I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and maybe she has her own reasons. Personally, if I had a man who loves his dog this much - he's a keeper! What would he do for his children? I agree with the person who mentioned the silent treatment. If the person who is supposed to love you most in the world won't even talk to you, you have bigger problems.

These people had separate finances. His dog was sick, he got it medical attention. She had to know that he loved his dog, whether he told her the cost of the surgery or not. Angry, she said that money wouldn't go that far... it kept his dog alive for more than a few hours or even one day... that's how far the money would've gone had it been spent on the wedding. I am sick of people treating their wedding day as if it's the most important day of their life, because it's not. Believe it or not, a wedding can be beautiful AND inexpensive. Believe it or not, the "quality" of your wedding doesn't determine the quality of your marriage.

When my husband and I went through a rough patch and we didn't have food to eat, we didn't eat at all and any money we had we bought our dog food. We would do anything for him because we chose to raise him and take care of him until his last breath. If your partner doesn't understand that....I don't know what to say. There is nothing separate in our marriage.

Sorry guys. The woman is a nutbar. I hope the writer doesn't marry her, as his life will be miserable forever.

First off, her attitude about the dog is enough for me to end the relationship right there. If you don't have the same compassion or love for dogs, then go away. Go far, far away. I don't want to know you. Harsh, but that's just the way it is. Second, since when it is both of your money to pay for the wedding, but it's "her" wedding??? That right there is another reason to end it. The attitude that it's all hers or "theirs" when something is really his. Good for you taking care of the pup. He deserves, just as you do, someone who love and cherish him.

I can't believe how many people are defending this woman, because he didn't ask her permission to save his dog. Her problem was that, according to her, he wasted his money and now "she" had to downsize "her" wedding because of it. And now she's ignoring him and acting like a goddamn toddler, demanding he grovel to her and apologise for wasting money and making 'her' downsize 'her' wedding. She didn't give a flying s**t about him or his dog. All she cared about was prioritising an extravagent wedding using her fiance's money over her fiance and his pet's life. She is clearly very self-absorbed and toxic.

Don't EVER get engaged with someone who uses the "silent treatment" as punishment. And someone who doesn't empathise with a sick animal, especially if it's the family pet. Two big red flags

I wouldn't marry her...your perfect mate would be fine with getting married at the court house if the money was used to save a beloved part of the family! I would tell her the same thing I told my ex when he had something to say about my furbaby..."He was here before your and sure as hell will be here after you, so you can pack your s**t and get the f*ck out!"

Although this story has been around for a while, it still infuriates me. Your dog is part of your family and should be treated as such. There is no dilemma here at all. Your dog needed surgery and you paid for it, end of story. Your fiancée lacks many things, but mainly empathy. Lucky for you, you were able to see her personality long before you fully committed to her. In my opinion, your decision is very simple. Since this story has been around for so long, I hope you have made the logical one. If not, good luck with her - you will need it.

Plenty of fish in the sea, but you only have 1 best friend

I don't know why he's even bothering to ask the internet. If he can't make the choice between his beloved dog, and a selfish, self-centred person, then he doesn't deserve such a lovely dog. "Her" wedding? too many silly girls think it's all about them. Hmmm, perhaps the internet is to blame partly, for it's instagram, facebook culture. Sereiously chap, ditch her.

This would be a deal breaker for me. Pets are on the same level as kids for me, so maybe look at the situation as if you had a child that needed to have that operation, and she acted that way. Ditch that b***h. Find yourself someone who would not question the amount of money it costs to help an animal that you love.

some people have commented not to ditch the idea of marrying her but my response is: why the f**k would you stay with someone who puts more importance on an event (what she calls 'her' wedding) rather than something that is obviously important to him. her comment of 'wouldn't go far' because of the dog's age is heartless...as it is obvious that her heart is full of herself. my advice would be to discuss this matter, including the fact that the money was from his personal savings, not hers or a so called wedding fund, and if he still thinks he can mend the relationship without any (and I do mean ANY) reservations then throw the dice and take a chance on marrying her. personally, I would not. on a side note as to why I feel so strongly on this issue: I was married for 32 years. not a lot of material things to divvy up during the divorce but I made it clear that my dog was off limits. he could have everything but I keep the dog. when I left, I had my clothes and my dog. worth it.

