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Hey Pandas, AITA For Contacting The Police Over Concerns About Children Playing In The Street?
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Hey Pandas, AITA For Contacting The Police Over Concerns About Children Playing In The Street?

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Like most people, I was always taught to not play in the street, and if I was riding something to stay out of the way and avoid traffic.

Unfortunately, others feel it’s okay to play in the street, even when there are city laws that say it’s illegal

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On one tight corner of my hometown there is a family of 4 kids between the ages of 8-18, and their mother actively encourages them to play in the road, and they have even put up basket ball hoops.

I run a delivery business and several times over the past few years, whenever this woman’s kids are playing, they don’t leave the street and she comes out and yells at us for passing by

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Usually, because her kids start screaming. I am a safety and legal type person, and today, when they refused to leave the street, I told the kids that it was illegal to have the hoop and be playing. As always, they ran to tell their mother who came out and started yelling at me while I was making a delivery to her neighbor.

When I tried to drive away they called me names and told me I should call the police. So, I parked safely, just up the road, and called the police

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Told them where to meet us. When the officer came, I explained we have been having an issue and specified that I was concerned about safety, and what they were doing was illegal and dangerous. A mother should not be encouraging illegal behavior, in my opinion. The officer said he didn’t know the ordinances involved, but he felt it was okay to have kids playing outside rather than indoors. I left the situation without talking to the mother again, and went home to find the actual ordinance. I then called and left a message for the officer telling him which one it was.

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So, am I in the wrong? Should I just ignore the kids’ refusal to get out of the road and agree with the officer that it’s okay since it gets them out of the house?

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Hello Pandas! My name is Ieva, though it's often mistaken for the word 'Leva,' and in Lithuanian, it means 'loser' (insert the pain emoji). While I don't take offense if you accidentally call me a loser, I thought I'd share something interesting with you, which I also do professionally at work.Anywayyy, my favorite part here is introducing you to creative people who deserve just as much recognition as famous celebrities. Besides that, I also enjoy memes and funny, lighthearted posts, and occasionally, I find myself drawn to a bit of internet drama.

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Hello Pandas! My name is Ieva, though it's often mistaken for the word 'Leva,' and in Lithuanian, it means 'loser' (insert the pain emoji). While I don't take offense if you accidentally call me a loser, I thought I'd share something interesting with you, which I also do professionally at work.Anywayyy, my favorite part here is introducing you to creative people who deserve just as much recognition as famous celebrities. Besides that, I also enjoy memes and funny, lighthearted posts, and occasionally, I find myself drawn to a bit of internet drama.

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BookFanatic
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We played in the street all the time as kids. The oldest was in charge of yelling "CAR!" and we'd all scatter.

Laugh or not
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. We played in the street all the time when it wasn't raining or too cold, even at night in summer. As soon as a car came up, we would stay on the side walk safely. Those kids are entitled idiots.

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Justin Smith
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The big thing is the kids refusing to get out of the road when a car was coming. And the mother getting mad that cars are driving on the street.

Maryanne Mackie
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the parents should instruct the kids to move to the side when a car comes down the road.

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Joseph Dixon
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are kids who play basketball in the street where I live. They usually clear out as soon as they hear a car, so it doesn't bother me. However, if the kids just keep playing like no one was there, then that would be a huge issue.

ConstantlyJon
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It'd be a problem, but would your first instinct genuinely be to say "this is illegal!" and go and look up city ordinances? Because my first instinct would be to knock on the door myself and have an adult conversation with the mom.

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arthbach
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It totally depends on the street, and the time of day. Where I grew up, and in one of the house where my children grew up, it was totally safe for children to play outside, and be free-roaming. It was the sort of estate where it was immediately obvious there would be lots of children, and they would be playing. Where I live now, it would not be safe for children to play in the road, but there's a little park 250m from out front door. There's also a school playing field 150m away. These would be far safer places to play.

Ge Po
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country, there are streets with official signs that state: 'slow down, children playing,' to warn drivers that children might be roaming the streets and dashing out from in between parked cars. Even if such a sign is not in place, in the 'living area's' aka the roads without shops or businesses, it is completely normal to see kids biking or roaming the streets. Only when there are cars parked along the street, parents will tell the kids not to play football there.

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JL
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am always amazed at the lack of self-preservation by people standing in the street with traffic coming at them.

Erica Brownrigg
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was little, the neighbor kids thought it was funny to walk slow in the middle of the street so cars couldn't pass. One day, they did it to a teenager that wasn't putting up with it. They backed up and then gunned it.f The kids had to jump out of the way and ended in the ditch. On the flip side, their mom was not aware of what they were doing, and when she found out, it was the kids yelling, not the teenager. This is a FAFO situation, all it takes is one pissed off person, or a drunk and something bad is going to happen.

Michelle Seasor
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta I was allowed to play in the street but was taught to move out of the way the cars

LakotaWolf (she/her)
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP: Please copy-paste the entirety of the ordinance. I am intrigued and would like to see its exact wording.

