When your wife tells you she is exhausted and needs you to make efforts, listen to her and make those efforts. We tend to very fastly take those as nagging or annoying but most of the times its a need that comes out as a vent. Ignoring those repeatedly almost led me to divorce.

During pregnancy and the first few month after childbirth I always hear men say, " There isn't much for me to do with the kid, its all her," my "cheat code" is that SHE is your responsibility during that time. Every time her belly itches YOU put lotion on, YOU get up and get her snacks, YOU rub her feet, YOU lift her belly up to release pressure on her back, YOU buy her comfortable clothes. When the baby is born, yea she has to wake up and breast feed, BUT YOU burp the baby, YOU change the diapers when you can. I did all of this s**t while being Active Duty military so it drives me up a wall when fathers and husbands make an excuse that they, "have to work" so they can't help out. Be an active parent and an active partner. Suddenly, you'll find yourself getting laid more too without begging. Its like genuinely caring is attractive or something.

When my wife gets home and wants to talk about work or about a friend or w/e, I ask "support or suggestion". Changed my life.

My wife destresses after work by talking about her day. When we were dating, my impulse would be to "solve" whatever problem she had, which she didn't want. Years together and many fights later, we've both learned to just ask what the other needs and we both love each other, so we're happy to provide it.

When I feel like my wife is feeling a little down or when I feel like we’re not connecting emotionally, I will ask her about something she is passionate about and just get her talking. And I will ask questions that cannot be answered with a yes or no. She will go from sitting back with her arms folded to leaning forward, talking excitedly.

Often, people feel closer to someone simply by talking to that person and being heard. And everyone feels good talking about their favorite things.

Also, if you have something difficult to talk about, wait until they are in a good mood.

“You only think i’m cheating bc you listen to too much Lana Del Rey, it’s making u sad.”

I do Search and Rescue work.

Got a call to respond to a missing lady in her 60s, gone overnight. Police had been searching for hours with no luck, so by the time I got there she had been missing for over 16 hours.

This was my K9s first search ever, so I was super nervous but also proud that we could help. The police kept trying to hold me to a small 10 acres set of woods but my gut said trust my dog, she wasn't there.

The police officer got angry with me and decided to go back to the 10 acres while I continued with my K9 into a new area. 5 mins later my dog gives an alert and I watch which way she went. I climbed over a huge tree to find the lady standing there in shock. She went passed out as soon as I said who I was and asked her what her name was.

After years of being told I was wasting my time, my dog was s**t, and if I wanted to do SAR I should get a real dog, it was the most amazing feeling in the world. My K9 is almost retired, has multiple finds and a recovery under her paws now, and she is just simply amazing.

Edited for dog tax! Peanut