As someone who recently spent $2500 to save the life of a 10+ year old cat, I agree completely with his choice. I couldn't bear to have him put down or to watch him die, so I did the only possible thing. After all, it's only money.

Why do some ppl expect to have an expensive wedding anyway,, sorry but the dogs surgery far outweighs the need to have a wedding,, I've been with my partner for 14 years plus we're not married,, we both happy as we are,, we have a dog and we both treat the dog as our family member,, if he's ill then we put our money towards his treatment,, its not my money or hers we share the responsibility of bills and looking after each other,, one day we will get married but the point is a relationship is a shared thing it shouldn't matter that u have to have a expensive wedding, and the animals u treat as family,, have a right to being treated as such,,, maybe I'm wrong but it how I see it.

I´d marry in a potatoe sack with the potatoes as menue if my animal would get healed by this.

I don't understand how the bride could be so cold-hearted about this. I mean, seriously? "Her" wedding? She's acting like she's marrying someone else, and he was taking money from her savings account. And it's her problem that she has a lot less money than he does. And, plus, it's HIS money, not hers. So I'm not sure why she's freaking out over it. He gets to choose how he spends his own money.

But how is the dog now?

Weddings aren't important, they're basically just a big party for everyone to stare at you for the day. The person you're marrying is what you should care about. Sounds like a deal breaker to me.

Two things, First, your fiancee is showing you who she is. Believe her. She's a selfish child who has no compassion for anything, INCLUDING YOU. ...///... If she loved YOU, she would have been waiting through the dog's surgery WITH you instead of whining about money. She is willing to allow an animal to suffer because she wanted a ten foot veil instead of a five foot veil? Forget it. ...///... DTMFA. She doesn't love you and she never will.

People say that he should have talked about it with her, but it was probably an emergency decision to take and very emotional as well. I understand that at that time the only thing on his mind was the well being of his beloved dog and not about the fact that important spending should be discussed first. Especially since he had the money and were not going to get a debt to pay for the treatment.

I am not a dog owner but from my point of view is that the man is with the wrong woman and the worse thing he can do is marry her. He should dump her and involved with a decent woman who shares the passion of a dog.

Ditch the girl, not worth your time and will save you the divorce.

Replace the word dog with child now how stupid is this even being a question? Its simple your dog is your family money is money, a wedding is nice but its just stuff NOTHING is more important than family. If she doesn't understand that maybe she isn't the right one. I lost my boy to cancer, it was inoperable if I had even a chance to save him I would do anything. It doesn't matter what you love if you love somebody or something that love is important and shouldn't be dismissed because others dont understand it or feel the same.

He needs to dump her. Next time she will be asking to euthanise his grandma, because she needs a new fur coat and grandma is too old anyway.

Weddings are not that important. Too much money is spent on them (I think the average amount is £20,000) so spending 5 grand less on it is no big deal.

Cancel that wedding yesterday. My husband and I have separate finances and have for the past 28 years. If one of my cats needs medical attention, I'm not explaining it to anyone, especially during such a stressful time. One of mine got hold of an Advil one time and that cost me $2,800. If my partner in life at that moment when I was so upset and stressed gave me s**t about it, I would have lost my damned mind. It's my money and I'll spend it however I choose. Either dump this b*tch or tell her that you'll do as you please with your money and if she can't stfu about it, then she can leave. She can make her own money. But I'm in favor of dumping her because she obviously does not like animals and that's a deal breaker for me.

One of our cats was hit by a car during the night a few years back (he was only about two at the time), arrived the next morning bleeding all over the sofa (luckily it's red and second-hand but you can still see the stain), so I took him to the vet as soon as they opened. He needed his jaw wiring, then his lung collapsed and he had to be taken to the Royal Veterinary College for open-chest surgery. He came home after a week there, and then spent eight weeks in a cage: the first week I had to tube-feed him. It's not exaggerating to say that aside from our house we have never spent more money in one go, although happily the insurance covered a healthy chunk. He's still around, raucous as ever, and most days I have to work at least part of the day with him snuggled on my lap. We would do it again if necessary, but it'd be a joint decision: we currently have three cats and it will be a horrendous wrench when any one of them leaves us, but there's always more needing our love.

I think she showing how she will act when things don't go her way. You will really want to re-think this, but I think you may have just dodged a bullet by having this happen before you married her.