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Life is not always easy. People are not always nice. While we can’t avoid life. We can avoid people. Sometimes. One way to do this is to stay home and scroll through social media. We might have found the perfect place for you to visit during your self-imposed social distancing.

Instagram page x__antisocial_butterfly__x has over 2 million followers and has shared thousands of memes since it started. From the funny to the infuriating, there should be something for anyone who is sick of being a social butterfly. Keep scrolling to see our top picks. And don’t forget to upvote the ones you find painfully relatable.

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Many of us have been there. It’s Friday night, and we've made plans to go out with friends. Suddenly we realize we just don’t feel like being around people. Or, we don’t like people. Not tonight anyway. So, we stay in. It happens again on Saturday. And on Sunday. Maybe even the next weekend too. We might be called anti-social. But we probably aren’t.

The words “antisocial”, “asocial” and “introverted” are often used interchangeably in everyday life. But in the world of psychology, each has a very different meaning. Here’s how Healthline breaks it down: “Asocial people prefer to be alone, while antisocial people are actively against others and may lack empathy. Introverts, meanwhile, gain most of their energy from their inner world.”

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Only about 1% of women and 3% of men are truly antisocial. If we’re going by the clinical definition of the word. Antisocial behavior runs a lot deeper than what some people might think. It’s not about not wanting to be around others. It’s not about preferring our own company. It’s not about getting anxious in social situations. And it's not about never going out.

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You might have heard of Ted Bundy. One of America’s most notorious serial criminals. He terrorized dozens of women to death in the 1970s. His crimes have made it into several movies and books. His mind has been studied by psychiatrists. The title of Netflix’s 2019 movie about him says it all: "Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile". Bundy was a psychopath.

In the psychiatric world, “psychopath” is not an official diagnosis. According to Healthline, it’s “an informal term often used for a condition called antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)”. And because the word “antisocial” is in the title of the disorder, it can get a bit confusing.

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Lotekguy
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever I have to spell phonetically for someone, I tend to say "P as in pneumonia" or "K as in knight" or "G as in gnome". It may take longer to finish, but it amuses me and makes the transaction less tedious. M as in mnemonic usually seems a bit of an overreach.

Karri Berkowitz
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had a supervisor say over the radio "I as in Eyeball" he was mad he had to keep repeating himself

UnpopularPanda
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of when Steve Harvey on Family Feud asked "Name something with Pork in it" and a contestant responded with "Cupine".

Beth Wheeler
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I swear I think people try to kill poor Steve Harvey with their answers sometimes.

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PeachPossum
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I was in college, I worked for a small technical firm doing clerical work. When I graduated and announced I would be leaving for an in-field job, they hired my replacement, another young woman who claimed to be an English major like myself. One day I found her flipping through the dictionary. I asked what she was looking for. "How do you spell Europe?" She was looking in the U chapter. I questioned the wisdom of having hired her, but as much as I liked my soon-to-be-former bosses, I decided to let it slide.

Untamed Snark
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once had a really annoying b****y customer, so when I spelt out the code I used P as in Pterodactyl. K as in Knight, G as in Gnome. She was not amused, my boss, however, was.

Michael Largey
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it was a first name, that's the spelling some parents would use when naming their child.

Toothless Feline
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a close friend who is infamous among our friend group for misspeaking. One day, we were working together on a project for an event we both volunteered with, and she was giving some names over the phone to another volunteer. She was spelling, “…d as in dog…a is in apple…n as in dog…” When she hung up, I just looked at her and said, “N as in dog?” She just put her face in her hands and laughed.

Sam Cook
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had one tell a manager or a supervisor (the main manager later told me this) that I didn't smile enough at her. I didn't realize that, after maybe five to seven hours, I'm supposed to be smiling as bright as possible. I do attempt to smile at most customers, but it's not always easy with some of the attitudes I've dealt with.

Tanya Morton
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people need to get a sense of humour 🤣🤣I would have been cackling right next to u 🤣

EJN
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a significant group of English speakers who believe in that 'Q'.

Bettye McKee
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On Family Feud, the question was, "Give me a name that starts with H." The contestant said, "Jose."

Dirk Daring
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I believe schools should be teaching the NATO Phonetic Alphabet.

