That Should’ve Just Stayed In Their Thoughts
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Poets write love notes in a bid to win their lover’s heart, dreamers put their notes in a bottle and let the sea take care of it, and many people like you and me, they can imagine their shopping trip with a grocery list.
But sometimes, notes, or rather their writers, take a more sinister turn. As a result, from time to time, people spot passive-aggressive, weird and questionable notes and messages glued to anywhere from shop windows, coffee places, their own buildings, you name it.
Below we wrapped up some of the most mildly infuriating notes that make you wonder why some thoughts land on paper when they'd have been better off kept inside the writer's head.
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To find out when leaving a note to someone is a good idea and when it isn’t, as well as how to sound nice in writing or when it is better to talk face-to-face, Bored Panda reached out to Beth Collier, a communication, creativity, & leadership consultant.
When asked whether leaving a note to your neighbors about something that you don't like is the way to go, Beth said that it depends on the situation.
“A face-to-face conversation can be preferable, as you can get more information (and possibly a resolution) faster from a conversation.” She explained: “For example, your neighbor may not realize that their music is loud or that their barking dog is bothering you, and you might be able to resolve this situation quickly through a short conversation.”
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I Was Recently Engaged To My Girlfriend And Someone Sent Me This In The Mail
Jill Rhodry 1 year ago
"...as a man with two grown daughters, I'm 100% sure they both suffer inside in silence..." - yep, I'll take that bet, I have no doubt his daughters suffer immeasurably with him for a father.
Bookworm 1 year ago
Yeah... these are the kind of parents who can't imagine why their grown kids move out and never want to talk to them again.
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Littlemiss 1 year ago
What a twat waffle. Congratulations OP, here's to a happy life for you and you wife to be.
Jihana 1 year ago
How often he has to write that she is beautiful. So ugly women are allowed to be lesbian then, because no man would want them anyways?
Sonja 1 year ago
Of course it's ok for ugly women. They don't really care about women in general. They only care that they're losing potential s*xtoys and maids. You know, women they want for themselves and their sons.
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Penny Hernandez 1 year ago
How is the marriage between two consenting adults become anyone else's business unless that person is one of the people in the marriage?
Bookworm 1 year ago
They've got just enough self-awareness to know they don't want their name attached to this hateful garbage in public, but not enough to just keep their nasty thoughts to themselves in the first place.
Load More Replies... Isabel Frost 1 year ago
Yikes. He added in a touch of racism too, as if the rampant homophobia wasn't bad enough.
Týna Ef 1 year ago
in original post on reddit OP says she found out it was written by her mother.
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"Your fiancée looks like a man, what the hell is that" - proceeds to write a letter impersonating a man
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Hello it Smee 1 year ago
My daughter is dating a trans-man and I can't wait for them to get married. F that guy, it ain't his life
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 1 year ago
Concise, to the point, and stupid. I think I just summed up this entire article 🙃
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Jakub Luberda - pisze 1 year ago
I would ride a lawnmower through that bigot's prizewinning petunias
laura lee 1 year ago
Six paragraphs and a copy of their engagement photo added, why? That dude creepy af, like stalker serial killer level
Týna Ef 1 year ago
if you go to original post OP says it was actually her mother
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Weasel Wise 1 year ago
Congratulations and I wish you two nothing but a lifetime of love and snuggles. I wish the sad, hateful soul could see how much easier it is to love others as they are. It requires so much energy to hate and awful feeling that comes with hate only breeds new angers.
Shifty McFlea 1 year ago
This person somehow managed to be extremely sexist, homo/transphobic, and a massive a*****e in one letter! Then had the audacity to put a picture of a straight proposal at the bottom as if to “inspire” her to do that. What a d**k.
WhydoIneedaname 1 year ago
And best part, not a guy- OP's mom, according to the original post. Her own mom.
Load More Replies... The Original Bruno 1 year ago
"marrying a woman who obviously wants to be a man?" I wasn't sure until towards the end if the wroter disapproves of Lesbianism, or only doing something half-way. I was half-expecting, "marry a real woman like myself."
Renee Stephens 1 year ago
I could give a fat rat's f***y if both of my children and all 4 granddaughters were gay. I would still have amazing children and I would still have "heirs" no matter the situation. Jeepers, I really don't like narrow minded people. And forget about narrow minded people who feel like it's their responsibility to remind a total strange of how they're life should be. *insert barfing sounds here*.
Asphalt Bubblegum 1 year ago
Says the man chasing a lesbian because all the straight women called him out as a loser already. I wish the lesbian couple a very long and joyous union free of anymore talking turds.
Goth Mouse (he/they) 1 year ago
Ok this is also the most disgusting disgusting ive ever read what an absolutely horrible man why the hell does he care who a random person marries did he want to marry them? Is he jealous?
