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Life is not always easy. People are not always nice. While we can’t avoid life. We can avoid people. Sometimes. One way to do this is to stay home and scroll through social media. We might have found the perfect place for you to visit during your self-imposed social distancing.

Instagram page x__antisocial_butterfly__x has over 2 million followers and has shared thousands of memes since it started. From the funny to the infuriating, there should be something for anyone who is sick of being a social butterfly. Keep scrolling to see our top picks. And don’t forget to upvote the ones you find painfully relatable.

Many of us have been there. It’s Friday night, and we've made plans to go out with friends. Suddenly we realize we just don’t feel like being around people. Or, we don’t like people. Not tonight anyway. So, we stay in. It happens again on Saturday. And on Sunday. Maybe even the next weekend too. We might be called anti-social. But we probably aren’t.

The words “antisocial”, “asocial” and “introverted” are often used interchangeably in everyday life. But in the world of psychology, each has a very different meaning. Here’s how Healthline breaks it down: “Asocial people prefer to be alone, while antisocial people are actively against others and may lack empathy. Introverts, meanwhile, gain most of their energy from their inner world.”

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Only about 1% of women and 3% of men are truly antisocial. If we’re going by the clinical definition of the word. Antisocial behavior runs a lot deeper than what some people might think. It’s not about not wanting to be around others. It’s not about preferring our own company. It’s not about getting anxious in social situations. And it's not about never going out.

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You might have heard of Ted Bundy. One of America’s most notorious serial criminals. He terrorized dozens of women to death in the 1970s. His crimes have made it into several movies and books. His mind has been studied by psychiatrists. The title of Netflix’s 2019 movie about him says it all: "Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile". Bundy was a psychopath.

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In the psychiatric world, “psychopath” is not an official diagnosis. According to Healthline, it’s “an informal term often used for a condition called antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)”. And because the word “antisocial” is in the title of the disorder, it can get a bit confusing.

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Dr. Prakash Masand is co-founder of the Centers of Psychiatric Excellence. He told Healthline, “Most people might assume this describes someone who is reserved, a loner, keeps to himself, etc. However, this is not the case in ASPD. When we say antisocial in ASPD, it means someone who goes against society, rules, and other behaviors that are more commonplace.”

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not crying. You're crying.... that is a beautiful and precious thing. hang onto that.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I first got to prison, the guards' winter uniforms were navy blue. Several of us who hung out together, being silly, would sight guards, and say, "Oh no! The blue people are coming!" A few years later, the blue uniforms were replaced by black ones. One can NOT say, "Oh no! The black people are coming!" It just really doesn't work out well.

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So what is ASPD? Healthline defines it as “a mental health condition involving longstanding patterns of manipulation and disregard for others.” Adding that those with ASPD often “don’t care if they break the law. They may lie and place others at risk without feeling any remorse.” 

Science Direct notes “affected individuals may use an alias instead of their real name, and do anything they wish in order to achieve money, power, or sex. Their impulses do not allow for planning ahead or considering the consequences of their actions, as well as the safety of others and themselves." Click here for more Bored Panda mental health content.

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The Cambridge Dictionary describes a “social butterfly” as someone who “likes to attend parties and other social events, often not having serious relationships with other people.” While the Urban Dictionary definition of “anti-social butterfly” is: “a term that is used when a social butterfly has been put into enough situations or trauma to become anti-social. This means they want to be social but feel like they can't or shouldn't for several reasons.”

The same site describes itself aka "urban dictionary" as "a place for you to lie about the amount of sexual knowledge/experience you have." And we felt that was important to note since all these terms can get a bit confusing.

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chrnh@metrocast.net
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never got any birds but the seeds that were dropped from my feeder produced a couple of sunflowers!

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The next time someone calls you "antisocial", you have every right to correct them. And feel free to school them with some of the terms you've read about today. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be around people. Or not liking them. Sometimes. But if you, or someone you know, might have ASPD, reach out to a qualified mental health professional.

What's your definition of antisocial butterfly? Are you one? Let us know in the comments.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this was my pop, it would have ended up being sorted at a BBQ at our house with a whole family of new best friends.

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Paul Brown
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not gonna lie, when I first read it I thought they actually meant a club for people with black Jeeps. I'm an idiot! 🤣

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The game developers need a reminder of this. I'm looking at you EA!

