“What’s A Secret That Could Tear Your Entire Family Apart?” (32 Answers)

Hey good on you for staying sober, I know that must be really hard

Holidays can be really tough for the newly sober. Hell, they can be tough for those with some sober time behind them.

I'm glad you're getting sober. If family gatherings are too triggering remember that it is perfectly ok for you to skip them. Take care of yourself :)

Holidays are hard, family can be difficult, GOOD FOR YOU FOR STAYING SOBER!! My step family is the reason I drink at family gatherings. And then my dad will later say that he's worried about my drinking, and I just wanna scream out "YOU MARRIED THAT TYRANT!!! And you never stand up for me when they're mean, in fact, you shush me in front of them. So what do you expect?"

Keep up the good work! I'm in my 30s and I can't drink. My body has developed an intolerance to alcohol. One drink and I'm throwing up and it gives me heartburn like crazy.

wise decision

May not seem like a dark secret on the surface, but relatives can change—-meaning every single one of them will put their hands out asking for, then drain OP dry by demanding to be gifted, not lent, huge chunks of cash they’ll never even offer to repay—-when they find out someone they’re related to has come into a large amount of money. That’s when all the darkness will be dredged up.

Yep, if you tell them, they will hound you until you tell them to stop and then they will tell everyone you are a heartless person who doesn't care about their family. Never, ever, tell them and, just in case they will find out someday, put the money in trust or something so that you can tell them you can't touch it even if you want to (which you don't want). Congrats!

Zip it.

I worked in a VA nursing home. We had one guy who only got a 50% disability rating. He was telling me how he lost a kidney on D-Day & found there was no record of it. Even when he had X-rays, the VA radiologist did not even note the missing kidney. It wasn't there on the X-ray & he had all of the scarring from a bullet wound & a very crude surgery. Now he was given a 100% disability rating dating back to June 6, 1944. His family who never visited suddenly loved dad all over again. He had them kicked out of his room.

Careful what you wish for.

I want a follow up for this.

I get you. I did ancestry looking for answers. My dad is A +, my mum AB + and here’s me over here vibing with my O - and everyone denying knowing anything 🙄

I want an update on this one.

This person needs to actually know? I got diagnosed with a genetic disorder only because I found my real dad as an adult

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"[drama] is going to be epic". Yupp. My wife's step-mum had a huge falling out with her sister when their parents died, as they (the parents) had been living for twenty-odd years in a house that she owned but had let them live in since she remarried. The sister somehow didn't know and refused to believe that she had no right to the house or anything in it. They never really got over it.

Imagine how this poster would feel if the parents ended up leaving the siblings something anyway. Now, that would be some epic drama.

Where there's a will, there's a greed

I hope the OP's parents are better family members than he is. I hope they write their will to reflect how they feel about their children, not how he feels about his siblings.

What a s****y behaviour, that delight in pointless drama...

What a terrible people to say these things about him.

You might want to re-think the photo, BP.

When I was at University, the college librarian told me "never to trust anyone, ever, anywhere about anything". True, he was a bit of a miserable git, but at the same time he was right. People always have their own particular motives and you must be mindful of them when considering what they tell you. Be the captain on your own ship.

Ah, my mother did this!

My dad was the black sheep of his family. He did not go to church like they all did. He got along with everybody no matter what their demographics were. They all hated & always talked down about him. Made up all kinds of lies about him. He cavorts with "Ns", Catholics, Jews, & many more racial & ethnic slurs. He married an Eastern European Catholic yet. My dad always looked at the character of people. Nothing else mattered. We haven't had contact with his side of the family in ages. The last time I talked to any of them the kids of his brother were still spreading lies about my dad.

This should be number one, it’s absolutely scandalous! :D

Thank you. I was getting fed up with all the "my close relative had an affair" posts.

Finally ... the truth. ;)

NOM NOM NOM

I don't know if this is a Staged reference but I'm here for it 😆

At least Grandpa managed to sneak something into his relationship with that old harpy Grandma to make himself happy.

Grandma sounds insufferable.

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So… she already violated HIPAA by telling OP?

This happened to a friend. A nurse clued her in by forcefully suggesting she "get tested", multiple times. The nurse gave no add'l info so it was not a HIPAA violation. My friend was, thankfully, negative.

Damn. And he smiled as he said it.

Step-dad sounds like a piece of work. I doubt that a case would be actionable as an alleged violation of HIPAA, as there are loopholes for pillow talk (talk between spouses, in this case between the dentist wife and the OP), so if step-dad goes after the dentist, he just might lose. But it’s a mess. Hope karma catches up with him.

What does hipaa mean?