BeepBeepBoopBoop 1 year ago
Dear [name], I'm writing you because I think you are making a mistake by marrying a woman; I often wondered why a beautiful woman like yourself would want to be entangled in marrying a woman who obviously wants to be a man. Why not marry a man and not some girl in a man's clothes? You seem to be an intelligent and self-sufficient smart woman. As a man, I'm appalled at this woman trying to be a man [name of spouse] was once a beautiful blond woman with a lot going for her (I saw her pictures), and now, look at her, she looks like a confused person, not knowing whether she wants to be a man or a woman, but she certainly cannot be both I know both of your parents must be so disappointed, knowing that they raised such beautiful girls, only for them to turn out like this As a father, I would be devastated if either of my beautiful daughters came home a told me they were going to marry a woman. I would be looking forward to taking my son-in-law fishing, camping, having some heirs to brag
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Praecordia 1 year ago
It seems it’s always the ones that pray that exhibit so much intolerance to anyone/thing different. I wish people like this would mind their own business and stop pushing their c**p on random people.
Jaguarundi 1 year ago
There is no hate like self-righteous "love". Congrats to the happy couple!
Moezzzz 1 year ago
Why do some people feel the need to give a s**t what others do in their lives? And I'll pray for this douchebag- for his daughters specifically. All I want for my sons is to be happy. And healthy. That's it. F**k this guy and his backwards a*s opinions and congrats to the newly engaged couple!
Joe Publique 1 year ago
Lol, freedom of speech is a good thing because it helps us identify idiots quickly.
Liz Orreo trex ago go 1 year ago
Hmmm... doesn't this mean the kids from this couple are more likely to have the family name. Wouldn't the guy with "only" two daughters be happier if his grandkids had his name?
Cpt. Robert Christian 1 year ago
Dear Mr. Misogynistic Homophobic Waste of Human Space Jackhole, Thank you so much for your cringing, stalkerish, small minded, evil hearted, malignant soul of a letter. Your letter just reminded me of why my soon-to-be wife and I need to go to the weapons range more often, so that we may be able to defend ourselves from you and others like you. Oh and howsabout you SIERRA-TANGO-FOXTROT-UNIFORM & GOLF-FOXTROT-YANKEE, after that go pound sand while pronging yourself. You know I actually feel profound sympathy and sorrow for your wife and daughters, because of having to endure your incel, chauvinistic, bigoted behavior in their lives. Best misery with you and your life. Sincerely, the Beautiful Woman who is marying the Beautiful Woman that I Love.
Christina Hill 1 year ago
Letters like this should warrant more attention from the justice system. This is hate mail made-up to look helpful and I know they cannot always find the person who wrote it but I think we need to try and then at the very least publicly shame them for being donkey holes!
Laura Williams 1 year ago
To guy who clearly doesn't have much going for him get a clue. If poster wants to get married it's none of his business ignore him be happy.
Whitney-Blair Beals 1 year ago
I've never understood why people can't find their understanding in things. Also, the audacity of this dude...
Phil Green 1 year ago
I'm going to have to stop reading this thread! I'm amazed he is a "father". Perhaps he is just saying that for effect. How dare he ascribe feelings to your parents, who, I have no doubt, have accepted your sexuality with no problems at all. Rightly so. Hunt this guy down and publicly shame him. We live in the 21st Century, we are open to all things and accept that there are lesbians, queers, bisexuals, transsexuals, and incels like the moron that sent that letter.
Joy D Kramer 1 year ago
Authored by a pathetic, jealous wretch. I'm SOOOOO happy you found love in this big, scary world- and now you have each other to conquer it together! MANY blessings, happiness and love to you both! 🌈💜💛😊
No Name 1 year ago
Another commenter said OP later discovered it was written by her mother. I'd really like to see that reddit thread.
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Marie Claire Lafreniere 1 year ago
I’ve always wondered why a female wants to marry a butch. I dated one, I went back to men 😂
Potato 1 year ago
I'm sure she's happy about that. The lesbians don't miss you.
Load More Replies...On the other hand, the leadership consultant argues, “if you leave a note instead, your neighbor may interpret your message more critically, and may respond more negatively as a result.”
Beth says that if you don't feel safe or comfortable speaking to the neighbor, then it's OK to write a note, “just choose your words carefully."
#7
The First Time I Went By Myself. Today I Took My Husband With Me. Spot The Difference
#8
Apparently Submitting Assignments Before The Due Date Is Considered “Late”
In order not to sound passive-aggressive in a note that could potentially aggravate the situation, Beth’s advice is to “be polite, explain the situation, and look for a solution together. Your neighbor may be inconsiderate, but they may not know there is even an issue.”
Beth argues that it’s best to “write the note like an adult speaking to another adult - not like a parent speaking to a naughty child. Keep your message short and simple - but be clear about what the issue is, and what you want.”
