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This Guy Bought His Whole Family A DNA Test For Christmas And It Turned Their Lives Upside Down
This Guy Bought His Whole Family A DNA Test For Christmas And It Turned Their Lives Upside Down
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This Guy Bought His Whole Family A DNA Test For Christmas And It Turned Their Lives Upside Down

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At-home DNA test kits are being advertised everywhere as the perfect gift idea, playing on people’s natural curiosity about themselves and promising closer connections with family as they learn of their shared connections. This knowledge can quite easily turn out to be a curse, however, as skeletons in the closet can emerge to tear families apart. Some secrets are kept secret for a good reason.

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    This story, shared on the subreddit TIFU is a perfect example of why a Christmas gift of DNA kit to your family members is probably a terrible idea. I mean, 99% of the time the most groundbreaking thing you are likely to find out is some interesting Lithuanian heritage, but what if you were to discover something that you weren’t supposed to discover accidentally? There are a time and a place for a paternity test and the inconvenient truths that comes with it, and around the family Christmas tree certainly isn’t it!

    So this time, there was a happy ending for this family. But let this be a warning as to what could happen! By all means, treat yourself to a DNA testing kit and enjoy exploring your ancestry and heritage. But maybe stick to books and socks for the fam, skipping the uber unique gifts?

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    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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    KatHat
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'Be gentle and considerate of folks." Best advice ever, anywhere.

    Full Name
    Community Member
    6 years ago

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    And when that doesn't work, I find swift and brutal violence gets results.

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    Dian Ella Lillie
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing that most people don't appreciate when they do these tests is that they're giving the companies that conduct them their complete medical genetic make-up forever. Not only that though, the companies can infer with fair-to-amazing accuracy the medical genetics of relations who have deliberately avoided being tested for their own person and private reasons. This information is a Pandora's box, and it can and will be used in the future in ways that most people today cannot fathom. Our societies are not prepared for the fall-out from this technology...

    Molly Block
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is true, but I do believe that you have to click the little "I agree" box on the site to allow this. I did 23andMe and MyHeritageDNA company's tests and I remember having to agree to things. I didn't mind. I don't care. Let them use my DNA and genetic code for whatever reasons they need-- it might help people in the future. I've got nothing to lose, after all. And I'm glad to be a part of it all.

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    Pinky Pop
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Send kits to the Kardashians.... Now that would make FANTASTIC TV.... especially when Khloe's father wasn't a lawyer but a hairdresser....

    Melody Lanzatella
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im not the first to say this, and I wont be the last! NO Kardashian TV is fantastic TV!!! I think we have ALL seen enough of that ridiculous family! (and no matter how outrageous the results, nothing would be a surprise to ANYONE!)

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    Sarah Booth
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It helped me find part of my birth family who are nice and smart people, my birth uncle found me from it and we get along great. It helped answer questions. I just bought kits for my parents for Christmas. We are looking forward to those results. We believe the more the merrier. I hope my two families meet one day. It doesn't take away from the love I have for my family by finding my birth family.

    Amanda Panda
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't tell you how many of these stories I've heard. My best friend has a sister he never met. I have a sister that showed up on the doorstep around age 18. I also found out I'm a jew. That's kinda cool. I really love this ancestry DNA stuff, but I can't help feeling like it's all a dystopian novel waiting to happen. The government accessing all our DNA and turning on us... it's bound to happen.

    Rafaella Bueno
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it all comes down to each person's way of viewing these kinds of possibilities... Whether one prefers to know or think it's better to be kept in the dark and avoid possible headaches. I personally would rather know it all. A shame trying to take one of these tests from where I live is just too expensive and bothersome.

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    CrunChewy McSandybutt
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never been interested in these kits because I just don't think ethnic heritage is all that important, TBH. However, the possibility of meeting new people you are related to is an interesting concept.

    Megan O'Neill
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think people should be judged based upon their ethnicity, but I do find it fascinating from an anthropological standpoint. You can see how cultures migrated, changed, and have blended into new cultures from studying family trees (especially if you get samples from specific regions). I think it's interesting to note how 2 of the above stories both claimed to have native American ancestry only to find out that they had zero(!).

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    Tangee Wilson
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did mine in November and found out that at 54 years old, I do not have the same father as my six siblings. And I’m 3rd born. My parents were separated for a year when mom met my birth father and had a short relationship. Mom convinced dad he got her pregnant and later I was born. They remained married until his death in 2004. Mom is livid that i went digging in “her” past and it’s none of my business. 🙄. I have found a half brother. Sadly my birth father died just 8 months before my finding out. It’s a roller coaster I’d emotions and I just feel lost. But I’m working thru it. Lots of groups on Facebook for dealing with a dna surprise. Good luck to everyone going thru this.

    Lilly
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a son that was not my husband's--we got together when the baby was about 8 months old & decided that he would raise the child as his own. The birth father walked out after "I'm pregnant" was uttered. No biggie. As years went by, we wanted to tell the son about his true history, but feeling him out for being ready to hear it never came about. He hates change when it comes to major things, so it was about making sure he wasn't going to be traumatized by the news, no matter the age. about 20 yrs ago, i started getting into my ancestry. then came the dna kits. i thought it would be a great thing to do, so i did it. the info was amazing and i wanted my (adult) children to do it as well. just so happens that i approached the son mentioned above first & asked him if he'd be interested in taking a dna test for the family tree. first thing he says is "Mom, is there something you need to tell me?" I jumped in with both feet and gave him all the info i could. it worked out well & he's fine

    Azure Adams
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whenever I bring up one of the DNA kits, my mom will just say things like "you know its just going to show you're only anglo-saxon" and similar stuff then will try to discourage me... yeah she's totally hiding something and I'm doing one of those kits next month. #suckitmom

    Rafaella Bueno
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either that or she's lowkey racist and is afraid of knowing your real ancestry.