Sand Ers
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom is an AH, kids are being trained to be AHs, and the municipality may or may not need to provide more recreational spaces for kids and adults. And there’s a whole lot of assuming and projecting going on in the comments.

Orange Panda
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a safety issue. If you can't share the road with cars, you shouldn't be in the road. Also, the officer was lazy.

MacintoshID
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids have played in streets for as long as the human race has had streets. However, it is not a safe place to play with vehicles of all sizes coming and going. The parent needs to find a nearby park or empty lot, instead of thinking the public street is their own playground. I used to play in the street (mostly cul-de-sacs) when I visited friends in town, but we only did it in areas where we were not going to be getting in the way or get run over by a car. This was decades ago when we were raised to be nice to each other.

V
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cars are a lot quieter and faster than when I was a kid and used to play in the street. I would not let my kid do that now.

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Roberta Surprenant
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looking at comments, I think the big difference is that those of us who played in the street as kids had enough sense to get out of the street if a car came down. In this story that does not appear to be the case.

Sarah Ellison
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I played in the streets as a kid, but everyone understood that when a car came you got the hell out of the way. There was always one kid that yelled "car!"

UncleJohn3000
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP doesn't care about the kids, they care about their business being inconvenienced. No need to apply Fake Nobility polish, just say what you mean.

ANTIVICTORIA
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA So you've had previous interactions and you wanted your way. Who calls the cops on kids playing in the street? And even the cop disagrees with you and see nothing wrong with them. SO your instinct is to run home, find the law and call the officer to prove you're 'right'? YTA. Also, what's up with these ghetto crazy looking pictures not the actual people.

ConstantlyJon
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just escalating the issue too far. Is it illegal for them to be there? Maybe, but does that really need to be what we bring this to? Ask for the kids to move when you drive by. If they refuse, instead of talking about the legality of the situation, go to the mom yourself and ask for her to instruct her kids to move for cars for their own safety. Instead of acting like they're doing something awful, which will cause mom to immediately be defensive, talk more about wanting to make sure the kids can keep playing outside but in a safe manner that allows you both to share the road. Meet her where she's at and maybe she won't be so yelly and defensive. No need whatsoever to get the cops involved. Because you escalated it so far, YTA here. I do think ESH in reality, but OP is one of the a******s involved and had the power to de-escalate the situation from the start but chose not to.

LaserBrain
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up playing in the street. OP should butt out. And for God's sake don't ever call the cops on someone, it could end up with someone getting shot.

Sophia Athene
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then get out of the road when a car comes by. Try that. But these kids won't.

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Ace
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can almost imagine the scenario - the driver honking and shouting at the kids to move their a*sés out of the way and them and the mother being angry with them and refusing to move. Sounds like a real asshat to me

Donkey boi
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. I'm not saying you're wrong, but... Unlike you, I WAS taught to play in the street. There's a better chance that a parent of at least one of the kids can keep an eye on you, and it's better than wandering off and exploring like we used to. When a car comes along, you move out the way, when it's passed you crack on. Obviously this only applies to the residential and rural areas I lived in. Kid's don't have many places to play these days, so my summary is as follows: Their Mam is an AH for not teaching the kids to move out of the way, The Kids are AH, because they are all old enough to have the common sense to move out of the way. You're an AH for literally calling the police over some kids playing in the street. And the officer is an AH for not setting you all straight. A proper conversation could have sorted the whole thing out before it even became an issue.

Papa
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you picture this proper conversation happening after the mother yelled at OP for driving by when the children were playing in the street and not moving?

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John Jameson
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3 months ago

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Is the picture of the kids? Is there a yard? Is it in the middle of the city? The officer did not know the law? Has only one person complained? "Several times over the past few years?" So is that once a year or twice a year?

BookFanatic
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We played in the street all the time as kids. The oldest was in charge of yelling "CAR!" and we'd all scatter.

Laugh or not
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. We played in the street all the time when it wasn't raining or too cold, even at night in summer. As soon as a car came up, we would stay on the side walk safely. Those kids are entitled idiots.

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Justin Smith
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The big thing is the kids refusing to get out of the road when a car was coming. And the mother getting mad that cars are driving on the street.

Maryanne Mackie
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the parents should instruct the kids to move to the side when a car comes down the road.

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Joseph Dixon
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are kids who play basketball in the street where I live. They usually clear out as soon as they hear a car, so it doesn't bother me. However, if the kids just keep playing like no one was there, then that would be a huge issue.

ConstantlyJon
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It'd be a problem, but would your first instinct genuinely be to say "this is illegal!" and go and look up city ordinances? Because my first instinct would be to knock on the door myself and have an adult conversation with the mom.

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arthbach
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It totally depends on the street, and the time of day. Where I grew up, and in one of the house where my children grew up, it was totally safe for children to play outside, and be free-roaming. It was the sort of estate where it was immediately obvious there would be lots of children, and they would be playing. Where I live now, it would not be safe for children to play in the road, but there's a little park 250m from out front door. There's also a school playing field 150m away. These would be far safer places to play.