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Kobe (she)
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe, Technically, someone is only deceased when someone is officially declared dead by a doctor. If such a person is not on board, they may have to land immediately - because perhaps they could still be saved (technically speaking). Must also have to do with legal matters, lawsuits and so on...

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Colleen Glim
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds horrible but he’s not wrong. They’re not gonna get deader

Bob Brooce
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds wildly sensible. Landing and taking off wastes peoples' time and costs a lot of money. Also, the corpse needs to get somewhere specific, and there's perhaps a 30 to 40% chance that it's the place the plane is supposed to go to.

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XenoMurph
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not up to a steward to decide death. If someone is unresponsive, get them on the ground in front of medical professionals asap. The number of times DOCTORS have declared death, and the person wakes up in the morgue is, ok quite small, but you get my point.

UKDeek
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most (if not all) airlines have remote access to health care professionals, usually doctors, who can talk through recognition of life extinct, and once that has occurred there is no rush any more...

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Vicki Perizzolo
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get it - the ambulance wouldn't be running lights/sirens either - speed won't change the situation

Riley Quinn
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The FAA and the US government don't seem to have anything set in stone, so it seems it's up to the pilot's discretion to call ahead and continue to the destination. This would make sense since there is no longer a medical emergency requiring an immediate landing.

Joanne Hudson
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So his family had to drive/pay-someone-to-drive all the way from LA to Albuquerque to pick up his body? Did his ticket say he lost his use of his ticket if he died?

StrangeTrout
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought only medical emergencies required re-routing to the nearest airport, dead people just have a blanket put over them and are 'asleep'

Michael Danhauer
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not entirely sure what the point of inconveniencing a whole plane of people to process a corpse more quickly is? In this case I'm siding with the devil. I mean pragmatism isn't evil if no one is hurt by it.

Otto Katz
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went to my dad's and forgot the key to get in. He had to get up and open the door for me, got really pissed off at me. "What if I had been laying dead on the floor, and you had to go back to your house (10 minutes away) to get your key?" I answered, "Well, what would it matter, you'd still be dead when I got back!" He was so pissed at me because he couldn't find an answer to to that, and he so wanted to be mad at me.

Julie Love
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I flew with my elderly mom when she was potentially not going to survive a flight, so if she passed I could tell the staff to chill and let everyone get off without making a fuss. (Don't argue with me - complex situation. And besides, she lived like 2 more years.)

JOHN DOE
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone agrees until the staff strap the dead guy next to them.

Doofnuts
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kind of agree with the guy- the emergency has obviously passed.

Heffalump
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

tbf, flights often carry on to their destination in these circumstances.

Michael Largey
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person can appear to be dead to a lay person like a flight attendant but still be alive and savable.

Strahd Ivarius
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

when you die at sea, you are thrown off the ship, can't they do the same thing if you die while flying?

Mez
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's fair, I wouldn't want people to be inconvenienced if that was me. And if they would of wanted to inconvenience prople, then stuff 'em I say!

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XenoMurph
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One is a breach of your terms and conditions, the other is an arrestable offence, voyeurism is illegal in many countries

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Roald Dahl suggested she should have got a long sentence for burglary.

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jon gilbertson
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of that quote from Full Metal Jacket: " You're so ugly, you could be a modern art masterpiece"

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Cindy Brick
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tried speaking French in a Quebec McDonald's. The clerk looked at me with an annoyed expression and said, "Whaddya want??"

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can see how a very literal person could make that mistake, though that is a rather sweet compliment. I, too, would legitimately change my mind about going to the cinema if I couldn’t bring in my own chips and drinks.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you don't mind Dominos, you can pin your exact delivery point anywhere (I assume land only)

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The word HATE!? Ack! The censorship isn't enough! My eyyyyyyyeeeeees!!! My innocent eyyyyyyyyeeeeeees!

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jon gilbertson
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eric Burdon and the Animals, wearing proper suits on The Ed Sullivan show. One of the best live performances I have ever seen. They had respect, and they sure as H had talent.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good thing this one's been repeated so many times, it's no problem to fill in the blanks.

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Karina
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honesty, good for them. I was hoping he had to take it home and pay extra late fees tho.

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