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Wedding Drama Ensues After 4YO Ruins Cake With His Hands, Bride Kicks Out Mom, Her Husband And Kid
A wedding is your big day and you have every right to celebrate it in the way that you want. Because after all, it’s not every day that you get to marry the love of your life. And it’s obvious to feel that nobody should ruin your special day, not even kids.
But Reddit user Ok_Worldliness3239 thought otherwise and convinced her best friend to allow kids at her wedding. Well, her bestie obliged, but then the original poster’s (OP) son ruined the wedding cake and the bride was beside herself with anger, so she kicked her out of the wedding!
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The poster’s best friend was contemplating whether to allow kids at her wedding or keep it child-free as she didn’t want to worry about anything
Image credits: freepic.diller / freepik (not the actual photo)
But the poster, who has a 4-year-old, convinced her that kids are family so they deserve to be included, and the bride also has nieces, so she decided to have kids present
Image credits: u/Ok_Worldliness3239
Image credits: Egner Arnold / unsplash (not the actual photo)
The wedding went smoothly, but when the poster had drunk some wine and was dancing with her husband, she heard the bride screaming at her son, who had eaten the cake
Image credits: u/Ok_Worldliness3239
Image credits: KamranAydinov / freepik (not the actual photo)
The furious bride started yelling that it was the poster’s fault for everything and she also kicked her and her family out, threatening to call security if they didn’t leave
Image credits: u/Ok_Worldliness3239
Later, the bride’s sister called her and asked the poster to apologize to her friend, but she refused and demanded that the bride say sorry to her instead
As you very well know, today’s story is about a wedding gone wrong because of a kid’s negligent parents. It all started when the bride was contemplating whether to have a child-free wedding or not when the poster, a.k.a., her best friend, came into the picture. She told the bride that kids are part of the family so they deserve to be included.
And considering that her sisters also have children, the bride and groom decided to have a wedding with kids. Once the ceremony kicked off, things were going pretty well until later during the reception. OP had downed a few glasses of wine and she was dancing with her husband while their son was playing with the other kids.
Now, the time came to cut the cake and that’s when the poster heard her friend yelling her son’s name out loud. She rushed to see that her 4-year-old had eaten a chunk of cake. Way to rile up a bride! She yelled loudly, “This is your fault. Your son ruined my cake. He’s only here because you told me it would be worth it to include the kids!”
The poster replied that it was only an accident but the bride was having none of it. She asked OP and her family to leave and even threatened to call security if they didn’t. Later, one of the bride’s sisters called up the poster and told her to apologize, but our poster felt she had done nothing wrong; rather, she expected an apology from her friend.
But when she vented online, Redditors were quick to give her a reality check!
Image credits: katemangostar / freepik (not the actual photo)
Folks mentioned that it is precisely because of people like the poster that child-free weddings are preferred. They said that the couple could’ve avoided the whole thing by simply keeping an eye on their kid rather than ignoring him and letting him wander around doing whatever he wanted. They blamed their poor parenting for everything.
It has also been proved that poor parenting is a well-known factor associated with emotional and behavioral problems in children. It looks like the Redditors were right to point out that the couple’s lack of responsibility was quite shocking to see.
Research also suggests, “Kids who are 3-5 years of age are still working on self-control and understanding the difference between right and wrong. This is the time to establish consequences for misbehavior.” Redditors found it unacceptable that instead of admitting it was her fault and the kid’s misbehavior, OP said that it was an accident and the cake was still edible.
As per studies, brides tend to experience heightened emotions, irritability, and stress and they might even snap at other people. However, some folks argued that the bride shouldn’t have yelled at the kid as it was not his fault, but the negligent couple’s.
They found it absurd that despite pushing the bride to invite kids and then let her own son ruin things, OP didn’t even have a bit of remorse that she was in the wrong. Psychology Today states that some people refuse to admit they are wrong, even in the face of overwhelming evidence, due to a fragile ego.
Do you think that it was her ego stopping her from admitting her mistake? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
Redditors declared that the poster was at fault here and didn’t hesitate to call out the couple for neglecting their child in this situation
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Do you agree with the bride's decision to kick out the woman and her family after the cake incident?
Michael MacKinnon 2 months ago (edited)
How is it that the child was ***not*** previously told to be on his best behaviour at a formal event like a wedding? Are all children allowed to run around like feral wolves these days? Perhaps this is a generational thing (having been raised to be polite for family dinners with my grandparents), but there is ***no way*** that a four-year old should assume that sticking his fingers into any ***cake*** is reasonable behaviour. [Edit: this is not blaming the kid, but definitely the parents own this.]