Tobias Reaper
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i was on the phone to someone at work and they were spelling something and said x for xylophone

Beth Wheeler
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WOW what an idiot. How did that dumb dumb think it's spelled?

char
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work at little caesars and this guy was trying to use a coupon for buy one cheese/pepperoni pizza get one free, and we had to tell him that the coupon only worked on the app, and he got annoyed and so then he placed an order on the app, and then when his order came through, he complained that the coupon hadn't been applied, and I pulled up the order he'd placed to see if I could help, and he had, rather than ordering two pepperoni or cheese pizzas, ordered ONE pizza and it was SAUSAGE. and there was nothing I could do to stop myself from breaking into laughter. I felt so bad.

Osprey
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That actually happened to me years ago. It was a black woman with a hard accent, after the fourth time I couldn't understand her she shouted, Q Q as in...pause ..cucumber. I work CS for a large on line veterinary company.

Jaya
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, we're gonna rename cucumber to q-cumber, all in favor raise your hands!

Georgia Ireland
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I'd been in line behind that customer, I'm sure I would've giggled.

David
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Were they waiting patiently? Perhaps what they really said was "Queue for cucumber" /J

Guess Undheit
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "Chicoutimi Cucumber" (NHL goalie Georges Vezina) was from Chicoutimi, Quebec.

Margaret H
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah. Qcumbers. The salad vegetable for all those conspiracy theorists out there.

Agfox
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Qukes are a variety of baby cucumbers sold in Australian supermarkets - & probably in specialist greengrocery storers here as well for all I know

Bidango Smith
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't! I can't because I'm not actually surprised at this point.

HT-ZX
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably he/she was talking about Q, the character from Star Trek, which probably likes cucumber... That's the only explanation... 😂🤣😂🤣

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Dr. Prakash Masand is co-founder of the Centers of Psychiatric Excellence. He told Healthline, “Most people might assume this describes someone who is reserved, a loner, keeps to himself, etc. However, this is not the case in ASPD. When we say antisocial in ASPD, it means someone who goes against society, rules, and other behaviors that are more commonplace.”

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PeachPossum
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not crying. You're crying.... that is a beautiful and precious thing. hang onto that.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I first got to prison, the guards' winter uniforms were navy blue. Several of us who hung out together, being silly, would sight guards, and say, "Oh no! The blue people are coming!" A few years later, the blue uniforms were replaced by black ones. One can NOT say, "Oh no! The black people are coming!" It just really doesn't work out well.

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So what is ASPD? Healthline defines it as “a mental health condition involving longstanding patterns of manipulation and disregard for others.” Adding that those with ASPD often “don’t care if they break the law. They may lie and place others at risk without feeling any remorse.” 

Science Direct notes “affected individuals may use an alias instead of their real name, and do anything they wish in order to achieve money, power, or sex. Their impulses do not allow for planning ahead or considering the consequences of their actions, as well as the safety of others and themselves." Click here for more Bored Panda mental health content.

The Cambridge Dictionary describes a “social butterfly” as someone who “likes to attend parties and other social events, often not having serious relationships with other people.” While the Urban Dictionary definition of “anti-social butterfly” is: “a term that is used when a social butterfly has been put into enough situations or trauma to become anti-social. This means they want to be social but feel like they can't or shouldn't for several reasons.”

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The same site describes itself aka "urban dictionary" as "a place for you to lie about the amount of sexual knowledge/experience you have." And we felt that was important to note since all these terms can get a bit confusing.

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chrnh@metrocast.net
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never got any birds but the seeds that were dropped from my feeder produced a couple of sunflowers!

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The next time someone calls you "antisocial", you have every right to correct them. And feel free to school them with some of the terms you've read about today. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be around people. Or not liking them. Sometimes. But if you, or someone you know, might have ASPD, reach out to a qualified mental health professional.

What's your definition of antisocial butterfly? Are you one? Let us know in the comments.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this was my pop, it would have ended up being sorted at a BBQ at our house with a whole family of new best friends.

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Paul Brown
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not gonna lie, when I first read it I thought they actually meant a club for people with black Jeeps. I'm an idiot! 🤣

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The game developers need a reminder of this. I'm looking at you EA!

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One is a breach of your terms and conditions, the other is an arrestable offence, voyeurism is illegal in many countries

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Roald Dahl suggested she should have got a long sentence for burglary.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of that quote from Full Metal Jacket: " You're so ugly, you could be a modern art masterpiece"

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tried speaking French in a Quebec McDonald's. The clerk looked at me with an annoyed expression and said, "Whaddya want??"

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can see how a very literal person could make that mistake, though that is a rather sweet compliment. I, too, would legitimately change my mind about going to the cinema if I couldn’t bring in my own chips and drinks.

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