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Hey Pandas, AITA For Wishing I Hadn’t Married Into This Family Because Of My Toxic MIL?

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I used to like my mother-in-law, but after 23 years of being married to her son, I’ve realized how manipulative and toxic she is and hate her.

After each birth of our 5 children, she created a wedge between my husband and I because she wanted to hold her grandchild before I was ready and he felt guilty

Hey Pandas, AITA For Wishing I Hadn’t Married Into This Family Because Of My Toxic MIL?

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Honestly, so did I.

She blames us for not making her happy around the holidays and gets upset when we spend time with my mother

Hey Pandas, AITA For Wishing I Hadn’t Married Into This Family Because Of My Toxic MIL?

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My husband hardly ever comes around my family because of his mom’s feelings. He is her only son. She lost her younger favorite son to gun violence. All these years I have tried so hard to be understanding, forgiving, and loving towards my MIL, but the manipulation is getting worse.

I tried so hard to talk with them but my husband gets so defensive about his mom and shuts down

Hey Pandas, AITA For Wishing I Hadn’t Married Into This Family Because Of My Toxic MIL?

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It had gotten to a point of unhappiness that I wanted to end my life. My children love my MIL because I always speak good of her, even though her looks and behavior are like a witch. She even has a giant mole. I wish I hadn’t married into this family.

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Anne Jones 3 months ago

I would divorce a man who allows his mother to drive you to thoughts of suicide. Get out now!

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Roberta Surprenant 2 months ago

Or, get him to leave the situation altogether, as Harry was willing to do for Megan.

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Papa 2 months ago

Before you give up on the marriage, see if your husband will go to counseling. Sometimes it takes a third party to show someone where they are wrong, or need improvement.

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Vinnie 2 months ago

It could help save the marriage; if it doesn't save the marriage, it could help with reducing fights during the split.

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H. B. Nielsen 2 months ago (edited)

This sounds like an absolute nightmare and I am so sorry that OP has spent so many years dealing with this. Agree with the previous two comments completely and would just add that it's never too late to start putting yourself first. What you're dealing with is not normal. If you haven't heard of it there's something called the sunken cost fallacy. Basically it means that people fall into a trap of thinking that just because they've already invested so much time into something that it's not possible or feasible to make a change. If you aren't being supported by your partner or they are facilitating your misery that isn't love. No one deserves to feel suicidal over an in law.

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Anne Jones 3 months ago

I would divorce a man who allows his mother to drive you to thoughts of suicide. Get out now!

38points

Roberta Surprenant 2 months ago

Or, get him to leave the situation altogether, as Harry was willing to do for Megan.

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Papa 2 months ago

Before you give up on the marriage, see if your husband will go to counseling. Sometimes it takes a third party to show someone where they are wrong, or need improvement.

20points

Vinnie 2 months ago

It could help save the marriage; if it doesn't save the marriage, it could help with reducing fights during the split.

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H. B. Nielsen 2 months ago (edited)

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Hey Pandas, AITA For Wishing I Hadn’t Married Into This Family Because Of My Toxic MIL?

After each birth of our 5 children, she created a wedge between my husband and I because she wanted to hold her grandchild before I was ready and he felt guilty

She blames us for not making her happy around the holidays and gets upset when we spend time with my mother

I tried so hard to talk with them but my husband gets so defensive about his mom and shuts down

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Hey Pandas, AITA For Wishing I Hadn’t Married Into This Family Because Of My Toxic MIL?

After each birth of our 5 children, she created a wedge between my husband and I because she wanted to hold her grandchild before I was ready and he felt guilty

She blames us for not making her happy around the holidays and gets upset when we spend time with my mother

I tried so hard to talk with them but my husband gets so defensive about his mom and shuts down

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