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Hey Pandas, Is It Possible That My Success Caused My Friends To Hate Me?
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I never thought I would ever ask for anything. I always read about other people’s difficulties and considered myself a blue-collar worker. I had many friends, or so I thought. I lived in New England and eventually moved about three hours north of my hometown. An old friend came to visit, and we ended up getting married. All our old acquaintances came to the wedding, and it was fantastic.
Ten years later, we adopted a child because my wife had to have a hysterectomy. Everything was still awesome. Then, a few years passed. My father and my business partner both passed away.
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My father left me a fair amount of money, and I sold the business, receiving another chunk
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A few investments also worked out well, allowing me to retire at 52.
I tried to get my old friends to drive three hours to spend time with me on the lake, letting them know that food and lodging would be free
Image credits: Jeremy Tanguay-Fernandes (not the actual photo)
Despite not flaunting my success, they seemed to hate me just because I had been fortunate.
I made sure not to indicate that I was better than them in any way, but they still seemed resentful
Image credits: jinyun (not the actual photo)
I do have a couple of old friends who are still cool, and we stay in touch. But what’s up with the others?
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Captain McSmoot 5 months ago
YTA for including less than the bare minimum of details and then expecting people to weigh in on your issue. Other than that, I have no clue.
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 5 months ago
You didnt include anything about your friends lives, what they said to make you think they resent you, or how you maintained the friendship beyond telling them they could visit. You listed a bunch of perfectly nice life events, and your conclusion was that they resented you. So based on what you didnt say, it seems like you didnt make enough of an effort to visit them or stay involved in their lives, and are a poor communicator. Also, some friendships just normally fade with time.
Captain McSmoot 5 months ago
YTA for including less than the bare minimum of details and then expecting people to weigh in on your issue. Other than that, I have no clue.
Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 5 months ago
You didnt include anything about your friends lives, what they said to make you think they resent you, or how you maintained the friendship beyond telling them they could visit. You listed a bunch of perfectly nice life events, and your conclusion was that they resented you. So based on what you didnt say, it seems like you didnt make enough of an effort to visit them or stay involved in their lives, and are a poor communicator. Also, some friendships just normally fade with time.
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