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    Miklós Nagy
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Good news kids! You all have the same father! Bad news: your parents too...."

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    KatHat
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'Be gentle and considerate of folks." Best advice ever, anywhere.

    Full Name
    Community Member
    6 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    And when that doesn't work, I find swift and brutal violence gets results.

    Load More Replies...
    Dian Ella Lillie
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing that most people don't appreciate when they do these tests is that they're giving the companies that conduct them their complete medical genetic make-up forever. Not only that though, the companies can infer with fair-to-amazing accuracy the medical genetics of relations who have deliberately avoided being tested for their own person and private reasons. This information is a Pandora's box, and it can and will be used in the future in ways that most people today cannot fathom. Our societies are not prepared for the fall-out from this technology...

    Molly Block
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is true, but I do believe that you have to click the little "I agree" box on the site to allow this. I did 23andMe and MyHeritageDNA company's tests and I remember having to agree to things. I didn't mind. I don't care. Let them use my DNA and genetic code for whatever reasons they need-- it might help people in the future. I've got nothing to lose, after all. And I'm glad to be a part of it all.

    Load More Replies...
    Pinky Pop
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Send kits to the Kardashians.... Now that would make FANTASTIC TV.... especially when Khloe's father wasn't a lawyer but a hairdresser....

    Melody Lanzatella
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im not the first to say this, and I wont be the last! NO Kardashian TV is fantastic TV!!! I think we have ALL seen enough of that ridiculous family! (and no matter how outrageous the results, nothing would be a surprise to ANYONE!)

    Load More Replies...
    Sarah Booth
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It helped me find part of my birth family who are nice and smart people, my birth uncle found me from it and we get along great. It helped answer questions. I just bought kits for my parents for Christmas. We are looking forward to those results. We believe the more the merrier. I hope my two families meet one day. It doesn't take away from the love I have for my family by finding my birth family.

    Amanda Panda
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't tell you how many of these stories I've heard. My best friend has a sister he never met. I have a sister that showed up on the doorstep around age 18. I also found out I'm a jew. That's kinda cool. I really love this ancestry DNA stuff, but I can't help feeling like it's all a dystopian novel waiting to happen. The government accessing all our DNA and turning on us... it's bound to happen.

    Rafaella Bueno
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it all comes down to each person's way of viewing these kinds of possibilities... Whether one prefers to know or think it's better to be kept in the dark and avoid possible headaches. I personally would rather know it all. A shame trying to take one of these tests from where I live is just too expensive and bothersome.

    Load More Replies...
    CrunChewy McSandybutt
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never been interested in these kits because I just don't think ethnic heritage is all that important, TBH. However, the possibility of meeting new people you are related to is an interesting concept.

    Megan O'Neill
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think people should be judged based upon their ethnicity, but I do find it fascinating from an anthropological standpoint. You can see how cultures migrated, changed, and have blended into new cultures from studying family trees (especially if you get samples from specific regions). I think it's interesting to note how 2 of the above stories both claimed to have native American ancestry only to find out that they had zero(!).

    Load More Replies...
    Tangee Wilson
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did mine in November and found out that at 54 years old, I do not have the same father as my six siblings. And I’m 3rd born. My parents were separated for a year when mom met my birth father and had a short relationship. Mom convinced dad he got her pregnant and later I was born. They remained married until his death in 2004. Mom is livid that i went digging in “her” past and it’s none of my business. 🙄. I have found a half brother. Sadly my birth father died just 8 months before my finding out. It’s a roller coaster I’d emotions and I just feel lost. But I’m working thru it. Lots of groups on Facebook for dealing with a dna surprise. Good luck to everyone going thru this.

    Lilly
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a son that was not my husband's--we got together when the baby was about 8 months old & decided that he would raise the child as his own. The birth father walked out after "I'm pregnant" was uttered. No biggie. As years went by, we wanted to tell the son about his true history, but feeling him out for being ready to hear it never came about. He hates change when it comes to major things, so it was about making sure he wasn't going to be traumatized by the news, no matter the age. about 20 yrs ago, i started getting into my ancestry. then came the dna kits. i thought it would be a great thing to do, so i did it. the info was amazing and i wanted my (adult) children to do it as well. just so happens that i approached the son mentioned above first & asked him if he'd be interested in taking a dna test for the family tree. first thing he says is "Mom, is there something you need to tell me?" I jumped in with both feet and gave him all the info i could. it worked out well & he's fine

    Azure Adams
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whenever I bring up one of the DNA kits, my mom will just say things like "you know its just going to show you're only anglo-saxon" and similar stuff then will try to discourage me... yeah she's totally hiding something and I'm doing one of those kits next month. #suckitmom

    Rafaella Bueno
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either that or she's lowkey racist and is afraid of knowing your real ancestry.

    Load More Replies...
    Miklós Nagy
    Community Member
    6 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Good news kids! You all have the same father! Bad news: your parents too...."

    Load More Comments
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