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What was his excuse when it wasn't baseball season? He just didn't want to be bothered!!!

She also had the option if she didn't want to do this, to not have any kids. Her choices all the way. On top of that, he is actively taking people's advice according to the edits. He is hiring a night nurse to work during the day so she gets used to her, and feels more comfortable letting her do the night shift with the baby.

You do know athletes TRAIN in the off season, right?

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Pouting!! You try staying up all night with a baby just once on your own having just given birth with someone in the house who could help you but just refuses to do it because he's too important!!

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Who even agrees to someone saying I'm not going to help with OUR child at some points AT ALL and you're just going to have to deal with it. We wouldn't have had children. But I suppose that professional baseball money can sway most people.

@TrixiBlack, welcome to the real world if the husband is working in a high demanding and high paying job and the wife is staying at home then of course she has more responsibilities at home. If both have a career they can't raise kids, so if a woman wants a high status man and healthy family she has to sacrifice her career (not to be confused with a job). Or you date a lower status man, have a job yourself and split duties, then your husband can take care of the child while you work, and you take care of the child while he works. There is nothing wrong with either choice. But you don't get a 6 figure man, don't work yourself and demand from him he has equal duties in the household. And if you do you're usually divorced in no time.

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I live in the real world where PARENTS don't make foolish statements like I'm not helping with OUR child at some points and you have to deal with it. That had nothing to do with a 6 figure anyone. It has to do with the caliber of human you're dealing with. People like you act like a stay at home mom means you have to do EVERYTHING on your own and if you don't like it well you should have known that's what you signed up for. My father made a very good living and that statement never came out of his mouth. But that's probably why I turned out the way I did and you have the mentality that you do. God help whoever makes the awful decision of being involved with you.

@Trixie Black So...you actually do think that he should literally kill himself, when his wife has REFUSED to have anyone BUT herself do any of the night work? Because he specifically stated that he offered both to hire a night nanny AND to have FAMILY MEMBERS come help. Both are perfectly reasonable compromises that do NOT put the entire burden on his wife to care for the baby. At that point, SHE, like YOU, becomes the a**hole.

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You're an a**hole simply because you're stupid. Nothing else needs to be said at this point.

@Trixi Black, you might want to read the article again, it is clearly written that he is very involved with the child and this is his only non negotiable boundary. If he wouldn't be involved with the child at all or only very little I'd agree with you. But that's not the case here. Please read the article before you answer in the comments, it is very impolite to accuse other people of something that you assume because you didn't pay attention to the topic. Thank you.

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I read the whole thing. Please don't assume because I don't hold the same view as you that I didn't read. It's impolite. Thank you.

@Trixi Black: Quote from Original Article: "I Spend as much time as I can caring for and bonding with our baby, just not during the night" Quote from your reply: "People like you act like a stay at home mom means you have to do EVERYTHING" That is a contradiction that I don't assume but stands in this thread in written form. The article we talk about is clearly about a man who spends time and helps during the day. Nowhere in the article is written that he expects the wife to do everything. And I wrote "of course she has more responsibilities" it very clearly say more and not everything like you claimed. So if you didn't assume anything how come you write the mom is expected to do everything when that is mentioned nowhere?

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"Who even agrees to someone saying I'm not going to help with OUR child at some points AT ALL". I CLEARLY stated at some points. You're the one telling me welcome to the real world like this is something that's expected. Honestly, the rest of your comment is exhausting. That usually isn't an issue but you are tedious. Enjoy.

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He NEVER said he would NEVER help with their child. He simply stated due to his career he cannot and will not comprise his night time sleep schedule for it. And again, it was discussed and understood prior. He actually sounds quite loving & caring considering he even posted on the thread for advice. Considering she doesn't have to worry about cooking, cleaning or laundry most husbands would be unsupportive and telling her to suck it up. I give him a lot of respect for not only inquiring w/ others but actively taking in their suggestions and advice to make things better for his wife snd family as a whole. It sounds like they have a VERY comfortable lifestyle and I'd give just about ANYTHING to have such a secure and stable home with what seems to be a very supportive, caring & loving husband. I have faith they'll get thru this and they'll laugh about it a few years from now.

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Mansplaining an ahole and what it's like to be a parent. Well done! Bet you've never even been near a kid!

