I would have cut God's Atomic Jesus Freak B!tch out of my life long before she reached this point. Nine children isolated in the wilderness with compromised immune systems sounds like either the prequel to Deliverance or that X-Files episode called "Home".

The commenter who noted that these types are so judgemental unless they need money is so accurate. My brother and SIL were evangelicals and she did her best to ignore us. He became very ill, mum and dad were constantly helping in one way or another to get them through, my sister and i too. She was constantly making a point of how "blessed by God" they were that they got all this help aka. It was not us, it was God. My brother died and my own parents, me and my sister were not welcome in the front row or the receiving line for condolences. All the congregation except 2 women ignored us at my own brothers funeral and she ensured we were not allowed to contribute to the headstone plaque which does not acknowledge him as a beloved son and brother. It still makes me want to scream 12 years later.

You lost me at the anti-wax statement to feel any emphaty or understanding toward your sister. Also, her NAME ... LOL! -that's just pure ironic- But now I konw from where are coming those f.cking idiiots in the USA. They are the chikldren of your "sister's". I mean kids "homeschooled" by total lunatics, like your sister is. Why is homeschooling even legal? If not, to create idiots who are voting for lunatic felons.

Crazy people shouldn't be accommodated at others' expense. Especially anti-vaxxers, who are not just delusional, but actively malicious.

Surprised they lived this long and don't worry ny time of wedding she'll be busy buying 9 mini coffins

Your niece has spoken, so that should be that. Unfortunately, it seems that it isn't due to your brother. This meal will be held at your brother's house, and he has the right to decide who does or doesn't come to it. But you definitely need to let him know that if you honor his wishes, your entire family will not be attending the meal and that this request will change your relationship with him. As for the wedding, everyone go and enjoy yourselves.

I still haven’t stopped laughing about “I mean that with my entire chest”! 😆 It seems like something an ESL speaker would say, and it’s simply adorable! It was the only bright spot in this terrifying post about that wretched, stupid woman!

Are there still really people around that believe that vaccins cause autism? I'm flabbergasted....

Wait. Her pathogen management plan is permanent quarantine - but she makes you do it? I’m confused.

This will get downvoted but I think it’s nice for a change that there are other religions than Islam that have crazy a*s “practitioners”. In the name of the Lord, Allah, Yahweh and all Devas in existence. Sorry if I forgot one or three. Amen.

So the brother wants OP to keep the peace by giving in and excluding her son, but it sounds like be failed. Either the lunatic sister will be upset or OP will be. Either way, they will interact at the wedding or reception. Fisticuffs will happen. The brother/father of the bride needs to let his daughter decide, but she must decide and inform everyone of her decision, and the battling sisters need to respect that decision. OP is bringing a lot of baggage into this which is obvious from her descriptions here. Both need to respect the bride and whoever "wins" can't gloat or even mention this or any other conflict to anyone at the wedding.

If she's so flippin concerned, maybe she should vaccinate her kids.

To keep the peace?! She won’t bring peace at all even if the kid stays at home. She will find something else to b***h about AT THE WEDDINNG!

Go since it's what the bride wants and ignore the brother (he wants to be the good guy to everyone, can't be done). The sister does this because she wants control and if you allow her to get her way it will get worse. Besides, she's doing it wrong - she's supposed to expose her kids to these diseases and give them natural immunity, am I right? 👍

I know another religion like that. I have seen good folks throw away a career and ironclad military retirement for their beliefs!

it's the niece's choice! if she wants OP and OP's kids to be there, and they all want to be there, they all get to be there. wth does crazy sis expect to do when the kids grow up? are they all going to stay at the commune? unless the plan is that they never interact with other people, she has no leg to stand on.

Your sister hasn't found religion, she's found a cult. How dare she demand this? Those kids aren't even getting to spend time with other children because of her homeschooling and living in the middle of nowhere. NTA but your sister is an entitled brat forcing her s**t on her children and family and is a huge AH!!!

Our family has a safe word. When you have enough of a conversation or you don't want to discuss it or whatever or any other time you just want to say "shut the F up" and not be rude. Just invoke the safe word. Our word is avocado. Invite whomever, and expect them all to be adults or they can make their own decisions on whether to come or not come. It's a family thing, all family should be there. And when whomever wants to b***h, when they start, just say the safe word.. then change the subject. Avocado. Did you see the sunset last night?

And no one is flagging this as rage bait? It has all the elements. Barely there info, all the buzz words. Conservative religious trad wife anti vaxer with a hundred kids, against liberal educated gay couple. I mostly call BS on a father that "wants to keep the peace" over his daughter saying who she wants in her own wedding. This story stinks of fake nonsense.