Ge Po
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country, there are streets with official signs that state: 'slow down, children playing,' to warn drivers that children might be roaming the streets and dashing out from in between parked cars. Even if such a sign is not in place, in the 'living area's' aka the roads without shops or businesses, it is completely normal to see kids biking or roaming the streets. Only when there are cars parked along the street, parents will tell the kids not to play football there.

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JL
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am always amazed at the lack of self-preservation by people standing in the street with traffic coming at them.

Erica Brownrigg
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was little, the neighbor kids thought it was funny to walk slow in the middle of the street so cars couldn't pass. One day, they did it to a teenager that wasn't putting up with it. They backed up and then gunned it.f The kids had to jump out of the way and ended in the ditch. On the flip side, their mom was not aware of what they were doing, and when she found out, it was the kids yelling, not the teenager. This is a FAFO situation, all it takes is one pissed off person, or a drunk and something bad is going to happen.

Michelle Seasor
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta I was allowed to play in the street but was taught to move out of the way the cars

LakotaWolf (she/her)
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP: Please copy-paste the entirety of the ordinance. I am intrigued and would like to see its exact wording.

Sand Ers
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom is an AH, kids are being trained to be AHs, and the municipality may or may not need to provide more recreational spaces for kids and adults. And there’s a whole lot of assuming and projecting going on in the comments.

Orange Panda
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a safety issue. If you can't share the road with cars, you shouldn't be in the road. Also, the officer was lazy.

MacintoshID
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids have played in streets for as long as the human race has had streets. However, it is not a safe place to play with vehicles of all sizes coming and going. The parent needs to find a nearby park or empty lot, instead of thinking the public street is their own playground. I used to play in the street (mostly cul-de-sacs) when I visited friends in town, but we only did it in areas where we were not going to be getting in the way or get run over by a car. This was decades ago when we were raised to be nice to each other.

V
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cars are a lot quieter and faster than when I was a kid and used to play in the street. I would not let my kid do that now.

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Roberta Surprenant
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looking at comments, I think the big difference is that those of us who played in the street as kids had enough sense to get out of the street if a car came down. In this story that does not appear to be the case.

Sarah Ellison
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I played in the streets as a kid, but everyone understood that when a car came you got the hell out of the way. There was always one kid that yelled "car!"

UncleJohn3000
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP doesn't care about the kids, they care about their business being inconvenienced. No need to apply Fake Nobility polish, just say what you mean.

ANTIVICTORIA
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA So you've had previous interactions and you wanted your way. Who calls the cops on kids playing in the street? And even the cop disagrees with you and see nothing wrong with them. SO your instinct is to run home, find the law and call the officer to prove you're 'right'? YTA. Also, what's up with these ghetto crazy looking pictures not the actual people.

ConstantlyJon
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just escalating the issue too far. Is it illegal for them to be there? Maybe, but does that really need to be what we bring this to? Ask for the kids to move when you drive by. If they refuse, instead of talking about the legality of the situation, go to the mom yourself and ask for her to instruct her kids to move for cars for their own safety. Instead of acting like they're doing something awful, which will cause mom to immediately be defensive, talk more about wanting to make sure the kids can keep playing outside but in a safe manner that allows you both to share the road. Meet her where she's at and maybe she won't be so yelly and defensive. No need whatsoever to get the cops involved. Because you escalated it so far, YTA here. I do think ESH in reality, but OP is one of the a******s involved and had the power to de-escalate the situation from the start but chose not to.

LaserBrain
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up playing in the street. OP should butt out. And for God's sake don't ever call the cops on someone, it could end up with someone getting shot.

Sophia Athene
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then get out of the road when a car comes by. Try that. But these kids won't.

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Ace
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can almost imagine the scenario - the driver honking and shouting at the kids to move their a*sés out of the way and them and the mother being angry with them and refusing to move. Sounds like a real asshat to me

Donkey boi
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. I'm not saying you're wrong, but... Unlike you, I WAS taught to play in the street. There's a better chance that a parent of at least one of the kids can keep an eye on you, and it's better than wandering off and exploring like we used to. When a car comes along, you move out the way, when it's passed you crack on. Obviously this only applies to the residential and rural areas I lived in. Kid's don't have many places to play these days, so my summary is as follows: Their Mam is an AH for not teaching the kids to move out of the way, The Kids are AH, because they are all old enough to have the common sense to move out of the way. You're an AH for literally calling the police over some kids playing in the street. And the officer is an AH for not setting you all straight. A proper conversation could have sorted the whole thing out before it even became an issue.

Papa
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you picture this proper conversation happening after the mother yelled at OP for driving by when the children were playing in the street and not moving?

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John Jameson
Community Member
3 months ago

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Is the picture of the kids? Is there a yard? Is it in the middle of the city? The officer did not know the law? Has only one person complained? "Several times over the past few years?" So is that once a year or twice a year?

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