Could you imagine how much worse people would perceive this story if it were a woman cornered and unlawfully locked in a room against her will? Because you're a guy, doesn't mean you deserve any less consideration and respect. This behavior is so incredibly disturbing, that if I questioned my fiance and he didn't say it was a problem but that it's actually my fault, the gaslighting bell would be ringing in my head and i'd break up with them then and there. Run, friend, run for your life and find someone who truly respects you, and where their family will only utter the usual "you hurt her, i'll kill you" jangle instead of wanting a fuc*ing credit report.

Oh sweet lord, he really shouldn't marry in to that family.

The fact that they made sure he didn't have his phone or keys on him before locking him up suggests they know dämn well that what they did was illegal and wrong. But they did it anyway, counting on him not doing anything about it later because they've conditioned their daughter into thinking that this behaviour is totally fine, and knew that she'd talk him down. They keys too... yikes. Just how long were they planning on illegally confining him?! Or perhaps at least ensuring he'd be locked out of his own home. Frankly, they sound unhinged! Hope he runs for the hills; that behaviour-- and the fact that the daughter sees nothing wrong with it and completely sides with her parents-- is highly disturbing. Makes you wonder what they're capable of.

DON’T GET MARRIED!!!!! The fact that she’s not upset at what they did is an even bigger red flag!

Get out while you still can.

The fiancée can’t help how her parents are trash, but she damn sure doesn’t have to support it. The fiancée backed her parents instead of her own partner. That’s a bigger red flag than anything the parents do. The parents are desperate trash with no shame. But the fiancée supports that. I would make this into a HUGE fight between her and I and see where that goes. Really reaallly press the issue. She has to acknowledge what her parents did or she’s clearly covering up for them. Super ugly.

There are so many red flags here, it looks like Red Square on Mayday circa 1975. He is supposed to "apologize" for not allowing his in Laws to kidnap him and answer their financial questions? In the U&SA that would be unlawful arrest or even kidnapping. Canada should not be that different. The most worrisome issue is the girlfriend attitude toward the event. If my parents did something similar to my wife-to-be, all hell would have dropped on them. In fact, I know it would because my mother also did something equally obnoxious to my wife and I kicked her out of my house. My father was innocent of it on account that 1) He would never behave like that 2) He was dead.

BP Challenge: Go one week without posting an AITA story.

No person is worth all that mess. RUN!

RUN!!!!! And never look back!

If you still intend to marry into that family, get a lawyer and a prenup literally as soon as physically possible. But in my very honest opinion, I would push the wedding back a year just to be sure. I have a strange feeling your new in-laws are going to be moving in to your house before you know it.

Dude RUN!!

F**k that, leave her now.. trust me. You will never be right in their eyes.

Soooooo many red flags, man! Get out of there!

The OP actually does need to share financial information with his fiancee, that is something she has a right to know, even if her parents are nosy bastards who have no problem breaking the law in the pursuit of nosiness! Yes, the parents WILL shift their pressure from him to her when he tells her, but he has no right to withhold financial information from his partner no matter what her parents are like.

Run! Exercise is good, clears head, put some distance between this family. Love means nothing if this is what your future family is like. Plenty of people love their EX partners, but sometimes the priorities don't aline. This is another example where if your girlfriend either has same beliefs as her parents or in denial. Both are red flags. If you do marry, prenup would be essential. Protect any children for future, but make sure to secure yourself. Plenty of people in this world have gotten married and divorced for money. Protect yourself. Silver lining you found out what that family is before marrying. Count your blessings! Anyone locking me in room is a manipulative AH!!!

As Iron Maiden would say: Ruuuun to the hills, Ruuuun for your live!

They planned on locking him up from the beginning by removing him from the main house and making him leave his phone and keys behind. These people are one step off from being driven away in a rubber truck for an extended stay in a special ' hotel'.

What the in laws did is also a crime in Canada, if reported to the police, they are obligated to take action. It might serve him to inform his fiance and her parents that they are not only rude but criminals too.

Always hated it when Mom said "You don't marry the man, you marry the whole family" Always hated that, but damn, she was right. Don't marry that family!

This story kind of reminds me of when I went to my girlfriend's (now wife) home country to see her family. At the time, I was making considerably more money than her, so I paid for flights, hotels and everything we could put on credit card. She took care of everything we paid in cash (some restaurants, small purchases at shops etc) - since she was familiar with the currency and she had a lot of cash in her local bank account, it worked well. We were there for a few days and her mom pulled her aside and said "Are you ok financially? It looks like he's making you pay for everything". My wife just laughed and pulled out the credit card she was using and showed her it was in my name. So I guess the moral is, it's ok for parents to be concerned with their children's welfare, but parents should talk to their own child, not to the fiance. If their child is ok with the situation, then the parents need to be ok with it too.

Run! She's not going to be any different than them if she's okay with that behavior. Just run.

I know that some cultures are more open about money than others, but the moment they locked him in a room, all bets were off. I already wouldn't have left my phone and keys outside, this shows that it was premeditated. I feel for the fiancee as culturally, it would be probably inconceivable for her to cut her parents off, but what they did was simply illegal and deeply disturbing.

If your fiancee can't understand why what they did to you does not involve you apologizing then she should be giving you red flags, too.

In some cultures is very normal and very necessary to know the exact salary in numbers of the man ur daughter is getting married to. Directly asking the salary and expecting a normal reply is part of Indian marriage system be it Love or arrange marriage. I believe it's ""cultural differences gone wrong"" thing. Happened in my marriage also, huge cultural differences. Nobody was being bad or gold diggers but our parents fought like **** ! 😅😅

Nope, get the hell away from them, that was practically kidnapping

This guy needs to run away. Now.

Ok new here, what’s NTA and AITA?

Instant eyebrow raise whenever people ask how much money I'm making. You simply don't ask people that.

I would have filed charges for unlawful imprisonment. Also, I wonder how many times they've done this before and gotten away with it.

Not sure - could just be cultural difference as in many countries, including his own, it would have been normal not so long ago to expect to know your future son-in-law's financial circumstances before consenting to the marriage. I'm not sure they're gold diggers. The parts that would worry me are having a conversation with him behind their daughter's back and locking the door. They need to understand each other's backgrounds better before they marry.

Yep sounded like they were about to ask for a handout. As for locking him in a room. THAT IS KIDNAPPING. A felony.

Oh God please tell me you're not together anymore. Dodge this bullet, dude. NTA BTW.

A frank conversation needed with the financee about her past. Because if she fails to see how wrong her parents were to act like that, it suggests to me that she may have experienced this coercive and downright abusive behaviour during her own childhood. If she thinks that is normal, I wouldn't be breaking up with her arbitrarily, I'd be getting her some help.

Run

OP sounds like he hasn’t told his fiancé his income either. Red flags all around.

Seriously, RUN!

Is this attitude still alive in Latin AMerica? I confess I don't know the social norms of the area the family may be from, if it is, ensuring your daughter is marrying someone who could provide could be a very ingrained cultural norm. It could be that where they're from such vague answers are sure fire signs of a mooching bum. I deeply dislike the whole situation, but nothing I saw here said gold diggers specifically. Find out if it is normal in the culture they were brought up in. Either way, trying to lock him in until he fessed up was over the line.