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Hey Pandas, AITA For Hiding My Husband’s Trading Cards?
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Hey Pandas, AITA For Hiding My Husband’s Trading Cards?

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I have consistently had a problem with my husband refusing to clean up/pick up his trading cards on a regular basis. I’ll pick them up and put them away every couple of weeks or so when I get tired of looking at the mess, but I’m handling all the other housework as well (we both work full time, but his week is about 60+ hours while mine is 40), so I don’t have time to do this every day. Our dining table is so covered with them that we have no room to sit there.

So one day, I got fed up and I told him, “these need to be picked up on a daily basis, or the next time I have to do it, I’m getting rid of them”

Image credits: Erik Mclean (not the actual photo)

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Lo and behold, he does nothing. So I picked them all up again, and instead of throwing them away (some of them are valuable, and I’m not petty or foolish enough to just throw away money), I hid them all in his sock drawer.

He came home that night and asked me where they were right away because he had sold one of the cards

Image credits: Priscilla Du Preez (not the actual photo)

I told him I’d thrown them out like I said I would. That he was aware of the consequences, and that he had a chance to deal with the mess before I ever got involved. He was quietly mad, but he called the buyer back right away and told them that the sale was off.

Then I showed him the drawer with all his stuff in it, and I think he was more mad about that than about me actually throwing the cards away

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Image credits: Die Handwerksmeister (not the actual photo)

I’m not saying I did the right thing; I know it was petty and childish. But I’ve been trying to ask nicely for the better part of a month, and he’s just not paying attention to it. I’ve spent upwards of $100 on organizers and shelves for him to use to put this stuff away, and they might as well be decorations for all the good they’re doing. I feel like nothing I do seems to matter. How bad did I just mess up?

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Hi there! I'm Gabrielė, but you can also catch me responding to Gab, Gabi, Gabert, or Gabe – take your pick. Professionally, I'm the senior community manager over at Bored Panda, helping people share their awesome work and connecting artists with a worldwide audience. Beyond work, you'll catch me traveling, listening to vinyl and diving into movies, art exhibitions, and concerts. I'm a culture buff at heart, always eager to explore and embrace the richness of the human experience.

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Strawberry Pizza
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. He needed a shock to the system to understand that you were serious, and by not actually throwing out the cards you gave him that shock without actually doing anything wrong.

HolyDiver
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ok mom, gonna ground him too? Maybe make him stand in a corner?

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Kim Hessel
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is an open space organizer, he wont take the time to put things in tiny designated places. Get a pretty basket. Put it on the table. Say, "this is for your cards. When you are done with them, dump them in here." He's 90% more likely to clean if you make cleaning an easy task. For people like him (and myself) baskets are your best friend.

Jeevesssssss
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with giving this a try. I didn't realise this til my 30s but it's really helped - I have quite bad executive dysfunction because of my Asperger's so basically I have organisation issues ++. But bigger tubs I can put related stuff in keeps the mess itself contained, I know where things are, and clearing up is simple. It's similar to how things work with waste in the kitchen - things go in the bin to be put out in the outside rubbish bin, a tub that goes out into the recycling bin, and into a food waste bin to go in the outside food waste bin (though obviously I don't throw out my stuff lol, I just put it in the appropriate tub.)

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Zedrapazia
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, should have opened up about the lie before he told the buyer the deal was off. It's not the buyers fault what happened

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't tell me about the buyer til after I told him the cards were gone. As soon as I found out, I told him where they were, but he'd already called the buyer back by then.

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Strawberry Pizza
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. He needed a shock to the system to understand that you were serious, and by not actually throwing out the cards you gave him that shock without actually doing anything wrong.

HolyDiver
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10 months ago

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ok mom, gonna ground him too? Maybe make him stand in a corner?

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Kim Hessel
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband is an open space organizer, he wont take the time to put things in tiny designated places. Get a pretty basket. Put it on the table. Say, "this is for your cards. When you are done with them, dump them in here." He's 90% more likely to clean if you make cleaning an easy task. For people like him (and myself) baskets are your best friend.

Jeevesssssss
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with giving this a try. I didn't realise this til my 30s but it's really helped - I have quite bad executive dysfunction because of my Asperger's so basically I have organisation issues ++. But bigger tubs I can put related stuff in keeps the mess itself contained, I know where things are, and clearing up is simple. It's similar to how things work with waste in the kitchen - things go in the bin to be put out in the outside rubbish bin, a tub that goes out into the recycling bin, and into a food waste bin to go in the outside food waste bin (though obviously I don't throw out my stuff lol, I just put it in the appropriate tub.)

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Zedrapazia
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, should have opened up about the lie before he told the buyer the deal was off. It's not the buyers fault what happened

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't tell me about the buyer til after I told him the cards were gone. As soon as I found out, I told him where they were, but he'd already called the buyer back by then.

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