"aT aLl!!1!" During the NIGHT. For a good REASON. He cares whenever he can, pays a maid, pays a meal service, would pay a night nanny. The wife has literally nothing she HAS to do. Should he quit his career? Sure they can both work, without the money for help, definitely sad and depressed for giving up on his dreams and then see how it goes. How about that, huh?

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You sound dumb. If that's what you gathered from what was said that's exactly what you are.

So, for any soldier who refuses to help out "at all" during deployments, or pilots who refuse to care for their children "at all" while operating planes, those are all pieces of c**p parents? It is literally an aspect of his livelihood. She was made aware that those were his conditions. Presumably, she's intelligent enough to consent to that agreement. Which she did. She's not complaining about the life he's providing for her or their child. His sleep schedule is non negotiable. Not in their child rearing and not for his continued career. It's literally non negotiable. And he doesn't need to justify that to anybody, least of all you. He communicated it with HIS WIFE who said she understood and agreed that he would not be pulling night time kid duty. That wife literally has a cushy a*s free ride. I have absolutely no sympathy for her at all whatsoever.

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He justified it by putting it on the internet to ask if he was a jerk. Have several seats.

No one knows what it's like to have to care for a baby alone until you have to do it.

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Theres nothing immature about it, shes a new mother having to care for a baby on her own at night with no help so of course its gonna take a toll on her and affect her attitudes. And the fact that you described it as bitching says quite alot about you.

I absolutely would never stop downvoting someone for a very obviously stupid opinion (FACT is, that they agreed in advance, for an extremely good reason and the wife has zero household duties, other than the kid at night and not even that if she didn't want to, daytime is somewhat shared with the child anyway, so saying he's bad, she's great is stupid) just because they could be offended. That's how we got all this raging conspiracy theorists, fascists and anti-vaxxer. By not objecting and treating their "opinion" (against FACTS) as equal to reality and sanity. BUT (❗) I won't downvote on BP, because you have a good point here. Saying it's like China is s bit overdramatic, but deleting an account for downvotes is really bad regardless. For enough, good, reports, yes, but not downvotes.

@Baleygr, I agree with you in almost everything. The only problem is that BoredPanda deletes accounts. Otherwise say your opinion and get up- or downvoted, who cares. It's not like China but it's the same principle: people get silenced for the fear of being excluded from society / having their account deleted. However I personally stopped downvoting on opinion at all because often enough what we consider to be a stupid statement starts a good discussion and that gives the stupid statement some value. Or it also can be that you'r triggered the hell because you subconsciously feel the other one is right but don't want to admit it, and then a discussion despite all urges to just get the other opinion out of sight is important. Also by listening you learn. Don't like fascist: listen to their life story and you'll know how they got there which means you'll know what to do as a society to stop people from ending up there.

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A man has come to proclaim his manly mansplaining views on a subject he know nothing about then complains when he is down voted. Could only be a man!

Linda, I appreciate your intent to defend all the mothers of the world. I am one. I've done it. I get it. But you did come into this comment section on the attack pretty much immediately. I don't think Mathias is trying to "mansplain" anything. He makes some fair points and he's trying to remain civil despite your attitude. It's also improper to assume that he's never raised a child on his own. You just don't know. You don't know the strangers you talk to on the internet anymore than they know you. I trust you're just trying to do your best and bless you for it. But we could all stand to check our emotions, even when we enjoy the anonymity of the internet.

You need to learn what manipulating is before throwing it around from your high horse. If a human makes a ridiculous statement and another human points out the idiocybinvthat statement, that has nothing to do with misogyny. You aren't fighting sexism, you're weaponizing it. And making a fool of yourself while doing so.

@ Linda Ellis, when I wrote the post about downvoting I did so because the post from Ueda was downvoted, I asked others to not downvote the opinion I disagree with because I can respect a person even if I disagree with what they say. So of course you are free to write here whatever you want. But to engage in a discussion and exchange opinions without immediate judgement wouldn't hurt. It'd actually do good. Because as of now I have no idea why you disagree or how you think such a situation where the partners have unequal jobs and income should be handled, all I know is that you are very emotional about the topic, but there is nothing I can learn from you with only that information.

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Lol tell him welcome to the real world

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Your opinions are very offensive.