#10
This Poorly Written Letter From My Passive Aggressive Neighbor Telling Me To Remove My 'Legally-Owned' Plants From My Property
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Left On My Sister’s Windshield… Who Is From Asheville, But Has South Carolina Plates… Stay Classy Asheville
"If you know the neighbor and have a decent relationship with them, it can be easier (and faster) to speak to them face-to-face. When you talk to someone face-to-face, it is easier to communicate your tone and meaning than it is in writing,” Beth explained.
She also reminds readers to think about timing if you approach them (e.g. you might want to avoid meal times, or late at night/first thing in the morning). “And don't approach them when you're angry."
#13
One Of A Seemingly Endless Series Of Unreasonable Notes Left By My Boss. It’s Great Here
#14
Went To A Friendsgiving, They Let Their Neighbor Know Ahead Of Time That They Would Be Having People Over, It Was 4:45pm On A Saturday And About 6 People Were There At That Point. He Abruptly Knocked On The Door Once, Taped This Note To The Door And Ran Off
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I'm *Trying* To Date And I Encounter This Constantly. Why Is It Such A Big Deal That I Choose Not To Drink Alcohol?
#17
This USPS Delivery Guy Who Left A Passive-Agressive Note On My Mother's Package Of Cat Food. She Has An Injured Back
#18
They Took Out All The Milk We Stored For My 3 Kids And Left Us This Note
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Dunkin’ Donuts By Me Blatantly Admitting That They Use Ice To Give You Less Coffee In Your Drink
#21
Neighbor Took Delivery Of A Package That Our Business Purchased, Used The Contents, And Now Wants Us To Pay For The Scraps
#23
*Gasp* Imagine Having The Audacity To Walk Barefoot In Your Own Apartment
#25
So Sorry About Stealing Your Golf Clubs. Here's My Old Sh**ty Set... A Neighbor Of Mine Woke Up To Find This Note On Her Van The Day After It Was Broken Into
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Found This Note Taped To Our Door After A Dog In The Complex Barked All Morning. We Don’t Own A Dog And We Were At Home All Day
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Got This Note From A Concerned Citizen. I Have An Electric Car And It Has “Dog Mode” Which Means It Uses Electricity To Keep The AC Running So My Groceries Don’t Overheat While I Made A Quick Stop In Another Store… there Were Only Gas Guzzlers Parked Next To Me
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What do you think ?
What_the_actual_sloth? 1 year ago
some of these made me want to rip my hair out. Especially that racist one about the Indian family. smh
Ron Baza 1 year ago
I cannot abide anonymous notes. Got one from a neighbour once, demanding I stop using a specific parking space (not allocated to them, they just liked using it). It wasn’t signed, so I just knocked on doors until I found out who it was and politely declined. Sad thing was, they knew it was my car and could have just asked me to my face or popped a note through my door, in which case I probably would have said yes.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 1 year ago
Hi downvote fairy. I checked, you seem to have a busy time trying to downvote every single of my comments since the day before yesterday. Soooo…. Good job?
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HB 1 year ago
I feel uncomfortable and kind of miffed after reading this, and I can't help but wonder if that's the intent. People can be really weird, and I know some of these are likely real, but there are ways to fake a text screenshot. Anyone can write a rude note and take a photo, for sympathy, or just attention of any kind
Anouk T 1 year ago
Seriously why almost all of not actually all of those notes come from the USA?!
Andy Frobig 1 year ago
I think the one about walking barefoot must have come from Germany or Austria, maybe Switzerland. We don't talk about "Ruhezeit" much in the US
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What_the_actual_sloth? 1 year ago
some of these made me want to rip my hair out. Especially that racist one about the Indian family. smh
Ron Baza 1 year ago
I cannot abide anonymous notes. Got one from a neighbour once, demanding I stop using a specific parking space (not allocated to them, they just liked using it). It wasn’t signed, so I just knocked on doors until I found out who it was and politely declined. Sad thing was, they knew it was my car and could have just asked me to my face or popped a note through my door, in which case I probably would have said yes.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 1 year ago
Hi downvote fairy. I checked, you seem to have a busy time trying to downvote every single of my comments since the day before yesterday. Soooo…. Good job?
Load More Replies... HB 1 year ago
I feel uncomfortable and kind of miffed after reading this, and I can't help but wonder if that's the intent. People can be really weird, and I know some of these are likely real, but there are ways to fake a text screenshot. Anyone can write a rude note and take a photo, for sympathy, or just attention of any kind
Anouk T 1 year ago
Seriously why almost all of not actually all of those notes come from the USA?!
Andy Frobig 1 year ago
I think the one about walking barefoot must have come from Germany or Austria, maybe Switzerland. We don't talk about "Ruhezeit" much in the US
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