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 months ago
I agree. I knew not to just grab/take someone else's food by age 4 (ask the adult politely if you may have some; if no adult is nearby, ask parents politely.) I think I'm most horrified by OP being totally okay with letting her 4-year-old run wild and completely unsupervised by her or her husband. I don't care that it was a "fairly secure space" - kid can still run face-first into a wall, chair, or table and injure themselves. And I doubt the venue's doors were locked - the kid could have opened the door and gone outside, or worse. And OP didn't know everyone there - she admits this - so her kid could have even gotten abducted while she was enjoying her wine. Plus she is an absolute d-bag for pushing her friend THAT hard to allow children at her wedding - methinks OP couldn't/didn't want to get a babysitter and thus kept pushing her friend to have a child-inclusive wedding when the friend WANTED a childfree wedding. That in and of itself is pretty cruddy. It's the FRIEND'S wedding.
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ॐBoyGanesh 2 months ago (edited)
We have to remember that the “aggressive” reaction the bride apparently had is being told to us by somebody who has an agenda and not the bride herself. I would also assume there was some heightened emotion around being cajoled into allowing this four year-old to be at the wedding in the first place. The bride had certain hesitations, but OP “reassured” her. After all, this was her BFF and it was important to have her at the wedding. If that was only going to happen if she was allowed to bring her toddler, I’d imagine the bride would have felt no choice but be diplomatic and allow it. Also, given the behavior & lack of accountability coming from OP, I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a subtle & indirect ultimatum made about having the child attend. “There’s no way we can get a babysitter & it’s as important he’s part of the celebration as we are.” Or something like that. As the bride starts this new chapter of her life, it may be best to start it minus one character.
Acruss 2 months ago
Also the "I gave her my opinion, saying me and hubby allowed kids at our wedding and wouldn't have it any other way". The "WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY". The way she said it. And it's from HER perspective. You can see that she's toxic and narcissistic from this quote. It's not her wedding but she said something like that.
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Marnie 2 months ago
The OP and her husband are absolutely The A******s. A 4yo is too young to be left to run around in a large crowd like that. Perhaps by 6 or 7, depending on the venue and the crowd, it might be okay. Growing up, I went to about 3 weddings a summer, since I had dozens of older first cousins. Us kids had a blast running around at the reception, but only allowed to do so once we were old enough to be able to behave.
Michael MacKinnon 2 months ago (edited)
How is it that the child was ***not*** previously told to be on his best behaviour at a formal event like a wedding? Are all children allowed to run around like feral wolves these days? Perhaps this is a generational thing (having been raised to be polite for family dinners with my grandparents), but there is ***no way*** that a four-year old should assume that sticking his fingers into any ***cake*** is reasonable behaviour. [Edit: this is not blaming the kid, but definitely the parents own this.]
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 months ago
I agree. I knew not to just grab/take someone else's food by age 4 (ask the adult politely if you may have some; if no adult is nearby, ask parents politely.) I think I'm most horrified by OP being totally okay with letting her 4-year-old run wild and completely unsupervised by her or her husband. I don't care that it was a "fairly secure space" - kid can still run face-first into a wall, chair, or table and injure themselves. And I doubt the venue's doors were locked - the kid could have opened the door and gone outside, or worse. And OP didn't know everyone there - she admits this - so her kid could have even gotten abducted while she was enjoying her wine. Plus she is an absolute d-bag for pushing her friend THAT hard to allow children at her wedding - methinks OP couldn't/didn't want to get a babysitter and thus kept pushing her friend to have a child-inclusive wedding when the friend WANTED a childfree wedding. That in and of itself is pretty cruddy. It's the FRIEND'S wedding.
Load More Replies... ॐBoyGanesh 2 months ago (edited)
We have to remember that the “aggressive” reaction the bride apparently had is being told to us by somebody who has an agenda and not the bride herself. I would also assume there was some heightened emotion around being cajoled into allowing this four year-old to be at the wedding in the first place. The bride had certain hesitations, but OP “reassured” her. After all, this was her BFF and it was important to have her at the wedding. If that was only going to happen if she was allowed to bring her toddler, I’d imagine the bride would have felt no choice but be diplomatic and allow it. Also, given the behavior & lack of accountability coming from OP, I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a subtle & indirect ultimatum made about having the child attend. “There’s no way we can get a babysitter & it’s as important he’s part of the celebration as we are.” Or something like that. As the bride starts this new chapter of her life, it may be best to start it minus one character.
Acruss 2 months ago
Also the "I gave her my opinion, saying me and hubby allowed kids at our wedding and wouldn't have it any other way". The "WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY". The way she said it. And it's from HER perspective. You can see that she's toxic and narcissistic from this quote. It's not her wedding but she said something like that.
Load More Replies... Marnie 2 months ago
The OP and her husband are absolutely The A******s. A 4yo is too young to be left to run around in a large crowd like that. Perhaps by 6 or 7, depending on the venue and the crowd, it might be okay. Growing up, I went to about 3 weddings a summer, since I had dozens of older first cousins. Us kids had a blast running around at the reception, but only allowed to do so once we were old enough to be able to behave.
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