Not in French, because even though we have a gendered grammar, the adjective "binaire" is the same for a man or a woman. So is non-binaire.

Nope. E.g. German has a standard spelling to include both, e.g. judge is "richter*in", before the asterisk it's male, remove asterisk and whole is female. Which is a point of discussion, e.g. https://www.rehm-verlag.de/beamtenrecht/blog-beamtenrecht/geschlechtergerechte-verwaltungssprache-oder-reiner-wahnsinn/

Not quite - Polish for example has neutrum that is often being used by nonbinary people here. And im this language even *verbs* are gendered. In German hypothetically the neutrum could be used as well - given that their words for a child and even a girl (!) are neutrum, too

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Not ALL languages.

for reals!

Just ask that person which pronouns they prefer and then use those. If they use neopronouns (pronouns that didn't exist until recently), I get that that can feel awkward to use, I really do, but maybe it helps to think about it like this: Our language is incomplete, we have created a language system that excludes a group of people, and that is painful for them. There's 3 ways we can deal with this problem: either we tell non-binary people that they're not allowed to have this gender identity, or we tell them "sorry, but we're gonna stick to the old vocabulary and not add any new words, too bad", or we simply add a couple of new words to the language. The third option is by far the kindest choice, and in my opinion the best. If you add a new word to a language, there's gonna be an awkward time where people have to get used to the word, but after a while everyone knows the word, and then non-binary people feel included too. And we add new words to the language all the time anyway.

I once found a german book with a nonbinary character and the pronouns used were dey/ demm.

Well pronouns are for talking about people, not to them. Talking to them you still use either du or Sie. Talking about them just use their name.

Yet, in Spanish (could be the same for Italian) you have to choose the female or male form. So saying that you are non-binary is impossible. You must choose between: I am a boy / I am a girl who is non-binary. There should be a; I am a non-binarie or non-binarii - or something els that is not gender specific.

of course you do, it's SIE. Sie means they. Just use it.

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Being nonbinary is about how you FEEL, not about what you physically are. Being a man or woman is not only a word for a physical thing, it's also a gender role in society. And denying that there are people who feel happier in that middle space between the male and female gender role, makes no sense. How can you believe that there aren't people who feel that? Also, although this has nothing to do with nonbinary people, but even physically nature is waaaaaaaaay more complicated than just male and female. There are many gender variations (intersex conditions), there's quite a grey area in between, we just choose to draw a line in the middle and decide to lump biologically more feminine intersex people into the category of female and biologically more masculine intersex people into the category of male. But viewing sex as a black and white situation with only 2 categories is kind of a made up concept, biologically it's way more correct to view it as a spectrum that includes a grey area.

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its much easier for you, tho, because you are clearly an a*****e.

WTF